Jerry

My wife and I have been together for 10 years now. When we met, we were both in good shape. In eight years together, we managed to put on 80 lbs each. I lost all the weight two years ago, but she's still 80lbs heavy.

I've tried to get her to lose the weight, and she says she is going to try, but each attempt fizzles out within a few weeks. She accuses me of not being turned on by her because of her weight (which is a little bit true) but the real worry for me is that being around her, eating and laying about as she is, I'm going to regain all my weight again - which I definitely don't want.

We've been going around in this problem for six months now with no luck. (She watched me lose the weight 2 years ago -- I said nothing about her doing it too and she never did try). I love her, but I'm wondering how long I'll be with someone who isn't helping me stay healthy, and to be 100% honest, is starting to lose her physical appeal.