#JustMy2Cents

when it feels like everything you have put into your relationship with your spouse is just in vain. I just feel like no matter how hard I worked at making him feel safe and loved and secure has just continually backfired in my face. How does someone who has trust issues gain a partner who would bend backwards to make things work out, try to make life easier and offer an unconditional love get put into the position to have to choose between being comforted, and honored or just trusting that this man they have given their complete heart to should just be trusted now after 2 years secrets, online dating, taking to exes, "sex-ting jokingly" with a woman he wanted to be with but it never happened, and him not trying to understand my side to the point of talking crap with the "sexting friend" about me and appologizing for me asking her to stop her part in it? When do you say enough? After exhausting every possible solution to this problem? I'd never go with naivety, that's not smart, but I've promised to spend forever with him and now I just want the games to stop and I'm not sure he's ready to quit playing them. Partially just venting ...partially just wondering what other married people think.

I've asked him to stop, begged him to understand me and I always get the silent treatment and he always refuses to talk about it and it more often than not turns into a debate that I shouldn't pry because it's invading his privacy. I just feel like maybe I should've just said screw it a long time ago, I feel so duped right now it sucks.

because he'd have to devote too much time. I'm not a 100% sure, still researching the belief system, but we are married and I want to be considerate to his feelings, but he really detest all forms of organized religion, which I get (I'm extremely cautious where I will study my faith too). I just wonder if this will have a negative effect on our marriage if I do convert.

...that as women, we need to do this or that to improve our relationship even if the man is not trying? Seriously not talking about even half of the post I've read, but a noticeably large enough amount of people on here both women and men alike seem to believe it's a woman's fault if her man chooses to stray, she must be obsessive or a ***** or not sensual enough... OMG Ladies if you want to be in a relationship where you get to play detective forever to make sure your man is not cheating then do so, but STOP with the blaming yourself for being cheated on! To the men who do this, you're either not really getting laid and just mad or you weren't raised to respect your ladies, get therapy or get bent!

More of a vent than a question...