mrsjcjohnson

I have been married for 7 years and last July I invited my mother in law to move in with us. She had an aneurysm that caused nerve damage and now she has double vision and tunnel vision. Her husband then left her for a mutual friend. She was a prisoner in her own home and had no money for even groceries.

I talked my husband into having her move in with us - he didn't want her to. He was afraid she'd be bossy and in our business, etc. He finally agreed and we had her move all the way from Texas to California in the hopes of starting a new life.

I had high hopes about our new situation but was quickly disappointed upon learning how right my husband was about how things were going to be. She immediately stepped in between my husband and I, demanding all his time, taking over my home - sleeping in the living room and turning my office into hers instead of using it as a bedroom. She would go against my wishes on even the slightest thing - such as over feeding my cats when I told her not to feed them at all because they are already overweight.

Things went from bad to worse when I brought my problems to my husband and not only did he take his mother's side - he completely emotionally humiliated me on many occasions regarding how I felt about his mom. He began mocking me, ignoring me, being mean to me. We went from having total trust in each other to him thinking I was cheating on him, he took my credit card and let me think I lost it.

We drifted apart and our marriage became more like roommates. Just the past week we started talking about things, bringing up the issues and even though we were arguing a lot I felt that we might be making headway. We had plans on going into counseling. Then one day in the middle of a discussion we were having his mother assaulted me.

She ran up and literally attacked me and screamed, "If you have something to say you better say it to my face," she called me every expletive in the book, ripped my hair out and smashed my sunglasses. It was crazy, irrational and took me totally by surprise. My husband did nothing. He literally walked away and I had to run for my life, driving to a friend's house where I am now staying.

The other day he called my friend, crying begging her to have me come home - that he loved me and wanted to go into counseling and then last night I get an email from him very calmly telling me he doesn't love me anymore.

I have no idea what is going on. You know just as much as I do. That is how crazy this situation is. I know she has been manipulating him and brainwashing him and probably telling him lies (I've over heard her talking to her friends about me) and he won't believe me.

She isn't on our lease - but she refuses to leave. I went to grab a few of my things while they were at church (Yes my husband stopped trying to grow spiritually with me and instead nurtured that relationship with his mother instead) and noticed they begun packing my stuff.

This is crazy. They've already ruined my life and now they want to push me out of my home! I just don't know what to do.