Dawning9

Hi,

As the title says... I'm 21, we're in a relationship for a year. She has literally changed 180 degrees for the better, she's really as loyal as it gets. True monogamous material. However she's my first sexual partner. In the past many girls kept throwing at me for sex but I was "waiting for the right one". And now I feel totally inferior, seeing as ive saved myself for someone special, and she didn't do that at all. Should I try overcome it or leave?

PS: I don't judge her AT ALL. I judge myself for being like this. But I just can't escape this terrible feeling for a year now, no matter how hard I try.

Hi, I'm in a relationship for since December last year with my gf. We go to the same uni and we got VERY close within a couple of months.

In april this year she has asked me to move on over to her flat in order to help her study for some exams and to get over some health and emotional problems she's had(nothing serious). I moved over, and after two months I realized I can't stand it anymore seeing as it is a tiny apartment, and 99% of the times i take the initiative to do the house chores and outdoor activities, and every time I tried to caringly tell her that I'm really nervous and that it'd be smart that we see each other and live separately, she'd get VERY upset.

So here I am almost 6 months in, and I'm depressed and turning violently nervous, because I'm trying to help her even at my own expense, and she didn't complete any exams.

I feel like I want to break up and run far away, what used to be a great relationship has turned into a prison now. She is the most smartest, loyal and loving person I've met, but I'm no more in love with her, I only see a needy person in her and I feel so empty! And what's the funniest thing: I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT.

I'd really need some general opinion on this! Thank you in advance!

Greetings!

I've been sort of in love with New Zealand and everything related to it since I was a kid(21 now). I would move to NZ having these conditions: level 9 master uni degree, a sum of 50 thousand euros and a flawless knowledge of English language certified at British embassy. I have three questions:

1. Economically, coming from a country on top five corrupt list, with 30%+ unemployment(South Europe), would NZ be an opportunity for a decent family life(not having to be hungry and living in a civilized society), nothing more? I would be prepared to work as a dog for as long as it takes as long as I can afford something more than a loaf of bread and a bottle of yoghurt.

2. What frightens me is, and this is most important to me: I've heard that us people from the outside aren't welcome AT ALL, I heard talks about people being xenophobic. Does that mean that I would get harassed at work and that some day my kid would get bullied? I understand hostility towards non-english speaking immigrants without any qualifications though.

I wouldn't have a problem with blending into the society and it's local community at all, as long as I am not getting stared down upon and being called names. I come from one of the biggest criminal/hooligan strongholds in Europe, so I've seen my fair share of things which made me want to wake up in a different universe.

3. I'm a bit scared when it comes to volcanoes and earthquakes, how serious is that?

Hi,

First and foremost I want to say that I used to be a rather confident teenager (21 now), I didn't have much insecurity problems. However, 8 months ago I entered a relationship with my girlfriend, I was a virgin up until then because I didn't like less-than-serious relationships. However it came as a shock to me when I found out that my gf(20) has slept with twenty people, without me included. A bit more than a half of them were relationships. Besides that she is an amazing person, extremely loyal. But despite all the talks, her past took away all my confidence and made me insecure, and I blame myself for that because it ain't her fault at all, she even regrets it all sincerely. It got to a point where I am not sure if I love her and I feel bad about it.

Thank you in advance!

Hi. I'm 21, I've never been in a relationship until 8 months ago. I've always wanted a serious relationship that'll last a lifetime, and now that I seem to have it, things have gone weird.

I feel like I do not want to spend my lifetime with her right now, even though i can not imagine a friend more loyal and faithful than her. She's quite good looking and the most intelligent person ive ever met, but it has got a price. I found out(from her personally) that she has had about twenty sexual partners in the past and she's the same age as me. I sincerely gave my best, and am still trying, to overcome that and realize that it's not important now. We had numerous talks about it, and I feel so guilty that I burden her with my concerns over that. I try to be a good friend to her as well, I even moved in with her for the past 5 months only to help her with some problems and to help her do her college exams. I am really loyal as a puppy when it comes to her. (However I am a social person and I have not abandoned a single friend for the sake of this relationship) But it seems like I am losing this struggle of mine, I feel like it is early for me to settle down on long term, especially with her past, but I also feel so guilty at the single thought of leaving her, seeing as she fits my personality totally and that she has a heart of gold, also she honestly loves me and shows that always. This guilt is driving me to clinical depression it seems. Thank you in advance.

Hi!

I'm 19, last night I was about to have sex for the first time in my life, but I lost my erection right after putting the condom on. I'm in a relationship with a really great girl and I felt absolutely comfortable with her, at least consciously - I did not have performance anxiety, especially because our foreplay lasted for almost two hours and she was very very pleased, so that made me confident. However, I suspect that masturbation has done me some wrong, I used to masturbate once a day average, I've masturbated two times the day before I went with her, and once about 8 hours before the intercourse. I've done that because I was a bit overly confident, I thought that I will get hard instantly and come too quickly, so I wanted to last longer(bleh, the irony of life). I plan to refrain from masturbating for a few days, before us two get together again. To experienced people out there: could this excessive masturbation of mine be the cause of my dysfunction last night? Or could it be that there is something more serious behind this issue? I get rather frequent morning erections and so on and so forth.

Thank you very much for your help in advance, and thanks for taking time to read this. All the best! :)

Hi, I've been messaging this girl for some time, she was quite in for me, texting three times a day, we went out a week ago and it was just perfect, we matched each other perfectly in just about everything, we topped it all off with a kiss , and parted our ways perfectly, like in a fairy tale. Trouble starts when I sent her a message next morning to tell her that I had a great time, she was quite formal. From that point on she didn't message me at all, I asked her if there's a problem with us a couple of days later, she just said she's got family problems and it's got nothing to do with us, I let her know that she might count on me, that I'd be glad to help out in any way, she thanked me, it ended at that. However I noticed that she's on facebook constantly, posting songs in a quite cheerful, arrogant manner, which insults me, it's been 4 days now and she ain't sent a word, even though she's on FB all day long and has my number. I'm thinking to break it up with her in a day or two, and tell her that her behavior is really unfair and disrespectful, taking into account that we had a perfect night, and that I was there for her, I thought it'd be polite to at least send a message or let me know we're finished.

Do you think I am possibly being too harsh, or rushing things?

I very much appreciate your input, thank you.

Hi :) This girl is really attracted to me from what I know, she loves how I look and we have a great mutual friend who told her lots of good things about me. We met IRL a few days ago for some time and had a fun conversation amongst our friends. However today we had a chat on the web and when she asked how am I I jokingly said "Gotta admit a bit nervous, talking with the girl who has the most ravishing profile pic I've seen this morning :D", I didn't notice any bad reaction and we carried on talking. I'm wondering if that was way too corny and dumb from my side? I don't know what's gotten into me to say that but I said it in a rather plaful manner. Thanks in advance!!! :)

Hi! I'm 19 and past four-five years sometimes on the head of my penis appears something like a C shaped burst blood vessel, although it's slightly raised above the surface of the penis, maybe half a millimeter or less, it doesn't hurt or itch. Funny thing is that it disappears after a few days and it re-appears a couple of times a year in EXACTLY the same shape and color. Usually it happens when I stretch my foreskin a lot because I got a slight case of tight foreskin. I'm just wondering if this is something serious or should I let it be? Thanks a lot!

Hi, I'm flirting with this girl for a few weeks now quite intensely and we tease each other a lot. Tomorrow is her birthday and we'll bump across each other at college, so I thought to get her a chocolate(my country's in financial ruins, I can't afford more and we aren't in a relationship) and I already made up a Happy Birthday note for her, just best wishes and a drawn-up teddy bear with a few random stars drew across the paper. I'm wondering if there's anything wrong with that considering that we're 19 and that a week ago as a result of a bet/joke I already drawn a flower to her and she was very touched, but I'm wondering if this is inappropriate? Thank you! :)

Hi, I don't have any confidence issues but I only got a slight dilemma regarding my personality. To be more specific... I'd say I'm a good listener, I pay a lot attention when talking to someone about anything half-serious, however I also talk quite A LOT, and by talking quite a lot I don't mean talking utter nonsense(I never back talk anyone, I don't talk just for the sake of being in the spotlight) or talking about myself. It's just that I feel that most of the times me and the girl do equal amounts of talking, I always got something to talk about and I usually add lots of details(as long as it's not something delicate of course) to my conversations, even in text messages most of the times my replies aren't one worded or short. I might add that I'm also quite emotional and open and I show it(not being needy or whining, I just openly show interest in other people and things they talk about).

I'd like to ask for your opinion, if this kind of behavior is normal, or should I change something? :) Thank you!

Hi! This girl from my college added me on facebook recently and she'd initiate contact almost every day, I flirted a tiny bit with her and out of the blue she told me "You have unbelievably cute face!:D". Either way, sometimes when I flirt more obviously with her she suddenly withdraws and turns totally neutral. In real life whenever we see each other she smiles most of the time, we start talking in real life, but really quick the talk fades off because she sort of withdraws to herself, besides she usually goes home real quick so I don't have time to talk furthermore.

I'm wondering if she's just the friendly type of girl or does she actually take some interest in me, what would your opinion be? The reason I ask this is because I like her to a certain extent, but I don't want to look like a jerk off in case I missed some signals telling me to back off. Thank you in advance :)

Hi! I've met this girl a week ago at my college, she'd initiate the talk asking me about myself, etc. When we sat next to each other she placed her hand and rubbed it against my leg really gently for over a second. I didn't really flirt with her because I didn't think much of her at the time, however we maintained lots of eye contact and what not. The drama starts when we all went to a party, she playfully refused my suggestion to dance with me(I asked her lightheartedly), and she'd just stand next to the counter all the time. She's generally a tiny bit quiet but seems like us two can't get talking more, on Facebook for example she replies almost instantly, but the replies are quite short and somewhat neutral/friendly even though I tried being flirtatious. However she did tease me a little bit in real life!

I'm planning to keep on flirting lightly with her, but I would really appreciate your opinion on this matter! :) Thank you in advance.

Hi, I'd like to say that I'm considered quite attractive by other girls, I'm 19 year old, I'm into bodybuilding for three years(I don't look like a meathead at all though), I always keep an upright, correct posture without seeming cocky, my hygiene and clothing is always impeccable and clean, from time to time I get sweet looks from girls, however the following scenario already happened twice past two weeks: a girl looks at me, I maintain eye contact for a bit, next thing I know that girl starts laughing quite a bit(not a giggle, but really a laugh, "hahaha"), the girl talks to her friend, and usually her female friend that is next to her just looks back at me with a total neutral glance and then looks back at her, without laughing AT ALL, that same scenario happened with two different girls.

I would ask you if you could please share your opinions on this matter. Do some girls act stupid like that if they're attracted or is there something out of order? Thank you very much in advance!:)

PS: I might add that I'm new to this, I only recently started maintaining eye contact with girls I like(without it being a stare of course)

Hi, just wondering if a really slim, light brown suede jacket was appropriate for someone of my age at this current time? I've worn it a couple of times and I really love how it looks on me(Usually I couple it with a nice pair of jeans and a white t-shirt) however I really feel like I am so out of time and that I catch too many looks seeing as I'm 19. What would your opinion be?

Sorry to provide this picture from Pulp Fiction but this is almost exactly how the jacket looks like, only that it is quite thinner and has a slightly different collar.

http://media6.dropshots.com/photos/16259/20101101/...

Thank you in advance!

PS: I might add that I'm neither fat or skinny, I'd say I look ahead of my age seeing as I lift weights for a really long time.

Hi, this girl started flirting with me way back on facebook, I'd flirt back too and over time things got more serious, she'd message me couple of times a day, would ask me if I look at her as a friend only, etc. We met in real life recently and flirting/teasing continued on as well. However she's in a troubled relationship(that's falling apart, including many many bad things), either way I got to like her as the time went on and told her that, she was really happy at first but then she told me that time will do it's thing and just acted indifferent. Ever since that she started treating me in a joking/ignorant manner(besides when she told me how sad she is in her relationship), and I got angry and just quit having much contact with her. My question is, have I possibly been played over or is she just overwhelmed? She told me she was really surprised by my feelings, in a good way.

PS: I might add that often she opens up about how depressed she is in her relationship, she would open up to me about many many things and even admitted that she really likes me a few weeks back. Might also add that she was the one initiating contact most of the time and we had many long, meaningful talks. It's just her attitude nowadays that makes me think she made a fool out of me, nothing else bothers me.

Thank you!

Hi, basically I rarely get attracted to any girl at all, I might like them as friends but I can't find the *click* within myself for any romance. I just need to feel that "something" inside me for a girl in order to start pursuing her. There is this girl that is pursuing me for quite a while and I've been trying to softly let her know I want no relationship, I really think she's an amazing person and looks quite cute, but I just can't see myself in a relationship with her, I simply don't find her attractive and I'd like us to stay friends. I would like to ask you for your opinion, am I selfish or shallow for not wanting to be with a great person just because their appearance as a whole doesn't exactly attract me?

PS: Just thought to add that I've been in love with girls that weren't considered much attractive, yet I would turn down girls whose physical looks are outstanding, so it seems like it's not like that I am arrogant or that I require a certain standard, but just "that little something". :) Thank you in advance!

Hi. :) I've been flirting with this girl for a couple of weeks before she got a bit more serious and I let her know that she's a good friend to have but that I'm not interested in anything more. Since then we continued on talking really often but without flirting mostly, because we seem to relate to each other very well and we always have something in common to talk about. I noticed she's very nice towards me, for example these days I wasn't being too well and she'd send me a message or two over SMS asking me how am I and such. I'm just very grateful and my intentions are clear, I do not think of her in a sexual way.

What is more possible, that I've gained a true friend or that she is trying to soften me up and is being patient to try winning me over romantically again?

Thank you for your opinions!

Hi, I bought a bottle of Acqua di Gio by Armani from the largest mall in my country, from a large shop called Sephora for about sixty euros, however the fragrance fades off from me after just 3-4 hours. The first half an hour or an hour people tell me they can feel the smell of my fragrance even a few seconds after I leave the room(I only put 3 sprays of it), but after three to four hours it can only be felt if someone is really close to me. Is that thing normal? And could it be that the largest retailer of cosmetics in my country has sold a fake? Also the serial number on the bottle itself is identical to the DENTED serial number on the box but not to some other number that's there too.That's about it. Thank you in advance!

Hi, I just bought a perfume for the first time, it's Armani Acqua Di Gio, really high quality and I got it off a really renowned retailer in my country, paid quite a lot. Anyway, I put two puffs of it yet I cannot feel it AT ALL. Not even at the moment when I apply it. However I did notice that when I leave my room(I sprayed myself in that room) and come back later I feel the scent of my perfume for a few seconds. And I can occasionally feel it very subtly, maybe once in a while. Do you think that this is normal or is the perfume bottle I got bad/damaged? Thanks a lot in advance! :)