Princess Jackson

Long story short as I can! I separated from my husband last may because of various things. We have one child together. We already had a house which we rented so when my husband would not leave, I got the tenants out and went to that house. It was agreed mainly by him that I would have some space, do the house up, put it on the market & sell it & then I'd go back to him. His behavior has got worse and I really don't want to go back. So we agreed to split up & he still wanted to sell the house, I was going to keep the change. There should be £60 grand as we bought it at a steel and the house is now sold but little did I know that he's remortgaged twice leaving only 27 grand!!!!! He tells me he's met someone else who has a kid and he wants to keep my 3 bed house and he wants to pay the debts and then for me to get a house! There will only be about 10 grand left! I've tried to make an appointment to see a solicitor as all this with the realisation of only being a small amount of money left has only just come to light and the sale is due to complete next week! My husband is now saying because I left, it's my choice and I won't be entitled to the house my family home!

Luckily my sister has offered to let me live at her house so I won't be homeless but I've only got until July and then I will be!!!

Surely there is some law, fraud issue, marital issue because he is knowingly putting me out of pocket by selling our first home. I know he's an idiot, I don't need all the comments on this. This is quite serious because he really won't let me back at my home. The houses that I've looked at in my price range are awful and need work doing to them and I've not got time or money!!!

Thank you

Hi,

so ive taken the plunge and gone to the hairdresser's and paid an enormous amount of money! But my constant dying my hair had resulted in my natural dark blinded hair into a brassy black but no depth in it!

So ive sat there had it striped and highlights and it really is lovely. My hair is VERY long and thick and it took 8 hours to do but its back to normal! However, ive washed it this morning and it feels awful and ive used lots of conditioners but I need some advice on what other girls are using on their highlighted hair.

I realise ive just had bleach put in, and luckily ive got very strong hair but I want to put some condition back in but what can I use.

Before highlights I would self dye it using semi permanent and use a olive oil from the chemist every week to condition it and I have regular split end checks and trims.

But now its highlighted what can I use?

many thanks

Hi there,

I would like some advice before I plunge with the whole sitting in the hairdresser's for hours!

ive dyed my hair twice over the last 12 weeks and ive used a colour which I think is far too dark! I'm dark brown usually but its nearly black now.

ive heard that hairdresser's can strip this but ive also heard that boots do a colour b4 which I can use myself?

I want to go back about 2 shades lighter as I feel that without getting rid of this colour it will keep getting darker. My hair is in excellent condition so I can afford to pay a visit to the hairdresser's for this but if I can strip it my self then get the colour sorted then ill do that.

thanks

After 4 years of study ive finally passed my housing law degree! It seems that choosing what to wear under it is proving much harder than doing the very hard work ive put in!!!! Ive decided that I do not want to wear trousers because I want to look feminine, would a shift dress look ok, as I want my photograph to look classy but I just really don't want to wear trousers at all! I cant afford (being a student in debt)! Anything expensive, I'm a size 10 and 5ft 5 so I can pretty much wear what I want but I really need to look classy and not trashy. Hair is sorted just need to get a smart dress on the cheap!

Ive been told of a 'very strict diet' that's been banned in the uk and Americans swear by it but I cant remember its name? I can remember something about only being allowed 2 apples but I just cant remember the rest. Can anyone help please? Thanks

First of all, what is a yin woman? I have heard that a woman should be strong but yet be weak for her man, making him want to look after her - is this true? What is it that a man looks for to have a long and committed relationship with a woman?

My man is slowly drifting away, I am not chasing him, I am not asking him what is wrong I am just letting him be this has only occured over the last week or so, so I am trying to nip it in the bud if you call it that - I am being quite cool about it all, but I am worried that he will pull away and end it?

I am trying not to show this worry, but I am sure men sense this behaviour!!!!!

I have signed up for a uni course, I have started to see my friends and give him some space, but I feel that maybe I am doing things wrong?

Men what is it that men love and what do they want from a woman, is it for them to be feminine, but yet strong enough to cope with things?

I have known my man for a very long time, he tells me I am the only woman he has ever felt safe with and to be himself, but the texting isnt as it was, and we have only been intimate with each other for about a year, is he getting cold feet and maybe doenst want a relationship? I am not needy, I am a very independent person, I have hobbies and enjoy my life. I love him dearly, but I am 36 and cant be bothered with the game playing, but if its what I need to do, I would love some advice to make him adore me again and for him to come to me.

Thank you

This is a long one! Basically, these two people are VERY special to me both single and married. Please, can someone read this and take on board that I really want to help them, well more advise her really. My bf and her hubbie been together for 12 years married for 9. They have a child together. Unfortunately his ex (a drug user) also had a child with my friends husband and for all their married life have had to deal with abuse, violence and the only person that have suffered really is his child. Fours years ago, the ex told my friends daughter that he wasn't the father and my best friend and husband didnt her for four whole years. They then both had a child together who they both adore. Basically, cut a long story, this child (with the ex) was then placed in temp care and the social services then found my bf and it was a very long, horrible court battle that not only affected them but the whole family and friends and it was just awful seeing it all happen. The courts, from what I can make out, decided that his daughter (from ex) was to live with them and then the ex didn't like this and didnt want him or my bf have her and she couldnt get it into her head that it was for the best to offer love and stability etc (by the way, these two people have EXCELLENT jobs) and she was then placed into care. So my bf has also told me that her hubbie told the courts that he didnt want his daughter placed with him because of danger to his new family, so this has basically killed my friend emotionally. She has also just found out that she cannot have any more children and her father has just nearly died and she has come to me for a shoulder to cry on, and she has told me that she has not had sex for nearly 6 years since she got pregnant basically. She has lived in this marriage as a brother and sister relationship and although she loves her husband very very much, she feels emotionally abandoned. Before the court case, they had a lot of issues of not seeing his daughter and guilt, after the court case he basically pushed her away. His way of dealing with things has been by smoking pot and getting drunk and has done for years and her way has been just closing herself off from people. Basically she has met someone else, well to be honest she has known him for a long time and she feels that she is in love with him, little did I know but this emotional involvement has been going on for about a year and I didnt know. But at the same time I didnt know what was going on behind closed doors. I know both men very well, her hubbie and i have also grown up with the man that she has been close to, and I want to assure my friend that she has done everything she can to make her marriage work and because she believes in god she feels that she is in some way got to stay in her loveless, sexless marriage for the sake of her child, her family and what it looks like to others. Her hubbie now knows about all this and is trying to make her stay, I think personally he is trying too late and whilst he is making the effort to stop smoking weed he has still smoked it n the past few days. He is now saying that its my bf fault which in my opinion it is both of them, and the lead up to this affair has been the cause of something quite horrifying in my opinion. I just dont know what to tell my bf who is a really lovely gentle person who doesnt wish any harm on anyone and has just been a little lost. She already knows that people will judge her, and she is a fantastic mum and will do anything to protect her family but i dont believe that she should stay in this marriage, because the intimacy in the marriage will never come back - or will it? I thank anyone for any advice they can give to me please.

I'm trying to learn massage, I've read all about the oils etc and I want to give my bf a really good massage, my question really is, men or women what massage techniques do I use that will lead on to sex, how to set the mood etc and how long should I massage for? I want things slow etc!!!

This man I've known for 24 years. Now I'll try and keep it short! He's told me he really cares for me, however told his friends and family he loves me! I went to see him during the week, he was VERY lovable with me, so he knows I love him etc. So now I'm not hearing off him! Do men get it confirmed off ladies first that they're liked then go away to think about if they really like their woman? Please take a minute to think about it, its as though now he knows I love him, he has no worries of me turning him down, he's now not texting as normal, ringing etc!!!! Its making me laugh really because were both 36 and known each other for so long, but I'm still puzzled, and in a panic at the same time!!!!!! I know he's a deep person but what do men do?

I've known this man for 24 years! We both married, split up (different partners) and 2 years ago we met up. He's a very private man, we are very good friends and I love him. We have been intimate and it's amazing. A couple of months ago he told me he cared for me, but don't expect anything more! I'm old enough, wise enough to accept this and then he said he just wanted to be friends, again I accepted it, it was his choice and I'm not going to convince him otherwise. I just think at least I have him as a friend. Anyway, this man does not show his feelings at all, and for weeks we've just been friends etc and although I'm in love with him, it's been very hard for me, for a woman to do the chasing to me, is a big no!

Tonight, out of the blue, he said 'do you remember when I said that I don't want anything' I said yeah! He said 'well that's not true' I'm in love with you' he said I'm so confused right now that you're the only person I think about all the time, and he then said there is a quote about a true person is someone who still loves you even with flaws or something like that! He said, since splitting up with ex, I'm the only person he thinks about etc and that he has a lot to think about now to make sure he's making the right decision not for him but for everyone. I'm shocked, I know he's deep but no way did I think that this would ever happen! He said he knows I love him but I said I don't just love him I respect him too, I then told him, that whatever he chooses I know it will be well thought out and planned and it will be his decision. I've left it to him, I also said that's just took you a lot of guts to say that and he said yes, but I feel so comfortable telling you! I said you did well. I need to make him comfortable as possible to tell me what he thinks, he's very very deep! Anyway, thoughts on this matter please were both 37!

Not bothered that we both have children, we both work, we both have good education etc! The issue is, omg what if his choice is just to be friends when I love him so much! Sorry this has ended up long!

Basically, I am 36, and I have had this brace on for 5 years! for some reason my bite still doesnt feel right and he has insisted that I wear the bands on my teeth, which I have been doing as often as I can. I am due to have it taken off tomorrow and I feel that its not ready, I rang him during the week and explained but he said that he will have a look at it. I still don't think its ready, should I just keep it on?

Also if it is removed tomorrow, what is the best toothpaste to use to get my teeth whiter until I can get them done professionally?

Thanks,

The holiday is booked, weight has been lost, lovely clothes bought! Just need advice off someone who knows what they're talking about please! I have dropped a dress size, I've done really well but seem to be stuck! Need now to really up my routine and need to seriously tone myself up. I'm walking half an hour every day, I'm eating veg and fish, my diet is good. Could do with drinking more water which I will from tomorrow! I'm doing sports active 2 3 times per week but I'm not seeing myself any better. Do I need to do anything else? Do I need to up my workout to 5 times per week?

Simply put really but is it true? I'm coming to the end of my patience now with this man, I really can't be bothered. I'm not saying I've tried everything because I have my dignity but for 2 years we've text morning and night and I just can't be bothered anymore with making excuses for his behavior, he's either ready or not ready but I'm just thinking that and I wish it wasn't but relationships are like games and I'm thinking shall I just ignore him now? He knows I love him, and lately I think he just thinks I'm easy - maybe need to just cut my ties and see if he chases me!

Just need some opinions/advice please. I've finally lost all my weight and more by really eating well and its been the best thing ever! I have been working really hard at it for about 2 years and along with a good diet I have an exercise routine (this is not my worry for holiday) I know people who go on holiday and think oh what the hell, it's only 2 weeks I'll have some time off...but mine is a good balanced diet and it makes me healthy it's not about the weight it's my heart and fitness I'm thinking about. I'm going to turkey and I've tried to google how to eat healthy in turkey but not finding anything. Is anyone in the same boat as me? Has anyone been to turkey and if so what's the food choices. How do you stay healthy abroad? Obviously water will be drank and wine but it's the food I'm worried about! I'm staying in a 5 star hotel, with a gym, sauna etc and I've yet to read a bad review on it...I just want some tips on healthy eating/food choices and how someone else did it?

Thanks

want to eat healthy!!

Hi there, I answered a question a couple of days ago to a girl who wanted advice on hair growth. Some interesting answers came up one of them was about co washing (washing with condioner only) So my question is really, that when I googled this it was mainly for Afro carribean ladies or is it suitable for all women's hair?

Also my hair (genetics) grows very very fast and I have the pictures to prove it... Will co washing help me to get my hair in better condition and help it to grow or is just really going to help with the condition? I'm sat here now trying the co washing so any help or tips will be appreciated.

I've always had long hair, had a mad thought and cut it ALL off to just at my jaw line last June and it's now nearly at my bra strap, I've measured it today from my jaw line and it's grown 9 inches with a split end check and tiny trim in between is this normal or does my hair grow quickly? I must admit it's grown in good condition but thought I'd give co washing a try....has anyone tried this? Thanks x

I have gone on about this person for a while, first of all, I am not like one of these women that make a man her life. I have my own house,a good job, I am doing a degree, I am 36.

I am independent but I like a man to look after me etc so I am not totally scary or anything!!!

I have known this man for 24 years, we are both the same age. Known each other since we were 12, then had a 15 year gap whilst we both married and had children and then met up again (he says it was fate) and nearly 2 years on we have been very intimate.

A couple of weeks ago, he told me he would like to stay friends, and that he would prefer if it was just friends rather than lovers as he doesn't want it to go weird (ouch) However, I was totally fine with it and I just said OK that's fine. At the end of the day I thought this was OK, even though it hurt me, I was happy to just be friends as we really do get on very very well and I do not want to lose him.

When I say I am not like other women, I know women who would have gone mad etc and kicked off, but I am not like that. Since then though, he hasn't left me alone..I get my text off him every morning and every night still, and its as though we are still a couple, I am not going to be a friends with benefit because I am worth more than that, and last week he got told when he tried to kiss me, that I am worth more, and he does know that I am.

I know we have both been in unhappy marriages and I for one do not want to rush into anything again.

Inside, I love him more than I have ever loved anyone, I THINK he loves me too, because i have seen him be friends with women and then basically get rid of them because he cant stand them, but he said he would never do this to me.

Do you think this man is just playing around with me? As soon as he thinks its getting too heavy he just backs off, then puts me back in the friend zone, then comes back, this is hard because we have known each other for so long!

I am not painting a very nice picture of us really, but if truth be told we are very good friends, we trust each other and I do love him. I am not sure he loves me though.

A mans point of view is appreciated, I am not bothered how cutting you are in your answer, I would prefer the truth.

I have told this man too, that if he ever meets anyone (because I thought this is where it stemmed from) I have told him that if he does meet anyone, then I am totally fine with this, and he said that he doesnt want to meet anyone. When I am with him he is very loving, and we havent done anything for a while and we have been friends, but its very hard! I hope this is making sense!

I really am going on about clothes now! Bought a gorgeous dress in light beige... What colour shoes to wear with it? I have every colour of shoe you can think of, now that is something I'm good at...I just never know what to wear with them!!!!

I've asked this question but I'm going to cut it short this time. About me..36 but luckily I only look about 26/27 I've had a fixed brace for the last 5 years, just had it removed I've studied law for the last 3 years, I've also just lost all my baby weight finally so I'm 5ft 5 and a size 10. I really am a late developer. I'm going on holiday in 4 weeks & going with some wealthy friends, doctors, lawyers who are all lovely non judgmental people. But I want to look stylish because I've hid away for so long and I think deep down I feel a lot more confident than I have for years. I just don't know know what to wear. I've got bikinis and kaftans for during the day, linen pants for day trips etc, but need to know what my wardrobe should be of, for evening wear. I shop mainly at oasis, warehouse, h&m so can't really afford too much! If someone can just help me because I don't know where to start I'm sick of feeling like a frump! I feel like ugly Betty having no braces and wandering what the hell to wear!!!

I'm going on holiday in 5 weeks. I'm going with friends who are quite wealthy. These people are excellent friends and would never make me feel horrible. But I'm worried about clothes. I'm not on a lot of money, and I don't really have a style, I've bought today a jumpsuit, a belt and shoes but it cost nearly 150:00 and it's too much. I've got shorts, t-shirts, vests but I just want to look stylish and not look like the typical holiday maker and I feel a tramp with these on & wander what can I wear during the day, and night without spending a fortune but still looking feminine. I've also just lost 2 stone so I'm a size 10, I've been training so I can show off my body now but really don't want to wear what I've got. I shop at asos, h&m, oasis and warehouse but honestly just can't put anything together! I wish gok wan was my best friend right now!

Hi there,

To cut a long story short, I have been sick, I put my last 2 essays of the term and my personal circumstances was declined... SO I won my appeal to resit and I have been doing my resits for the term. They were both 4,000 word essays.

I have been emailing my tutors etc everyday this week for feedback on them and they both said my essays looked good - one even said well done without giving too much away etc!!!

So I have had to hand them in today via a stupid thing that uni have set up & no matter what I did this evening it wouldnt send so I was in a panic - due in, in the morning! THIS IS THE PROBLEM

.....on one of my essays I have come to print it off to file away, I noticed that a part of the essay was still highlighted in red - I do this when I am checking references with it being a large piece of work I don't want to miss anything. I was sure I saved it all in black, but I have sent it to my tutor with this red part still on about a paragraph:(((

I have emailed him to apologise straight away, and explained that I would never do this usually and that my re sits are very very important to me -

WHAT DO YOU THINK? Will it fail on the grounds that I have left a part in red? Do you think by me explaining etc will help? am I just panicing over nothing?

Thanks, x