abbieneale1989

I recently overheard a conversation between two men, one was saying he s slept with a girl. The other said "Is that the fat one?" The man nodded, his friend responded saying "You should never admit to sleeping with a fat bird".

This got me thinking about the way society treats bigger people, and how people feel about bigger people. Men seem to be ashamed of sleeping with a larger woman, whereas women don t seem to mind a larger man.

So I have to ask have you ever been "Fat Shamed"? What was said, how did you feel? Did it make you decide to lose weight? Or have you been the person to shame someone who s overweight? If so, why? Please be as detailed as possible, and feel free to email me if you don t wish to post publicly. Thank you.

A few years ago I had 15 teeth removed, now I need more removed about 4, and possibly one of my front teeth as it's cracked and chipped. If they remove my front teeth will I be given temp dentures? I have an interview at the end of the month and I'm petrified of going in without a front tooth or both front teeth removed!

I'm an NHS patient currently receiving benefits, if this helps.

Thanks

A very nervous patient.

I'm getting married in June next year, and I'm so excited! But there's a problem.

My parents broke up when I was 11, my mother had an affair and she left my father to be with this man. Anyway my Dad married another woman 2 years later and they are (un)happily married. His wife just invited her self to my wedding, so my mother boyfriend is coming as well. But when it comes to the top table, I have no idea who to put where. I know my Mother won't say anything or start a fight, but I'm not too sure about my Dad if he sees the other man there. Would it be worth putting my mum and dad on the top table, and then having their partners sat near the front?

Confused?!

Ok, this might sound daft, but I'm 24 years old and I have no idea what I want to do with my life or what my passion is! I think it could be because of quite a bit of trauma throughout my teenage years and I never really got to "find myself".

I don't even really have any hobbies or friends. It's like I'm trying to rebuild my life from scratch. Non of my friends from school want to know (because I was crazy, frankly, because of trauma), and every hobby I try, I'm crap at.

So how do you go about finding your passion? Or just finding your place/purpose in the world? Cos it just feels like I'm taking up space.

Thanks in advance.

x

Right, I've been looking on google and I have seen that some people with really painful/bad teeth can get dental work done for free for "donating" their smile. I take it that this is being able to use their photos? It all sounds like a bit of a con to me, dental work can cost thousands, so surely they wouldn't trade all that money for a few photos? Do dentists in the UK do this? And if they do how do the "donors" go about it?

This sounds stupid but I wouldn't have a clue how to start eating healthy. As a child I lived on chips and beans, as a teenager I lived on pot noodles, now as an adult i'm attempting to eat healthily, I eat brown bread, low fat margarine, skimmed milk, I don't really have sugar at all, black coffee and a banana for breakfast. But I'm stuck when it comes to actual meals. I live alone and I have no experience in cooking really, but I'd love to learn. Any advice for living healthily?

Ok last night I was up literally all night with toothache. I think I had about half hours sleep. I've been fine today, been taking to painkillers to stop the pain and have managed to live out my day normally. Now over 24 hours I have taken fifteen 200ml tablets of ibuprofen.

Anyway this isn't the point. I suffer quite badly from panic attacks. Usually when I feel sick because I have a phobia of vomiting.

But this all started because of a lump in my throat. It's not there every-time I swallow, probably about every 3 or 4 times. And it first it didn't bother me. And then the lump started to make me feel sick. And I was sat by the toilet shaking, feeling very sick, I went really hot, my heart was pounding. I was even praying to God to make it stop...(I'm an atheist for crying out loud!) I honestly thought I was going to die.

Then a thought hit me.

I had taken a hell of a lot of tablets in the past 24 hours. Maybe I was about to die from an overdose. Or even worse...throw up. I googled on my phone and found that I was just about safe, the max dosage is 3200mg.

I have gotten myself to a relativity calm state. But this lump in my throat is still here, every 3 or 4 swallows. It's making me feel ill, and I can feel the panic starting up again.

I'm completely exhausted. All I want is some sleep.

Can someone please help me figure out what this lump is so I can rest?! Also on a different point, I have heard that panic attacks are more prone when you are tired, is that right?

I have the feeling I'm losing my best friend. And I don't know what to do, I will literally take any advice that is given!

Jake and I have been close friends for about a year, maybe two, but I've known him for about ten years. He's never been the type of best friend that will talk to you every day, I was lucky if I got a text once a week, and we'd usually only hang out once a month. But when we hang out we can talk for hours, and we have such a laugh. We have so much in common and he'll talk to me about anything, same as I will with him.

Well at the beginning of last year, he got a job, and a girlfriend. I had a feeling his girlfriend didn't like me much. But nothing changed between Jake and I so I didn't really mind.

But now things seem to have nosedived. His girlfriend moved in to his house in June, and since June, I have only seen him once, he never responds to my texts, or replies on facebook.

I'm really starting to feel hurt. I spoke to him before his girlfriend moved in about this, and he said we'd still hang out and he'd still text. But he hasn't. For 3 months, I've basically been completely ignored. Actually that's not true, 6 weeks after his girlfriend moved in, she left him and he texted me for two hours then, but not until 2 days after she left him. And when they got back together, he ignored me again. That was about a month ago.

I text him the other week saying that I'd like to hang out when he wasn't busy cos it felt like it had been forever since we hung out. And he didn't even reply at all. To be honest I'm heartbroken. He was my best friend, I've had a lot of crap the past few months that I would have liked to talk to him about, but it seems he just doesn't care.

He's hung out with his other friends since. Just not me.

Should I give up and realize that maybe this friendship has run it's course, and he may just not want to be friends anymore?

Or should I keep trying?

I have the feeling I'm losing my best friend. And I don't know what to do, I will literally take any advice that is given!

Jake and I have been close friends for about a year, maybe two, but I've known him for about ten years. He's never been the type of best friend that will talk to you every day, I was lucky if I got a text once a week, and we'd usually only hang out once a month. But when we hang out we can talk for hours, and we have such a laugh. We have so much in common and he'll talk to me about anything, same as I will with him.

Well at the beginning of last year, he got a job, and a girlfriend. I had a feeling his girlfriend didn't like me much. But nothing changed between Jake and I so I didn't really mind.

But now things seem to have nosedived. His girlfriend moved in to his house in June, and since June, I have only seen him once, he never responds to my texts, or replies on facebook.

I'm really starting to feel hurt. I spoke to him before his girlfriend moved in about this, and he said we'd still hang out and he'd still text. But he hasn't. For 3 months, I've basically been completely ignored. Actually that's not true, 6 weeks after his girlfriend moved in, she left him and he texted me for two hours then, but not until 2 days after she left him. And when they got back together, he ignored me again. That was about a month ago.

I text him the other week saying that I'd like to hang out when he wasn't busy cos it felt like it had been forever since we hung out. And he didn't even reply at all. To be honest I'm heartbroken. He was my best friend, I've had a lot of crap the past few months that I would have liked to talk to him about, but it seems he just doesn't care.

He's hung out with his other friends since. Just not me.

Should I give up and realize that maybe this friendship has run it's course, and he may just not want to be friends anymore?

Or should I keep trying?

Right, this is confusing so I'm gonna try my best to make things simple.

Lucy has been my friend since I got with my bf, as they were already friends, I've known her for 4 years, so I've been best friends with her roughly 2 years.

Jake has been my friend since I was 13, we lost contact for about 6 years when we changed high schools. We got back in touch about 3 years years ago and have been close again for about a year. So I've known him for about ten years.

When I got back in touch with Jake, we decided to hang out and it was pretty cool, Lucy tagged along (not through choice) and her and Jake got on pretty well. Now Lucy is the type of girl who just HAS to have what everyone else has, and has to be better. So as you can imagine, I soon got phase d out by Jake, and I found out Lucy and Jake were making fun out of me behind my back. It really hurt my feelings, because as far as I was concerned they were both my best friends.

Lucy and Jake fell out, because Jake had told me that Lucy's friend was going to attack me when I left work, I confronted Lucy and she said Jake was lying. Their friendship dissolved, but I decided to remain friends with Jake. This was only because it turned out Lucy's friend had threatened to attack me, and Lucy had lied.

Jake told me that him and Lucy used to sleep together and had done so quite a few times, even though Lucy had a boyfriend, she had been with him for 3 years at the time. I was hurt again, because neither of my so called "best friends" felt they could trust me enough to tell me.

About 6 months later, Lucy and I started talking again, and now our friendship is great! We talk about everything (although she won't admit to me that she slept with Jake, even though I have the evidence and have told her about it?! Denial most likely) .

Any way...my point is. Jake and I are really close, and Lucy and I are really close. I have 2 amazing friends. The problem is, Jake always says he wishes him and Lucy could be friends again and so does Lucy.

And I'll admit, I'm dreading if they become friends again, because I know they will be nasty and cruel again. They'll be nasty behind my back and laugh about me, and I'll get singled out again. I know I could just say to Jake that Lucy has no interest in being friends, and say the same to Lucy and they would stay away from each other.

But have I really got the right to do that to them? Should I just tell them that they miss each other? I don't want to lose my best friends, but I don't want to be a *****!

Any help?! Please!

Last year my partner was arrested for something rather sensitive, and it was NFA'd (no further actioned) last month. We were told to have no contact with the family, who happen to be my partners family, directly or indirectly. And we haven't. But they have started messaging and calling my friends, saying slanderous things and dreadful things about my boyfriend. I spoke to his solicitor and he said to tell the police, I told the police and they said there was nothing we could do, because of freedom of speech now the case is closed. So what can I do? We still can't say anything to them. We can't afford to take them to court for slander, any advice at all would be appreciated.

Hey all, I have been trawling the internet all day and cannot find Issue 3 of Popworld that was released in the uk, there seem to be plenty of copies of issue one, but none of 3. I need this one because it has the coverage of the eminem concert in it. Can anyone find anything anywhere where I could buy it?

I've been living with my boyfriend and his mum for about 3 years. She's always been a drinker, and has always admitted that she's a "functional alcoholic" that doesn't need help. But for the past year she's become quite nasty when she drinks. Sometimes to me, but mainly to my boyfriend. The other night she went mad at him because she had yet another new man over and my boyfriend had come upstairs to talk to me. She reduced him to tears with the pure evil she was saying to him. She just kept going, kept putting him down. And I snapped. And I yelled at her, got into a heated argument and I haven't spoken to her since. My boyfriend has thanked me for making her back off. But I spoke to my mum and she said I had no right to get involved and next time I should back off. All I wanted her to do was stop shouting at him and just leave him alone, but now I'm not sure what I'm meant to do. Am I meant to back off and leave her to it?

I'm really hoping someone can help me, because the pain of this is terrible. About 2 days ago, I went to the toilet as usual, I wasn't constipated or anything, but for the next few hours there were a sharp feeling on my anus, it wasn't painful and I thought no more of it. That night it became painful, and suddenly I was constipated and had a painfull lump at the top of my anus. It's incredibly painful, and has also left me with a slight fever. I've been drinking plenty of fluids and eating tons of fiber but this painful lump won't go away. I know this will sound daft, but I'm humiliated by the thought of showing this to my doctor, is there anything I can do to stop the pain? Will it go away on its own? Any help will be appreciated. Also, I don't know if its any help, but there has been no blood present the entire time.

I have been told they are Blue/Green, Blue/Grey, Blue/Hazel, Green/Grey, Deep Blue, Earth Blue, Light Blue, Grey/Brown and I am utterly confused!

Link to picture of my eye below

http://tinypic.com/r/29f6xit/5

Thanks in advance!

I am only asking due to the fact that my partners best friends girlfriend has learning difficulties. She really is a lovely girl, very polite and sweet. From what they have told me, her mother is very warped about certain things. She's not even concerned that she's never had a period, and she's 21 this year. She dropped a cup on the floor at my house and burst into tears because she thought we were going to shout at her. It took ages to calm her down and explain everything was ok. She has told us she would like to move in with us. Us being, myself, my partner, his best friend and herself. She is here 4 nights a week and we love having her here, she is a real pleasure to be around. But her mother has said no chance. She has said she will never let her daughter leave. As she is nearly 21, does she have the right to just leave? Or can her mother stop her from leaving?

My Boyfriend was recently expelled from college, he had received 3 warnings, the first one was deserved, but the last 2 were such tiny and minute incidents. He wasn't given any Information on how to appeal, so I have helped him write a letter to the principle of the college. Does anyone know if there is a standard procedure in place for expulsions and disciplinary? He was never offered representation or a chance to give his side of the story. He was at a training college that specialises and disabilities, as he has aspergers syndrome. The last two disciplinary were due to a misunderstanding in communication. I have a letter written out, but I'm not sure it will be read or even listened to. Any advice?

I am a 22 year old girl, my best friend is 21 and a guy. I have known him since I was 13, we lost touch for a few years and got back in touch when I was 19. We were closer than we'd ever been, he turned to me to talk about his past, I turned to him to ***** about my current situation. He got a new girlfriend four months ago, she's a lovely girl and she really seemed to like me. She lives outside of our town and comes to see him on weekends. At first she wanted the lot of us to hang out when she came to visit, now she doesn't. Which I can understand. But now even when his girlfriend goes home, he rarely talks to me and if he does it's for an hour and then he disappears. He didn't even do anything for his 21st birthday and just spent the day with his girlfriend in the house.

I'm wondering what has happened to my best friend. He used to want to meet up all the time, I have seen him for half an hour in the past three weeks. I could understand if it was when his girlfriend was there but now it's even when she's not there in the week.

What do I do? I don't want to lose him, why is he doing this?

Thanks