melly

lm a light golden blonde and my hair is in good condition. l would like to go darker blonde with less yellow/ golden tones...a light brown or medium beige blonde. How do l achieve this without going to the hairdressers? l heard if l put "ash' in it, it will go grey, and if l put 'beige' in it, it will go pink!! Please help! Thank you in advance :)

l have a 12 month old Ragdoll cat who has started to urinate on my kitchen bench on my kettle and microwave at night. She has a kitty litter it hasn't been moved its in the same spot and l haven't changed the brand of litter. Please tell me why she is doing this and how do l make her stop?

l always think bad thoughts and alot of the time they come true. Do l have to train my brain to think correctly? Is it because l have a chemical imbalance? l just want to be carefree and happy like everyone else and not worry about bad things that may never happen. l have started to see a councilior.

Every day l hear something new that causes cancer. We know that drinking alcohol, smoking and being over weight may increase the chances. Now lm hearing drinking lemonade, oral sex and eating red meat. When they explain it , some of it makes sense but its just so frightening. Soon crossing the road will cause cancer...is there any hope for us?

My friend of 15 years had a brief affair on her husband of 4 years. My partner and l introduced them many years ago. Now l feel guilty everytime l see him. He is so good to my kids and l. l wish she had never told me and lm starting to resent her. She said she could never tell him as his first wife had an affair on him. What if he did find out and asked me if l had known, what would l say and would he think l had been laughing behind his back? If l tell him lm the bad person, if l dont lm still the bad person. Do l keep my loyalty to my friend or do l tell or stay out of it. Please advise me.

somewhere nice by the beach and kid friendly? Thank you in advance.

its only been a few months since my loved one took his own life. ive been very depressed and gloomy. lm bitter and angry and even guilt for not being able to help. ive been dreaming of him and l just cant understand or get over it. the emotions are overwhelming.

this error message appears and l cannot go any further and lve tried safe mode and system restore but it freezes. 'explorer.exe.bad image. the application or dll c:\windows/system32\browsweui.dll is not a valid windows image.please check this against your installation diskette.' what does this mean? l appreciate your help.thank you.

A dear old friend of mine has recently passed away. His family decided on a private funeral so l was unable to attend. This has devastated me. One of his family members hasnt even had the decency to ring me after l was promised they would. l am unable to contact them. I would just like to find out where he is buried so l can say goodbye and pay my respects. Thank you.

About two months ago my house was robbed and all my kids dvds, playstations, wii, ninetendos,dsi's, games and controllers were stolen. lt was reported to police and they told me to have a look around in the cash converters stores to see if l reconised my things. Recently l did and told the police who werent able to help and put me on to a detective who said he couldnt help.....

No one wants to help. There was no serial numbers on my stolen goods but lm adament some of the stolen goods in there are mine so why wont someone check it out? Why cant they trace who sold it there? My kids fingerprints would be proof, it would be all over the dvds etc...what do l do? Wheres the justice for my 4 kids? They were heart broken...please advise me......

lm not a school child, lm an adult so it may be a little harder!! lm not sure he feels the same but lm sure he does and no, l wont come out and just tell him!! lm too chicken!! :D

my agent is taking me to VCAT for minor damages to my former rental property. can VCAT or the agent garnish my wages when centrelink is my only form of income at present? my father says they can and will garnish it but l read that a judge wont make a ruling on this of a pension is your only form of income.

the property l rented had the garage ceiling collapse in. the reason why it fell in was because the garage door blew off its hinges in very strong winds causing damage to the roof. my landlord told me to lie to the insurance company and not mention this otherwise they wouldnt get their insurance claim.when the insurance men came to investigate l was told not to say too much.they ended up getting their claim and l dont feel right about it. should l dob her in? if so how and to who as l dont know who the insurance company are.also what are the penalties for a false claim?

l thought if you had regular smear tests and they found abnormal cells the survival rate was good because it is a slow growing cancer. lm wondering why it was only found when it was too late.

l decided to leave my partner as lm fed up with his drinking gambling and smoking marajuina and the lies that come with it. We have three small kids and one on the way.l want better for all of us.

lve taken him back too many times and he doesnt change. lve learnt my lesson the hard way.

My problem is how to leave him. l have to leave the family home because he wont leave.From past experience when lve leaft him before he gets abusive.Five years ago l had to pack everything up and put it in storage while he was at work and l fled.It looks like l will have to do that again but is there an easier way? We are renting, l was thinking of telling him the landlords are kicking us out ,as we are only on a month to month lease. l tried asking him to go back to his mums for a while until he finds work and l said ld join him later but that didnt work either.

ln case you are wondering why l not be honest and tell him l want out its because he wont except it and refuses to leave.lve been advised if he wont go l should go.At the moment he doesnt suspect anything.

how should l leave?Should l pack up like l did before when he isnt here? Or do you know a good story l can tell him? l dont want him to know lm leaving him, yopu dont know how he reacts. l need an excuse.Please help l apreciate it.

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l want out of my relationship. l just cant make it work anymore. Why should l try when he isnt making an effort? He knows l hate it when he smokes his marajuiana & he drinks heavily and gambles.He is making no effort to stop or slow down. Obviously it means more to him than our relationship because he knows its killing it.

He is not working at the moment and not trying hard to find work. He does nothing all day and lets me take care of everything. We have three kids and one on the way. He isnt a partner he is like having a wayward teenage son.

From past experience l cant ask him to leave ,he just gets abusive and will smash things. Once l just took of and put everything into storage which l may have to do again. The police wont get involved because its a civil matter. l dont want the kids to see anything nasty. l just want to start over on my own with them. He wont give up his ways.Its my fault for being so gullable, they dont change. where do l go, what do l do? lm so unhappy and trapped.

lm not planning on being selfish and putting the baby in harms way but l just mean walking on the treadmill on incline with my hand weights? Also leaving out the take away and junk food (which would be better for the baby anyway) and just eating fresh fruit and vege and lean meat.And some low fat dairy. I know my belly is going to get big but that doesnt mean my arms ,legs and butt have to ?!

lm infaturated with someone and l want to know how to get over them.

My partner drinks a fair bit,smokes close to a small pack a day and usually buys marajuiana once a week. He also gambles regularly but its only footy bets/ tips. We have to watch our budjet and l think its fair that he cuts down or gives up one or two of these things. He works 6 days a week so l feel bad if l deny him of this but we cant afford it.

He does pay the rent and will give me money if l ask for it and he will buy whatever we run out of, ie food, gas.We dont save any money but we could be.

Please tell me what is reasonable.