Renee Aponte

I don't even know where to begin. I am married to a WONDERFUL man, we both have children from a previous marriage. His son is 23, my girls are 20,16 and 11,however we do consider them all OUR children as we love them all. Our son has recently stopped using drugs and we allowed him to move back in with us under the condition that he stays clean, finds a job, gets on his feet and then get his own place. We kicked him out of our home when we found out that he was using. Our son seems to think that it is his dad's responsibility to take care of him and he takes full advantage of his dad. I have talked to my husband about this because I am a no nonsense mom, our 20 year old lives with her fiancee and is very independent, our girls have always had boundaries as to where our son seems to of had none. I have spoken with my husband concerning our son and he admits that there weren't many boundaries. My husband and I have only been married for a year and he is really an amazing man. My husband lost his first son when he was 7 to leukemia. I just wonder if maybe that is why he goes so easy on his son but he is more strict with our daughters. I cannot fathom losing a child so therefore I'm not sure of how that would effect the way I parent. I feel that we shouldn't have to support our grown son who doesn't want to work, he wants to play video games all of the time, he is very rude to people and doesn't care if he hurts anyone's feelings at all and when I do say something my husband seems to think that I am picking on him and I'm really not. I don't want this to cause a problem in my marriage because I love my husband so much and our girls adore him. I just don't know what to do. Our son has gotten his friend pregnant, she works and is even trying to suggest jobs for him but he is telling people that he is tired of his dad and I always being on his back about a job. If I had known that his son was this way when we met, he would not have ever moved in with us in the first place.

I am newly married to a wonderful man, we both have children from a previous marriage. I have 3 girls ages 20,16 and 11, and my hubby has 2 but one passed away when he was 7. My son is in his 20's, he is my hubby's biological child. Anyhoo I met him over a year ago when he came to live with us. Things were good at first then he started talking about his prior drug use, he moved out and moved in with friends that were using and we found out after he moved back in again that he is using. He has stolen, gotten very disrespectful, he worked maybe a couple months while he was here. I told my husband that I had enough, I don't want someone that is using drugs and using us in our home and our 2 girls still live at home so I certainly don't want that around them and I don't want to lose them just because he doesn't care. My husband wanted to give him another chance but we have given him chance after chance, so our son moved out, is still using and has no where to go. What do we do???

I had a rough first marriage, we divorced, I dated for a bit and stopped because I thought that there were no good guys left and that a good marriage happened to other people and not me. I met my now husband and he still after 2 years will open doors for me and treats me and our kids like we are the apple of his eyes. We have 4 kids. 1 is from his first marriage, well 2 actually because he lost his 1st son to cancer when he was 8 and I have 3 from my first marriage. I have to say that we have all blended wonderfully.