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Someone has poked me, I don't know what this means? Anyone explain please? It says poke back. I don't want to poke someone lol

I can't get on it accessed it this morning but cant get on there now.

Anyone know what is happening?

If he cares why doesn't he want to sort it out?

I split with my ex bf around 2 weeks ago, since then he came round and we had a chat and a kiss, we have had sex as well, woops yes I know but we got carried away, he tells me that he misses me and misses being with me etc.

So the day after my brain is awash with feelings, I tell him this, and that I can't keep in touch as it is hurting me.

I delete his number and he texts today asking how I am. I reply good thanks. He tells me his is bored, lonely and misses his boo (me).

I tell him ah, me too. Cos I do.

I then follow on with a text saying, well we have 2 options - either work at a relationship together and give this another chance or walk away from each other and get on with our lives.

I am told he wants me but doesn't want to be dumped again (I ended if a few times due to several reasons).

So I rang, and said enough of this stupidness, we are adults and need to sit down and talk to see if we have a future. This was Friday, we still haven't arranged a time to meet up, it is now nearly Sunday evening and I've just given up.

My friend said if he REALLY liked you he would have made up with you straight away. She also said he turns up when he wants, roughly once a week wanting a cuddle and a kiss, and to talk.

I've really had enough and have deleted his number for good, I am now on dating sites and wish to go on a date with someone who will treat me nice.

I need to get this question answered from men so it helps me understand what is ticking in his brain and so I can move on.

Surely if he cared and missed me that much he'd be like right we'll give this another go...but no...I get ignored which is personally telling me he's not that bothered.

I split with my ex bf around 2 weeks ago, since then he came round and we had a chat and a kiss, he tells me that he misses me and misses being with me etc.

So the day after my brain is awash with feelings, I tell him this, and that I can't keep in touch as it is hurting me.

I delete his number and he texts today asking how I am. I reply good thanks. He tells me his is bored, lonely and misses his boo (me).

I tell him ah, me too. Cos I do.

I then follow on with a text saying, well we have 2 options - either work at a relationship together and give this another chance or walk away from each other and get on with our lives.

I am left without a reply, he chooses to ignore me. Part of me is no frustrated. If he liked me that much surely he would want to talk or make up?

I just don't know what he wants so am not going to get in touch. We have been going round in circles for a few weeks.

Can anyone explain why he may be ignoring me. Is the text I sent such a bad one?

I can't talk to him in person as he doesn't have his own home and I have deleted his number. He is also very shy at opening up with his feelings.

Oh and also I told him I miss him like crazy so he knows how I feel. Initially I said I wanted to be on my own but today I told him I miss him and was happier with him.

Surely if he cared and missed me that much he'd be like right we'll give this another go...but no...I get ignored which is personally telling me he's not that bothered.

For me early nights, new hair style and organising social events is working, but I still miss him and wondered what else people do to move on from their old love?

Any ideas are welcomed thanks

My exhusband who I left 2 years ago hurt me more than anyone has ever done in my life.

I'm mid thirties, he lied, spent money we didn't have, went online and flirted, rang people, met people, had an affair.

I've had a few boyfriends since we split, including my latest and I've ended up ending the relationship for one reason or the other. It's like I can't stand to get close to someone and back off before I get hurt again.

I really deserve a happy loving relationship as I have a lot to give, but just find it hard to get close and for men to open up is another issue.

I'm not sure if counselling would help, I have a trust issue but I suppose that grows with time of being with the right person. I feel everyone is going to two time, hurt and lie to me. I've had to end my latest relationship as I couldn't hack it but I love him dearly.

Any advice? Thank you

I am a single parent of 2 small boys. I work for myself so have lots of equipment everywhere to do with work.

I have lots of bad memories in this house, due to divorce losing my dad, failed relationships.

I've seen a lovely 3 bed detached house to rent nearby. Lovely and I could afford it.

Now the question is, do I jump ship and take the risk of moving or do I stay put?

I'm in a buy to let mortgage but had to stay here after the marriage ended. I could rent this out but would only get £450 a month. The other house is £625 a month. Now if I reduced my mortgage to interest only, I'd be able to cover it.

The bills will be roughly the same.

I'm really SCARED to take hte move, and only have £1200 in savings. So I'd be OK for a few months.

I'm very unhappy here, it's small and squashed, the kids share a small bedroom but there we'd have a lot of space to be freeer.

Please can anyone give me any advice. Do I take a risk or just stay put? It is hard being self employed

You always describe my ex as a "douche" but to me in England, douche means to wash..what does this mean if you translate it please?

I'm mid thirties, been seeing a guy would say we had started to fall in love.

Then, suddenly he changes his tune towards me. I contact him before he goes away and he says I'm hounding him.

This esculates into a major argument going on for almost 3 weeks. I told him to bugger off and leave me alone. He comes back, makes love to me we make up sort of, I text him next day to say glad we have sorted things out, he text's back to say no we haven't. then I get mad saying leave me alone, I need space, you are doing my head in. And I (stupidly or not) get back with him.

He comes back saying he loves me dearly etc etc wants to make it work.

We get back together last weekend (sat night). We go out for dinner Sunday night, he stays over. Everything fine between us.

Monday a few texts exchanged, I ring him for a chat, mention I'm cooking tea & say some is spare if you want some.

He turns up, laptop in bag. I served him his dinner, he sits on the laptop eating his dinner and going on facebook.Ignoring us. Burps. Watches laptop like a hawk. Tells me he can't see me tonight he's "too tired" but will see me one afternoon this week? (as I work evenings..) I'm like right ok. "Whatever"..I am not a fool believe me !

He then proceeds to ignore us all, takes a call in the garden.

Then says he's got to go to pick his sister up who is visiting a family friend in hospital. I have to go at the same time as he departs, as I have an appointment local to the area with regards to work.

On the way to the appointment I see his car outside his ex's house with whom he has a baby. He also has 2 other children to someone else. (The ex's always phoning up/texting him)

I was shocked and shaken as he'd said blatently that it was his sister who was on phone but my intuition was right it was his ex.

I text that night to say hope you had a nice time at her house, didn't know she lived in the hospital, he then got nasty back saying he went to see his son, (fair enough, I don't have a problem with that at all, what I have a problem with is being lied to) & hasn't seen him (liar cos he saw him at the weekend previous!!!) & to pay maintenance...yeh...

I'd had enough of the ongoing three week drama, my feeling to him had changed and as soon as I realised he wasn't truthful I lost every little bit of faith I had in him (I spent 9 years with a liar/cheat)

So I told him sorry it's over, I can't keep up with you, he text back saying "i'm dumped again by text, great, F.>> off and delete my number" to which I was shocked but expected, so that was it. we are over. I feel like I have been bad texting him but I can't take his crap anymore.

Do you think I should be feeling this guilt? I can't apologise as I have deleted his number.

He was at the ex's for around 20 minutes, he said he was seeing his son, I drove back up the hill on my return to see his car pull out in front of me then he waved (!) so I turned down the nearest road to get away as I was a little shook up/shocked.

Was I right to break up with him?

I'm mid thirties, been seeing a guy would say we had started to fall in love.

Then, suddenly he changes his tune towards me. I contact him before he goes away and he says I'm hounding him.

This esculates into a major argument going on for almost 3 weeks.

He comes back saying he loves me dearly etc etc wants to make it work.

We get back together last weekend (sat night). We go out for dinner Sunday night, he stays over. Everything fine between us.

Monday a few texts exchanged, I ring him for a chat, mention I'm cooking tea & say some is spare if you want some.

He turns up, laptop in bag. I served him his dinner, he sits on the laptop eating his dinner and going on facebook. I'm like right ok.

He then proceeds to ignore us all, takes a call in the garden.

Then says he's got to go to pick family up from hospital. I have to go at the same time as I have an appointment local to the area.

On the way to the appointment I see his car outside his ex's house with whom he has a baby. He also has 2 other children to someone else. (The ex's always phoning up/texting him)

I was shocked and shaken as he'd said blatently that it was his sister who was on phone but my intuition was right it was his ex.

I text that night to say hope you had a nice time at her house, didn't know she lived in the hospital, he then got nasty back saying he went to see his son, (fair enough, I don't have a problem with that at all, what I have a problem with is being lied to).

I'd had enough of the ongoing three week drama, my feeling to him had changed and as soon as I realised he wasn't truthful I lost every little bit of faith I had in him (I spent 9 years with a liar/cheat)

So I told him sorry it's over, I can't keep upw ith you, he text back saying "i'm dumped again by text, great, F.>> off and delete my number" to which I was shocked but expected, so that was it. we are over. I feel like I have been bad texting him but I can't take his crap anymore.

Do you think I should be feeling this guilt? I can't apologise as I have deleted his number.

My whole body seems to feel strange, I can't eat have no appetite and am forcing food down. I feel down in myself and physically sick.

I keep checking my phone as I text to say hi and he hasn't replied. I feel lovesick to the core and am missing him.

Is there anything that can help with this?

Thanks

My whole body seems to feel strange, I can't eat have no appetite and am forcing food down. I feel down in myself and physically sick.

I keep checking my phone as I text to say hi and he hasn't replied. I feel lovesick to the core and am missing him.

Is there anything that can help with this?

Thanks

Here's a brief thing about us

I met him 10 weeks ago

He has three kids, I have 2

I have a busy working life working silly hours, he works shifts

I expect a lot from a man and I know that.

He's gone on a boys weekend

On Tuesday I said I'd like to see you before you go on lads' weekend.

He said yes text me when you are on your way home. I text, get no reply (text him at 8pm at night) so by midnight I was getting cross/worried, I text back saying if this is love then why are you ignoring me?

He then replied at 9am the following day, I had no sleep that night saying he can't be bothered running to mine when i apparently click my fingers, I do not firstly click my fingers to anyone, but am trying to run a family, have a relationship with him and run a business.

He also said I have hurt him as I found it difficult with all 5 kids and us one day and asked him if we could spend time alone to get to know each other. He has said I don't accpet the kids and he comes as a package. Well hello I know that.

I am very hurt and annoyed that a) he has ignored me, b) come at me and said I click my fingers and has accused me of not wanting to spend time with his lads.

Surely it is normal that you spend time as a couple rarely in the beginning?

I told him not to contact me til he gets back and that he can come and collect his stuff from mine (he;s got a few bits here).

I just want to text to say hope you are having a good time, but not sure. I think I'd regret it if I did.

If anyone could offer some opinion on what I should do; either leave this and let him contact me or contact him to say hi, hope you are having a nice time?

Hi, I'm a single parent of two, I get good working and child tax credits. However I am unsure which party will be best.

My friend said vote for labour but I am unsure.

Conservative want to cut tax credits from what I hear.

Any one any advice before I place my bet sorry I mean vote?

Thanks

Does anyone know a good site where I can help my six year old improve his reading and writing? THanks

Hi,

I need an outsiders perspective.

I married 10 years ago, we split up 2 years ago and have 2 boys together.

I left him as he was a liar and a cheat, I found phone bills, notes, telephone numbers, STI cards, conversations on internet chat rooms etc, he used to hide things from me and it broke my heart.

During the time with him, I suffered badly from post natal depression. And became very nasty, controlling and hard to live with. I lived 4 hours from home and resented him being away, resented living away from home so eventually I've ended back at home in my home town and am dead happy here.

The marriage came to a natural end after a huge set of rows and three months of him moving out.

However now two years down the line, I've had a few boyfriends, they haven't worked out for me. I find it hard to "date" when I have kids, and something just doesn't feel right.

I still feel some pull towards my ex husband. ALthough he had his faults, he was very generous, caring and helpful. However I don't think I fancy him like I used to.

He's asking me to go on holiday with him and the kids and I really don't know.

Sometimes I wonder if I have made the right decision getting rid of him, we are nearing the end of the divorce now. I couldn't go on in the marriage with him behaving this way. Plus I nearly lost the plot and he was quite verbally abusive, but again I put this all down to the uncontrollable fights and arguments.

He's since had counselling, and has been diagnosed with a personality disorder, and had post traumatic stress disorder, from fighting wars he's in the forces. He also had childhood traumas which have affected him in adulthood.

Today we talked as we took the kids out, I just felt so sad it all went so badly wrong, when once we are so happy. I realise I have done wrong and have finally let go of the hurt, hatred towards him, it's all water under the bridge.

I'm just not sure why I feel like this, or if I just miss the family situation. Which to be honest, I do. The last thing I want to do mid thirties is go on dates and start all that again. But it will have to be done I suppose.

Thanks for listening. x

Hi,

I need an outsiders perspective.

I married 10 years ago, we split up 2 years ago nad have 2 boys together.

I left him as he was a liar and a cheat, I found phone bills, notes, telephone numbers, STI cards, conversations on internet chat rooms etc, he used to hide things from me and it broke my heart.

During the time with him, I suffered badly from post natal depression. And became very nasty, controlling and hard to live with.

The marriage came to a natural end after a huge set of rows and three months of him moving out.

However now two years down the line, I've had a few boyfriends, they haven't worked out for me.

I still feel some pull towards my ex husband. ALthough he had his faults, he was very generous, caring and helpful.

He's asking me to go on holiday with him and the kids and I really don't know.

Sometimes I wonder if I have made the right decision getting rid of him, we are nearing the end of the divorce now. I couldn't go on in the marriage with him behaving this way.

He's since had counselling, and has been diagnosed with a personality disorder, and had post traumatic stress disorder, from fighting wars he's in the forces.

WHat's your opinion on this.

Today we talked as we took the kids out, I just felt so sad it all went so badly wrong, when once we are so happy.

Thanks for listening. x

On old friend told me he is in love with me last night, and has been for 20 years, I' m 35.

I used to like him a lot, crush type thing when I was 14/15.

Anyway yesterday I was told he loves me, and asked to go for a drink.

There are several problems here:

1) he split from a relationship last week (they were together 3 and a half years), he tells me he adores me, loves me, I am the girl of his dreams etc etc. this is freaking me out a bit

2) he used to go out with my friend and I used to go out with his friend, both of these people mean a lot to me and I don't want to hurt them, even if they are happy and settled, I don't want to push them away.

It has all come as a big shock to me, as I have only split with someone 2 weeks ago and can't do with anything heavy at the moment.

Initially I said I would go for a drink, but now I am having doubts. 20 years ago I did used to fancy him in fact I was in love, but I am not going to be a rebound thing as this man cant be on his own. I'd like some perspective from others if I can please.

I am still in love with someone I met last year, and have to be honest would get back with him tomorrow if I had the chance. But I don't think I have.

Thanks xx

Not sure if mozuma mobile or envirophone are best. Anyone used these? I am in the UK

I'm sorry to go on here, but i need to get this off my chest.

I'm 35, divorced, have 2 small kids. My marriage went wrong when the ex decided to cheat, and the truth came out he had an affairs and was cheatin on the net, and the marriage never recovered.

Since then, I've met a few guys, I'm not a bad looking girl and have a great personality am told and am loving and caring.

However; because of the infidelity in the marriage, and problems I saw during my childhood growing up seeing my parents constantly arguing, and in what I'd describe as an unhealthy marriage (where they hardly talked towards the end. My dad passed away a few years ago) I struggle to settle with someone..

I've met someone nice but am not sure;he's a bit in your face about how he feels, etc. etc, I'm struggling to admit if I have feelings for him ( been together 2 months) I have dreams about an ex who I parted company with last summer and just feel downhearted about the whole thing.

I feel I push people away perhaps when I get close and am striving to find a perfect man, who I know doesn't exist.

It's quite sad to get to your mid thirties with such a tarnished sad view on relationships. But this is how I feel and I can't trust anyone.

During my childhood I was happy, outgoing and had fun but can't forget the arguments and bitterness at home from my dad especially.

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