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My son has been acting out in class, not concentrating and shooting everyone with his finger as a gun, pencil as a gun, etc. (that one has to do with video games, but has been told to stop repeatedly and isn't) and yet when he can sit there and concentrate, he does really well. He is going through what I hope is a phase in that he is telling white lies. Someone sees him do something and he says he didn't do it over and over. He exaggerates stories in order to be "cool" too. I don't think he has ADD or ADHD and no teacher (he's in 3rd grade) has ever approached me with that and though my son is great at math and science, I don't necessarily think he needs to be tested to see if he is just too smart for what they are doing in class. We have taken away the video games and toy guns until we see an improvement in school and while my husband wants to toss him in a room and make him to school work after school and on the weekends as a punishment, I want to help him out with the subjects he is doing poorly in (reading and writing) by making it fun and have him do more with friends or sports and less time wanting to play video games. He is also playing the "victim" to the max. We hear from his teacher or daycare provider that he did this or that and he ALWAYS says that they just don't like him, that he was doing something else and his favorite, "So and so was talking to me and I told him to stop and I got in trouble for talking!" I know my boy and he's a talker and though I don't want to think of him as a liar, I know he is not telling me the truth. How can I get through to him and make him see that he just needs to concentrate in school and stop blaming everyone else? I don't like fighting with him :( He's an only child by the way. Not spoiled rotten, but they all are spoiled some!!!!

It has been almost 3 weeks since I stopped using my patches and I just wanted to make sure what I am feeling is not in my head because I knew these things would probably happen. I am 31 years old and have been using the patches for about 3-4 years due to Premature Ovarian Failure. I mainly began using it because I had no sex drive and they definitely helped with that :) But I wanted to stop them for long enough to get my blood tested to see what MY levels are without the aid of HRT. Last week, I had 3 straight days of feeling utterly sad/heavy. Just very unlike myself. I am having minor hot flashes (definitely not as bad as my teen years, thankfully!) and find myself hot in bed, but not actually sweating. I am having some pretty bad vaginal dryness. Hurts after sex each time even with lubrication and even after I pee. Feels like I am wiping an already dry and painful vagina. Those are the main ones and I have to wait another month or so before I get my labs done. Is it going to get worse for me?

When I go to the bathroom to have a BM, I go, everything seems fine, then when I wipe, it is as though more needs to come out, but it never does. So, I am wiping and the amount on the toilet paper is the same every time. It makes for a very sore butt after a while. It is to the point to where I cringe every time I have to go to the bathroom. My butt never seems to get clean enough and it makes me feel so gross. Thankfully no one has told me that I smell (no one being my husband!). I take a packet of multivitamins we bought from Costco, could that be the culprit? Please help, this is gross.

Over 2 months ago, It was discovered by my husband that I was texting a co-worker (male) and hiding it. Most of the texts were innocent, some asking intimate questions. I have since stopped talking to the guy, deleted his number, him as a "friend" off myspace and so on. A few weeks ago, he was fired (not related to this) and so that was a weight off both mine and my husbands shoulders. Rightfully so, my husband was very angry and lost trust in me. We have since moved on and are working on us. I don't feel as though I cheated. Did wrong, yes, but cheated, no. From time to time, my husband would throw out comments about this situation and it wouldn't bring it all up again to where we fight about it, they are just more like jabs, you know? He was in jail so he thinks I am into convicts and such. Well, my dad is in prison and I really want to visit him. My husband and I got the okay, but we just have to wait for him to have a day off. I have been asking him to find out when he can get a day off and telling him this sucks that we can't just go. I want to go with him as going alone scares me! He said today that if I don't want to wait for him, then I should just do what I have to do. He doesn't want me going alone cause he "knows my type." So back to my subject question, when is enough enough? I have kept my mouth shut in all the remarks, but today I finally told him to stop with the jabs. It isn't helping anything. It is just showing me that he can't get past it. Is there any sort of statute of limitations in regards to the comments? Other than those, we are doing fine. I have become an open book (he knows my passwords and can check the phone, myspace, facebook anytime he wants). I have always been pretty boring and I never did anything with this guy especially outside of work. So in your opinion, was it okay to speak up today when it had only been a little over 2 months? This is all via e-mail and I haven't heard back yet.

When my husband was a child, his father was a sort of "off and on" dad. He was married to his mom for a long time, but there was cheating and he would just come and go. He didn't give my husband that total father-son relationship a young boy deserves. His step-dad came around when he was 12 and though they butted heads in the beginning, him and my husband, now 28, are the best of friends and he considers him his dad. We have a 5 year old son now and my husband is a great guy and father to him. That has never been the issue. My husband is insecure and needs constant reassurance. In his job, in his everyday life, in the games he plays, etc. He almost expects me to tell him how handsome he is EVERY time he walks past me. He obsesses over things. If he starts something, a book, movie, something in his game, he HAS to finish it or he will sit there and think about it till it is done. It isn't like he is sitting there unable to do anything, it is just in the back of his mind until it is done. He has anger issues too. Nothing that affects the marriage (no physical beating of me or my son or anything), but just gets angry easy. Here is my take on it and let me know if I am wrong or way off. He is a grown man with a son of his own now and knows how wonderful it is to have that little guy hang onto your every word (also he knows how annoying them kids can be but he is still here!!!!). My thought process is that he is questioning why his father couldn't find the love in his heart to stick around and be his dad. Like, "what was wrong with me that he couldn't love me as I love my son?" And that affects him profoundly. He has to finish things because his father didn't finish with him. He gets angry becuase he hasn't addressed his father in any of this. His mom was a wonderful mother and did anything she could to make him happy. However, when we mention his father at all (we do talk to him from time to time and just went to Montana to visit him in March), she gets really angry and even cried on my husbands shoulders after we got back from the visit. Saying that he hurt her feelings in seeing him because he didn't deserve my husbands company at all. She is looking at it like a scorned ex-wife and not as a son who may just need one question answered . . . why couldn't he be my dad? Her reaction, though warranted because of the way the father treated her, upset me as a mom. If my husband ever did this to our son and then our son needed some sort of closure, I would just have to sit back and let him. So please, I know this was long, but any advice would be great. Thanks.

When my husband was a child, his father was a sort of "off and on" dad. He was married to his mom for a long time, but there was cheating and he would just come and go. He didn't give my husband that total father-son relationship a young boy deserves. His step-dad came around when he was 12 and though they butted heads in the beginning, him and my husband, now 28, are the best of friends and he considers him his dad. We have a 5 year old son now and my husband is a great guy and father to him. That has never been the issue. My husband is insecure and needs constant reassurance. In his job, in his everyday life, in the games he plays, etc. He almost expects me to tell him how handsome he is EVERY time he walks past me. He obsesses over things. If he starts something, a book, movie, something in his game, he HAS to finish it or he will sit there and think about it till it is done. It isn't like he is sitting there unable to do anything, it is just in the back of his mind until it is done. He has anger issues too. Nothing that affects the marriage (no physical beating of me or my son or anything), but just gets angry easy. Here is my take on it and let me know if I am wrong or way off. He is a grown man with a son of his own now and knows how wonderful it is to have that little guy hang onto your every word (also he knows how annoying them kids can be but he is still here!!!!). My thought process is that he is questioning why his father couldn't find the love in his heart to stick around and be his dad. Like, "what was wrong with me that he couldn't love me as I love my son?" And that affects him profoundly. He has to finish things because his father didn't finish with him. He gets angry becuase he hasn't addressed his father in any of this. His mom was a wonderful mother and did anything she could to make him happy. However, when we mention his father at all (we do talk to him from time to time and just went to Montana to visit him in March), she gets really angry and even cried on my husbands shoulders after we got back from the visit. Saying that he hurt her feelings in seeing him because he didn't deserve my husbands company at all. She is looking at it like a scorned ex-wife and not as a son who may just need one question answered . . . why couldn't he be my dad? Her reaction, though warranted because of the way the father treated her, upset me as a mom. If my husband ever did this to our son and then our son needed some sort of closure, I would just have to sit back and let him. So please, I know this was long, but any advice would be great. Thanks.

I have been married for 6 1/2 years to a great man. We will be together 8 years next month. For the last month or so, I have been texting (or sexting as the kids call it these days) this co worker. It never went further than texts and some phone conversations. But the bad part is that I was deleting as I went and not telling my husband. He found out and was livid. He accused me of cheating (in reading articles, it seems to be considered an "emotional" affiar) and lost his trust for me. We had a great trust too. I was going to go to Eureka with my son this weekend to see some family, he won't let me (unless I want him gone when I get home). I am not to go to the gym alone anymore, so he may join with me. Basically he is going to freak out everytime I walk out the door, which I can understand and I have to work to get that to stop. We had a pretty good day yesterday with lots of cuddling and closeness, but now I am at work and I know that he is stewing. He wants me to approach said guy and tell him that I messed up, that I love my husband and that we can't talk. He, my husband, already sent him a message saying to stay away from me (in a nice way actually) and they guy has ignored me today. Which is great, he got the message. But my husband wants me to pull the guy aside and tell him. Has anyone been in this kind of sutuation before? Please advise. I want to stay married and need to know how to get his trust back.

My husband and I tend to do separate things once our son goes to bed. Him on his computer game and me with my TV. I want to do more toghether then just sex. Any suggestions? Keep in mind we can't necessarily leave the house cause our son is sleeping!!!!