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Went to see daughter and hubby after shopping(i don't have a cell phone).to call ahead but was told I could stop in anytime said hubby. When I went there MIL was babysitting and since we had started a new POSITIVE relationship we had an nice conversation for a short time. Then spoke to daughter and hubby and left not long after they came home. Something happened between that visit and the following visit when our family came from out of town and we gathered at my D & H house. MIL was there with cousins and gave me a very strange look and pulled the baby back as if I were going to take her. I sat down on the couch and visited with people in the room but MIL would not speak to me or even look at me.. She was going to leave with her family and gave baby to Katie who was next to me and never acknowledged me so I know something what up. This MIL lied to my daughter at the wedding and the day after and my daughter and hubby did not speak for 9 months.Our relatives were arriving as MIL was leaving. Had a nice time and left earlier than others. Called my daughter when baby was 2 1/2 months old ( as many people were visiting during that time and they were ok with it). and and asked her if I would be able to babysit and because of my health problems I was not allowed to sit not even for an hour. I have Fibromyalgia.I called I cried and told my daughter that I understand that I can't be consistent for work puposes but why can't I sit for say an hour or two. She said maybe in a few years. She was kind and understood my feelings and was fine when we got off the phone.So MIL is getting to babysit when ever they work and when ever they go out and also get to visit as well and I wonder if her time is limited..I met D & H for lunch and both were distant but polite. I was suppose to have visitation after lunch. But the two of them were so chilly towards me that I just went home. I went to see my daughter on a visitation nite and told her that I wanted to respect there boundaries and asked how long I could visit not just wilh the baby but with her

assertive assertivly told me that 2 hours would be reasonable. She didn't hardly talk to me even when I tried to make conversation and was busy writing thank you cards. I said I better go as the two ours were over. She looked at me and said Wow 2 hours go by fast, and she sort of just looked at the tv and shrugged her shoulders like it was ok. So when she was done writing her cards I said I guess I will go and had stayed 1 hours beyond the 2 hour limit.I told her goodbye and thanked her for the visit and said I really enjoyed spending time with her and the baby. I kissed her on her head and she never looked up and I walked toward the door and looked at her as this was not normal behavior for her. She had her head down and I could tell she was near tears or just could not look me in the face. My take on this is that MIL told another lie and that made Hubby mad. Hubby is a Latino and and culture is very different then ours. Wife is first and mother is second.Hubby is very stubborn and some what controling of his wife. There is nothing I can do to change that but now my daughter and I don't seem close anymore and she seems very close to MIL as is hubby.Been through this stuff for a year after the wedding until Daughter came to me and said I don't want to talk about it I just want to move forwabotheringowly we did.Now I feel like we are back at stage one. I don't want to call to see when it is a good time, I feel like I am borthering them by caling as their secdules are so different each week.. So I am thinging about not calling and telling themdaughter feel uncomfortable calling and that I would prefer that they call when it is a good time for them. This is causing me pain, some physical but mostly menseparated she is my only dauther. I don't know what to do, tired ot crying to myself and looking all normal infront of them. Oh and during this strange thing between me and MIL they have separted MIL from me and we can't be there as the same time. Why does she get so much more time with my daughter and grandchild? I am so hurt I don't know how to handle this. If I wait for them to call my daughter will probably get mad and if I call I often have to here that Cindy is there. Sometimes I just feel lkie walking away...it is so stressful.

Because, Islam excepts the 5 books from the bible, and then of course Mohamud had his experience of enlightenment when Gabriel the Angel who was at Christ's birth, appeared to him. Now from what I read, Muslims say that Jesus is a great teacher or a great prophet. I ask how can you say that as Christ said, "You see me you see the Father". "I am the Messiah who was to come". "I am". more than once when on the earth, (which is recorder during his life by non religious historians at the time that Christ lived). So having said these things and dying on the cross for the sins of all the world, how can you say he was a good prophet? He would either have to be a LIAR, or a Lunatic...so please explain because I just don't get it. Thank you in advance.

Because I think it would be a great real adventure and Debi C we will get you there!! HNV!!

ad have it NOW! There is a specific name for this generation but I can't remember it!!

My daughter just finished a two year degree and got married. When I co signed for a $4,000.00 school loan and then a 16.000.00 car loan for my daughter. once she was engaged, and was by both my daughter and son-in-law to be, assured that both would be out of my name once they were married. Now that they are married, they say they can't because they had to by a condo. Then when they bought the condo, they had 10.000 dollars in the bank and they but 500.00 down on the condo and bought all new furniture and paid some bills and so they could not get a loan for the college 4000.00 fund or find a co-signer for the car in my and my daughter's name although they promised they would. I am dumbfounded...why would they do this to me knowing that I am on a fixed income and need to get an equity loan for my home and can't get a decent % rate with 20,000 hanging over my head.

a beautifl song showen to me by Typically not me.

Please be specific,like seeing your kids, or eating a great meal with friends or what ever

When I briefly lived in Arizona, I noticed that the pain was greatly reduced but the fatigue, and sleep problems were the same. What is your take on that?

Mine is severe, I worked with it for 6 years in a very stressful job that I truly loved but finally could not work at all. I am able to take care of myself, and help others to some extent but mostly in warm weather. The winter is hard but the spring is really tough to manage as I live in WI so lots of rain. Also do you have chemical sensitivies?

a passive or absent father. My best gay friend told me that he had both these situation and could have gone bysexual but decided to go gay. What do you think about this...is this the norm or is this an exception to the rule so to speak?

I am just curious as I have gay/lesbian friends that I worked with but we never got into that discussion.

I am not trying to stereotype anyone, it just has been my experience that most that I have come in contact with on YA seem to be this way.

Don't just say me or my life, give me some meat!! ; )

I still want to jump out of an airplane from 15,000 feet but not alone of course, attached to a professional!!

I have seven such diverse friends, friends from grade school, high school, college, friends met through ex,..I try to see or talk to them when I can. It seems like when I do, no time has past, we just pick up from where we are.