Justine

My boyfriend of one year is very close with his family and his older sister. He and I are moving in together and he has three year old daughter from a previous relationship. He also lives on his parents property in his own house. The sister lives there too, but in his parents house. She basically has no friends or life except him and his daughter and she is used to them coming over for every night for dinner since she would cook for them and was basically like mom to his kid every two weeks when he had her. Now I am moving in and I want to be a couple and a family with him and his daughter. However, whenever he has free time his sister schedules something and often he agrees (today they decided to go to the lake with the daughter). I feel, as his girlfriend, that I should be the one he is making plans with. However, I know he close to his sister and she is used to making plans with him with no problem. I feel that she doesn't respect the fact that she can't just make plans with him because he should be making plans with me since I am his partner. I don't want him to feel like he can't plan his own life, but I get resentful that his sister just plans stuff for him and the baby without asking me. I don't want to be controlling but I want to feel like he's my partner and we have a life together. We had talked about hanging out together today and then yesterday he announced he had plans with her and I could join and I was hurt. What is the best way to handle this without making him feel controlled and without making his sister mad, but still allowing me to feel like he's responsive to being my partner?

Or is there another better smart phone?

I have had two dreams recently about walking into a scene filled with dead, bloody bodies. The first was a war zone type thing, perhaps in the middle east of people blown up, or killed somehow and they were all men kind of in rows covered on blood, I didn't know any of them and there was no context. The second dream was of a murder scene of a woman, blood was splattered all over the room from her being stabbed. Again, in the dream I didn't know who she was or why she was killed. Both were horrifying and I would up just disturbed. Recently I saw a real photograph of a bunch of women and children who had been killed in a bombing. Perhaps my mind is processing that? What could be the meaning of these dreams? They were very vivid.

I'd like to go for a month but even two weeks would be good. Affordable is better than expensive. Preferably to a beautiful place by the sea with organic food and vinyasa style yoga. Has anyone been to a place they would recommend?

My boyfriend starts putting his three year old girl to bed at around 9:30 or ten, like they bathe and she gets in bed and she is asleep usually by 10:45 or 11 at night. She takes a 1-3 hour nap during the day. he says he prefers it this way because she wakes up later but it seems to me like she still wakes up at 7am. Often times too, she will wake up and be in out bed until midnight falling asleep. I am exhausted because I am not getting enought sleep when I stay there so I asked her if he could have her asleep by ten and he seemed put out and acted like I was asking a lot to take time away from her that he had with her. I feel like he ignores me a bit when she's there, which is okay but after like 10pm I've usually had enough and just go up and go to sleep and they are still up playing. I'm used to putting small children to bed at like 9 at the latest and even with naps they get up at like 6 0r 7. I worry the child isn't egtting enough sleep either. What do you think?

He's really nice and cares and loves me but we don't share the same beliefs and I'm always feeling let down or dissapointed and lonely. I know I should dump him but I feel like my life would be devoid of meaning, that I'd be totally alone because my whole family lives in another state and I have no deep friendships. I'm really sad ... what should I do?

Is rosetta stone best or is there a good way for free?

His ex had DD's - I have B's. I never mind my small boobs but one night I asked him if he wanted them to be bigger and he replied "well it would be nice if they were a little bigger but I'd like it if my dick was bigger" ... which I took as a yes. Then in another conversation I asked him if he missed his ex and he said when they broke up he missed her boobs and not her. So then I asked him if he still missed her boobs and he said "I'm not going to lie, they were rather nice" and then said "well that's what i get for telling the truth" when I was hurt. Am I wrong to be hurt by this (I did ask and did want an honest answer). How should I move past it. I don't even want to sleep with him now because I feel totally inadequate. What should I do?

Mine are b's. He's mentioned that he wished mine were bigger and how nice hers were and now I feel super insecure. I just feel bad. I'm not going to get a boob job. I know he's attracted to me but I still feel bad. What should I do?

If someone was born on Nov 13, 1985 at 4:00am in CA, USA. What would their north node house # be? I know they would be a taurus north node/scorpio south node but what house would taurus be in? What is a good website for learning about this or a site that will give you your north node house#?

He asks me to hang out and I just don't want to. He has a daughter and when she is there I feel like the focus it totally on her and as much as I want to be nice about it, I get bored because he doesn't really talk to me that much and it just feels like it's not time to connect with him because he's focused on her. He's also really close to his family and I feel like they are his focus as well. I feel like I'm #5 on his list. When we hang out, just him and I, I feel better and pretty happy. But when he is with his daughter or family it seems like I'm not there. What should I do? I'm seeing a future with him less and less.

They all (including him) believe that huge disaster will destroy society so they live in the middle of nowhere and have huge supplies of food. They believe that it is good if most people are killed off so that humanity can start of on a more "spiritual" path of living in harmony with nature. I think it's a nuch of bullshit. They are nice people, not religious, but it just seems like bizarre thing to focu on/believe/hope for when really no one knows "god's" will or what will happen. It's good to prepare but to hope for disaster seems sick. Thoughts, comments? I'm thinking of breaking up with him because I will never share the belief.

I think it is but I wonder if others do.

I feel like I have nothing figured out. I have a dead end job that is okay and and a small apartment that is cute and a boyfriend that is nice but I'm not sure I am in love and don't see us together long-term. I graduated from a top university with good grades and then did nothing with my degree. I'm thinking of going to grad school but I don't really want to. Nothing really appeals to me. I feel like I should have direction and purpose and know what I want but I don't. I could coast along but that doesn't seem appealing either. I was married and never got a "real job" but took care of the house ... I'm gtting divorced and I'm getting a large chunk of money but I have had nothing but anxiety over it because I don 't know what to do with it because I have to be wise with it and I know nothing about money. What should I do? Is it normal to still not have your life "figured out" when you are 28? What steps should I take next? I'm not sure I want a high-pressure life, like career, or even kids. I would like a partner and I would like to work with plants maybe, like a farm or nursery?

Is this poem any good? Thank you!?

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.

Please answer even if yo think it sucks :) Your answer doesn't have to be nice.

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.

What feeling does this poem give you?

Can you relate? Also, should I change anything?

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.

What feeling does this poem give you?

Can you relate? Also, should I change anything?

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.

What feeling does this poem give you?

Can you relate? Also, should I change anything?

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.

What feeling does this poem give you?

Can you relate? Also, should I change anything?

"Alight"

Something was lost.

Nothing was missing, but something was gone.

One day in fall yellow trees lose their leaves.

Purple summer fades to navy night.

Over time and all at once.

A bird takes flight.

Out of your bedroom window.

Under cold stars, over pine trees, mountains and ice.

I've been watching the signs you give.

The little deaths and disappointments fall at my feet.

Silences heard.

The gathering of snow.

White drifts carve black rivers,

Mountains glow with freezing light.

You say the spring will thaw the ice,

that our love will blossom anew and

you will meet me in the verdant fields once again.

You ask me to hold on.

But I flew last night my love, out over the cold stars.

It's okay, my love.

Spring will come for us again.

You in the mountains

And I in the desert.

Nothing is lost

Except what might have been.

Silence sends me into flight.

Alone towards the sea and the sun

and the solitude of cactus flowers.

Once again, I will alight.