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I'm 22 and he is 25. He pees on me in his sleep ONLY when he drinks alcohol. He also hides bottles of Hunter Whiskey all over the place, thinking I never know or won't "find" them. He believes the peeing on me thing has only happened a few times, when in reality I'm the one waking up, washing the bedding, crying, taking showers at 5 in the morning and moving to a shitty couch to finish sleeping. I've counted this happening over 12 - 16 times last year and now I've lost count this year. He is a pain to wake up too. He will not wake up ever and I try for over an hour sometimes to wake him up when he's just laying in his own pee. I'm the one who has to clean up the mess, he never does and if he does he's a dick to me about it and treats me with a rude and disrespectful tone. It happens at least 4 times a month. Every time I tell him it bothers me that he pees the bed he just says "sorry" and gets all pissed off. I tell him that I feel he doesn't care about me because he keeps doing it. I feel he is choosing alcohol over me. I really feel he doesn't care for me sometimes because I've gained 35 lbs since stopping medication and ever since he doesn't have sex with me anymore and he continually pees the bed on me. He doesn't ever want to talk about serious things and when we do he doesn't even say anything, I have to say "are you even listening?" or "hello?" because he won't answer me and tunes me out. Anything serious I do say, goes in one ear and right out the other because he keeps repeating the nasty behavior. When he gets drunk he always has to fight with me or argue with me. Sometimes we are all having a good time with our friends and we will go into the bedroom to sleep and he has to fight with me about anything and everything. He tries psychoanalyzing me when he drinks and because he is drunk he makes no sense at all and comes off very mean. I don't want him to psychoanalyze me 1.) because he has no right, he's my boyfriend and 2.) he has no psychology background at all! He always takes cheap shots and brings up my family members or starts taking low blows and calling me names just because I'm the one trying to stop the fight. He always says he is going to break up with me because he picks on me so much when he is drunk I start yelling and him and crying. He is getting worse and worse. He just doesn't care about me I feel. He's actually super nice, it's just he isn't serious or considerate about changing things and improving, especially because of his alcohol problem. I want to grow with somebody, and this relationship is stunted! Advice on how to get him to listen to me, take me seriously and stop peeing on me? What is his problem? How can I have a future with somebody who behaves like this? I don't want our future kids growing up with a dad like that. Help me!!

I'm 22 and he is 25. He pees on me in his sleep ONLY when he drinks alcohol. He also hides bottles of Hunter Whiskey all over the place, thinking I never know or won't "find" them. He believes the peeing on me thing has only happened a few times, when in reality I'm the one waking up, washing the bedding, crying, taking showers at 5 in the morning and moving to a shitty couch to finish sleeping. I've counted this happening over 12 - 16 times last year and now I've lost count this year. He is a pain to wake up too. He will not wake up ever and I try for over an hour sometimes to wake him up when he's just laying in his own pee. I'm the one who has to clean up the mess, he never does and if he does he's a dick to me about it and treats me with a rude and disrespectful tone. It happens at least 4 times a month. Every time I tell him it bothers me that he pees the bed he just says "sorry" and gets all pissed off. I tell him that I feel he doesn't care about me because he keeps doing it. I feel he is choosing alcohol over me. I really feel he doesn't care for me sometimes because I've gained 35 lbs since stopping medication and ever since he doesn't have sex with me anymore and he continually pees the bed on me. He doesn't ever want to talk about serious things and when we do he doesn't even say anything, I have to say "are you even listening?" or "hello?" because he won't answer me and tunes me out. Anything serious I do say, goes in one ear and right out the other because he keeps repeating the nasty behavior. When he gets drunk he always has to fight with me or argue with me. Sometimes we are all having a good time with our friends and we will go into the bedroom to sleep and he has to fight with me about anything and everything. He tries psychoanalyzing me when he drinks and because he is drunk he makes no sense at all and comes off very mean. I don't want him to psychoanalyze me 1.) because he has no right, he's my boyfriend and 2.) he has no psychology background at all! He always takes cheap shots and brings up my family members or starts taking low blows and calling me names just because I'm the one trying to stop the fight. He always says he is going to break up with me because he picks on me so much when he is drunk I start yelling and him and crying. He is getting worse and worse. He just doesn't care about me I feel. He's actually super nice, it's just he isn't serious or considerate about changing things and improving, especially because of his alcohol problem. I want to grow with somebody, and this relationship is stunted! Advice on how to get him to listen to me, take me seriously and stop peeing on me? What is his problem? How can I have a future with somebody who behaves like this? I don't want our future kids growing up with a dad like that. Help me!!

Hello, this is about curing ADHD with Chia Seeds. I'm not a doctor, I'm a simple college kid.

I've had ADHD my whole life and I am now 22. I was never medicated until my freshman year of college because I was falling behind. My entire school career I got D's and F's. The only class I could pass was English and Sociology (I got A's). I began taking adderall when I was 20 and it caused a whole world of health problems for me because I had to take so much for it to even work. (30 mg's twice a day) I tried every other medicine out there and nothing worked as well as adderall, so I went back on it even after it had hospitalized me a few times. School is my everything so I needed to take the meds or else I wouldn't be able to pass. They improved my grades from failing to almost straight A's. One semester I almost had a 4.0! I was so close to making the Dean's list!

My ADHD is pretty severe, nothing has been able to help me. No tutoring, none of the holistic cures until this year. With ADHD I have anxiety so bad that sometimes I will have panic attacks. I stopped taking adderall because it messed with my heart and blood pressure so my doctor put me on XANAX because he felt it would stop the panic disoder that crept in. Xanax helped me a lot but I chose to stop taking it because it made me feel foggy headed and it was hard to study. Adderall gave me a sense of clarity, a clear, mind and helped me concentrate. Xanax helped me feel relaxed so I could concentrate and stop being nervous but it also made me feel foggy.

Anyways now I am drug free, with the occasional xanax if I have a panic attack (once every month now). I am currently in college and am taking some pretty hard classes. Since I stopped my medication I gained 70 lbs. I am 175 lbs currently. I wanted to lose weight this year so I decided to start taking CHIA seeds. Yes, that's right, Chia Seeds. I do not exercise because I have no time with work and school. Not only has it helped with my slow and gentle weight loss but it has cured me of my ADHD. They are about 12 dollars at a health store. I got the white Chia seeds and I eat 1-2 tbs every morning mixed on top of Oikos greek yogurt with blueberries. I know what you're thinking, "Chia seeds? gross!" No, not gross. They help me keep focused and help me feel full. I have never felt so energetic in my whole entire life. I feel like I am on a smooth dose of adderall, without the shakes, without the irritability, without the health risks or heart palpitations. I feel wonderful. Please try chia seeds for your children instead of ritalin or adderall. That stuff can really mess them up. In order for the energy to be sustained, I have to eat or drink the Chia seeds every couple of hours. It does make you go to the bathroom a little more than usual but it doesn't hurt, it's made going to the bathroom better actually and quieter (for those of you who poo loudly). I am not a health nut, nor have I ever been, but you should eat Chia seeds on everything. Tell me what you think?

My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year and a half so we decided to get a kitten. She is now 4 months old and has been as loving as ever. She is very well behaved and responds to several words, like "Treat, Sit, No, Dance and Come Here" She is still very cuddly, loving and follows us everywhere. She does not like to be alone and when we leave she starts meowing. Poor kitty.

Anyways, if we sleep in our room she's fine and will sleep by us all night, but when we sleep in the living room she instantly freaks out. When we pull the bed out, she will instantly go underneath it and try to "fish" for our feet with her paws, which is cute and she never uses her claws at this point until she comes out from under the bed to join us. The last couple times I've slept in the living room she has puffed her tail out, swished it a lot, made herself very big and puffy and has attacked meanly, sinking her claws and teeth into me. She latches on so hard sometimes her claws get stuck in me and I have to grab the back of her neck to get her off. She will then try to attack again, so I say "No" and she will just stare at me, with those dilated pupils and motion her body like she is about to attack but she won't if I say "no". She is very good with listening to the word, "No" but I'm scared one of these days her animal instincts will take over and she may hurt us badly. When she attacks, it is not like "play". Sometimes she will play attack and bite, but never this aggressively. She's not even the same kitty when she does this! She's a wild animal.

We never play ruff with her, or hit her or anything so I do not know why this behavior has started. She is very mean when we pull the bed out but sometimes she is very excited, and just wants to play, she will zoom around the room and try get us to play with her by pouncing on us or running around in circles in the middle of the bed. She will even bring her toys on top of the bed sometimes and throw them around but we ignore her because it is bed time for us. She will run across the blankets to play with our hands underneath which is fun but once we stop she's back to attacking us and breaking skin even. Very rarely is she clam and okay with us in the living room, but rarely, when she is okay with it, she will cuddle in between us and not leave us all night. What should I do to make her feel safe and that it is okay to sleep in the living room for movie nights sometimes? Why is she doing this only when we pull the bed out? Why does she cuddle all night in the bedroom but when we're in the living room she turns into "Scar" from The Lion King?

Does she associate the bed with excitement and play? I don't understand her behavior. Help me, I don't want to have a mean kitty!