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I recently found out that my father has been cheating on my mother with three different women...and that he has been with these women since I was small.....

Worse yet, because one of these women requested it, he gave her one of my invitations to my wedding....and she had the gall to come!

He's had her at our house, in my bedroom, my mother's bedroom, the living room...

My mother is so upset :(

And I feel like the family is falling apart because the trust is not there anymore.

He's denying it even though we have proof (emails he wrote, texts he sent...one of them even admitted to us she was sleeping with him)...which makes us feel even worse - I mean if you're obviously caught then at least respect us enough to acknowledge it...

How do you suggest I forgive him? I want to I'm just finding it extremely difficult - especially since she came to my wedding....

Recently I have had to go gluten and dairy free - but I'm having difficulty figuring out what to eat ahd how to eat.

1) Do you know where to buy dairy free products that are gluten free in the Toronto area?

2) Any suggestions on recipes or where I can get recipes?

Thanks.

So this I thought was interesting mainly because IF I do dream...I am one of those people who don't remember...but this dream I had last night struck me..and I'm not sure why.........so I figured I'd put it to you guys...and maybe you can have a go at dream interpretation...cause I'm not sure what it means AT ALL...

Now I have to apologise in advance because I don't remember the entire thing, just parts of it....but I think that it would be interesting to see what you have to say (and no - me being crazy is not appreciated...I'm actually being serious!) . And I'm trying to do this chronologically....

A few notes to begin with for those of you who may not know this terminology:

Aja - my grandfather on my fathers' side - passed away quite a few years ago

....ummm I think that's all the "questionable" or "confusing" terminology

Scene #1:

An open field on top of a hilltop, no one can see this green hilltop except for the top floors of the two buildings one to my right - red brick office building and one to my left concrete office building. I'm lying naked at the top of the hill enjoying the sun....then my husband (fully dressed) comes behind me and spoons me....and I say how perfect it is, that no one can see us - then I notice the top floors of the buildings can see us....and then all of a sudden there are lots of people around us picnicking...so I at first feel awkward except that I realize my hubby is covering essentially naked parts of me with his arm etc. So I stop worrying. But then a pair of women with hoods (like the caps the orthodox jewish women tend to wear - and they were baby pink caps) walk up the hill directly towards us as if they didn't even notice us. They sit down to picnic just about 2'-0" from our feet. I look at them and recognise two girls from primary school (still dressed like Jewish Orthodox women) and I say to my hubby, please hand me my panties cause they're probably getting an eyeful....after him teasing me a bit he finally did....so I sit up to put it on - and that seems to be the first time they noticed me....and they had looks of shock on their faces....

Scene #2:

I am not sure where this transition is but I enter a long thin room painted in white with long tables (a la hindu prayers tables to feed people?). I am in my wedding dress (yes the one from last year - in fact dressed exactly like that - except that the skirt seemed thinner and a lot easier to manage). The first thing I remember is greeting people sitting at the table and noticing my Aja sitting way at the back among other family members (no one in particular - I just knew they were close because I remember thinking oh, what's he doing all the way back there? and then thinking it's okay because they're sitting with him). Then the next thing I rememeber is going around a corner and into a small dark room - storage of some sort - and breathing - as if I were overwhelmed and taking a breather. I was cotching on something - not quite sitting - and a wooden shelf with various paraphanelia was to my top left and under it was a white fibreglass/plastic laundry sink that looked quite old and well used. My Dad came in and I stood up - and he pushed past me to look on the shelf cursing....he found a box of matches and opened it as if to check how many were in the box (a large red box, with wood matches that had red tips)....and then asked me if I put them there? I said no and he commented on how he could never find anything around here when he needed it. Then he left.

Scene #3:

Somehow I walked out of the dark room and most people had left (still in wedding dress). I see Aja (fully healthy with a full head of hair and his traditional "Aja" hat) at the far end of the hall and walk towards him. My Mom passes me going in the opposite direction mumbling something about cleaning up....I continue to Aja. I reach him and ask him if he's okay and he says the chair is a little tight. I put my hands at his hips and find that the arms of the chair has made parts of him protruding from the chair invisible - so it didn't look tight, but when I held the outside of his hips my hands felt as if he was tightly shoved into this chair. I mention "Wow it really IS tight" and I say I would get him a different chair. So I walk back down towards the other end of the room. I notice that there are many different types of chairs - some in a lounge setting, some in a table setting, some as couches....So I find two chairs. The first I'm not sure of, but I thought because it had no arms it wouldn't squish him...then I think but he may topple over an fall off....The second was fluorescent green with a low white cushion and a tall green "shaft" at the top - one of those mesh materials like some office chairs...and it was on wheels - so I thought it looked cool and again, no arms so these may be appropriate...so I grab both and are wheeling them (I guess they both had wheels) towards Aja when this Chinese guy (I think it's an actor...can'

I have a project to do a laser cut art piece on what is architecture and am drawing blanks here....any ideas?

My husband recently started Law School Distance Ed. He has been advised in the 3rd year to go full time. This was a dream of his ever since I'd known him and even before (more that 7 years), and he's being able to follow through with it.

However, the University he's doing it through is in Great Britain - and we're in N. America. I'm originally from somewhere else and migrated here originally for school - ended up staying. I don't take change very well and after 11 years of living here I've finally started feeling comfortable and started having a solid support system of friends etc. up here.

If we move I have none - so I'm scared to go. However, this is his dream, and he isn't someone who has had a lot of breaks in his life...so I feel like I should just be quiet and not say anything.

If I do, he may regret his decision/give up on his dream just to keep me happy.

I feel so selfish - could someone help clarify my thoughts? I believe that I should just suck it up and go with the flow for his sake..........what do you think?

I am Catholic and have recently gotten married to another Catholic who was married before and legally divorced, but not annulled in the Canadian Catholic Church. We've been waiting 3 1/2 year for this annullment and it has cost us $12000CA thus far and the ArchDiocese recently asked us for some more.

We are not rich, we are fairly young, just starting off, so this is a significant amount of money for us!

Why is this taking so long and costing so much? When we first got into it we were told by our priest that it takes about a year...we were not told that it would cost us this much.

Needless to say we've lost a lot of faith in the Catholic church and this system, and believe that they're giving us the run around.

So this year we bit the bullet and got married in a different church anyways....however....I still have my Catholic values and want to be married in the church. We've come to a standstill now about if to proceed with this or forget it...

Any advice or opinions are welcome......If anyone's been through something similar I'd appreciate hearing from you, if you know anything about the Catholic Annulments in Canada or know anyone who can help speed this up please let me know asap before I go crazy!

Thanks so much.

God Bless

Does anyone have a Trinidad Callaloo recipe they can share? I have the Naps Girls' cookbook but would like a simpler one. I do make this, I just need a recipe for a friend with exact measurements. I am also not in the Caribbean at the moment so need substitutes like spinach for callaloo leaves etc..etc...

I'm getting married there in August and just found out the one I was getting doesn't come to the house - and he's an hour away from the house otherwise so I can't use him. I just don't want overly curled and hairsprayed on top my head hair - but rather simple, understated possibly half up half down maybe even without a tiara.

Does anyone know a good hairdresser for this?

I found these cute antique girly mirrors for the flower girls

I'm making handmade jewellery for the bridesmaids

I don't know what to get for the groomsmen or the ringbearers or ushers....completely lost.

I grew up in a family of girls...what do you get for guys?!

I am getting married in August...and arranging the wedding as we speak, yet my fiance and I are constantly argueing...I don't even trust his opinion on invitations anymore because I feel as if he is taking it as a joke and lying about it just to shut me up...

Why is this happening? Aren't we supposed to be happy right now? What can I do about it and any suggestions on how to stop it or to at least tone it down? We argue EVERY DAY now....it makes me wonder if I'm getting married to the right person?

I'm not sure of the spelling - I saw a gorgeous discontinued dress I'm trying to get my hands on...I need 3 of them various sizes - the people at the store told me it was belle soiree - at least that's how they pronounced it over the phone...anyone ?

I have no clue about songs and singers - but have to come up with one for August....help please!!!!

I have a 3 year old's birthday to attend in a few days and am at a loss - I am from a family of all girls.

What is a good gift for him? His Mom works at Pottery Barn Kids, so he has some pretty quality toys etc. I know he likes dogs, large vehicles and fire trucks. PBK right now is on a fire engine kick, so no fire engine stuff because I assume his Mom has gotten that....what would your 3 year old son like?