Meggie

It has been 7Months since i left my husband ,reason being Cheating,Religion and Violence .

I loved him so much en i went through much pain waiting for him to change to even loosing a baby due to stress en High Blood Pressure so i had to leave as i came to know my health en life is important..

I still have pains in me about my life ,, i don't think i can trust any man or Love again.

Anyone out there who have gone through the same and she/he has moved on,,,How long do i have to feel this way..can everything be normal again..

Please Advice...

Thanks.

My cousin is my best friend ,we are same age .am single broke up with my boyfriend 4month ago.She is married en with 2 kids .

Last week my cousin used her husband cell phone to call me to inform me that her less than a month baby is not well ,so that evening his husband called and said he need to meet me,i thought its something urgent so i went, but when i saw him he looked fine ,he asked we go for dinner and talk but i told him i am ok we can talk in his car.

What shocked me is that he started telling me how he cared and he always attracted to me,he even started touching me en being disrespectful,saying he miss a woman {yeah his wife had a c-section en he will take 3month to have sex}

He locked the door en started like to kiss me en all that but i forced myself out,now the issue is my cousin is like a sister to me en we share alot,i am not able to call her or go to her place as i feel guilty so much .

So my question is should i tell her, i hate to hurt her and the bad thing is she trust him so much yeah coz he saved en going to church like everyday with prayers.

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I left my husband house about 2 months ago,due to religion differences as he was forcing me to change to be a Muslim as he is listening so much to my In-laws ,am a christian,.

So sometimes i am feeling lonely and think may be we can work it out en respect each other religion,but what about when we have the Kids ,am really stressed up and not sure what to do.Even though he has not called nor looking for me only a simple mail b4 Valentines which he never showed up not even wishing me happy birthday.

So can we realy work it out and are there family out there happy even if they have defferent religion en if not ,what should i do to Move on.

Please help.

I left my husbad of 2yrs house one month ago after realising that it might never work for us in the furture coz of our religion defferencies and other small family issues ,

he is a Muslim and iam a Christian,and my inlaws had convinced him to tell me to change to be Muslim ,thats main reason i left.

Love is ok but religion only.

Sometime i think we should really sit and talk and try to work it out and respect others religion,but what about the future en when we have kids.

No kid yet,he is 30 i am 26

So can it really work for lifetime people with deffernt religion stay lifetime together ,who had experienced this.

Seriouse advice am stressed up

I packed my things yesterday while he was away and left the house ,coz i knew he would not allow me to leave if he was around i took everything as most of the furniture were mine,en left some of his stuff.

He is coming back today ,and i have not told him i have left or anything,so should i send him a text to alert him or should i let him go i find an empty house .

I pity him but i have to move one,it have been 3year of tears ,loosing a baby at 32weeks coz of him stressing me,hitting me and also cheating.

What should i do,and what should i expect him to do,..

I am Tence

I want to leave this life and this stressing relationship,i have tryed several times but i end up going back .so this is a list of reasons why i want to leave.

1.He has no time for me,he better be with his friends than me

-He has cheated on me before,2 times and i think he is cheating now,he came home with shirt smelling funny perfume.

-I lost my baby coz of him,at 32 weeks,he stressed me up yeah he dint want the baby.

-I dont have feelings for him anymore coz of anger en hate i feel for him,so no sex fo like once a week,forcing myself.

-He gave me STD en i fear to have HIV.

-We are defferent ,am christian,he is muslim,deffrent community

-His Famly dont like me as i refused to change mt religion to be a Muslim i can never be Muslim en he cant be christian so what about the future .

He has not eaten in the house for like a week now,coming late s 2pm ..

-He hit me ,once en threatened to do it again so i fear to have an abused life.

-I was called by a lady saying he has his 3year old sonshe threatened to drop the kid at my house ,i think he taking care of him secretely.

-No communication,no pasiion,nothing he is doing his own things as in no future plans,.

- My Dad warned me about him.

- He has been sayed we are going to be married so iam just here 3yrs en not married.

-I want a baby he doesent want.

- i want to heal from high blood pressure he made me have from stress away from him i know i will be ok

Dont you think its time to say its enough,i have tryed to be nice en try to save our marriage for 3yrs ,i think its time,i dont want to waste another year,there must be a good man out there for me or i can stay single.

Am 25yrs ,he is 32

What do you think,i need help i am confused.

So what do u want to do this year,that has to happen b4 the year ends.

or what u dint do last yr u want to do this year.

One in my list,i want to be a mum,Then have new home for the big family.

So whats on the list,there must be something,or any changes

I want to be happy just for me and try to be positive always .,

Also last yr we were always arguing en fighting with my husband en i ended up having high blood pressure ,i want to try to be cool en take things easy.

Have a baby God willing as i lost one last yr at 32 weeks due to BP.

So whats yours

This is not happening,i have just received a call from a lady saying she has my husbands baby ,who is 3yrs old.

She is claiming she is just informing me that some Children welfare thing{i ding get the name well}} are coming to drop the baby at my house.

This is crazy,he never told me he had a child ,en how can they just say they are coming to drop the baibe in my house ,no no no.

Am in the office en about top go home.,how did she get my Number ??.

Please Help,?/

Should i call en tell him,or wait ,or what.

Am even shaking

My husband always reacts funny when my girlfriends are in the house,he has cheated before en when we he sees a nice gal by the road he turns his head,this make me feel bad.

So this is his funny character{ BAD MANNERS},,-- he can go change in a small short with no top,yeah i know he has nice chest en body but why show it off en only when there is a woman in the house ,, or lift his shirts up.sitting funny.

Sometimes some of my friend feels uneasy en leave ,or go in the balcony ,even though they dont tell me but i can tell

But when his friend come en if iam not dressed decentely i do go change decently t-shirt en nice pants .

So now he has a friend who is visiting this weekend, i want him to feel what i ussally feel when he walk around half naked,.

I can just wear Hot pant en a small top en sit at the coach en i wont move ,

He makes me feel made en he does that intensionary ,should i do it or not en just be nice or help me with a good plan for him to know what i ussually feel.

Help me out ,,En why does he reacts this way,??

Me i will,take a shower en watch some movie,wont be in Yahoo all that long,En i wonder if my husband will come with good moods today,.

Yakkk

My husband has changed lately en its like he does not recognize me anymore as anybody in the house.

He brings people in the house without informing be ,sometimes i have to go back to the kitchen to cook more food just to show ppl we are happy especially my in laws who thinks that's there house.

The other day i wanted to Wash my carpet en i didn't see the washing machine when i asked he said i gave it out,at least he should tell me ,i feel bad.

So today ,he just send me text massage this what he wrote""""" Dam will be coming and he is staying in the house till we finish our Business"""

Surely Am not complaining but he cannot just decide,why cant he respect me en sit en talk ,i feel bad coz now i hate his friends en everyone he brings home when maybe i need time with him,

So how will i treat this friend of his whom i dint like ,coz he brings different gals in the house while he come ,he might stay a week a month i dont know what should i do?????

I am not sure whats wrong with me for the last 1 month or so,iam no longer interested in sex at all,my husband wants me like everyday .

i always push him aways en see like a bother,He feels bad about it en later i apologies but when i try to explain he cant understand.

All the time i want to sleep en dont want to be touched or bothered as i feel nothing when he touches me en i dont miss sex even if is like after 2 weeks iam just ok.

A friend of mine told me maybe its because iam using Depo injections for pregnancy prevention which av used for the last 6months now,so can this be the reason or iam i loosing feelings for my husband.

So can Injections make one have low lipido ,men en woman out there ,please help.

En iam not cheating.

To what i know HIV and AIDS can be transmitted though Sexual intercourse,but my brother is trying to convince me otherwise ,while i try to tell him to keep off from sex with any gal en have one gal that he can trust,en Love this what he explains.

He says if a man,has sexual intercourse with a woman ,immediately after his orgasm ,he should go to the bathroom and wash himself an in his penis en the opening part en urinate immediately and wash again,and with that he cannot get any STD or HIV.

His friends has lied to him surely ,so please plzz all out there have u ever heard of this en can it be true.

I fear he will get infected if he keep all that in his mind, am so sad for him not sure what to say,

He is 23 ,am 25 en as i big Sister en married i was trying to advice.

So does this make any Sense?

Hi all.

We argued with my husband for employing a woman to manage our business and he is not bussy that he cant manage,the woman;s husband is working there and its like they want to misuse the money as they always make excuse when they loose the money en when i try to explain all he can tell me is iam jealous of the woman,.

ok for real he has cheated b4 i feel bad for him to waste money to pay somebody while he is doing nothing..

He aslo said i want to control his money en i want his money, i told him i dont need his money coz i am working ,en he started counting al the money i have been using en some collage he payed for me.

The pain was when he counted the money he payed for my fathers bills,its true but why is he counting that money he gave to my sick Dad ,i felt bad and i said i will pay him back,en he said fine get it for me,.

So was i wrong to try en help to save money ,en should i pay back the money he helped to pay my Dad hospital bills,it was his will en its pains, i love my Dad so much ,en its like he wasted the money to pay the bill,i feel bad.

I never want him to mention a cent he has helped me so i want to pay him back,so should i?

Hi all.

We argued with my husband for giving a woman to manage our business and he is not bussy that he cant manage,the woman;s husband is working there and its like they want to misuse the money en when i try to explain all he can tell me is iam jealous of the woman,.

ok for real he has cheated b4 i feel bad for him to waste money to pay somebody while he is doing nothing..

He aslo said i want to control his money en i want his money, i told him i dont need his money coz i am working ,en he started counting al the money i have been using en some collage he payed for me.

The pain was when he counted the money he payed for my fathers bills,its true but why is he counting that money he gave to my sick Dad ,i felt bad and i said i will pay him back,en he said fine get it for me,.

So was i wrong to try en help to save money ,en should i pay back the money he helped to pay my Dad hospital bills,it was his will en its pains, i love my Dad so much ,en its like he wasted the money to pay the bill,i feel bad.

I never want him to mention a cent he has helped me so i want to pay him back,so should i?

We always argue with my husband becouse i tell him he is not like other men,he used to be better while we were couting but he changed when he married me,.

I always tell him my ex B.f was nice en romantic but he always say i compare him,so what should i do,.

I see other couple happy en nice but him he is just there.

THINGS HE DOES

He never remember my Birthday.

Never kiss me good night

Never kiss me in the morning at least saying goomorning,he just jumps out of bed,

When we meet after work in the evening he just say HI?

Never hugs me maybe by saying goodbye not at the streets not even at home.

No sms during the day to know how one is doing,not even a call even if he is away for work 4a a week,.

Never has time for me ,like we seat en talk,No going out for dinner and when i ask he says everything is in the house so why waste money,

Not even a picnic or Movie.

No suprises flowers or presents.

Pulling a chair u know

He want to walk together en he can say lets meet there.

Never hold hands

Not even recalling when we meet,i always remind him everything,last Velentine i was in tears as i see gals at work with presents en flowers en he did nothing .

There is so so much if i start listing ,but i try to buy him things en he just say thanks ,i am tired of doing this alone ..and when i talk he say I like to COMPLAIN.

Conclusion is he is not romantic,he wants me only when on Bed ,en sex thats it,i need to feel more like a woman a lady ,feel loved .

My Ex used to do all en he never forgets anything , he was Very nice i mean very romantic only he went away for studie en we could not have kept distance now he is happly married .

Is this normal or hi is sick en am i asking alot

Do i really complain or men SHOULD be doing all he doesent do??

We always argue coz he always tell me i compare him with my ex we dint which i think he is the one who makes me to.

Things he does

- Never recalls my birthdays

-never says good night ,just jump in bet en that it

-Morning just wakes up en never say good morning or anything

-When he comes home he just say HI ,Ex used to hung me ,ask how day was as in Romantic.

- When leaving he dopes not hug me

-No sms during the day or no callat all even when he away for work

I feel bad coz my ex was so nice en romantic ,he think he gets me in the house and that it.

How can he change?

Hi all,

My husband friend came in the morning to check on my husband and i has just taken a shower en was dressing up ,i felt thirsty en went to the fridge to pick some juice

I heard a knock on the door.

I had not finished dressing up and i said wait a minute,but he opened the door wide open,i had no bra but with pants ,i thought i had closed the door en it was too early to expect visitors at that time was 07.00hrs ,en i was all alone in the house so i dint mind. he was just there staring at me.

I was soo embarrassed and i just told him my husband is out already,when he was leaving he just said ,ur Beautiful i like..... ohh ...do av a good day ,,,he did not finish what he was saying ,..

I felt so bad en i was like Damm ,why he couldint wait at the door ,its making me feel bad,i want to tell my husband then i feel its not ok.

So should i tell my husband????

Hallo everyone ,,,I lost my baby 5months ago,a boy which was 32 weeks due to high blood pressure,it was the most painfull thing in my life en i had so much expectation and all the things i had bought for the baby,which kept me crying for a whole month.

And even now when i see cute babie around i always feel pain and ask myself why me en i could be holding my baby.

Now the problem is i am not in to sex anymore,at night i just want to sleep .. we are always fighting about this with my husband who thinks i dont love him anymore ,and he is always asking me what i expect him to do,sometimes i try but its so much like pretending.

Before all this happenned i was so good in bed and i was the one who was always waking him up for more,now i dont know what happenned.

The other thing,, my husband want me to have a baby now as in as soon as possible,but for me i want to take some time, it was very painfull en i feel i am not ready which he does not understand.

Any suggestion how long i should take to have another baby , ???? ..What happenned to me that now sex is not important anymore,,i can take 2 weeks en i am not missing anything,.

What could be wrong??

Thank you all for the time.