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My son is 15, and at night he says he sees a shadow man, usually in the corner of his room. He says sometimes he wakes up to see it moving towards his bed. He says he hears someone calling his name sometimes, as well as foot steps. I thought these occurrences were only here at our house, but he says he saw the shadow man again when he spent the night at a friends house over the weekend. His friend did not see the shadow man.My son says it scares him, he doesn't sleep much at night. He says he feels its presence is evil, though it never harms him or speaks. I was told this house was haunted by my great Aunt that passed away here, but could she follow my oldest son? No one else here really sees or hears anything except my husband, who believes he has seen my dead aunt. He says it is clearly a woman that resembles her. That leads me to believe the shadow person is something entirely different. What should I do?

We have had our cat, Fireball, since she was only 6 weeks old. She was a stray. We paid one of those " low cost" clinics to spay her when she was around 6 months old. She is a year and a half now, and she just had 2 kittens behind my desk. Fireball has always been a VERY affectionate cat, but she will not leave me or my husband alone since she had them today. She wants to lay in our laps, paces back and forth meowing at us, and dragged one of the babies in the middle of the living room where we were watching TV, then took it back to her "nest". She only seems content when one of us sit in the room with her and the babies. She seems so confused, my heart breaks for her. BTW I called the "low cost" clinic & it is no longer in business. I feel like they just put some stitches in her belly & did not spay her. I am so worried about her with the babies. What can I do?

We have suspected drug use by our daughter for a while. She is 19 and just had a baby (8 weeks old). When she dropped the baby off on the way to work, I found a pill wrapped in plastic in the bathroom floor after she left. I looked it up and it is a suboxene. It had been scored in 4 pieces, one piece was gone. She only works part time at a pizza place for minimum wage, so I know she doesn't have the money to see a doctor on a regular basis and buy a prescription. She comes over to our home and I often think she looks and acts like she is high. Why would she be taking suboxene? I thought this drug was suppose to help you get off drugs? Can you get high from it? I also saw a text she had sent asking another friend if she wanted to do some box. I assume that's short for suboxene? I don't really know what to do about this and I am worried about leaving her alone with her baby.I know I sound naive, I just don't know anything about this drug other than it is commonly prescribed to drug addicts to help them get off drugs.

Our neighbors moved and left 2 lionhead bunnies in their barn. One is a young female, I would say around 4 months old. The other is a male who is younger, I am guessing about 2 1/2 to 3 months old. The female is friendly and healthy looking, very active. The little male is skittish and shy, he isn't as active and stays hidden in his box. We decided to keep them. Today when playing with them I noticed the little grey male has a red puffy eye that has some white crusty stuff around it. He is eating a drinking well on his own. I don't have the money for a vet right now, taking on these bunnies was unexpected. Is there an antibiotic I can buy at my local farm supply store, some eye drops or something? If you have some remark about not keeping them if we can't afford a vet, just save it. A lot of people where we live will lie to get free rabbits for snake food if I wanted to give them away, and we don't have a shelter that takes anything besides cats and dogs. My kids love them, and I would like to keep them anyway. Any helpful answers about actual medicines or things I can do to doctor this bunny at home would be appreciated.

My best friend and I have been best friends 23 years. We will both be 33 soon. She only has one sister, but she is 10 years older than us. The age gap, combined with the fact that she had a child and got married young (at 16), caused them to never be very close at all. I only had one brother, who passed away when he was 22. Even when we were kids, with him being a boy and me being a girl, there was not that same closeness there that you would share with a sister.So all she and I ever really had was each other.

Our bond just became stronger over the years. I lived with her for several years because my mom left us and my dad was a drunk. Her dad was a drunk too, so she never had many friends over because she was ashamed. But, living with one myself, it was normal to me. At least her dad worked, which was more than mine did at the time. So we grew up. She held my hand when I delivered my first child. When she went on to collage and I got married, no matter what, we kept in touch. She loved her "nieces and nephews" as they were born, but chose to never have children of her own. Though she wasn't there for all of the births, she came as soon as she could. After school and work, we moved back to the same home town, within 7 minutes of each other. She was there with me for the birth of my last baby, her on one side, my husband on the other. As life went on, we just grew older and closer, helping each other through good times and bad.

Fast forward to about 5 years ago. Her older sister was divorced, and a drug addict. Her father had sobered up years ago ( as did mine, thank God ). He had been a good dad to them in later years, and we all loved him very much. Even as an alcoholic, he still did the best he could and made sure we had all we needed plus some.Her dad passed away, a devastating blow to us all. With her druggie sister being the oldest, she got an attorney ( paid for by selling her dad's car ) and had complete control over the estate.She lied telling us all that she had paid for the funeral and all he owed was taken care of. Several months later we found out she had blown every dime on drugs. Nothing had been paid for, including their father's funeral. I was fit to be tied. Here was my best friend, this woman who is like my "sister", in tears over what had happened. Just the disrespect shown to their father was enough to send me into a rage. I wanted to choke slam the older sister, the woman who had hurt us all so much.

Now here we are as of 6 months ago. My best friend/sister announced she and her boyfriend of 2 years would be getting married. I was happy for them both. So, she and I began making plans. We picked a date that she discussed with him, and it was set. We began looking at locations, dresses, all of it. At this point in time, the older sister had been clean and off drugs for almost a year. I still hold a grudge over the things she did, there was much more than just the funeral, too much to write here. But, my best friend/sister had asked me to try to at least be tolerant of her, and to try to forgive. So, I was tolerant out of respect and love for her, and no other reason.

Now my best friend/sister has always tried to have some kind of a relationship with her older sister. But the older sister was always very jealous of her, and somewhat spiteful. It was nothing that my best friend/sister did, that was just the way it was for as long as I can remember. All of the sudden, when she learned about the wedding, she decides she wants to play the role of sister now. She pretty much swooped in and pushed me out of the picture. It was easier for the two of them to go places and plan things since neither of them have children ( the older sister's child is grown) or jobs.I have both.So, I graciously stepped back, understanding that my best friend/sister had always wanted her older sister's love and approval.

Now the wedding is over. It seems since that time the two of them spend a lot of time together. So much time, that I never see her or talk to her much anymore. I almost feel replaced. I feel lost and alone, this woman was always such a big part of my life. When the kids had a big awards ceremony at their church the other day, I went with my husband, and her & her now husband would normally have went as well. However, she was with her older sister picking out paint for the older sister's bedroom, and her new husband, not wanting to tag along, was fishing.

If it sounds like I am jealous, I am. I never had to compete with anyone for a position in her life, least of all her actual sister. I feel like I have lost my only sibling all over again, and I am heart broken. I don't want to make her feel like she has to choose, because she doesn't. But I am afraid that would be the result if I told her all of this. I don't mind her sharing her time with her sister, it is something she always wanted. I just wish it wasn't all of her time. I mis

I have already been blessed with 5 beautiful children. My last pregnancy and delivery was very hard. I gave birth to very large babies, the biggest weighing in at 11 pounds.I am not diabetic and did not have gestational diabetes. I just had these huge babies.Needless to say, the pregnancies were hard on my body, and I almost died giving birth to the largest baby. The doctor did not expect him to be so big, and I began to hemorrhage as he was delivering him. It was very scary.

My husband is not the biological father of 4 of my children, but he loves them as his own. He has 3 children from his previous marriage already as well. After 5 years together, his children from his previous marriage were beginning to grow up (turning 18), and my children were all in school. We decided to have a 5th child, since we had no children together. Obviously we both love kids and being parents. Halfway through the pregnancy with my 5th child, I knew that carrying these large babies was wearing my body down. It seemed like I was in constant pain. As the baby grew ever larger, his slightest movements became painful, feeling like someone was carving me from the inside out with a dull butter knife. He was just growing too big for my body, and my doctor finally had mercy on me at 38 weeks. He induced my labor, and I delivered a 10 pound baby that would have been an 11 or even a 12 pounder if I had carried to the full 40-42 weeks.

I had been failed by birth control ( the pill and Mirena ) with 2 of my children. My doctor and I had already discussed it and he agreed that the deliveries of these robust babies was taking a toll. I was sure I wanted a tubal ligation, no question about it. My husband agreed, looking at the financial stand point of raising children as well as my health. I had the tubal, along with some work on my bladder that had dropped. My abdominal wall muscles have collapsed, leaving me with a belly that will never be normal or even close to it without surgery. With this many children, I couldn't afford the down time from work, and it wasn't a surgery that I needed to have right away, so I decided to wait until the baby was a little bigger to have that done.

My husband & I had sex a few weeks ago, & I remember seeing a tinge of pink blood afterward when I had to go pee. I had been having light cramps too, but I just thought my period was starting early. Sometimes it can be off a few days or even a week or so. Thing is, it never came. I now wonder if that wasn't all from implantation. Now here I am, very late for my period, showing the signs I always feel early in pregnancy. The marked tiredness, the heartburn, frequent urination, sore breast, and mood swings. After 5 pregnancies, you just know, and you are familiar with the signs. I feel pregnant. I took a test, but where the positive line should have been, there was only a dot. I think it was just an invalid test, and have decided to give it another few days and try again.

My husband is against abortion. I feel it is a woman's right and should be her choice. However, it is a decision I never felt that I could make for myself. But, we have talked openly about it as a possibility. He now draws disability because of several serious health issues he has. I work full time, and he cares for the kids. We agree that there is no way we could afford another child. We also agree that there would be a lot of serious risks to me given my past history with pregnancies just to carry a baby. That might sound selfish, but there are 5 other children here that have to be considered. Having them grow up without their mother isn't something I would want to put them through. It is something he has always been against, but standing in these shoes now he doesn't know what to do. I don't either. Part of me knows it would be a huge burden on my family, we are already struggling just to make ends meet now that my husband can't work. I also see the risks and complications to myself as well. I honestly don't know if my husband could physically handle taking on a baby. But I do know he would try his best. Just keeping our grand daughter ( his daughter's child ) overnight exhausts him, and I work all the time. I restore antique furniture, and deal in antiques in general. The fumes and chemicals are dangerous if you are pregnant. I would have to close my business. How would we live then?

Still, I struggle with the thoughts of aborting a baby. I feel like maybe it was meant to be. Maybe this baby will have some special purpose in life, some reason that is so great God sent it against all odds. Who am I to intervene? My husband shares the same reasons. I have always felt that if God leads you to it, he will bring you through it.

What would you do, if faced with this choice? Would you try to carry the baby, or abort it?

I am a picker, just like the show on TV. I often travel to rural areas, and there may not be a strong wifi signal close by, or any signal at all. I need some type of mobile device that will allow me to access the internet quickly for research purposes. For instance, I may find some sort of an antique item that is missing a piece, and I need to know how much a replacement part would cost, or if it is available. It makes a difference in the value of the item, and the price I am willing to pay. What type of black berry, tablet, phone, pad, etc would be best for my job?

What is this creature? It has 1988 Hasbro stamped on it's foot. No other marks anywhere. It looks kinda Star Wars to me, but I cannot find it on the web anywhere. Does anyone know what this thing is called, and what movie/series it was seen in? Thanks for any help! Here is a link of a pic I took of it below.....

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My husband and I have a son who is about to turn 4. I have other children from a previous marriage, and he does as well. My children all live with me. He is a very patient man, and he loves kids. He has always been a good father to all of my children. It is one of the biggest reasons that I fell in love with him. We both love children, and we wanted another child together.When my youngest child was born, he became very attached to him. Of course I saw nothing wrong with that, he loves his son, and I was happy that they were developing a good bond. Once the baby began walking and talking some, my husband became very clingy to him. He insisted that the baby always sleep with us. Again, I just thought he was just being a father who loved his son, so I didn't think much of it.Not long after that, my husbands health issues forced him to quit work and began drawing his disability. I then went to work, and we went through a huge role reversal in that aspect. It was very hard for him, he was always "the man" and the provider. It was also hard for me, I still miss being home with my family everyday & being a stay at home mom. After that happened, everything changed. He started sleeping in the guest room with our son, and I didn't think much of it at first because I often work until the AM hours. That way, I didn't disturb their sleep when I came to bed. He now refuses to try to make our son sleep in his own bed so that we can share a bed again. Everything he does revolves around our youngest child. What he watches on TV, what he wears, even what time he goes to bed are all decided by our son. He literally brings him his pajama pants and says, get you pjs on daddy, it is time for bed now. I wanted to put him in preschool several months ago, and my husband totally flipped out. He follows him around like a puppy, and will lay on the floor playing cars with him or watching toddler TV for most of the day now. He & I have no relationship anymore because of this. We live like roommates. I have tried talking to him, and it does no good. I have tried to get him to see a therapist, but he always has an excuse not to go. I am not allowed to discipline our son, it turns into a huge fight. Anything that our son needs, he pushes me aside to do it for him. I cannot even help him get a drink, use the potty, get dressed...nothing. Our son cries for his daddy and he rushes in to do it. He even allows him to still carry his sippy cup to bed at almost 4 years old now. To be fair about this all, my husband lost a son. He was a baby still, just a few months old. It mentally messed him up, and he still struggles with it, almost 15 years later. He does have another son with his X wife, but that son is autistic and has other problems as well. He cannot even have a conversation with him. Perhaps his obsession with our son stems from these things, some kind of fear that if he does not constantly keep him close by his side he will loose him. Perhaps he just feels like this is his last shot to have a son so he clings to him. Neither of us want anymore children.I have had my tubes tied and he plans to have a vasectomy as soon as his insurance kicks in.I understand that he might have these feelings, and a fear of loosing him. But, I don't feel like it is fair to our other children. He shows the youngest one way more attention. Maybe it sounds selfish of me, but I miss my husband. I miss doing things together without our son. Simple things like watching a movie together when the kids are in bed or just talking about our day and spending time alone.I really wish he would put our son in his own bed at least. I miss sleeping with him at night. All of my other children were in their own bed by this age. I think it is important for every couple to have time together. I love my children, and I love spending time with them. But, there needs to be a balance, and there needs to be some time there for mommy & daddy to share. What can I do? Is this normal for a parent to be so wrapped up in their child?

My step daughter just gave birth to a baby girl that came early, and was born drug addicted. The poor baby is still in the hospital, and will be there a while. The state has taken the baby & her 2 year old daughter away from her and has given temporary custody to another family member. She is only allowed supervised visits with her children now. I had already made it clear she is no longer welcome in our home well before this incident. She came here & managed to steal some medication, then took it and fell off our porch while pregnant and holding her other daughter. We had to call 911 and have an ambulance take her to the hospital. It was terrible, and my other children were scared to death. My youngest who is 3 was terrified, he thought she was dead. We were enjoying spending the day with our 2 year old grand daughter when she showed up today. I made her leave. This girl is only 20 now, and she has never had any respect for my family. She has always been a problem, but I have tried to no end to be nice to her. Every time she came over she would always steal things, then always deny it. She was always causing problems, doing things like giving cigarettes to my oldest daughter, who was only 13 at the time. It has gotten worse as she has gotten older. She is my husbands daughter, his oldest child. He always takes up for her, refusing to open his eyes. He feels like he owes her because he was not the best dad when she was younger. He was still a teenager when she was born, and he was not very committed to being a father. He is now 37, and he blames himself for her behavior. He has been a great dad to our kids, but he was a grown man when they came along. I am so sick of all this drama surrounding her, I just want him to tell her to stay away & enforce it. I am tired of being the bad guy. My question is, should I stick to my decision to not allow her back into our home? My husband agrees, but he never sticks to it. I am really just looking for some encouragement I guess. Am I doing the right thing here?

My husband has been having so much pain in his abdominal area he can hardly live. We have been back and forth to doctors. They recently removed his gallbladder because of it. They said only 19% of the gallbladder was working, & it was the cause of the pain. They did testing and scans and all of that on his gallbladder before removing it. That was about a month ago, but it has not helped him any. He has pain there & in his back, he gets sick when he eats, is bloated, has extreme nausea & weight loss. He looks like a corpse. I have read & researched some on Pancreatic Cancer, & it seems he has all the symptoms. My question is, wouldn't the doctors have caught that with all the lab work & other testing they did? I am going to take him to the ER in about an hour or so, he is in so much pain he cannot bear it anymore. I am just waiting on him to get a shower & get dressed. Has anyone else dealt with this? I don't want to bring it up & scare him if it is something they would have caught when removing the gallbladder. Thanks for any help!

My sister-in-law is going through a divorce and is staying with us. She really doesn't have anywhere else to go at the moment. I get along very well with her, and I really do not mind her being here at all. However, she has a small dog that she is very attached to. I did not want the dog here in the first place, but my sister-in-law insisted that the dog was house broken and very well behaved. Turns out the dog isn't either of those. We have small children, and the dog is always pestering them or taking their toys to chew up. The dog is a male, and has peed on everything in the house. Every time I look there it is, leg hiked up, peeing again. We have a house dog who is an older dog, a border collie mix, who is fully house broken and very obedient. My sister-in law's dog is constantly pestering her as well. They have gotten into several fights because he constantly tries to hump her, and because she is so protective of the smaller kids. She thinks he is hurting them when they start screaming because he took another toy from them. I could go on and on about the problems with this dog, but you get the picture. Our yard is not fenced in, and we live out in the county. If I told her to make her dog stay outside, a larger animal such as a coyote or another larger dog would likely kill it or it would just run off.She probably would not go for that idea anyway. I know if I confront her about the dog it will cause problems between her & I, and also between me and my husband. It is after all his sister, and he doesn't seem to think it is such a big deal with this dog. I just really don't know what to do & I am hoping to get some advice. Thanks!

My sister-in-law is going through a divorce and is staying with us. She really doesn't have anywhere else to go at the moment. I get along very well with her, and I really do not mind her being here at all. However, she has a small dog that she is very attached to. I did not want the dog here in the first place, but my sister-in-law insisted that the dog was house broken and very well behaved. Turns out the dog isn't either of those. We have small children, and the dog is always pestering them or taking their toys to chew up. The dog is a male, and has peed on everything in the house. Every time I look there it is, leg hiked up, peeing again. We have a house dog who is an older dog, a border collie mix, who is fully house broken and very obedient. My sister-in law's dog is constantly pestering her as well. They have gotten into several fights because he constantly tries to hump her, and because she is so protective of the smaller kids. She thinks he is hurting them when they start screaming because he took another toy from them. I could go on and on about the problems with this dog, but you get the picture. Our yard is not fenced in, and we live out in the county. If I told her to make her dog stay outside, a larger animal such as a coyote or another larger dog would likely kill it or it would just run off.She probably would not go for that idea anyway. I know if I confront her about the dog it will cause problems between her & I, and also between me and my husband. It is after all his sister, and he doesn't seem to think it is such a big deal with this dog. I just really don't know what to do & I am hoping to get some advice. Thanks!

This is my 5th child, so I am not new to this. My children range in age from 16 to 3. By this point, I don't get excited or worry about behaviors in my children because I have seen it all. That said, I am worried about a behavior my youngest child ( who is 3 ) has that seems to be getting worse. He clasps his hands together tightly in front of him and walks, runs, and jumps in small circles. He does it if he watches T.V., when we are playing outside, when we go out places. He does it quite a lot. At first I thought maybe it was an early sign of ADHD, as my next oldest child does have that. Now I am not so sure. He is on target or a little ahead with all of his developmental mile stones. His speech, color recognition, interaction with other children, appetite, memory...all of those areas are average to above average. I am wondering if it could be the early stages of Autism. My husband has a son from his previous marriage that is autistic. What age does a child begin to show signs of this? Has anyone else dealt with this type of behavior with their child? Could it be ADHD? Maybe this is just a quirk he has to burn up excess energy. Thank-you for any information or suggestions with this.

I will not be able to contact any kind of wildlife agency until Monday to come rescue these little guys. We have found two little ones so far with no mom opossum in sight. They have been hanging around our porch alone for two days now. I don't know exactly how old they are, but I would think that are still a little too small to leave the mom opossum. If I compared them with a dog, I would say they were at about the 4-5 week old puppy stage. They are old enough to eat solid food, but still a little bit too small to be alone on their own, and likely still nursing sometimes. How can I keep them comfortable & safe until I can get in touch with someone to take them to at a wildlife rehab or have them picked up by a wildlife rescue? I cannot leave them outside or they will be killed by the dogs in our area. Thanks for any info!

I have salvaged some old barnwood from the mid 1800s. It has a beautiful silver patina that I do not want to strip away. However, the wood is very dirty. How should I go about cleaning it? I do not plan to sand or stain it, just use a simple water based poly to seal it. Maybe not even that. I want to leave it as natural as possible, minus the grime & dirt. Also, power washing is not an option, as it would destroy the wood. Thanks!

My boyfriend & I have been together 7 years. We live together. He is an alcoholic, was in & out of jail, pretty rough to make it short. I have stuck by his side, stupidly perhaps, but I have done it. We do have one child together who is 3, & I have 4 from my previous marriage. Things have not always been bad between us. He is a good father. He doesn't drink very often now days, he has calmed down a lot. That is great. But, we just seem to exist like room mates now. We do not sleep in the same room, there is no sex, no affection. I have tried talking to him, never helps. He has been to a doctor, but he will not keep the appointments or take the meds. It has been like this for months. It feels like he hates me, but he swears he still loves me. He just doesn't know why he acts this way. I feel totally alone. It has been this way for about 4 or 5 months now. I am about to loose my mind. It makes me feel unwanted, like there is something wrong with me. I have thought about just calling it quits for a while now. But, he watches the kids while I work ( he is disabled because of serious back issues ) & I am dependant on him for that. I cannot afford daycare for so many children, and the kids love him so much. I have no one else to help me. It has just become unbearable to live this way with him. Today he found out he will have to have several surgeries on his back, he may end up in a wheel chair even with the surgeries. How can I commit to taking care of him when he treats me so badly? I feel like a total jerk, but I don't want to take care of someone who treats me like crap everyday of my life. What should I do?

I test drove a 2004 Nissan Quest today. I talked the dealership down to $5,000 cash, so the price is right for sure. I was very happy with the test drive. Everything worked well & the van rode very smooth.However, I was concerned that the LED odometer was not readable. Only fragments of the numbers showed, giving me no clue as to the mileage on the van.When I asked the salesman, he was unsure as well. Should this be a red flag for me? Should I still buy the van?

I cannot seem to find a name for my antique shop. I sell everything from furniture to knick knacks. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!