Herself

I guess people who believe in the bible wouldn't say "because he was dumb". There must be something that explains this.

Right?

(Watched Darkmatter2525's Samson and Delilah video, now curious)...

I'd like to make vegan cupcakes with frosting as shown here:

http://www.chow.com/recipes/10856-vegan-fluffy-but...

But it has margarine in it. I know it's a non-hydrogenated one, but still, I don't really like the idea of using it. Is there anything else I could use instead of the margarine, that would be more healthy?

It has a Mobile Intel(R) 965 Express Chipset Family and they say you need 4MB video card minimum. I don't understand enough about it... can my old laptop run it?

I know the default answer should be "Never lose hope". But unfortunately, I start to really think I'm not getting out of it. I don't have the energy to do things right so I'll have more energy. I don't have the courage to take care of the things... that take away my courage. It's this way for a pretty long time (3 years since I started therapy) and I didn't make a significant way out of it. My therapist is sure I'll be out of it, but I'm not, at all. I see no change.

And now I pretty much think I'm completely wasting my time and torturing myself when I hope I'll ever be out of it.

I'm not even upset\ depressed about it, I'm pretty calm.

I know people say that everyone thinks they are the special ones who'd never get out of it and then they do, but really, nothing happens- there's no progression. I can't progress myself out of it.

I could care less about my life now, if all what it's going to be is me trying to get out of it and hope everything will be fine... and suffer because it's not happening.

Sure, I could feel hope once again and try to do like always... but is there really a point? Even if in a long time this will be over, (And I doubt it) Is it worth the pain that comes along with the hope? I start to think it's not worth it.

Hope + no results = pain.

I'm sick of pain. Really don't feel like dealing with it anymore.

I'm in therapy and we started talking about the serious stuff. Stuff that I barely ever shared with anyone. Stuff that I'm scared to share with anyone, even though that it's bothering me constantly.

It's just too embarrassing. I can't tell her why I hate myself. I don't want her to be aware to why I hate myself and secretly hate me too. I don't want anyone to be aware to the "reasons" I hate myself. It's too deep and painful. I mean... I can go all "YOLO" on a good day, and spit it out, but I think I'll just really want to abandon the therapy right after from shame. Or just plainly die. It happened with a friend I had; he responded well, but telling him caused me way more pain than relief as I expected. I can't talk to him anymore- I'm scared, and I can't bear that he knows.

But if I won't talk about it, I won't be able to do what I came for... which is getting over this self hate.

She also says we can wait, but I think that as the time passes and I like her better, the more I care of what she thinks and don't want her to know. And I'll gladly avoid talking about it, and talk about anything else, forever.

Just started talking with her about it, and couldn't even bring myself to look at her general direction for the rest of the session.

Any useful tips how to overcome this madness?..

Hi,

I sometimes get very anxious, and I feel like it's very physical- like nothing (even common sense) could change my mood.

I've tried drinking a can of beer, and since I'm not used to drinking alcohol it really helped to calm me down (although it made me a little dizzy)

I suffer a little from depression and I'm aware alcohol is a depressant, but my anxiety was unbearable at the moment and it really helped.

I plan to learn and try other methods of calming down (meditation etc. I'm in therapy) but in "critical" days I'd like to use it. I just don't want to get used to it and then drink too much. Do you have any tips when should I use this (Maybe once a week/ a month? Or could I use it more often?) without needing to drink more than 1 can of beer, and without making myself more depressed...?

I just can’t get a similar question that someone asked here out of my head. The majority of the answers were pro-legalization of suicide. But maybe I misunderstood people so…

Do you support suicide? If you do, then why?

Note that suicidal people (In case of mental health/ crisis in life) are not determined to end their life, and many times they are just in great distress and need help. Mostly they don’t even think logically. Plus, there is a very low chance you will ever know a mental health expert who would encourage suicide.

And I’m not talking here about euthanasia that is done due to terminal and painful diseases.

Just interested to know.

I guess there should be. Because if not Christianity should follow the rest of the stuff written in the old one...

In the series Amy sometimes says things and gets "You're so Scottish" as a response. I'm trying to understand, since I'm not from the UK... what's a Scottish thing to say? I mean, do they just say that when she's pessimist, or am I missing something?

I mean, I'm an Atheist. And nothing will ever change that. In real life I debate with people about religion only if they are *very* rational and intelligent so their belief makes no sense to me. In that case I try to find that logic behind it. Why would I care what they believe in as long as they're happy and it's not affecting my life.

Yet I'm still drawn to here again and again and again. And from some reason I find this place interesting.

So what the **** am I doing here? Why do I care... and how to stop that??

What is your best argument\ thought\ feeling that makes you a believer most?

What do you like about your belief most? What do you dislike most?

Notice these are 3 questions :)

Or would you give it back to him/her?

Let's say your friend wouldn't notice it's missing later, and your friend isn't poor so he/she wouldn't starve because of your greed.

My friend said he would give it back but he believes most wouldn't do it. I don't know how he actually planned to explain religion with this argument but whatever.

Let's find out :)

I'm a Atheist, so I don't mean to the religious meaning of it. Was there a man named Jesus who claimed to be the son of God/ the Messiah and was crucified?

I thought there was. But I also hear other claims about it.

Well, was there?

Atheist- do you happen to feel there's a "god" (or spiritual life beyond or something)?

Theists- do you happen to doubt your religion?

I happen to doubt my atheism every once in a while- but faintly, sometimes. I also happen to be afraid of the dark after watching horror movies. My logic is a little flawed, lol.

Because if the Wesboro Baptist Church tries to help people and make them avoid hell they don't actually do their best.

They could make their chruch like any other good cult- to be very friendly, welcoming and open at first, maybe avoid discussions of hell... and everyone that joins them will *then* be thoroughly convinced how they'll end up in hell if they won't change their ways.

If some people who manage to get out of the cult and get to the media, the WBC could be only interviewed again and they could explain how they simply follow the bible... and how everyone's welcomed to join in :)

This should get much more people (and true followers) and be way more effective. I mean, what they do now is the "easy", impatient way- they're not really trying. So they do only half a job, the lazier one- and they should get in hell for that, by their own logic.

Does anyone have any real idea why they do what they do, by the way? Are they really trying to "help" in their freaky way? Or do they try to follow some kind of prophecy, or share some sort of mental issues?

And Atheists, don't write anything about imaginary friends. Not every believer goes about with provocative signs around and try really hard to get bad attention. I ask about them, and them only.

I want to understand if I'm alone in here, and what everyone else think about it.

You could say I have a problem; I feel a great anger when I see people who encourage violence, who feel free to bully people, who declare other people deserve to die because they have different opinions- or in any case when they don't endanger others.

I was with friends at a party and a bunch of bullies did what they do best. I was the only one who went to complain about them. No one else considered doing that.

People give other people like to a comment saying a specific group deserves to die. (Like anti-Muslim comments on videos about terrorism)

A girl asks in Y!A if she deserved getting beaten. She was stealing and behaving like a brat- yet I was way more annoyed and disgusted by the people who actually said she deserved that- and furthermore, someone said he'd kill her. (this question has been deleted so I can't give a link)

I believe the only justification for violence is for self-defense. That's it.

Am I alone in here? Am I the only one who can't stand violence?

I am just curious. I know different species have different number of chromosomes and therefore can't have fertile offsprings (if at all) together.

I'll make it 2 questions:

1. If the evolution was gradual, the recently evolved species isn't supposed to have mass numbers of it at first. Wouldn't it be hard for a creature to find partners to mate with\ wouldn't mating in relatively small groups cause more defects than benefits?

2. Was there ever a situation where two different species (Or animals with different number of chromosomes- if I by any chance I get the meaning of "species" wrong) did have a fertile offspring together?

I am not currently that depressed, but I know myself all too well and I know I'm on that road. I'll start therapy again soon so I hope it would be fine.

At least in my own experience, depression seems to me like lots of brainwashing- I mean, constant negative and desperate thoughts about the self and about life... until you slowly believe it. I was somewhat depressed today and I felt down from these kind of thoughts, (couldn't confront them) and went to sleep... and I was sure, from previous cases, that sleeping won't be good at all- that at the moment I wake up I'll instantly feel down (like it happened before when I was depressed)

But luckily, it was. I woke up and was thinking about other, non-depressive stuff. And I guess my depressive thoughts rate is not that high like *those* days. I think I'm in a very early stage of depression (thank God for that!)

And now I see depression as self-brainwashing... self brainwashing to become desperate and wish for nothing more in life.

How do you see it?

I used to go t o DBT sessions, but now it's not very available to me, so I consider to go to CBT- which is the 2nd "best" type of treatment for depression. (in my eyes)

However, I also have lines of Borderline... and I have been warned that CBT is more "harsh" and uses less validation.

Now the question is- how harsh and invalidating *is* CBT? I mean... I guess it's better to go for it and find out myself- but does anyone here know?

For instance, is there a chance I'd be accused for "whining" or get a blunt "Just get over it" as a response from a CBT therapist, ever? Or, they are sympathetic? (I start to think it's the latter, however, I'm worried...)

Because I don't.

I mean, yes- there are some cases of "evil" showing in the name of religion. But I don't think the religion is the real source of it.

I think that if we compared a group of atheists and a group of theists, they'd have the same crime statistics.

As an atheist, I know I probably wouldn't hurt others nor behave in ways most people consider "evil". I have religious friends and I have 100% trust in them to be the same way. And I know a government doesn't have to be religious in order to have a reign of terror (e.g Nazism) and to drag many rational and sane people into the "flock effect" driven out of fear.

Hence I see no real connection between religion and evil (or atheism and evil, obviously) and I think there's something else to it.

What do you think?