tess489

Right now my husband is being pulled into court by his ex, he knows he needs to support his son in university but he is getting so much different feed back even from lawyers. Some say yes support plus tuition and books etc. others say the tables no longer apply. Has any body got any experience in this or how a judge views this? For the first 2 years of school he lived at campus now we are being told he is moving back home and commuting, how does this change things?

My husband is refusing to come to my daughters wedding because he does not like the fellow she is marrying and has it in his head he will not support the wedding. First of all my daughters fiance is not that bad of fellow he does have his character flaws but don't we all, he is honest going to school for a trade and does not smoke drink or party, so not that bad of guy. I tried to explain to my husband this is not our choice to make for my daughter its our role to love and support her decision not knock her down. I am so frustrated this is my second husband my daughters Dad was killed in an accident 13 years ago. I also told him how much that his not being there would hurt me but that does not seem to matter as long as he is not supporting this marriage and he will show them. Maybe men have a different way of looking at things but I think he is being terrible and it will cause huge hurt and conflict in the family. Any advice or different view's some times a different perspective helps. Any advice accepted thanks. Every time he and I talk about this I end up in tears thinking about being there on such a special day by myself, the very thought if it hurts me so, so much. Not to mention it will be a tough day at times for my daughter with out her real Dad there and then her step Dad doing this to her, oh my oh my :(

My son and his fiancee are moving back home to our place and she is going back to school and they can not afford to keep their apartment. What I am wondering is this how is it best to introduce their 2 cats to our cats? I have brought kittens into the house successfully before but never tried to introduce adult cats, any suggestions to help blend the kitty cat family in our home?

Here is the on going discussion in our household, my father on the weekend ask my 16 year old son to move some vehicles around on his property, he holds his G1 licence. As well as the fact he is a very responsible driver and was very capable of what he was ask to do. My husband and my father are now at odds because my husband says its wrong and against the law. I don't agree because of the fact its on private property, so does any one know the real truth of the matter as to what the law really states?

He has a valid Canadian passport and or course his birth certificate. He will be travelling to Michigan in May for a sporting tournament with his grandparents. Do I still need a to provide a letter of permission?

Okay my step daughter is going to quite school, which is no surprise she has gotten into the drugs and has not been attending any way. We told her if this does not stop she can no longer be here, but her Mom is willing to take her on and see if getting her away from this high school and the wonderful crowd she has decided to hang out with will help. Question being and please don't think that we are trying to get out of paying child support because that is not the case. Do we have to pay child support in ontario if she is not in school?

Well I have learnt that I am allergic to oil of olay products, the swelling my face has gone down with the help of reactine and cold water compresses. However it is still beet red and now I am at the point where the skin is flaking off and so dry and tight not to mention the terrible itching. Doctor says I have to ride it out and at this point the only thing that seems to help it is pure emu oil. Any one else have a similar experience and if so what did you do to treat it?

My husband is in another flare of his colitis the only thing we can think that he has changed is taking calcium supplements upon the doctors request. This is the second time he has tried this and the second time that it has flared. Despite attempts to find out from the doctor and the specialist as well as the pharmacist we are being told this could not be the cause. Has any one else had this problem or reaction to taking calcium?

Well to start with our daughter has gotten herself into doing drugs, at this point we think she is just smoking pot, however we have been told things are most likely 5 times worse if we know as much as we do already. Question being, tonight is soccer registration, and I am feeling as though if she is not going to listen or has not to this point as to the house rules and her skipping classes and what not, why should we pay 200 dollars to register for soccer? I mean at what point does a parent draw the line. I know its a good idea to keep her involved in things but at the same point why should she get the same benefits as the other kids in the house? Last week I took both of our oldest girls dress shopping for prom and gave them both 100 dollars toward their dresses. Now I am wondering why I did this, I mean one deserves it and the other one that insists on skipping and doing drugs and directly disobeying anything we stand for does not (she is 17). What is your opinion should my husband and myself keep giving only to have complete defiance thrown at us? I personally think the answer is no things should stop dead for her, but I am wanting to hear other opinions perhaps it will set my mind on a different train of thought or a different perspective on things. OH and please don't bother telling me its only pot, don't want to hear it.

I am looking for a dark chocolate frosting recipe that will remain creamy and not harden on the cake. I have tried several over the years and they all tend to harden to more like a candy or fudge. Thanks in advanced for any recipes any one may have. Tess

Okay I know my 17year old step daughter has smoked up before, we talked and she said she only did it once and that was the end of it. So I have been keeping a pretty tight rein on her activities. I can not how ever control what she does at lunch or during her spare at school. I have noticed her behaviour is different, strange even. Like today for instance, she came home from school after volleyball practise and had dinner then had a nap (that in its self is unusual). When she woke up she has been strange ever since, such as giggly and loud, she has eaten a whole bag of chips (big bag) and 4 large soup bowls of ice cream and shes still at it. She was running down the hall so fast to get more food she darn near ran over me. Then the biggest thing of all as we where sitting there watching csi I noticed she was staring at the window, after asking her what she was doing she asked me if I could not see Charlie the Unicorn out in the driveway. I thought at first she was joking but she was dead serious. Help any suggestions for a Mom that does not know all the signs I perhaps need to be looking for. I am very worried that her so called smoking up once (which I really did not believe it was only once) has turned into so much more?

Well as some of you know my marriage is not the best, if you look at past questions. But now my family is coming into play and its making me angry. I know my husband can be an jerk, I know he has temper issues, and I know my step daughter is not the best kid on the block. However I am upset about the comments that my Mom is making about both my husband and my step daughter. In fact I am coming to the point I don't want to talk to any one about things in the household because when I phone or she phones that is all she wants to talk about. I am getting sick of it, I tell her I am fine and she says she knows the real truth. I agreed to let her put the kids and I on the prayer chain at church, thought that would give her some piece of mind, but now as the people at the church ask about me she tells them I am about the same as before nothing is any better, that in itself is not true things are slightly better and my husband is seeking help from the doctor for his anger issues and the doc has told us she thinks it sounds like intermittent rage disorder and there are meds for it but she wanted us to talk about it and think about getting counselling as well. We have be looking into things, but for some reason my Mother is sure this is just an excuse and that he is a idiot everyday of his life. The other thing I am having a hard time dealing with is that she seems to think sharing all of my life happenings with one of my brothers is the right thing to do, I hate it, he told me before to stand on my own two feet as he has his own things to deal with. I don't want him involved! I was very clear with Mom about that but she does it any how and tells me that he cares and only wants the best for me. I don't know how much clearer I can make things. I am feeling loyalty to my husband, and to my family as well, how do I sort this out? My Mom is 79 and I would love to spend more time with her but I can't get her to stop talking about situations that have been talked out and over. Any ideas? I just want peace and no one wants to let me have any, if its not my husband kicking up its the kids and if it not them its my family talking. I feel like running away and screaming just leave me alone, only problem is I can't do that with kids depending on me. Why do people never seem to understand they are making the situation worse and not better by constantly talking and nosing around?

If you look back at my other questions you will see my husband has some serious problems. He has finally agreed to go to the doctor this afternoon to discuss his severe mood swings, the yelling and the depression that seems to follow. I suppose this is a good thing although I am at the point of having little hope that any thing is going to help him and know that there is a definite possibility the marriage will go down the dumper any way. I am concerned that his mood swings may be linked to something deeper (bi polar or something else). I want to know what the doctor has to say is it him, and the choices he is making or is it something much deeper? Question is do I go with him and hear it all, as I have to say I don't trust that he is going to tell her the whole truth or do I back off and make him take this step himself?

Okay I can't take the yelling and the screaming any more I am done emotional and physically. My husband can not control his anger, he is so mean and hurtful to me and the kids, it is a second marriage for both of us, him because of divorce and me because my first husband died in an accident. I thought love could conquer all but seems I was wrong. Any how he has in the past attended a dads group, had anger management, counselling, been involved with children's aid etc.

He goes along for a bit and does not to bad, so I sing his praising hoping that he will keep it up. But every time it goes right back to where it started in the beginning, I kept giving him chance after chance after chance, how stupid is that? Any how last night I told him that I could not take it any more I am tried, I can not do it. He has the choice to get help or to get out, and personally I was hoping he would get out. However he did not and will not give me an answer. I want to know if he is hanging around because it looks better in a separation if I kick him out and if so how does it affect me legally? I can not stand by and put the kids or myself through this crap any more, but I also have to be able to make an informed decision about what to do. Do I have a leg to stand on? Does emotional abuse mean anything in a court of law? I am actually beginning to wonder if he is mental, last night he accused me of calling the police and they sat outside the house all night, I ask him where they where parked and he told me just beyond the bushes, beleive me there was nothing there. He also handed me the phone and said keep it close at hand cause he thought I was scared for my well being. I think the man has lost it. Anyhow any one with any information would help. Because these laws are different every where you should know I live in Ontario. Thanks for any input, I think 6 years of hell is long enough!!!!

First of all let me begin by saying I love this kid, she is bright and has huge potential and I treat her the same as my own. The problem is this, I have watched her grades drop from mid to high 70's to just scraping 50's this grade twelve year. I have watched her change her whole group of friends, from some very nice guys and girls to the druggie crowd. I have had many words with her about respect for her Dad, myself and the other kids. Tried to talk to her about school and some choices she has been making. Each one ends with her screaming. Last night it all came to a head and I got so angered that I told her if she was not happy here with our rules she had two choices here or her moms house. If she chooses to stay here she has been told that she will live by the house rules, or she will have consequences. After we both cooled out I went to talk to her again and try to resolve more of the things that have been going on, this time I find out that she is sexually active, I know I should be thankful that she waited till now or at least I think she has, but now she is not just sleeping with one but whom ever wants her. Tells me it makes her feel special. Oh my gosh I am knocking my head against a wall. I am not sleeping, and my nerves are shot or close to it. I have not told my husband as their relationship is already strained as it is, in yet I feel like I am betraying him by not telling him. We have 3 other kids in the same highschool, and I am scared one of the guys she has been with are going to say something and it will come home. Or heaven forbid my 16 year old son will get wind of it and get into trouble for trying to defend his step sister and someone gossiping about her and little does he know its the truth. Before any one asks I will make her a doctors appointment and get her on the pill, hopefully I am not to late. So in the end what do you guys think? What would you do? Tell her dad or not? How do I get my nerves to calm down and let me rest? I worry about her all the time, oh and she has not showen any signs of doing drugs yet, but it would not surprize me if that is what is coming next.

I posted a question a few days ago about prednisone, and the Response in general was talk to the doctor. Since then the situation with my husband who is on 50mg of prednisone for ulcerative colitis has gotten worse, he is on this for 10 days and then starts decreasing by one tablet per week until he is off it (so about the end of February). I pretty much begged and pleaed that he not go on this meds because he already has anger issues and tends to suffer from depression. He has gone to parenting groups anger management etc. and was doing well for about a year and half now. But that is all gone now and I feel like I am back to square one. Either he is yelling and screaming or will not talk at all (great this close to Christmas hey?). He is not eating right, sits in our room all day or goes outside in a fit of temper and shovels the driveway when the blower is sitting in the shed. He will not talk to the kids at all. I don't know if I should have his mother here for Christmas as his behaviour will scare the crap out of her because she was in two pass abusive relationships, so if he even raises his voice she cringes. Yesterday in a fit of temper he throw out our wedding album and ripped up our marriage certificate. He has moved all his belongs up beside the bed in a huge mound because he says its not his home any how he just pays rent to be here. Has accused me of acting more like a wife to our son then to him. Will not eat what I make and is surviving on weiners and sandwiches oh and pop and pretzels. The family doc says bear with it the er doc says bear with it as does the pharmist. But we are not made out of metal, the kids or I. I have tried not talking to him and giving him space, but then he comes to find me to yell at me. The kids are angery and confused as to what he is doing, I have explained it but they dont understand and think this a choice he is making. He mentioned he has nothing and may as well kill himself, I called the clinic they say oh just a side effect, he will get better as the dose decreases. Its to bad the medical profession is so high and mighty they can't listen to what I was telling them and have been telling them. Any ideas or suggestions on how to cope and how I can stop walking around crying. I try to be brave and take it but man it hurts and hurts alot. I told him I am hurting and he tells me I look fine. Sorry for going on and on but I think I need some advice and some place to vent. Thanks for any responces.

Oh my gosh, I don't know how much longer I can cope, the mood swings are terrible, he is mean and agitated all the time. He does not talk about things he screams. I pretty much begged the doc not to put him on the prednisone, because he is already prone to emotions that run so high, but was told it was the only way to get control of the situation. Twice in three days he has screamed yelled and threatened to leave. Has any one else had to cope with such a situation? I am trying to understand but one can only take so much before they break down.

In June my husband was told by the family doc that she wanted him on crestor because his cholesterol was mildly elevated and compound with his family history that it was the right decision. About 2 weeks after that he started have diarrhoea, we tried to get a hold of the doc but ended up having the pharmacist tell us to stop the meds immediately, and the symptoms should go. Not the case this has been going on since the end of July, he is to the point he can not leave the house, at this point he has seen a Specialist and had a flex scope done. The specialist is saying ulcerative colitis and has prescribed antibiotics, and a enema nightly containing a steroid to help reduce the swelling. We have not been advised of a diet plan, how to manage the situation or any thing else. At this point my husband is running to the washroom 25 to 30 times a day. Not to mention he is becoming depressed and very frustrated. Any one dealing with this themselves or can direct me how to handle this situation. At this point I have to say the docs have not been alot of help. Any one?

My 17 year old daughter is having pms problems, her emotions over take her about 4 days before her period. She is very weepy and the littlest things she would usually handle with grace over whelm her. Today for instance she called me crying because she was just feeling down and out, in fact she ditched her friends and went out for lunch by herself to get away from every thing and every one, this is very unusually as she is a very social person. Any way does any one know of any herbal remedies that would help her. I know if I take her to the doctor the answer is going to be the classic put her on the pill. I don't want that for her as she is not sexually active and I do not believe the pill is the answer to everything that the docs seem to think it is. In fact in the long run I think it does more harm then good. Thanks in advance for any advice.

Okay I am 38 years old happily married and all is well as far as I know with me health wise. So the question is what could cause bleeding after intercourse, I know I have never had this happen before. Any ideas? The sex was not rough so I don't understand. Do I panic? Oh and I am only on day 13 of my cycle so I don't think that is the problem. Serious answers only please.