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Recently my partners relationship with his teenage daughter has deteriorated to the point now that his daughter will no longer speak to him. Long story short, his ex rings constantly complaining that she cannot handle the daughters behaviour, so allows the daughter to run riot to keep the peace. My partners tries to sort things and smooth things over between the mother and daughter but ends up being the bad guy for try to lay down some rules. The ex then turns things around and blames him so basically it has worked, the daughter now sees him as interfering even though her mother asked him to step in and now she won't speak to him. We have given it time to cool off, but she will not answer phone calls or texts, she is only 13. My question is, now that they will not speak to him, should I try to play mediator and text the mother to ask for a meeting, just me, the mother and his daughter to try to get to the bottom of this. It hurts to see him being treated this way when all he wants is the best for his child. x

My husbands teenage daughter said she doesn't want to visit any more, its a very long story, but basically she lives with an narcissistic mother who has a drunk boyfriend, we have tried many times to get her to stay with us, but she refuses. There are no rules in her mums house, she can do what she wants, this will not pay off in the long run for her. We are at our wits end, but now she is turning against us, she somehow thinks we want to take her away from her mother, all we want is to protect her. I am at the stage that i would rather not have the drama and to hell with her and her mother. I obviously haven't said this to my husband, but it is so stressful. How do i support him, she is his child, he loves her dearly but it is causing so much anxiety all round.

I have come to my limit, my boyfriends ex is a very toxic mother to his child. She is on/off with a violent boyfriend who has smashed up her apt on a few occasions. His child came to stay with us for 3 months, but the mother denies it was over the violence his child witnessed. His child is now showing signs of violence, wrecking the apt, kicking doors, threatening the mother. The mother still denies it has anything to do with her. The child is now skipping school, the child is 13. My boyfriend and she were never married, he does not have guardianship but has access and pays child maintenance. We are at our wits end. The child wants to stay with the mother because there are no rules in that house. The child knows in our house there will be rules. This will not get better only worse, what do we do?

I have been going through health issues regarding an enlarged womb and Anemia related problems, i am in a longterm relationship. I will admit that my sex drive is nearly non existent, due to an imbalance in hormone levels, my tiredness due to anemia and pain due to womb problem. This evening my boyfriend said he would sleep in the spare room.....if i wanted him to, and sure it wouldnt make a difference because we never have sex anyway. We had sex last week, before i went into hospital for a D and C for my womb prob. Since then i have been bleeding and so do not want sex, i have told him this, so why be so hurtful? Also he has me under alot of stress due to his ex and his child, court dates, arguments with ex etc........also today i was discussing 2 clients upcoming weddings with my boyfriend of 7 years, and he said, he will never get married. So all in all im having a **** day :(

Hi, i run a dog grooming salon, i am planning to venture out into dog bday party planner / dog hampers for bdays, puppy, get well soon, bereavement etc.....i am looking for a business name that would incorporate the 2...any ideas, i had Pet pamper Hampers, but that doesn't bring the party planning into it.

My boyfriends has a child, his ex-girlfriend is in an abusive relationship and it is affecting his child. His ex refuses to leave this relationship, saying it is none of his business, telling his child not to tell him anything about her relationship. She has taken her boyfriends side over her child, Today, his child told me that her mams boyfriend hit her mam again, and that she is fed up with the lies. The child wants to skip school so that she can stay home to protect her mother, the child is only 12. There is so much more, my partner does not have gaurdianship and the child wants to stay with the mother, obviously she loves her mother, but mainly to protect her (she thinks). I now have to tell my boyfriend about what she told me today, i am apprehensive because he will be annoyed and rightly so, but also it all seems so helpless because the mother will not put her child first and is in denial. My boyfriend cannot go in and drag the child out of the situation and if we report it to social services, then what, in the meantime his child needs protection from this abuse :(

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years but for me, its getting so boring. I'm bored with his child, the tantrums, the ungrateful behaviour, his ex is a nightmare, only happy when she is causing trouble, they have a horrible relationship so no wonder his child is a nightmare. I have tried to love his child, but every time the child comes to visit, it's like starting over, and everything that is done for the child is never enough.I feel after 7 years, i have nothing else to offer, nothing else to try with his child. His child is now 13.

Also he has been unemployed for a long period and is now working, i worked my *** off to pay the bills etc when he wasn't working. Now he has a wage he tries to make excuses as to why he can only give me a certain amount towards bills etc.

I have in the past broached the subject of engagement and he says.."Thats not what i want, and the more you mention it, the more i don't want to do it".

The more i'm writing, the more i'm asking why i'm still with him. I want more, but ive had other relationships and to me its like same senario, different person.....so is it better to stick with who you know....coz the next might be even worse?

I found out today that i have ovarian cysts and fibroids in my womb. I am planning to conceive fingers crossed next year. I have being researching all day as to what treatments are available, it is clear that surgery is a last resort as it can cause more harm than good. So i have looked into herbal and dietary remedies, i think i'll go this route for a few months and see what the benefits are. So i have to give up alcohol, this isn't a problem as i don't drink that often, but my issue is, when i do go out with friends, what do i drink? I am to refrain from sodas and alcohol, so what is left, water is not an option because i may as well not go out :)

I want to change my career path and to do so i would like to go back part time and study for a degree. I never had the opportunity as a teenager / young adult. I am now 37 and the part time degree is 2 evenings per week for 4 years. I can continue to work also and apply for jobs in the area i want to change to also. Is 37 too old? Is 4 years of study too long?

I was raised Catholic, but i now don not practice or have any interest in attending mass. When i marry, it will not be in a church, so when i die, do i have to be brought to a church? How does it work for other religions? Burial, mass etc.

Six years with my boyfriend, who has a child age 10. The child has never been in any way an issue, but the mother is. I have been polite, non intrusive, helpful and always allowed the two of them to try to resolve their own differences. She has alway been kinda weird in her behaviour, very childish and bitter but i have ignored her up to now. We took my partners child into our home for 4 months whilst she was having problems with her current boyfriend, he is an abusive drunk who likes to smash the house up. The child has since returned home, she said the boyfriend is gone, but he is still around. She said we did it for ourselves not the child.There was a confrontation in my partners parents house a couple of weeks ago over her bad mouthing us to friends, i did step in to defend my partner against her lies, since then she has not stopped pestering us, ringing my partner at all hours over silly stuff. Saying she doesn't want me around the child, threatening court for extra maintenence etc, just being a *****. I am now having nightmares and feel so stressed out, i fear for my own safety because she is nuts, who knows what she will do. We are not married, but can i go to a solcitor or what should i do, i feel emotionally distressed by it all.

I am with my partner 6 yrs, he has a child with an ex.......................soooooo many problems with her before and since me. I am always of the belief that there are 2 sides to every break up. Since i have known him i have stayed out of the way when it came to him, his ex and his child, ive gone through crazy times, calm times over her. We had his child for 3 mths last year when her new boyfriend started to beat her up, the child has now gone back and everything iskicking off again with the ex.......I've always been courteous to her and not involved, but lately she is really pissing me off with her antics, so should i say something, do i have the right to tell her off after 6 yrs of being with him? Do i have the right to protect him from her craziness?

My partner's ex girlfriend is seeing a violent guy. He has smashed her windscreen, broken up stuff in her house, threatened to burn her house and her parents house, but yet she defends him and will not lay charges on him. The bigger issue is.......my partner has a child with her, the child is 10yrs old and is afraid to go to sleep. We get calls from the mother at all hours day and night, she pretends that she doesn;t know the reason behind the childs behaviour, she tells the child not to tell my partner anything about the goings on with her boyfriend, so the child is scared. My partner found out that the boyfriend came over, broke up the place, threatened to take the baby they have together....their baby is 4 mths old. The mother locked the 2 children in the bedroom, called the police, he hit her. My partners child was told not to tell him. He doesn't have gaurdianship,but we are taking his child for her safety, he has tried to speak to his ex but she denies everything to him. So where should we go from here, i don't have children, but i am 100% behind him, and i believe it would be a better environment.

I rent an apt with my boyfriend of 5 years, we have lived together for 4 of those years. I am no longer happy in the relationship due to the fact that he is always distant with me, we don't really discuss anything of importance and if i ask him a question, if he doesn't like it, he gets moody and turns it into an argument. I feel lonely in this relationship, of no value to him. If he has a friend over, i feel in the way.

The problem is, i have no family go to, little money for deposits for another place, and he won't move out....what will i do??? :(

I own a small business, it has been up and running approx 5 years. Since 2009 i have been finding it extremely difficult to pay VAT, and other bills. I owe approx €10,000 to revenue, my question is, can i close and pay them after closing or does it have to be paid before closure? If i continue trading, my debts are only going to increase.

I have found my perfect wedding dress, and like all women we know when we see it, that its the one, should i buy it?

The only problem is i am not engaged......yet!. We have been together 5 years and discussed marriage and we will do it eventually, but i LOVE this dress, it is perfect, it is on sale now and if i don't buy it, i may never get another like it, is it weird to want to buy it?

My boyfriend of 6 years is annoyed with me because according to him, when we go out for drinks, i act silly and say things to embarrass him in front of other people. He goes out most weekends with friends, i go out once a month, so maybe i do over do it a little, but i'm not aggressive, i get giggly and chatty, this seems to annoy him. We were recently at a function and i said the wrong thing, he walked off in a huff and said that he was leaving the next day, he has been gone for 3 days now, we have spoken once over the phone, and he said he doesn't see the point in us, if i continue to make a fool of him. I don't cheat, i work hard and i feel that i am a good girlfriend. He has his own issues, unemployment, financial issues. I deal with that, it gets on my nerves sometimes, but i don't run away for days. I do feel neglected by him, alone, i have told him that he needs to be more affectionate, but everything seems to be my fault in his eyes. Should i compromise and say i will not drink again or is it worth it?

I just got a call from a lady who's dog i clipped, and she said she is not happy with the way it is growing back. Her dog is a springer spaniel, very dry coat, dandruff etc. The day i clipped it, she brought her back and wanted more taken off, so i took her back in, re washed her, re groomed her, and she looked great. So now 1 month or so on, she has returned to say that she isn't happy with the way the hair is growing, its "clumpy"..........i feel like saying that i have no control over the way the hair grows back, but i wouldn't be cheeky as she is a client, so she wants a full refund, which she will come to collect tomorrow when the salon reopens. So i have no problem giving her the refund, but 1 month later she returns???? Should i mention this to her and also that her pets coat was never in good condition in the first place??

What in you opinion are the pro's to being married and the con's x

My Cavalier has been put on KBR tabs for suspected seizures, whilst i thought it was the best treatment for her, she is now showing side effect symptoms, loss of appetite mainly, so im questioning myself as to whether to keep her on them, i have a very good relationship with her vet, so i will be speaking to him soon, but im wondering will this loss of appetite subside, she is on these tabs approx 2 wks.