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I have been stepped on and hurt very much by people who have power. They have taken advantage of their position to humiliate me. I can't afford an attorney, and maybe my case wouldn't even make it to court. But they took advantage and jeopardized my profession. I don't know what to do. It's hard to stop the pain inside me. It hurts so much. And the only thing I wish is that God and Karma truly exists in order for them to suffer the same thing I did.

What happens when you have a traumatical experience when things happened, but you know no one is going to believe you. Then, you want to get over it but you can't. How do I let go of a bad experience that I had?

The thing is that I don't have any proofs and unfortunatly I sent him several messages. He placed a police report against me and added more stuff that is not true. I don't know how to defend myself. Should I even fight at the court or do I just accept that I did wrong? What I am afraid of if I don't fight, is that he might take advantage making up more lies about me. How do I protect myself from him after court if I don't fight back. He is taking me for a peace bond. But if I don't fight he won't be issued a peace bond. Can he just make anything up against me and make another report on me? How do I protect myself from him. Everyone is going to believe him.

So I am going to civil court for a peace bond. I have sent facebook messages to a person telling him to stop harassing and following me. And now he wants to take me to court for a peace bond? How will this affect me? What should I do in court? Will this affect me in my job, I am a substitute teacher? Thank you.

The director of the gymnasium harassed me for a very long time. I have lost 70 pounds while at his gym. He provoked me until I started sending him facebook messages to stop. I even sent one to the owner and nothing happened. Therefore, I decided to send one to his phone to see what he was going to do. The owner called me like fifteen minutes after to meet with me. I went over and she asked what had happened. I said well I had already sent you a message, and she said she didn't recieved anything at all. So I thought it was all a set up and it was not worth my time to tell her anything. So now they are sending me to court, because apparently the trainer feels harassed and uncomfortable. I have no proofs. Everything he did he would hide pretty well. He played with my mind for a long time. I don't know how to defend myself. Yes the judge is probably going to provide him with the peace bond, but what if he uses it against me? What do I do?

I enrolled at this gym in January 2010. Which I started using consistently since November of last year. I used to go every single day till this past thursday. Well, I lost a total of 70 lbs. During this time a trainer who is the manager also, harasses me, and leads me in certain ways to react the following way. I first sent him messages on his facebook telling him to stop. Then, I sent one to the owner nothing was done. At last, I sent him a text message and the owner calls me to face me with the complaints he has. We agree that I am going to ignore him and I can use the gym freely. Next day my husband is approached by the manager and asks him if I am his wife, he accuses me with my husband that I have caused a lot of problems in his personal life. My husband ignores him and leaves. Next day I go workout and I am faced by another trainer asking me to leave. I refuse, and ask to speak to the owner, who of course never calls or shows up. I go into the gym then they call the cops on me. The cop escorts me out of the facility and tells me not to go back because I could be arrested. Now what do I do with my contract. I have no proofs unfortuately of what that trainer did to me. He would hide pretty well. He has my messages. CAn I do anything about it? Thank you.

I'm obsessed with facebook and going to the gym. I do it cause I am anxious and want the day and the weeks to go by fast. How do I change this?

I am married with four children. I have been married for 20 years and I am 38 years old. My marriage has been thru ups and downs, but we have managed to handle them. It seems to me that I am the one who gives more. I am female and he sometimes works and helps me out. Me, on the other hand, try to do everything on my own. I take care of the kids, I have two young ones and two teenagers, and work as a substitute teacher. My oldestdaughter helps me out the most. My husband has supported me, so I can finish my studies and earn a degree. I still need to earn my certification in order to teach. I need his help, since our 7 year old daughter has Down Syndrome, she needs special assistance and therapies. Well, that is not the real problem. I was extremely depressed and gained up to 250 lbs. after my husband cheated on me 6 years ago.

When I graduated last December, I felt I could do anything that I decided to join a local gym. Well, there I managed to lose 70 lbs., and I still want to lose 30 more. The Master trainer, who is also the director of that facility has harassed me and played with my mind in so many ways. I was told that trainers in that gym seduce women in order to steal their weight loss credits. A friend of mine went through that experience and warned me beforehand. I panicked since the beginning. At first, I liked the man, but then when I noticed he was getting too close I was scared of him. My husband started going with me to the gym and supported me all along. Things got so bad that I sent a complaint to the owner of the gym, but she didn't do anything about it. Apparently the trainer was going to offer me a job in that facility. I have always been withdrawn and to myself and hardly made any friends inside that gym, because I was just focused on losing weight. Now that things got out of hand, I was told that that trainer wants to make me fall in love since I have embarrassed him so much. I don't know what to do. I am there on a contract. If I get out it will go to my credit. I really want to lose weight. I know I will not fall, because he just wants to embarrass me. What I don't like is that no one believes me; I really don't care anymore. But a lot of people laugh at me, and I just ignore them. I would never know what intentions he had with me. He didn't give a good vibe from the start. Now, I feel like I am their joke. I wish I could just keep on focusing on my weight loss, and ignore all of them. It's hard because every day something awkward happens. I do believe he wanted to use me, but I have no proofs. What do I do? What do I do about my marriage? I want to become independent and ignore all these crap, but I am scared of being alone with the kids. I don't know if I will fall again into depression.

. Well, there is an individual who uses crutches, and he kind of drags himself around the gym that I go to. He is currently working his upper body. He places his crutches next to the equipment he uses and struggles to get back up. He then moves towards the next piece of equipment he is going to use. People usually stare at him like he is crazy. I have been on crutches before and I completely understand him. Its an awful feeling to be at home waiting for your leg or foot to get better. Under IDEA section 504, this individual is temporarily disabled and needs special assistance or accomodations. I have noticed that no one seems concerned about this individual or gets close to offer him any assistance. Should I bring it up to the managers, trainers or owners of the gym? Please serious opinions only. I have worked with elderly and disabled people and have a Master's Degree in special education. Thanks for your advice.

Well, the story is the following. I am currently enrolled at a co ed gym. I started going since December because I really wanted to loose weight. Since then I have lost a total of 50 lbs. I am so happy for my accomplishment. The thing is that when I started I weighed 250 lbs. and no one would notice me. There was this handsome, tall, buffed trainer who I fell in love with right away. He seemed very arrogant and had a bad attitude. Well, at first I would admire him so much because he would train very hard and would standout from all others at the gym. After a while he noticed that I would stare and looked at me like I was crazy. It was so bad that he would literally run away from me as if it bothered him that I stared. Long story short, he noticed once I started loosing weight trying to catch my attention. Of course I thought his acts were very suspicious. How can a person who avoided me in the beginning be noticing me now? Well, I don't look like a super model, but I know I am starting to look good. He suddenly follows me around and pays my fee for the month of March. I felt good at first and I liked it, but then a friend told me to becareful because this trainers tend to take advantage of people like me. They go up to them telling them how they have lost weight and offer to train them for free. THey take away the weight loss credit, sleep with them and then dispose of them like trash. Of course I freaked out and took my husband with me right away to train with me. He suddently stopped stocking me. But he still stares at me. And I still like him, but I can't believe he had those intentions in mind. By the way I never planned on cheating or having an affair. I just liked him and that's it. Things are cooling off now, and I love going to the gym. But it seems now that the trainer thinks that I am a lying ***** because first I show him I like him and then I show up with my husband. He thinks bad of me and I think bad of him. But I still don't want to seem like the mean one. I still think he tried to take advantage. CAn they actually take advantage of members. What do they gain from taking away someones weight loss credit? Should I stop going to the gym? I know it's not right that I am married and liking someone else, but I don't have that good of a relation with my husband. I just didn't want for that person to take advantage of me.

I can't stand not seeing him daily. He doesn't know I feel this. I don't even talk to him. But god, it is so hard to even think about anything else. It seems stupid too. In love at my age, please. How can I control this? He shows interest, but it's not the same thing I feel for him. I get so desperate if I don't see him. Maybe this is just infatuation. How do I stop this feeling. I am loosing my mind. It hurts to even think about him.

I have lost a total of 40 lbs. I am currently attending a gymnasium. I started going daily since November and up till now, I have lost a total of 40 lbs. Before, no one would notice me. But now the trainers and instructors are just after me. At first I was intimidated and shy, but now that I know what they want I feel kind of embarrassed since they were just after me for a while. I know they will still keep hunting me since I plan to keep on loosing weight. But should I listen to them? What exactly do they want? Thankx in advance.

I have been dieting since November and going to the gym. I have lost a total of 30 lbs. I have not stopped eating, I only eat less. The thing is that I suddenly do this strict diet for three days and it actually works. But what I want to know is if its healthy?

The first day I eat toast with 2 tspn of peanut butter and half cup of grapefruit juice and a cup of coffee, for lunch is small portion of meat with lettuce and a small apple, and a small cup of vanilla ice cream. For dinner I have a tuna with 5 crackers. On the second day for breakfast I have 2 boiled eggs with half of a banana a toast bread and a small cup of coffee. For lunch I have 2 weiners with broccoli, carrots, half a banana and small cup of vanilla ice cream. For dinner its a small cup of cottage cheese with 5 crackers and a small cup of coffee. On the third day the menu is as follows. For breakfast is 5 crackers with a slice of white cheese, a small apple and a cup of coffee. For lunch I have tuna with carrots, a cup of vanilla ice cream, and half cup of cantaloupe. For dinner a boiled egg and a toast bread.

Well, I have to tell you what the diet consists of. During these three days one is supposed to loose ten lbs. I have done it and lost it while also doing two classes one of cardio and one of body sculpting. After that I use the treadmill for 20 minutes and the bike for another twenty minutes. I look better and feel better. What I want to know is if this diet combined with the workout I do, is it healthy? I have not checked myself with a doctor. I used to weigh 250 lbs. now I weigh 220. But I have also lost inches and pant size. I am 37 years old. I am also taking a multivitamin daily for women. Thanks in advance.

I have been living with my husband almost 20 years, known my family and friends also. But I start talking with an old friend and my mind changes completely. I hadn't seen this friend for about 20 years now to be exact. I start seeing things different and changing my way of thinking. I am glad that things are changing for the better. But how is it that my husband didn't help me a little bit with this emotional support? I don't understand, sometimes I feel very naive. I don't know why my family members don't give me any advice either as to how to better my life. My friend in two weeks has helped me see reality in a different way.

I mean friends as in female and male. I saw an old friend from high school. He was a really close friend. And he hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. He was just saying how we were great friends and gave me his number told me to call him. Well, I called him and we talked for a while. But something doesn't feel right. He is married and I am married, but lately I feel awkward when we call each other. Should I just stop talking to him? Not that I am having feelings or anything but what if his wife doesn't like it or my husband? Well, thanks in advance.

Something about their body smells weird. I am not talking about mouth or hair. No, its just some sense that they release. How can you cover that up? Is it by using perfumes, and if so, what types of perfumes can cover up strong odors for men?

Besides that the children have rights, what rights do parents have? I know that the law and society offer services and benefits to the children. But what about the parents? What happens when they feel threatened by all these social workers. What if they suddenly suspect their parenting ways? How can a parent cover their backs? I am posting this question because I had an incident with Border Region MH MR. I applied for services for my daughter and they came to visit. They suspected because we had a weird lock outside our door and called the cops and made a big action movie while nobody was in my house. Besides they went asking the neighbors about my life etc. I was so upset that I went ahead and complained. The social worker kept telling me that it was their right. I feel as if they violated my privacy and put my parenting ways in doubt. I don't know how to proceed after her answer and reaction. Should I just leave it alone or should I complain further? I just feel that these people don't have any right to invade my privacy. Thank you for your answers in advance.

I was just reading past questions that I have asked. And it seems that all my life I have been confused. Well, at least for the past four years. But I feel despair all the time and confusion and sadness. I am always afraid to fail. Scared to death that something might go wrong. I am even afraid to go work sometimes. Could this be some type of disability? Who can help me out with this?

I am about to graduate with a degree in Special Education. Let me tell you a little background first. The reason I decided to come back to school and earn a Master's Degree in Special Education was because my bachelor's was in applied arts and sciences. I thought I was gonna get nowhere with that degree. So, I supposed I could go into education. Before I could get a job, I became pregnant with my third baby. After 10years of trying to get pregnant well, I finally heard the happy news. She was born with Down Syndrome. I found it hard to adapt to the idea, but I was gonna be the best mother and was going to treat her like any other child. She is a wonderful child. Almost seven years old, I dedicated to her development and thank god she is perfectly normal only with a speech delay. After she started school, I decided I was going to learn everything about special education in order to provide for her needs and help her with her development throughout her life. I did go back to school and I am about to graduate. But things seem harder every time. I feel as if I learned to be able to apply it with my child, but I have no understanding whatsoever of papers, tests, etc. I have managed to pass all my courses and maintain a 3.4 GPA. But I feel that I have not learned anything. I don't know what happened to me in the process. I had marriage problems, another child, and many other struggles that have made me become bitter and negative. Today, I am so nervous about graduation. I have not been able to study as single students do. I feel as if I learned nothing at all. Well, at least just to apply it with my daughter. What am I gonna do when I graduate? So far, I am just a substitute teacher and I don't work every day because there is always an appointment, a therapy, or even taking my mother here and there since I am an only daughter.I am afraid to take my comprehensive exam. I don't know if I am going to know how to answer. Currently had an interview for a teacher-aide position and didn't know how to respond in the interview. I feel stupid. I don't know how to help myself anymore. I wish I was more confident to be able to carry myself as others do in school. There are many who are teachers who didn't struggle to get that position. I have struggled so much, and every time I am in an interview I freeze and sound like I don't know what I am saying or doing. I sometimes think that I should just take care of my daughter and help her become the best she can. But I also want to be able to apply what I have learned in the classroom setting. I don't know where to run to anymore. It seems that what I started doing has been lost. How can I make this different or better? How do I start? WHo do I talk to?

It seems that the more I wait, the less I can move forward. I have always wanted to be ready to be able to work and give my family what they need. But once I feel I am almost ready, I freeze. I become so scared to make a move. And I keep postponing the day when my life will change completely. How can I finally be firm and move on? The more I wait the more depressed I become. I am always afraid of change and committment.