danai

Growing up my mother was very strict wanted us to be 'tough&strong' sort of drill sergeant like. We ate what was provided (good food), did things the way she wanted.

She always wanted us to be what she felt was 'well suited' to this world aggressive,forceful,opinionated,shark like efficient,money hungry etc I feel like we where almost trained to be assassin like. I'm sure she was doing what she thought best.

I turned out naturally inclined to be sweet,compassionate,soft, etc but with the heavy 'training' I turned out to be a mixture of both and the two sides 'fight' and I feel stuck between what I 'learned' growing up and what I am. I love opposite conflicting things cause of her nurturing&my natural inclination.

For example I'm not materialistic but feel driven to have a huge house&fancy car or I love jeans&simple tops but also uber sophisticated clothing.

As a result I feel I don't know who I am,I feel I like everything, can adapt to anything but yet never feel comfortable.

For example if I wear my ultra sophisticated clothing I long for my simple clothes&vise versa. I feel stuck as if in the middle of a tornado, I feel as if everything I do is 'fake' and not really what I am, but how do I discover who I am?

So what do I do?? (Sorry for all the detail but its needed for question to make sense. P.S my mother died in 2003 of cancer)

I am moving to south africa to be with my husband but want to continue my real estate business from an office in my new home, whilst coming in physically once a month or bi monthly. Can anybody tell me the best way to set it up for me to work with my team using software&hardware. Is it at all possible. Any help I would appreciate. Thanks.

I'm wondering with the technological,social (including mental problems ie histrionic disorder ,social adjustment ie changing ways of interactment,changing roles in society ie female bread winner, homosexuality etc)

Would it not make sense changing the legal adult stage to when a person reaches 30 to give us humans more room to develop our young into responsible people.

It would also mean lowering population growth&helping the environment.

So from all point of views ie legal,mental health,social,economic,environmental all aspects what would happen do you think?

I'm wondering with the technological,social (including mental problems ie histrionic disorder ,social adjustment ie changing ways of interactment,changing roles in society ie female bread winner, homosexuality etc)

Would it not make sense changing the legal adult stage to when a person reaches 30 to give us humans more room to develop our young into responsible people.

It would also mean lowering population growth&helping the environment.

So from all point of views ie legal,mental health,social,economic,environmental all aspects what would happen do you think? environmental all aspects what would happen do you think?

I have had a terrible 10yrs, my controlling mom died after battling an aggressive cancer, when she died we lost our home, most of our possessions (she was the bread winner) my dad shriveled up with depression,I had to be the parent for him&my brother,I met a really nice guy&for a while it was better,but I fell pregnant&had to terminate it. It was the worst choice but I was already in such trouble I didn't feel like I could care for the child at all, the strain destroyed our relationship. We broke up. Then got back together,Then I got sick&discovered I had dermoid cysts in my ovaries,I had to have them removed,I only have an eighth of my right ovary&none of the left one. Everything I do seems not to be working and I have this seething rage that boils just below the surface I wanna address it but I shut off every time I try to sort through it,what should I do?? There aren't many psychologists in my country (zimbabwe) so I gotta do this alone. ld care for the child at all, the strain destroyed our relationship. We broke up. Then got back together,Then I got sick&discovered I had dermoid cysts in my ovaries,I had to have them removed,I only have an eighth of my right ovary&none of the left one. Everything I do seems not to be working and I have this seething rage that boils just below the surface I wanna address it but I shut off every time I try to sort through it,what should I do?? There aren't many psychologists in my country (zimbabwe) so I gotta do this alone.

About four times a week I have dreams that come 100% true, but can anyone tell me how to 'make' myself dream solutions as well as the problems, I only seem to dream about the problems and am not given a solution to 'sort' the problem.

My aunt went to The Gambia for work&contracted malaria which later complicated.

She became severly anemic, having what I think was a haemaglobin count of 2.4 the doctors said a normal person has a count of 15.

She then needed a blood transfusion to save her life (she had also stroked) but she refused blood&died.

I would like to understand why her church (jehova's witnesses) would have a rule that allows people to die when they can easily be saved??

I'm confused...

If we lived in caves we wouldn't have reached a population of 7 billion,its unsustainable and I think we are headed for a show down with momma nature&she will be bringing all her guns.

Don't you think??

If we still lived in caves,would this world be so full of social problems or are the issues we face today a result of this 'development' we have as our claim to fame.

Are we going forward or are we going backward?

I have been dating a guy with BPD for 8yrs and it has been a long winding painful road. The thing is I didn't know that he had a problem till 2 weeks ago when he mentioned it. I been researching it ever since, I didn't realise his behavior was so bad cause I think I was let into it bit by bit.

He has been manipulative,hurtful,angry,illogical,confusing and really been destructive especially to himself (he stroked at the age of 24) his relationship with his dad is broken,with his mom is strained. With his friends is a mess. He hates everyone and I'm sure will destroy himself one day. He trusts no one&hates with such terrible fierce determination.

I know I have to leave him&thats gonna be one of the hardest things to do in my life&i also realise that his behavior has scarred me.

But I feel I'm going insane,I just feel so detached,confused&honestly I feel like I'm unable to process things. I sometimes just laugh for nothing&can sit unreactively for hours, I feel like just a shell of a person. Am I going crazy?? What's happening to me.