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My daughter is about too turn 3. Her bio dad and I split before I found out I was pregnant and my boyfriend has been raising her since the day she was born. Her bio dad has seen her twice so far in her life due to living a distance away. He says he plans to see her more once his life is more settled.

My daughter is going to be having minor surgery in the next 6 months. I called her bio dad to let him know because our parenting agreement says we need to split all costs not covered by insurance and I am not sure if it will be or not.

He said he wanted to come up for her surgery and to be there for her.

I understand where he is coming from but I am not sure it is in my daughter's best interest.

Firstly, she will be stressed from surgery and having another person there she doesn't really know (hasn't seen bio dad in 12 months so far).

Second, I am worried about conflict with bio dad and my boyfriend. My daughter is a daddy's girl. She absolutely loves my boyfriend and when she is scared and in pain she will want him. I am worried this will upset bio dad and cause conflict which my daughter doesn't need right after surgery. Or, I am worried her dad won't be as responsive to her for fear of upsetting bio dad.

My daughter is developmentally delayed so I am worried she won't understand much of what is going on and I just want her to be comfortable and feel secure after surgery.

Is there a way we can make sure my daughter is taken care of without being rude to bio dad?

Hi. I currently play sims 3 and sims pets on my PS3. For my birthday my mom just got me the PC game and I was planning to get some expansion packs. But, I have a few questions.

1. Does each expansion have challenges? The PS3 Pets and Sims 3 have some overlapping challenges but overall the challenges are game specific. If I were to get Supernatural would there be challenges with that?

2. Once you download an expansion pack is it like a separate game or does it add onto the original game so that if you had supernatural and pets you would open up Sims 3 and have Vampires who have dogs etc?

3. If you have played Sims 3 both on PS3 and PC what should I know about how they are different? I am asking big things not small details.

Thanks for your answers.

I love sims 3 for PS3 and am about to get it for PC as well. What are the different games about? Which do you recommend? Do all of them have challenges to do? I like the challenges and have heard that some Sim games don't have them but not sure if that is only the original sims ort sims 2 and sims 3 expansions as well.

My husband and I are getting a divorce and he is active army. He and I are trying to agree on everything and have as nice a divorce as possible. One of the things he has asked for is joint custody which I am fine with.

The thing is that he has refused to see our kids for the past 6 months. I have tried multiple times to bring them to him or have him come see them and he always makes excuses.

I was telling a friend at work that I thought this was strange and she told me he is being smart. She is a former soldier but from years ago. She told me that if a couple has joint custody they won't enforce a couples child support agreement but if a mom has custody the dad has to pay child support.

Anyone know if this is true?

I have a 6 month old baby who has always been a good sleeper. But, starting last week she has been very resistant to sleep. She doesn't want to nap and at night she will sleep alright with us but as soon as we move her to her crib she has a fit. And no matter where she is sleeping she will start crying a little in her sleep. Just a few whimpers or cries that don't even wake her up.

I don't know if this could be nightmares or something else and if there is anything I can do to help her.

FYI- She goes to sleep most nights swaddled in bed with us.When she is asleep we transfer her to her crib because her dad is a light sleeper. She shares a room with her sister and tends to wake her up if we lay her down there instead. And she does not cry it out well either. We have tried that too.

I have a 6 month old baby who we are trying to start feeding baby food. She is interested in the food and wants to eat but we are having a hard time helping her get the hang of eating from a spoon. We have been working on this for about a month and still she is having a lot of trouble. Any suggestions?

Long story but I need some basic information about having sex with a man with an amputation. Is missionary style possible and comfortable or would the girl need to be on top?

This is not trolling. I am a writer researching a scene for a book where a male amputee makes love to his wife for the first time. I was unable to google the information without finding a lot of pornography.

What can you tell me?

I am a mom of three month old twin girls. I am in the process of a divorce. I thought when I got pregnant I would be able to be a stay at home mom. I was married and even though things were rocky I thought it was going to be ok.

During pregnancy a lot of stuff happened and now we can't work things out. With that off the board I am the sole provider for my kids. We do get child support but of course that isn't all that much. And we do live frugally.

I am about to interview for a job that would put us hopefully where we need to be financially but I would be working 40 hours a week. Possibly 50 for a while( may be 7 days a week til we get caught up.) After 8 hrs sleep and 8 hrs work there is 8 hrs left in my day to be a mom! I feel like that is so little!

My girls are going to be cared for while I am working by a family member which is a blessing but I still feel so guilty for leaving them. Especially since we will still probably be barely scraping by. We won't be eligible for state assistance either. I will make barely too much.

I feel so lost and I need advice of other veteran working moms who can tell me how I can be a good mom to my girls and still be a provider for them. And getting back with their dad is not an option even though sometimes I wish it was from a money stand point at least. Some advice to make me feel better please.

My baby is 3 months and we have swaddled for bed time since she was born.

I have a 3 month old who has some nights where the swing is the only thing that will calm her.I put her in the swing and sleep next to it on the couch but I am not sure if this is safe.

I am in the process of a divorce and my soon to be ex is constantly telling me lies. Most are ones I can't prove but he told me a huge whopper last week and I have a lot of evidence that he is lying. I don't care that he lies to me but when it effects our kids I get pretty angry. His lie was about why he can't visit them and his money situation.

Do I call him on it and tell him I know he is lying or do I just let it go to keep the peace?

My husband and I have been separated for about a year now. We are in the process of a divorce. We have 2 children.

He isn't involved with the kids.

I have started dating an old friend and things are moving pretty quickly. We are talking about moving in together once the divorce is final.

At what point am I obligated to tell my ex that I am going to be moving in with my bf and he and I are going to be raising the children?

My 12 week old daughter is eating double what she usually does, staying awake most the day, and barely sleeping at night. Is this the usual time for a growth spurt?

My brother is an E-4 in the army and called to borrow money. He says he hasn't gotten a paycheck in over a month because the army is withholding pay from some soldiers due to the economy.

My brother has a tendency to lie so I did some checking on his story. My two army wife friends say that there had been talk of that happening but that things got resolved and as far as they know no soldiers are getting their pay withheld due to lack of govt money. I also know my brothers gf is getting the allotment he sends her every month,

I just want to make sure it isn't true before I tell him I can't send him the money.

I don't want to interfere with his family and I don't know them all that well. But their father isn't all that involved. Should I try to make arrangements to get grandparents involved or should I let him handle his family? Our twins are infants.

When I filed for divorce my lawyer suggested I ask for full custody as I live in a different state from my daughters dad.

He said he wants joint custody even though I doubt he will see them as he hasn't yet. (and because of the comments made last time I asked I am going to clarify a few things here.)

I am asking for reduced child support (much lower then state guidelines) so he can have the money to come visit the girls. I did the calculations of what the trip would cost and subtracted that from the guidelines so me taking his money in child support not an issue. Also, I offered to bring them down to see him and he said he was too busy.

So, it is his choice not to see them not me being a mean ex wife.

My question is what am I really giving up if I accept joint legal custody with him? I would have physical custody. My understanding is that it just means that while they are in his care he is the main decision maker for them. But, I don't really know much about how all this works.

My husband and I are in the process of a divorce. We had been having problems and I was in the process of leaving him once I found out I was pregnant.I now am in OH and he in Ga.

Part of the reason our marriage fell apart is that he is such a focused soldier. He really doesn't have time for a family. I admire him as a soldier but get frustrated as a wife and mother.

I want to give him every opportunity to be involved with the kids because I don't ever want them to feel like I kept them from their bio dad. But, I feel like I am running into roadblocks.

Firstly, we are sorting out custody arrangements and I have offered to take much lower then the state guidelines for child support so he can travel here to see them. When I asked if he was going to try to come up though he said he would if we could hang out together all day. I told him I wasn't ok with that but wanted him to take the babies and spend time with them. I would of course show him the ropes first weekend he came up. After that whenever I asked if he was planning to come he said he can't.

Next month I am taking the babies down to meet his family just 4 hours from where he is stationed. I let him know we were coming and asked if he could meet us there (it is within his mileage range) but he said probably not.

I offered to put my phone on speaker so he can talk to and hear the girls but he didn't like that idea.

I know I can't change him but I want to make every effort to involve him with his daughters. Anything else I might try? Our kids are 3 months old and I am so sad he is missing this. He has never come up even when he was given paternity leave to do so. I am not sure why.

My boyfriend (we got together near the middle of my pregnancy) just loves the girls and is so great with them and I just want their bio dad to have the experience and bond with them too. At first I had thought maybe they were just too young and at more of a mom stage but after seeing my bf with them I know that a man can be involved with them even at such a young age.

Any ideas of what else I might try? I want to be able to tell my girls I did all I could to give them a relationship with their bio dad.

My soon to be ex husband is in the army. He is not the most truthful person so I want to verify some of the things he has said to me and also ask for any info I may need about divorce and how he will be effected by it.

My main question is he says if he gets joint legal custody (even though I would have physical custody) he would get BAH and not have to move to the barracks. But if I get custody and he just gets visitation he will have to go back to the barracks and lose his BAH. I do want the kids to have a place to stay if they see their dad but I would prefer to have sole custody because he is not all that involved as a father and I am worried he is going to disappear from their lives and if he does I don't want to have to go back to fight for custody of them.

What should I know.

My husband and I are getting a divorce. He lives in Georgia and I in Ohio. We have twin 3 month old daughters who he has never met.

We are trying to work out the details of our divorce and one thing he wants is joint legal custody although I would get full physical custody. He would be seeing them less then twice a month (his choice not mine). The reason he says he wants joint custody is firstly that since he is in the army he will still get certain benefits if he has joint custody as opposed to no custody. And second so the girls can live with him when they are older if they want to.

I am ok with shared parenting especially with him being so far away and not in their lives. Are there any disadvantages to giving into his request?

And what is a good starting martial arts that is not karate? Are there usually father child martial art classes in areas?

We are making plans for our daughters to do some kind of martial arts as part of their physical education for homeschooling and to give them some time to spend with daddy. Thanks.