ralph d

I have been at my job for 5 yrs. I work overnights at a family shelter. it's decent pay, good benefits, generous time off. recently, there are been some changes going on, some good, some not-so good. the house is in good order but it seems that's all the management is concerning themselves with lately. employees are somewhat disgruntled( me). I was recently written up for something I consider to be a very minor infraction but I was told to take it as a "learning experience." I have been denied PTO time because we have " no coverage" but another employee just got back from a week vacation( had coverage for that !). the final potential nail will be that my schedule could change. I work sun-thurs which gives me a good work-home life balance. I am considering leaving if my schedule changes for the worst( as in days off during the week). we are short-staffed as it is and really can't afford to lose anyone. could use this a bargaining chip in order for them to keep my schedule as is or do I tell them I am leaving b/c the scheduling change is unfair to me and my family? any advice will help. thank you

my wife and I have been married for 6 yrs(together for 9). at the very beginning, there were some trust issues that I made complete amends with. Things have been going great until last week. she happened to see that there were some messages in my FB messenger. the messages were completely innocent and in no way, shape or form, am I cheating on her. I have no intentions on meeting up with them. most of them are friends I grew up with or old high school friends. my wife doesn't see it that way. she says I have no business talking to them, even though I am upfront about my marital situation. I am a very outgoing person and I love to catch up with old friends. I see nothing wrong with that. my password to my phone has always been the same but I was bothered that my wife went through my phone. while I do realize my past is what it is, I made a promise and I have honored. so what I did was that I changed my password with the intention of changing it back once I knew she tried to go through it. she said that was a red flag and she basically said that was it, it's over, I am done this time, ect….this happened on Saturday and we have barely spoke. I have remained calm through it all. does she have a right to act this way or is she being overly dramatic? any advice will help. thank you.

my step-daughter is due to have a baby in September. while most of are excited, I am having some mixed feelings about the dad. let's start by saying he is our next door neighbor. they have known each other for years so I guess it was meant to be ( I guess). he has a kid already( mom isn't in the picture. picked a winner there !). He is a good dad from what I see but his personality just rubs me the wrong way. He is a know it all and thinks he has all the answers to everything. He's a talker and charmer ( step-daughter fell for it hook, line and sinker !). I just don't see what she sees in him. I know it's her decision to be with him but I feel she made a mistake getting with him. He lacks motivation to improve their living situation b/c he doesn't have steady work( works with his dad) and if kid is sick or can't find a sitter, he has to stay home and loses money. They are going to be living his parent's basement ( a finished basement) for about yr ( he said) then they will get a house( can't show income so that's tough). I think she got charmed and sweet -talked into this relationship and to be honest, I won't be surprised if it last. my question is...do I look past all this and just be happy for them or do I have a right to be concerned?

my wife calls me on her way to work and she tells me that her son ( my step-son) isn't going to school b/c he didn't study for a test. now, since i have little to no say about what goes on with him, all i could do is laugh and say nothing. my wife is a good mother but a so-so parent. my butt would have been at school whether i was ready or not for that test. she allows this type of behavior all the time. my hands are tied and i can say nothing b/c ill be the bad guy. does anyone have an explanation for this?

i have written many times about this subject and have received some great answers and have tried my best to apply them but to no luck. our relationship is rocky, at best. periods of good days, followed by days of disrespect. i went as far as to see a professional . we came to the conclusion that i will no longer expect much from him, basically i have no expectations for him therefore no need to get upset when he does something, even to my own son. i have decided to let karma and society be his judge, jury and executioner. he is going to be 16 yrs old in aug. yet has the mindset of someone in elementary school. he has some health issues yet i feel that isn't an excuse for his behavior towards me. his dad did pass away 8 yrs ago so that could be the reason for a lot of his anger but they have help for that. i have tried my best to guide him and no " parent' him but that is to no avail. i have turned all the parenting to his mother. am i making the right decision by just taking a step back and just " going along for the ride"? any answers will be helpful.

i have been with my wife for almost 7 yrs now, married for almost 4 yrs. she has 2 children from her 1st marriage( girl 23 , boy 14). we have a child of our own together( boy 5). my step kid's father passed away in 2008. my relationship with my step-daughter is a good one but the one with my step-son is reaching a level that i am not sure if i have any answers to right now. i have spoken on here a few times about him and have received some good advice and hope to seek some real insight. he is going through some medical issues right now but i don't want to sound insensitive but this has been ongoing well before his diagnosis of crohn's disease. the disease is stunting his growth and overall development. i am very concerned about his well-being but i feel he only lashes out at me whenever his mood swings kick in. i know i am being quite vague but i don't want to ramble on too much. he is a good kid who has been through so much in his young life. i do care about him and want to have a good relationship with but i feel if i don't nip this in the bud now, it will be too late, any advice will help....trust me.

i just received a trade offer and i think i am going to accept but would like some input. i would receive donaldson, cruz and castro for posey, longoria and gomez. i have 2 solid catchers already( d'arnaud and mccann)...my OF would now be harper, cruz and ellsbury. any objections as to why i shouldn't do this??

straight up...j.d martinez for buster posey. ill be acquiring martinez. my catchers are mccann and d'arnaud. i could have an OF of harper, gomez, ellsbury and martinez.

i got into a heated argument with my wife today and it escalated pretty bad. here is why: my dad and i used to go to old timer's day at yankee stadium the last couple of yrs. it used to be our father's day present to each other. my wife would buy my ticket and i would buy my dad's. my dad is getting up there in age and the trip is too much for him. this year i would like to go and asked my wife if i could go and asked a buddy to go with me. she immediately got an attitude with me and pretty much said " we don't have the money for that". i said it wasn't an issue before going with my dad why is it an issue now? she went on to say " i never do things by myself !" i said, " that's your problem. you choose to be with your kids 24/7". i realize we have kids but i feel we need our own time to do things we like. this is one day, one game i said. she said that it turns into a $ 200 day( which is completely not true). i said " oh but the trip to NYC with the kids, that's cheap ?? she said that its a family trip that's why. my buddy would pay his own way for everything. all i would want is for her to pay for my ticket for father's day present( the game is a week before father's day so it doesn't interfere with father's day itself). who is being unreasonable and did i have a right to get upset? if you need further details, please comment and ill reply.

on my drive to work tonight, my wife and i got into a " discussion" about her son/my step-son. i feel she lets him get away with far too much b/c i think she coddles him b/c he had no biological father in his life( his dad passed away 7 yrs ago). ill give you the latest example. the kids just got off on xmas break. they had 9 days off. my step-son basically stayed up all night long and slept all day during that vacation. needless to say come sunday night, he couldn't go to sleep. what does my wife do? kept him home on monday from school !!! i said " boy, you really taught him a lesson !" basically, i got " don't tell me how to be a parent !" as i write this, my step-son is fast asleep, on the couch and still in the clothes he wore to school, today. my wife refuses to wake him and make him go to his bed. obviously. i am at work and can't do anything. even,if i was home, i wouldn't be able to do anything, any advice?

i would be acquiring brandin cooks, nelson agholor and todd gurley for ashlon jeffrey, golden tate and chris ivory.

I have been married to my wife for close to 3 yrs now( together for almost 6 yrs.) she was a widow when i met her. she lost her 1st husband to brain cancer at age 40. she was only 38 yrs old when he passed. she has 2 kids from that marriage, a girl who is now 22 and boy who just turned 14. together we have a little boy who is 4. my relationship with her kids is good, not great. it would be great if my relationship with her son would drastically improve. i can't put my finger on why it isn't good. its not bad but it could be better. i take interest in the things he likes which is all the computer games he plays but that is about it. he isn't into sports ( which i am very much in to). also, he recently quit karate and has spent all summer staying up late and sleeping until the afternoon. my wife is becoming somewhat concerned about his health. he recently had a dr visit and lost 5 lbs. he doesn't eat healthy and he complains of dizziness from time to time. his attitude is very up and down. i deflect most issues that may arise with him to my wife but if i feel he is being disrespectful and not listening, i will speak up and that is where our issues arise. i could go on and on but i don't want to ramble. just looking for someone who may be in the same or similar situation to give me some advice. if you need more details, i can provide them. thank you

i work the 11-7 shift during the week(sun-thurs). i have a 4 yr old so he is home with me during the day. i may get 2 hrs of sleep before he wakes up. my wife comes home from work at 3, we have dinner then i usually lay down around 5-530 and sleep until 930. as stated, i eat healthy( most of the time) and i exercise at least 3-4 times a week. i catch up on my sleep on friday night and saturday nights when i am home to sleep. am i doing this the right way?

i will be getting kemp so my OF will be trout, ellsbury and kemp. i have 2 stud SP in cueto and lester. i also have ventura and pineda as solid guys as well. this is a yahoo league that takes into account OPS as a win-loss stat. needs valid reasons for doing or not doing this trade.

8 yrs ago, I hit the lowest point of my life. I was charged with simple assault, making harassing phones calls and disorderly conduct. the charges were later dismissed due to the fact that the person who filed the charges did not want to cooperate. my marriage was already doomed so that really didn't bother me. the fact that I had to resign from a job that I loved and the embarrassment the arrest brought to my friends and family is what hurt the most. the woman who filed these " charges" live not too far from me but she isn't the problem. it is her husband and son. they seem to have an issue with what happen. don't they know the truth? don't they know that she lied and got caught? shouldn't the issue be with her and not me? I have never gotten the closure I deserve in a situation like this. the charges dropping isn't good enough. I want to confront them and tell them what they did to me. I realize violence isn't the answer but I have a lot of pent up anger and I feel it will be released on them but I know that will d more harm than good. I have since remarried and have a little boy. I need to remind myself of that. would counseling help? should I just let bygones be bygones? what you any of you do in this situation?

6 months into dating my now-wife, I " slipped" up. I regret it ever happened and I made a vow that I would never hurt her again like I did. i attended counseling sessions to get to heart of the issue and it helped. it has been 5 years and i have not had one slip-up, NOT ONE !!!. they say " once a cheater, always a cheater". that is completely false. if you give your word ( and i gave it twice since we are now married), then all should be forgotten over time if your partner put the equal time in to forgive you. they say you can forgive but not forget. another misnomer. i can forget some of things she has done to me and it is b/c i love her. i try not to dwell on the past. sometimes its hard but i work on letting it go. my question is how long does it take to get that trust back ?

it all started with my step-son missing the bus the last 2 mornings b/c he fell back to sleep on the couch after my wife goes to work in the morning. she attempts to call him to wake him up and he doesn't hear the phone ring. luckily my wife works close by so the 1st morning she left work to take him but yesterday morning she couldn't leave so I had to rush home from work( I work 25 minutes away) to take him. she wanted to keep him home b/c " I don't need him to hear your mouth and upsetting him before school." then tonight, I find out that there is an hour delay tomorrow b/c of the cold here in the northeast ( might as well cancel school for the winter in the Midwest lol ). my wife said she was keeping him home b/c it is pointless and no one will be there( afterwards she said she was jk). i did get upset b/c kids shouldn't miss school unless they are physically unable to go. I told her that she doesn't take his education seriously and her response was, " look at what education did for you."( btw i have a 2 yr degree). the ultimate slap in the face was when I got told, " you are too strict, he's not even your kid. you need to mind your business." this was told to me over the phone while I was driving to work so I calmly hung up the phone and finished my drive to work. it is not a constant problem but its a problem that won't go away and the problem is: what is my role when it is not my kid? any advice is always greatly appreciated.

I received a friend request on Facebook today from a female friend who I haven't seen or spoken to in quite some time. we used to hang out with mutual friends but we lost touch over the year. I am happily married for 2 yrs. with a little boy and 2 step-kids. my page on Facebook has a pic of my wife and I and her name appears on the page as well. I gave her my password so she could go on there anytime she wanted. there has been some trust issues in the past( 5 yrs. in the past, mind you) but I feel they have been put aside and we have worked through it, so I thought. my wife went on my page and saw that I had accepted this request. she said that I had no right to accept that request and that " I know what you do on there." I told her I did nothing wrong. you have my password. she said" when was the last time you spoke to this girl?" umm, isn't that what Facebook is for? to re-connect with past friends? in the past, I would have let my anger get the best of me but this time I remained calm and didn't allow myself to get caught up in this. I went to sleep b/c I work overnights. I woke up, got ready, ignored whatever babble she was saying and left for work. I received a text from my wife saying we should go our separate ways, you ruin my life, and so on and so on. I basically told her I did nothing wrong and that I am shutting my phone off. very simple, who is right and wrong in this situation? if you need more info I can update it. thank you