Zackary

Hello.

I'm not openly. I never came out to anybody. My friends are homophobic and lately many girls are hitting on me. Sometimes in front of my friends, so I don't know what to do. Today at school a girl stopped me to ask for my name and class, she was cute, but I'm not attracted to girls. My friends were like laughing and saying "dude, what are you doing, ask her out etc"

I don't think I'm cute but aparently some girls does (boys don't, cause I was never hit by another boy)

What good excuse I can use to avoid the girls and expain to my friends?

I have a crush on this boy I've never seen before (only by fb) he's from my city, and he's my first gay boy crush. He's not openly (but I know he's gay), neither me.

He's friends with my ex-girlfriend, so I can't add him on fb. I have to meet him "accidentaly" on some party.

There's this party in two weeks. He's going, and I know nobody who's going but my ex-gf.

If I go to the party, I'm taking a big risk. I mean, If he wants me back, it's gonna worth it, but if he doesn't... My ex-gf will discover and tell everybody about me. All for nothing.

Do you think I should go to the party or find another way? Like, adding him on facebook hoping my ex-gf doesn't notice?

I did that 'how to ask a closeted guy out' question, and people were just like 'how do you know he's really gay?'

Just for the record, he's gay friendly and have a few gay friends.

I'll list the reasons here ( I know each reason separately isn't enought to assume that someone's gay or not, but all of them? I think it's a little bit suspicious.)

1- Despite he's very handsome, till this day on he only had one serious girlfriend (that lasted only 5 months). (srsly, he's really pretty, he's a swimmer, has a perfect body/face, he could get any girl he wants to.)

2- He studies architecture (here, 80% of the boys that study architecture are gay)

3- He likes female singers/bands like Ellie Goulding, Jessie J, Evanescence.

4- He likes to go out with friends, but doesn't go to parties (Same as me, I don't go to parties so I don't have to face girls hitting on me)

5- I've shown his instagram to a out gay boy and he told me that he might be a closeted gay

6- He constantly uses emoticons on his posts, like hearts.

I know as well that those reasons are not a 'gay indicative', but you have to agree with me and say that there's a chance that he's gay.

What do you think?

I'm closeted too. I like him, and I think he might be gay (or bi, at least).

I don't fall for str8 guys when I'm sure they're st8, but i've got a feeling that this one isn't.

I never dated any boy, only girls. So, I'm totally inexperienced. Help?

I didn't meet him yet, but he's friends with my ex-girlfriend, and he's really handsome. He doesn't even know that I exist.

He's in college, and I've got a feeling that he's gay, although he looks very straight and had a girlfriend once (but so did I, this means nothing, right?)

If he's gay, we both are closeted and I don't know how to get to know him. Should I text him annonimously? If so, what should I say? I can't be direct, I'm going to scare him.

I think it would be nice to start a friendship first, but how? We don't go to the same places at all.

Please, could you guys help me?

He lives in the next city, so we never actually met in person. We eventually talk to each other on Twitter. We like the same bands, movies, series n a lot of stuff. We really have a lot in common.

I'm not openly and neither him, but I'm 80% sure that his gay, cause he likes some girly stuff, like Taylor Swift, Pink and movies with Lindsay Lohan on it, have lots of gay friends and never had a actuall girlfriend, despite he doesn't act gay n he's handsome (he's 17yo). Those things usually mean something right?

Anyway, we talk a lot on Twitter, but I always end talking a lot more than him, and he never txt me on facebook chat. How can I get more attention from him?

Sometimes I think that's because I almost never post anything like pictures of me (I'm pretty reserved). I have a few pictures of me online. Girls find me attractive.

Please, help me with hints to get his attention.

Ps: When I describe him, I don't want to sound prejudiced about gays, if you feel ofended, I'm really sorry. I'm new on this thing, so I'll ask you a little bit of patience.

They're Vans, but I want the name of the shoe style, so I can look for other brands.

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m7saveOdqC1roz26...

Thanks

Hey, I'm a straight boy, but a couple of months ago I started this boy crush.

There was three students from Austria in town, and me and my friends was hanging out with them. I was cool with that, having a lot of fun, but at some moment, one of them said to me:

"I think this guy is gay, I'm serious... he's like 16 and don't show interest on girls.."

At this moment, I don't know why, but everything changed... I started to fall for him. We went to the amusement park and he wanted to stay on my side on roller coaster. Our friends even did a sleep over party, and we shared a bed (no homo, each one on a side of the bed, we didn't even touched each other).

He doesn't look like gay, he looks totally straight, and he's pretty cool, all the girls want him.

My friends went to a party with the austrians, I didn't, because I got sick. A friend of mine tell me that, like 7 girls wanted to kiss him, and his best girl friend chose one for him. (I asked this girl, his bf, if he's really gay, and she said: I guess so.)

Anyway, he already left, went back to Austria. I still like him, and I'm planning to go visit him and my other friends there by the end of this year!

I'm really confused! He kissed the girl, and I don't know now. is he gay? Is he straight?

Should I give up?

Na verdade eu gosto de sair com os amigos, curtir e tal, mas quando fala em festa, minha mente já começa a pensar nas desculpas... Já até perdi alguns amigos pela quantidade de desculpas que eu dava... uma hora fica chato né?

Eu tenho MUITA vergonha de falar para meus amigos que eu não gosto de ir em festas!

Mas eu não me sinto bem nelas, não gosto de dançar nem nada.

Mas ao mesmo tempo, fico com medo de ficar recusando e acabar perdendo mais amigos ainda. Todo mundo que eu conheço gosta de festa... Aliás, quem não gosta? Só eu mesmo!!

Até para chegar nas meninas, prefiro muito mais um ambiente tranquilo, calmo...

Aliás, me considero muito anti-social por causa disso, e sou muito caseiro também!