Bea

I met a guy who’s going through a divorce. We hit it off straight away, he bought me gifts and we were always messaging. We were mad about each other. After 2 weeks, his ex visited the house they’re selling to finalise the divorce and his messages started to change. He still messaged everyday and initiated conversations, but something was different. I was about to go to his one night, he rang me to say I wouldn’t be able to stay because he had an argument with his ex. She demanded to come round to the house to clear it for viewings at 8am the next day and he just didn’t want to even risk her knowing about me because he wants a clean slate after the divorce without her knowing his personal life. The next week he still messaged me everyday to see how I was. I got sick and had to go to hospital. I got upset on the day of my procedure as he hadn’t messaged me. The next day I said to him ‘I would’ve really appreciated a messaged from you yesterday and to have felt like you cared about my procedure’. He then said I don’t want to make your situation worse but I just don’t know if I’m what you need at the moment. I have realised I’m not ready for a serious commitment but I just don’t think I can offer you what you want right now’. I told him ‘I want you to be happy and I hope I’m still here when you’re ready’. He said ‘I just need some time to figure out what I want and where my heads at’. It’s been 3 weeks and I’ve made no contact. Will he come back? I’m convinced he’s the one.

I met a guy who’s going through a divorce. We hit it off straight away, he bought me gifts and we were always messaging. We were mad about each other. After 2 weeks, his ex visited the house they’re selling to finalise the divorce and his messages started to change. He still messaged everyday and initiated conversations, but something was different. I was about to go to his one night, he rang me to say I wouldn’t be able to stay because he had an argument with his ex. She demanded to come round to the house to clear it for viewings at 8am the next day and he just didn’t want to even risk her knowing about me because he wants a clean slate after the divorce without her knowing his personal life. The next week he still messaged me everyday to see how I was. I got sick and had to go to hospital. I got upset on the day of my procedure as he hadn’t messaged me. The next day I said to him ‘I would’ve really appreciated a messaged from you yesterday and to have felt like you cared about my procedure’. He then said I don’t want to make your situation worse but I just don’t know if I’m what you need at the moment. I have realised I’m not ready for a serious commitment but I just don’t think I can offer you what you want right now’. I told him ‘I want you to be happy and I hope I’m still here when you’re ready’. He said ‘I just need some time to figure out what I want and where my heads at’. It’s been 3 weeks and I’ve made no contact. Will he come back? I’m convinced he’s the one.

I met a guy who’s going through a divorce. We hit it off straight away, he bought me gifts and we were always messaging. We were mad about each other. After 2 weeks, his ex visited the house they’re selling to finalise the divorce and his messages started to change. He still messaged everyday and initiated conversations, but something was different. I was about to go to his one night, he rang me to say I wouldn’t be able to stay because he had an argument with his ex. She demanded to come round to the house to clear it for viewings at 8am the next day and he just didn’t want to even risk her knowing about me because he wants a clean slate after the divorce without her knowing his personal life. The next week he still messaged me everyday to see how I was. I got sick and had to go to hospital. I got upset on the day of my procedure as he hadn’t messaged me. The next day I said to him ‘I would’ve really appreciated a messaged from you yesterday and to have felt like you cared about my procedure’. He then said I don’t want to make your situation worse but I just don’t know if I’m what you need at the moment. I have realised I’m not ready for a serious commitment but I just don’t think I can offer you what you want right now’. I told him ‘I want you to be happy and I hope I’m still here when you’re ready’. He said ‘I just need some time to figure out what I want and where my heads at’. It’s been 3 weeks and I’ve made no contact. Will he come back? I’m convinced he’s the one.

I've been dating a man for 4 months and he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship at the minute. He looks after me so well when I am with him but it seems when we get close he pulls away eg One time he introduced me as his Mrs and didn't talk to me for a week. He didn't end up spending New Years with me and when one of my friends spent New Years with me instead she said he didn't deserve me. I texted him in tears telling him how upset I was from what she had said he said, 'she is right, I was a dick'.

I texted him this morning saying 'I think the best thing I can do at the moment is give you time to yourself. I love you and being with you literally makes me the happiest girl in the world but I need to realise my worth and hopefully you will too before anyone else. I can't be selfish and stay around just for my own reasons'

He didn't respond for 4 hours and when he did he responded with 'yeah I think it's a good idea I just need some time to think about what exactly is i'm wanting'

When we're with each other everything seems so perfect, but do you think he will come back and want to be with me? I'm scared he might not and he'll meet someone else as this happened with my ex. Have I done the right thing?

I've been dating a man for 4 months and he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship at the minute. He looks after me so well when I am with him but he didn't end up spending New Years with me and when one of my friends spent New Years with me instead she said he didn't deserve me. I texted him in tears telling him how upset I was from what she had said he said, 'she is right, I was a dick'.

I texted him this morning saying 'I think the best thing I can do at the moment is give you time to yourself. I love you and being with you literally makes me the happiest girl in the world but I need to realise my worth and hopefully you will too before anyone else. I can't be selfish and stay around just for my own reasons'

He responded with 'yeah I think it's a good idea I just need some time to think about what exactly is i'm wanting'

When we're with each other everything seems so perfect, but do you think he will come back and want to be with me? I'm scared he might not and have I done the right thing?

I've been seeing a man for over 8 months now. I have a lot of feelings for this man, I asked him if he had feelings for me too, he said yes. He then told me that he'd reached a stage in life where he doesn't even think about falling in love or commitment, that he'd been heartbroken so many times that that part of him is just switched off. I've tried to get over him before, but I can't because I'm deeply in love with him. I can't leave him because I've fallen so hard for him, and just the thought of him dying a lonely old man upsets me so much. I hold on to the hope that he will see sense. I've considered starving him of attention to see how he'd survive without me. What can I do to make him love again?

I've been seeing a man for over 8 months now. I have a lot of feelings for this man, I asked him if he had feelings for me too, he said yes. He then told me that he'd reached a stage in life where he doesn't even think about falling in love or commitment, that he'd been heartbroken so many times that that part of him is just switched off. I've tried to get over him before, but I can't because I'm deeply in love with him. I can't leave him because I've fallen so hard for him, and just the thought of him dying a lonely old man upsets me so much. What can I do to make him love again?

I was having a conversation that turned sexual with a man I'm seeing and I'm sort of lost as to what he meant?! ...

Me: you'll just have to burn out my energy

I take it you won't have any problem doing that

Him: what makes you think so?

Oh I know you take it ;)

Me: just a presumption

You could always prove it

Him: Ah well you shouldn't presume that, if you want it you should take it yourself

Me: maybe I'll do that

Him: I like that sound of that

Just not sure how to interpret this part?!

I had unprotected sex with a colleague the day before last. We had unprotected sex because he didn't have any condoms. He didn't pull out though and he came inside of me. I was on day 2 of my period though. What are the chances I could get pregnant?

I was seeing a colleague under wraps for 3 months and last month I found out from his roommate that he was also seeing another girl. I was upset because he hadn't been honest with me like he always said he would be, and because I was so hurt I texted him how what he'd done had made me feel. I expected him to talk to me about it, but he carried on acting like nothing had happened. Last week was only when I realised he'd stepped up a bit. Someone at work said I was pretty and with that he heard it being said, walked over to where me and the other guy were and changed the subject. Then I also realised he was looking over at me a bit more and had started flirting with me like how we were before we were even together. Last night we were at a party, and although we kept it under wraps that we had been together, someone came up to us and said 'I can tell you two are in love'. I waited to see his he just smiled. But when I got home, he sent me a text saying "hmmm you're different level". I don't know what to think of any of these signals or what he meant by "different level". Someone please help?

I've been seeing a guy for nearly 2 months. He came back from a 3 week holiday and I couldn't wait to see him because distance has really made the heart grow fonder for me. While I was with him I jokingly asked did you get with anyone else out there? and with that he said what do you mean get with? then when I told him to tell me, he said he kissed 2 girls. We were then making out and by his body language he wanted us to have sex. But I almost feel like I've been cheated on, so I just couldn't let him. I don't know what he wants. I felt like I was love with him. Can he now ever feel the same back?

I don't know what to do.

I'm very much in love with a 26 year old guy. I'm 18, and we spend hours and hours making out and spending time together because we love each other. but i'm starting to question how much he loves me. today, I said to him do you think i'm too young for you? because he always comments on my age and makes jokes out of it. and all he had to say was you're very young. but he carried on kissing me. He missed his train especially so he could spend extra time with me, but I feel a bit hurt because when I asked him again he said I was too young for him, but I said so you don't love me? and he said no, I do love you. I feel so confused. He says I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever come across and I make him ridiculously happy, yet I'm too young for him. I don't have a clue what this means, does he actually love me? I almost feel hurt. help?!

I'm very much in love with a 26 year old guy. I'm 18, and we spend hours and hours making out and spending time together because we love each other. but i'm starting to question how much he loves me. today, I said to him do you think i'm too young for you? because he always comments on my age and makes jokes out of it. and all he had to say was you're very young. but he carried on kissing me. He missed his train especially so he could spend extra time with me, but I feel a bit hurt because when I asked him again he said I was too young for him, but I said so you don't love me? and he said no, I do love you. I feel so confused. He says I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever come across and I make him ridiculously happy, yet I'm too young for him. I don't have a clue what this means, does he actually love me? I almost feel hurt. help?!

I'm 18 years old, and when my parents found out my boyfriend's age they flipped out. They started saying he was a paedophile and only wanted me for one thing, and they haven't even met him. I know him and I know he's nothing like that. He's even said he wants to take things really slow. My dad said I'm not going out with him and I'm never to see him again. They just want me to marry their perfect guy and not mine. It's not fair. Why can't they let me live my life the way I want to?

I'm secretly dating this guy and we keep talking about having sex. I'm 17 and he's 19. I'm a virgin and he doesn't know though. He said he's going to 'dominate' me. I don't exactly know what this means so if someone could explain that'd be great. Will it really hurt that much the first time though? Should I just give him head instead?

I'm secretly dating this guy and we keep talking about having sex. I'm 17 and he's 19. I'm a virgin and he doesn't know though. He said he's going to 'dominate' me. I don't exactly know what this means so if someone could explain that'd be great. Will it really hurt that much the first time though?

I'm secretly dating this guy and we keep talking about having sex. I'm 17 and he's 19. I'm a virgin and he doesn't know though. He said he's going to 'dominate' me. I don't exactly know what this means so if someone could explain that'd be great. Will it really hurt that much the first time though?

I know one day I would like to own my own hotel, nightclub, or restaurant, but I do not know how I can achieve this and ever afford university fees too and the living costs that will be brought with it. I have no financial support from my parents because they believe my ambitions are too big. The only way I am currently earning money is through 1 waitressing shift per week as the place I work at has taken on too many staff. I am bringing in £35 a week and cannot see where I can fix these cracks. I pretty much feel so self worthless right now. No one will support me, whilst all my friends move up in the world with people giving them all the support they need.

I met this guy 9 months ago at college, and I've liked him ever since then. In fact, I've never felt like this about any other guy so I think it's love. We spoke over Christmas and we talked about marriage, kids and baby names, all of which topics he started, and when he spoke of marriage, he said 'I don't know when I want to get married, depends if I have met the right person', which I thought may be a hint. He also told me I was pretty during that time. But now when he sees me, he smiles at me with no emotion. He use to smile at me so happily, and sometimes he won't even smile. I personally find it hard to talk to him because I get so nervous around him, but we only speak now and then. But this week a few things changed. He didn't realise I was in the room and his friends were looking through his emails, and they came across one he'd sent to me. And then one said Cas, isn't that the one you fancy/fancied? (I don't know which of the 2 it was), and all his friends started teasing him saying you want to do what with Cas? And out of no where, his friendship group apart from him shout John whenever they see me. And someone wrote on his facebook let's hope John likes it. I'm so confused!