Allie

Im dating a man with a traumatic brain injury. I have had a lot of patience with the things that upset me. We were discussing a baby of mine I that passed away. I mentioned I was alone and he said " did your husband want you to get rid of it". I said please dont refer to my aon as it or say get rid of it. Knowing is brain issues i stayed calm and assumed it wasnt meant to hurt me. However when he said dont lecture me. I was quiet a moment nd than said maybe we shouldnt have this conversation but he hung up on me. Losing my child is devestating and id think even with his tbi he could say im sorry baby

But instead he yells at ME and hangs up. I love him deeply but his brain injury causes him to well lack a heart at times. Apology is not in his vocabulary. I try to be supportive but wondering where to cut the line

I will do my best to keep it short and to the point. Ill answer whatever question you have past that.

I dated a guy for 2 months. I left him about a month ago.

It was a toxic relationship.

*Side note: He was released from prison in February after an 11 year stay as the result of 20 charges (crimes such as home invasion, grand theft, armed robbery,etc). He was 18 when arrested. Is about to turn 30.

He did want me back but didn't pursue it much at all until I told him I started talking to someone else. Which I am. No, I have not cheated on him despite his regular accusations and name calling.

he never grabbed me or hit me, however he has prevented me from leaving his home on one occasion.

When he saw I showed NO signs of wanting to be with him paired with finding out Im talking to someone else he became enraged, still, he hasn't shown up at my door. He sent me many texts calling me a slut amongst other things. Wouldn't stop after being told to. I had a male friend call and eh did. he said stay away from her and hung up. They continued bickering through text a bit that day and it stopped. My ex threatened me but it was vague such as "You and your buddy are messing with the wrong guy and you will both have problems with me". When asked what he said I will find out. I told him to stop or Im calling the cops. He didn't stop. I did just to get this stuff on record and was told after 2 weeks or so of this I need to go back to them and they will get him on stalking charges. he has since been texting me with another number (friend and I assume a pre paid phone bc its an area code for out of state although he pretends to be someone else (a friend of my ex). He messages me a lot to tell me Im a whore. I don't think a random person who doesn't know me would feel this devoted to harass me. I have not responded as told by the cops. I cant understand why after only a two month relationship he is reacting this intensely. He is unstable, much probably due to being messed up in prison for so long. So, in your opinion, do you think this will fade away? Or is he obsessed and will hang on to this for a while?

with her.

I don't think that makes much logical sense. How about you?

They are all in categories. Some, obvious, others are only obvious to me.

I don't care what spelling you use. Im using the spelling used in the lists Im following.

1* Girl

FN: Jasmine, Lily, Brooke, Ocean, Star, Sky, Rain, Stormy, Azalea, Daisy, Fern, Holly, Ivy, Iris

MN: Coral, Violet, Amber, Jade, Rose, Sage, Scarlett, Sienna, Catalina, Olive, Claret, Folly

2* Boy

FN: Kenny, Brad, Jason, Easton, Alan, Zac, Jake, Clint, Garth, Toby, Charlie, Eric, Luke, Lee

MN: Robby, Jay, Cliff, Ryan, Carlos, Peter, Cale, Ronnie, David, Sam, Tommy, Shawn, Steven

3* Girl

FN: Adriana, Aldabella, Alessandra, Alessia, Alina, Anna, Antonella, Antonietta, Ariella, Carla

MN: Carmela, Caterina, Consetta, Cosima, Donettella, Elena, Eliana, Franca, Francesca

4* Boy

FN: Phillipos, William, Harry, Floris, Carl, Phillip, Adam, Ali, John, Shang-Li, Naveen, Flynn

MN: Chase, Reid, Seth, Troy, Brett, Blake, Bryce, Dale, Mark, Nate, Joe, Paul, Vince, Charles

5* Girl

FN: Anneliese, Angelina, Abigail, Arabella, Autumn, Aubree, Alison, Alyssa, Anne, Avery, Ashlyn

MN: Juliet, Josephine, Jocelyn, Jacklyn, Jane, Julia, Johanna, Judith, Jonie, Jenna, Jalissa

6* Boy

FN: Liam, Ethan, Noah, Mason, Jacob, Jack, Aiden, Logan, Lukas, Jackson, Jayden, Benjamin

MN: Gray, Crimson, Ash, Beau, Cypress, Carmine, Mindaro, Umber, Slate, Roman, Kenyan

7* Girl:

FN: Elizabeth, Saralina, Tatiana, Victoria, Breanelise, Jilliana, Gabriella, Lilliana, Penelope

MN: Ann-Drew, Maycin, Franklynn, Mykah, Wesleigh, Carsyn, Lucah, Paulie, Berry, Cayden

8* Boy

FN: George, Thomas, James, Andrew, Martin, William, Zachary, Millard, Franklin, Abraham

MN: Edward, Howard, Ernest, Archimedes, Edwin, Nicolaus, Gottlieb, Henry, Enrique,Tuan

9* Girl

FN: Beatrice, Helena, Valentine, Miranda, Bianca, Constance, Hermione, Ophelia, Nerissa

MN: Persephone, Athena, Phoebe, Rhiannon, Minerva, Keto, Alala, Callista, Lakshmi, Maya

10: Boy

FN: Arthur, Percy, Stephano, Edmund, Robert, Geoffrey, Walter, Nick, Antonio, Michael

MN: Mathew, Timothy, Jude, Jonah, Joshua, Ezekiel, Joel, Amos, Malachi, Jeremiah, Isaiah

Holly Scarlett; Jason Robby; Adriana, Consetta; Adam Blake; Abigail Juliet, Mason Ash; Gabriella Maycin, James Nicolaus; Miranda Callista, Geoffrey Mathew

and met in person? How did that turn out for you?

Assuming you had to name your kids based on some strict rules, what would you opt for under these different scenerios?

1* B/G Twins. Names are FB friends. The B & G must have the same amount of syllables in both names.OR same intials Ex. Anne Jessa & Bob Lukas or Jan Avery & Joseph Alexander

(G) First name choices:

Melissa, Alexa, Natalie, Robin, Veronica, Taylor, Jackie, Jamie, Krissy, Elena, Jan, Angela

MN: Kimberly, Kathleen, Carrie, Kelly, Jade, Vicki, Marie, Sierra, Danielle, Rachel, Brittany

(B) FN: Danny, Shawn, Michael, Paul, Jamie, Albert, Richard, AJ, Chris, Nicholas, Anthony

MN: Vinney, James, Jay, Peter, Leon, Brandon, Dustin, Chase, Joe, Quinton, Tripton, Jason

2* Pick a word; Hope, Love, Faith, or Grace and the first letter of each name starts with the next in line.You pick genders. Middle names start from the opposite end. Ex, you pick HOPE.Henry Edward, Olive Paige,etc

3* What is a "popular" girl name you have never met someone with?

4* What is a "popular" boy name you have never met someone with?

5* Does your preferred spelling for the end sound LEE change depending on the name?

Ex. Maybe you like Kailey with an LEY but Hailee with LEE.

6* What are a few names that regardless of how you feel about the name itself you wouldn't use bc of an unpleasant connotation(image) you have with it?

7* This or that Girl

Jasmine or Lily

Brooke or Coral

Sky or Star

Stormy or Rainey

Ruby or Pearl

Summer or Winter

Scarlett or Sienna

Brooklyn or Dallas

April or June

Dakota or Carolina

Asia or Ireland

Faith or Grace

This or that boy

Ash or Linden

River or Forest

Gray or Jasper

Austin or Reno

Bronx or Kingston

Justice or Zeal

Heath or Lotus

Now out of the names you chose from this or that make one first and middle name each gender.

~ My choices

1. Taylor Danielle & Jamie Brandon

2. GRACE (G) Gabriella Everlie, (B) Randy Chase, (G) Abigail Annelise, (B) Camden Reid, (G) Emily Gianna

3. I have never met a Piper.

4. I have never met a Caden

5. Yes, I like Hailee, Ashlee, Caylee, Riley

6. Maggie (always loved this name but recently I think its too close to maggots.)

7. Jasmine, Brooke, Star, Rainey, Ruby, Summer,Sienna, Brooklyn, June, Carolina, Ireland, Grace

Ash, River, Gray, Austin, Bronx, Justice, Heath

Sienna Brooke & Austin Gray

I am only curious. I have a fairly new boyfriend. He had convinced me to go to his church. I am not Christian, however spiritual. I liked his church but than we split up. I found a new one I really really like and it, just like his has many positive oppurtunities. Its much more than the typical, sing and listen and leave type of church. I get what I get from it, even if their main principle is something I don't agree with, I view the stories as moral guidelines as opposed to listening to it in a literal sense (Jesus walked on water, Jesus is more than a prophet,etc).

With all that said, we are taking a small breather (long story but necessary for personal reasons). What I am concerned about it down the road, it would seem odd to me for a couple to attend two churches, however he is deep in his and I may end up that way with mine. His family attends his, I attend alone. It only makes sense for me to merge but I plan on getting involved with the volleyball team and all these other programs.

We have two kids together, daughter is 11 and our son is almost 10. The girlfriend has a boy of her own whom is 7. She is not a very nice mother to her own son. Overall she is decent to my daughter, however she is not at all nice to my son. Once she even smacked him in the back of the head. They went on a long ride and denied him anything to drink even once they reached their destination at her brother's home. She gives him dirty looks and snaps at him. Of course, when boyfriend is there she is super sweet. My daughter verifies all of this. There is more to tell but that's a brief of it. I try to go through my ex to take care of this however he either denies it can possibly be true or says he will talk to her and nothing changes. My son has told me he loves his father but doesn't like him. I am sure this is in part because he sides with his girlfriend and also in part because the father who used to be very involved, and I mean a very hands on dad now is a father who cant take his kid to the park without girlfriend and step kid in tow and even that is rare. He has been like this the entire year n a half and now he is back on steroids so the cold heart will probably make this situation worse. What can I do other than end up in jail?

I know this woman quite well and am not surprised by any of this.

I am divorced. My ex lives with his girlfriend. The children are not pressured to stay or go to either home if they choose not to. My son rarely will go. With that said sometimes while they are at his house he may leave to go to work for example, I may decide if he isn't there than I want the children with me, even if that means they decide to go to a friend's house. He says sometimes the kids(usually just my daughter) wants to stay because of this or that. I never tell my daughter she cant or go and pick her up because I really don't want to put that stress on her, however if I am home and he is not, is it reasonable to tell him the kids need to come home until he can be there? To me this is a somewhat delicate situation because it reverts back to not pressuring them to stay or go. My ex and I have a very good relationship (for being divorced) but this is something we don't agree on.

We have two kids together, daughter is 11 and our son is almost 10. The girlfriend has a boy of her own whom is 7. She is not a very nice mother to her own son. Overall she is decent to my daughter, however she is not at all nice to my son. Once she even smacked him in the back of the head. They went on a long ride and denied him anything to drink even once they reached their destination at her brother's home. She gives him dirty looks and snaps at him. Of course, when boyfriend is there she is super sweet. My daughter verifies all of this. There is more to tell but that's a brief of it. I try to go through my ex to take care of this however he either denies it can possibly be true or says he will talk to her and nothing changes. My son has told me he loves his father but doesn't like him. I am sure this is in part because he sides with his girlfriend and also in part because the father who used to be very involved, and I mean a very hands on dad now is a father who cant take his kid to the park without girlfriend and step kid in tow and even that is rare. He has been like this the entire year n a half and now he is back on steroids so the cold heart will probably make this situation worse. What can I do other than end up in jail?

The brief. Divorce after 12 yrs for another woman. Spent most of that time cheating with ex wife. Most recently we've grown much closer. His lies have obviously escalated as he fakes work call outs to be with me and lies about why he took hours getting home from picking up our kids, 9&10 according to my daughter who is not a messenger at all. me and father communiCate very well. it was her observation she shared with me. he has always been careful with his words but expressed loving me and missing so much about me but then said life goes on I guess. well two nights ago after a nice (sexless)night together I asked him to stay. he said he can't an maybe we should stop hanging out like weve been. I said ok and walked away as to not cry. he leaves and walks right back in bailing like a baby. Leading up to this day as I've said we grew very close. He as expressed hating to leave when he went home and he just wanted to stay. so I'm not.going to date him anymore bc im surrendering and I'm just not going back there but has anyone ever actually came back after being cut off from that affection?

Ill be going on a cruise for my first time. It will be my boyfriend and I, his two teens and my kids whom at the time will be 9&11. Assuming they either check in or we check in on them and have a location of where they will be(they will stay together), would it be considered fairly safe? My ex husband says it would be but I have never been and while not a helicopter parent, I def want to ensure they would be fairly safe. Id never let them free at an amusement park but on a cruise they couldnt get out.

Do you allow the other parent to enter the home either without knocking, asking or otherwise being invited? Is it a double standard? Are one of you welcome to enter ones home but the other one of you do not?

Obviously all are free to answer but unless this applies to you personally or even at least applies to someone you know, your answers/feelings would have little impact on me. Many things change when that moment comes. Thanks

while he has a girlfriend. More so a girlfriend he left his wife for whom he loves.

You are this guy.

He left 7 months ago for someone else. Through the seperation Ive come to see I dont want him. The main reason that keeps me strong with this idea is he isnt brng a good man to the girl he left me for. Trust me, I know first hand!

We get along well, the politics are good. I have a bf I am happy with and have early feelings of feeling in love though its all soon and nothing like what i developed in the 12 years I was with my soon to be ex. But that day will come :) I had worked hard to where I am emotionally. I feel disappointed but still have love to give and Im ok. Tuesday is our final divorce and all week Ive been having low self esteem, even crying again. Ive regressed. I dont want him but Im starting to feel anxious about my relationship with my BF worrying that Im not loveable and that he may leave at the drop of a dime way down the road. My husband was loving until the VERY end he acted as low he was crazy about me. I never had a chance to fix anything. I try to remmeber my bf is a new person, not my ex but feeling shook up a bit and second guess my every move this past week. Im hoping that after Tuesday it will be a relief, its done, and go back to how I felt a couple weeks ago. Like turning 30, I was worried but when it came I was like eh this is nothing. Im worried Im going to fall apart in the courtroom. Its an uncontested divorce so theres no battle. Its all agreed upon which helps.

How can an adult not be able to spit the words out if he is in love and knows the woman feels the same?

Doesnt make sense to me

Are tere certian things about certain name games that you dont like?

They are first and middle combos...did one like this earlier, these are different names.

1~ Boy!

Frank Lee; Journey Walker; Forrest Leaf;

2~ Girl!

Dora Belle; Ivy Lee; Sandy Brooke

3~ Boy!

Owen Bux; Moe Cash; Justin Case

4~ Girl!

Christian Faith; Maya Leia; Farrah Delia;

5~ Girl!

Avery Thyme; Love Storie; Tia Juana

6~ Boy!

Wilder River; Rich Manny; Will Chase

Id pick

Journey Walker

Sandy Brooke

Justin Case

Farrah Delia

Tia Juana

Will Chase

haha all horrible names!

They are first/middle combinations

1~ Girl!

Stormy Skye; Apple Bea; Karen Love; May Flower; Sue Mia, Micky Dee

2~ Boy!

Van Parker; Buck Hunter; Cole Len; Mick Donald; Ty Bo; Ash Trey; Harley Ryder

3~ Girl!

Ella Veda; Raynee Summer; Love Leigh; Avery Day; Joan Zen; Jewl Rae

Id have

May Flower

Van Parker

Avery Day