Tamra P

I been with my BFF for a yr. The best year ever. I mean.. We spent all our extra time together. He became my bestfriend, my lover. He was going through custody fight for his daughters. We talked about marriage and planned on moving in. Infect I gave my notice and have to be out at the end of the month. So.. Everything all fine and dandy and in one day everything changed. I caught him cheating. That wAS 2 weeks ago. A lot has changed. We are not together. He did cut everything off with that girl. I am still moving in to his house, but he is moving to his other property. I still wants a future with me. He still wAnts to be with me. Just to slow things down. He got scared and fell into another woman s pussy. Okay sry. . I m mad. I m hurt. I love him I can forgive. But really? He says he needs to recenter himself. I need to do that also and figure out what I wAnt. I m just wondering what I should do IF I want him back? Play the waiting game or play hard to get. I m not into games, but..I want results.. Ughhh.... Just any advise. . And I do know he loves me. I believe that he wants me in his life.

Our son is 9 yrs old. But I left him when our son was 1. He began to see an ex gf. Still is with her off and on. He pursued me for 3 years after I ended it. I gave in and we began to see each other. This has been going on for 4 years. In between relationships, during relationships. More recently I began to develope very deep feelings and I am not ok with this.. He still is living with a woman. He is goes back and forth between me and her. The only difference is that she chases him, she pursues him, while he pursues me and I am always running from him, if that makes sense. I think he wants me becasue he cant always have me and now, lately, I am being pulled in and I just need to stop. I want a relationship, I want him. but, am so scared that he wouldnt chose me. or that he wouldnt stop the merrygoround.. anyway, why will he not leave me alone? FAWKKK I am so dumb. But, we have ten years and a child and a friendship!

I took my 12 year old son to doctor for headaches. I brought him to urgent care, ecplained to the doctor he had been complaining of headaches. He asked him a few questions, did a short exam, stated that he had an enlarged lymph node in his neck, which, I felt and it was enlarged,. He had just gotten over a cold, has allergies. The doctor blurted out that he needs to see a surgeon and have biopsy for cancer and sent us to e.r. for catscan for brain bleed. Did not do any nuerological exam on him, what so ever!! We went to the E.R. where he told us to register for cat scan. THey put us in a e,r, room and er doc comes in and states that rarely do they ever do a catscan on a person under 18, there brain is still developing and they have no idea what the effects are of the radiation. He did an exam nuerological and everything was fine, he talked with my son about the headaches and his symptoms and concluded that he thought it was stress and anxiety. THe headaches started when school started a few weeks ago. He felt his gland, and considering he just got done with a cold, that he is okay, but suggested we get in to primary. Now, the first doctor is tryign to get him in to see surgeon!! And still pushing a CT!.. I am soo frustrated, and my son, is now convienced that he is dying, and something wrong with him!! I can not believe that this doctor has not done one blood test, nothing! And no only is he trying to convince me of brain bleed, but, now, lymphoma and cancer!!! WTF!!

I have been hanging out with this capicorn man for the last 2 months. everyday we in contact. some way or another. we both admitted to likeing each other.Nothing negative has ever happened, no disagreements, nothing. he has said he misses me when he don't get to see me, that he does not like feeling like that. we were skyping one night and he tell me i make him weak and he said he cares about me. that was a week and a half ago. last time I talked to him was a week ago. he text tuesday, hi, how are you. i responded but he has"nt. I don't understand that he tell me he cares and then thats it, nothing. Why would he stop talking to me. I am really lonesome for my friend. I just don't get it. we were so close.. any ideas

met this guy almost 2 months ago. spend all time together. i really like him and i know he likes me by his actions. he told me he cares for me. that was a little over a wk ago.then i didn't hear from him for 4 days, then we talked briefly and i was just my regular happy self, no probs, now its been another 4 days and I have'nt heard **** from him. I sent him one message and he hasn't read it yet? what is going on. Why would he say he cares for me one day and now, apparently doesn't know me... i dont get it. all his actions proved his words.

If you are with a woman and you really like her alot. Things are better than any other girl youve been with. Then some thing big happens.. your ex that you have children with, who is a complete nut job, distroys your relationship with this girl you like, gives you an ultimatim, like its her or your kids, you of course choose your children. Your not with your ex, you've been broke up for a year. However, ur ex is physically threatening to harm your girl. Make your kids suffer, etc. So you feel the best thing is just to not get in a relationship cause of all the drama and stress, and don't want anyone to get hurt. Specially the kids. So this girl you like is upset and you dont see her or talk to her for 2 weeks. Then you go to her house. Tell her your sorry. you see her or talk almost daily. Flirt a little. She sends you a msg. Telling you she still has feelings, she wants a place in your life, ask you that if theres nothing there, too just tell her so she can move on, asks, if you just want to be friend is okay, but just to tell her #1 WHY WOULD YOU NOT RESPOND? But see her and act like you never seen the message, Just continue on talking or kinda hanging out? #2 could a virgo still have feelings for this woman, but just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, and not know what to do? #3 should this woman just wait it out or move on? #4 what can she do to get him back? She misses him soo much! 10 POINTS FOR BEST ANSWER! And please no opinions on situation.. i know ite messed up, i justvreally need to know from a man/virgos point of view how hes feeling and what i should do<3

I started seeing a virgo in june, known for 10 years. Im an aries. We got so close the first month. Then it all went to hell. his crazy bm. I didnt do anything, jus over react to all the bs, ima aries:) we were still kinda together up until a month ago. When he deleted me from fb and changed his number. I was crushed! His bm(kids mom) went crazy, she stole his phone read our msgs. Threatened me. Made up horrible lies. They been broke up for 8 months. I live a block from him, i was so heart broken and didn't understand what i did or why he cut himself outta my life. 2 weeks after he stopped over, told me he was sorry, he unblocked me from fb. Wanted me to have his new #. Said he was being a big baby before. Cool. Couple times i asked if he wanted to come over. Told him how i feel, that i want him back. No response from him. However, we see each other even more than when we were together. Still kinda flirt, his fam want us together. But other than that NOTHING! I dont know what to think. I think he wants me in his life, or he never woulda come over that day. I jus dont know how. I want him back soo bad. coulda just as well of never come back in my life. Coulda got ovr him. Why he come back? Does he still want me? Confused in minnesota:)

I had been seeing this guy, we were seeing each other regularly, talking everyday for 4 weeks.. long enough to catch a case of the feelings.. for sure! I know he felt the same, and it was heaven! At yhe beginning he told me, well be both stated we weren't looking for a relationship. Fine, but that didnt stop us from pushing ahead with all these feelings, and talked about down the road being bf/gf. We both told people about each other, family,friends, etc. We've known eqch other for 10 years and his siblings and mom all were happy and say he like me alot. The thing is, he has a physco babymomma, and he didn't want her to find out, cuz shes a nut job. Last girl he dated, 8 months ago. His baby mom walked in that girls house, beat the crap outtta her and drove her truck n to that girls car, and smashed out every window.. shes crazy! Anyway, she found out and started a bunch of ****. My guy, was like" this **** gonna have to quit, to many haterz.. and thats it! 2 days he hasnt talked to me or msg. Me. His kids are his world and she constantly threatens him that she'll take them away n kill herself. Ugh! I qm so hurt, ajd im getting upset that he jus shutdown and walk away from me.. i mean i understand she got him by the balls. So my question is, can a guy, just shut there feelings off like that? I dont get it. Smh! Just cuz she miserable, she wants him the same way, and, its now interfering with my life! I was happy, and i know he was too;( we live a block away from him. I just want to go over there and hug him, but way hes treating me, hurts.

I dont know what to do.. i have been seeing this guy. We totally have hit it off and things were moving really fast. I know he felt exact same way. I fell in love. We talked about being bf/gf. In the future. There are some complicating things that stand in the way. But we were both good doing our thing. Then.. like lightening one day everything changed. he said we had gotten to close, can't have the stress of a relationship, etc. I was crushed. For a few days i kinda quarreled with him , stateing my feelings.. whatever, i was all over the place emotionaly, he hardly talked to me. But a couple days later he say were fine, just cant be as close.(can't spend as much time together..etc.) o.k. i told him i take that i'll give him his space. He comes over the other night. Awesome. Seems like we back on. Not quite like before, but o.k. that was 2 days ago. Yesterday was a bad day for him. Tonight we textn and i asked him if i was still the only girl he with and to be honest. No reply from him, whatsoever. This is odd, because usually hes right on. I don't think he is with other girls, i jus don't think he wants to be put on the spot abput us being exclusive . I jus don't know what im doing. I dont know how he feels or wants. My head says he doesn't want me, but my heart, knows how he feels. Can someone just drop there feelings like that? What do i do, i dont want to lose him, but i am affraid i am pushing him away. HELP!

Have been wit this guy fwb.. i know he really likes me, but doesnt want a gf. We have gotten so close nd i know there is alot of feeling between us. He said we got too close then suddenly backed off, for a week, now we talking again and hooked up. I dont know what i should do. I have fallen in love with him, and think he has for me too. I just dont know what hes thinking or wants. Can he, after developing these feelings, just shut those feelings off, but still have a physical relationship? I know i should ask him, but want to give it a lil more time. But i like him so much and am so scared that i could lose him. Idk what to do ir think? Pretend our lil week hiatis never happen and keep acting like i did before... Or should i let him know i like him( which he knows) but let him come after me... Also, is it even possible to turn fwb into something more. He said before he didnt want to be just another dick, that he didnt want to be like my exes (out of my life)and it wouldnt end unless i wanted it to.

Sincerely, confused

I have known this guy for 10 yrs. I just got out of a miserable relationship. started talking to this guy in a flirty sexual way. A few days later we hooked up. We talked about being fwb. He has a bm thats crazy and she is out to make his life miserable, specially if sye knew he was happy with some1. Take his kids away, etc. We all know each other, she is mental. So hr was wanting to keep things quiet . But at same time was just fine tellin peeps, his family. i becamee his. We spent all our free time together, which wasnt alot, both work, have kids, etc. But we talked all the time. Got so close. just wanted to be with ea. Othr. Talked about one day being bf/gf when time right. Everything was perfect. Then one day he was having a horrible day wit his ex.. sying she gonna take kids away. Also, my "bff" which is his cousin said a total lie about something i said about him, said i said he had a sm. One and other bs lies that i would never ever say! So he was mad. Not talking to me. But he realised i wouldnt say that crap about him. Then he was like.. we got to close, can't b n a relationship right now, to much stress, too many people talkng.. we can be friends but not "close". Said i'd rather b his fren than nuttin at all. One day i txt him told him i miss him so much and i know he miss me too, but its all good. He txt back all cool.. then i say when he gonna come see me and i would wait it out til he want me again cuz

I didnt want no other D. He responed "soon;)" he camee ovr that night,(this had been 1 week from our "breakup" thing) so he comes ovr we have amazing sex. Laughs about a few things that i said to him when we had our "falling out" . Said he had missed me. I still felt all the passion nd closeness we had before. Totally have a physical/mental/emotional bond with this guy. I am pretty sure if i feel it, he does too. We ha gotten so Dare i say love? Im jus scared he doenst want me ne more than fwb. How can i get back 2 where we were n how 2 get more

Has any other divorced woman felt like they need some ones o.k. To get divorced? If things just aren't working and you don't want to be married any more why the need to ask somebodies permission

i cheated on my husband while he was in jail. one time. as soon as he came home i told him everything. he is reaaly upset but we are both willing to do the work to stay together. over the past year ive had my suspisiousing that he had been using drugs. numourous times i asked and everytime he swore he wasnt. he looked high the other day and i asked and he said ya like its no big deal and said he had been getting high the last year. but says thats nothing compared to me cheating. hes been lieing to me for a year! the same doubts that led me to seek out someone else. what are others views on this and what should i do?

My 3 year old step-son has muscle problems. Me and his dad got together when he was 26 months. He runs very funny, its cute, however he is very slow and really swags his hips. When laying down on his back he cannot even lift his head up. His head is very uneven. His arms,have like no muscles, I can't feel them and he can not flex his muscles. When he walks up stairs, he has to put his hand on his knee to 'push' his body up, also, he has very poor reflexes, and kind of clumsy. He is right on as far as intelligence. Since I first noticed this in him, he really has not gotten any better. I have 5 children myself, and it does not seem normal at all to me. Apparently his biological mother used drugs during the pregnancy. I took him to a neurologist and he said that its a mild muscle disease... what does this mean.. and why isn't he getting better

I am a 36 year old female. recently my 59 year old father came and stayed with us for a couple of weeks, while I was packing up his things I notice a dvd in his jacket pocket"transsexual stars". Also a about 5 years ago, he had said his dvd player broke and was sitting by the garbage, he wasn't home so I was gonna take the top off to se if I could fix it, and there was a transsexual dvd in the player. I am really confused, does this mean that my dad is gay? He has been married 4 times, and just recently separated from his wife. he is a Vietnam vet and has been in prison a few times from d.w.i.'s. He has always been messed up from the war and suffers from p.t.s.d. has had heart attacks, has had a stroke about 2 years ago. I really don't know how to feel about this or what I should do, if I should say something to him, or tell my brother.. I just don't know what to do,, any advise or information would be soooooo helpful. I have nothing against any gay, or trans gender person, and would accept whatever it is that he chooses to be, I just am confused, I mean, why would he have these DVDs if he wasn't interested in that?

My boyfriend left me 2 days ago... hes with his ex... do men feel remorse, I mean, is he thinking at all about my feelings, feeling guilty, in pain over the lost of our relationship, or do men not have regrets or sadness

I think I have gotten pregnant before by putting my knees up (lay on back, knees bent) does anyone think this works, should I try it again..think I got preg twice before like this... I want to have another baby, any tips. I have 5 kids and my boyfriend has 7,, are the odds in our favor?? we are both 34, and I want to get preg within the next 2 months

for about 4 months, in this time I have seen him once, but I have known Him all my life. We have talked about not seeing other peeps, kinda, I mean really vaguely. well, I went out last night and met this guy, and kissed him, now I feel terrible and am wondering if I should tell the guy I have been in the long distance relationship? I want to be with this guy, I really care for him allot. He will be laid off from work and be around here for the winter, but should I be honest, or not tell him. Damn I am so messed up for even kissin some other guy. Help!! Conscience is kickin my ***!!

I have been dating this aries man, i have known him all my life, he is one of the best guys I have ever dated and am beginning to develope feelins for him. O kay, now i told him this, last night, when he was drinking, well this am he is saying hes a waste of time and not worth the worry, and don't want to dissapoint me, giving me warning. etc. well i jnow he likes me and i also know that any women would be lucky to catch his heart. I just don't know if he is affraid of messing up or if he is saying he aint in to me?? I mean we get along great, physically, emotionally, intellectually, we get along great! Why is he warning me? I'd like to believe that he is scared? oh yeah, I am also an aries, 7 days older