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Growing up with parents as strict as mine, the only way I could act out on my anger was through dating guys I knew my parents would hate for me. When I was 17, I was dating a guy who was 21. Two weeks into our relationship, we were in the car, making out in the back (which I didn t have a problem with until...), he began to unbutton his pants. He told me to give him head. At the time, I had never done that, so I was so scared. I didn t know what to do and when I saw I wasn t doing it how he wanted to, tears began to fell from my eyes. He still wanted me to do it so I tried again and when it wasn t what he wanted, we stopped. I couldn t stop the tears from falling from my eyes when we said goodbye cause at the time he just seemed so upset. Sadly we stayed together. (I wouldn t have allowed that now. But I was so insecure). The next day I did it and got better, and so forth.

So many people go through worse and scarier experiences than me, so I guess I ve never posed the question if he took advantage of me. But years later, I find myself having anxiety when it comes to dating abusive and manipulative guys. This is the only thing I can relate to that could possibly make me feel that way though. What do you think?

I met him about a year ago, when he was flying back out to the marine base. We kept in contact and eventually began calling each other everyday, skyping when we could, and texted. Four months into it, he drove from NC to see his family (a 16 hour drive). And then the day he got home, drove an extra 3 hours just to see me. We hung and it was great. We didn't kiss, but we both later said we wanted to. He claims he was too nervous. Anyways things seem to be better than ever for another month or two, till suddenly we stop talking. It just seemed like he wasn't making as much as an effort, so i stopped making one to.

About a month ago, he texted me wanting to catch up. I didn't bottle anything up and told him straight up that i think it's lame he just stopped talking to me without warning. If he needed space, (even though he claims he didn't), he should've told me. He said sorry, and wanted to start over. I didn't hear anything from him for a week, and never after a text or two never got a response back. Week later he calls me, and for about 20 minutes we just caught up. He told me he's coming into town in two weeks, and mentioned that he would want to take me out. I told him due to him falling of the face of the planet without warning, I didn't want to do so unless the next two weeks I saw real true effort. A call every few days. And if he can't, text me that. I don't feel like I'm asking for a lot.

Well he didn't and today is in town wanting to meet up soon. should i hangout?

I gave my number to this guy who texted me and after a few hours of texting asked me for a picture. I told him i didn't do that stuff and he asked nicely again and offered to send me a picture but i told him i wouldn't do it. I also said "i have a feeling this is the reason why you texted me in the first place.." and he said it wasn't (of course, what else would he say?). Anyways, it's obvious this guy just wants to get in my pants. And I'm still a virgin and don't want to lose that till i find somebody that i love. (that includes oral). do you think its possible to have a friends with benefits type relationship without going the full distance of having sex? or do you think it would be dangerous for me to attempt that cause i mean, he is a teenage guy, with hormones like any other, and could totally push me past my limits without me consent. (He's a strong guy, its possible!) im just thinking before i do anything with him. what do you think?

I gave this cute guy my number today that I've talked to a little. Not that much. He texted me and was texting me throughout the day and when it got to night told me he was horny and later on asked for a photo. I told him I'm not into doing that stuff. And he was like "not just once:) ill delete it after and send you one" but i told him "nahh i wont do it. I have a feeling this is why you texted me in the first place" and he said it wasn't and that he was just curious. ANYWAYS, this guy obviously just wants to get in my pants. And to be honest (as a senior in high school about to graduate), im not looking for anything serious.

So although i won't send a photo and want to remain a virgin till somebody comes along that i actually love (that includes oral), do you think its possible to just keep him as a kinda playful makeout buddy? For me, making out is enough cause i have personal morals set on when i want to have sex. but i know for this guy, he's used to having sex. do you think it'd be possible to continue a flirty relationship and only go as far as making out?

or do you think knowing he would expect more, asked me for a photo the first time talking, that it would be dangerous in a sense to try to keep him as a makeout buddy?

I'm 17, and with my first boyfriend. He's 18 and we've only been together for 2 weeks.

CONS:

-hasn't ever called to talk

-Used to text me every morning to say "good morning beautiful" but for some reason hasn't in the last week.

-NEVER hangs out. Claims he's super busy although he was watching TV on friday night and then hanging out with his friends all day saturday when i asked if he wanted to hangout.

-Used to always be the one to initiate texting, now doesn't.

-When we do text, the conversation is super short, bland, and not exciting.

-Hasn't tried to really get to know me and ask about my life.

-Never randomly says he likes me.

-Forgot valentines day and then said he works but "well see"

PROS:

-Attractive

-Physically shows me he cares

-Works

-Drives

-Doesn't pressure me at all (he's my first relationship so i won't have sex with him anytime soon)

-Funny

-Not super into partying like all the other guys i know.

-Has been really open and honest about his experience with girls and things that have gone on with that in the past.

-Doesn't mind meeting my parents.

-Makes me feel safe.

Should i stay with him? I talked to him about how he doesn't have time and we never hangout yesterday and he said that he wants to be with me, he's just been busy and that he just got a new job in which he's working every day but tuesday, so he can hangout on tuesdays and during school lunches.. and then tonight i sent him a mini paragraph sweet text wishing him good luck on the new job and said i know he'll be great :) and all he said was "thanks babe"

I'm 17, and with my first boyfriend. He's 18 and we've only been together for 2 weeks.

CONS:

-hasn't ever called to talk

-Used to text me every morning to say "good morning beautiful" but for some reason hasn't in the last week.

-NEVER hangs out. Claims he's super busy although he was watching TV on friday night and then hanging out with his friends all day saturday when i asked if he wanted to hangout.

-Used to always be the one to initiate texting, now doesn't.

-When we do text, the conversation is super short, bland, and not exciting.

-Hasn't tried to really get to know me and ask about my life.

-Never randomly says he likes me.

-Forgot valentines day and then said he works but "well see"

PROS:

-Attractive

-Physically shows me he cares

-Works

-Drives

-Doesn't pressure me at all (he's my first relationship so i won't have sex with him anytime soon)

-Funny

-Not super into partying like all the other guys i know.

-Has been really open and honest about his experience with girls and things that have gone on with that in the past.

-Doesn't mind meeting my parents.

-Makes me feel safe.

Should i stay with him? I talked to him about how he doesn't have time and we never hangout yesterday and he said that he wants to be with me, he's just been busy and that he just got a new job in which he's working every day but tuesday, so he can hangout on tuesdays and during school lunches.. and then tonight i sent him a mini paragraph sweet text wishing him good luck on the new job and said i know he'll be great :) and all he said was "thanks babe"

Were both seniors. I met him at a restaurant tonight cause he was our waiter and once we paid i walked up to him and gave him my name and number with a telephone drawn on it with a caption that said "call me maybe?". He texted me shortly after and he's saying some sweet things but he mentioned he smokes weed and then cigarettes when he's drunk. And then when i asked if he was into partying he said he's done a lot of things he doesn't look like he would've done. he did drugs sophomore year and said that was an "experimental phase". before this he asked to hangout with me and take me out one night cause he wants to "get to know me more"

i don't party, and am really not attracted to guys that are immature and are into getting wasted. im debating whether to still hangout with him. what do you think?

I'm a senior and he's a senior. He lives 25 minutes away and he doesn't yet know i can't drive.. do you think it'll bother him?

He got kicked out when he was 14 but im assuming it's cause his parents are messed up since i know they do meth, and would have physical fights. He smokes, he hitch hikes around the U.S to travel in hopes of finding where he wants to live, he smokes cigarettes, (idk about pot), he doesn't have an I.D cause he told me he's one of those people that thinks the government is corrupted and doesn't want his I.D in the system or something. He is 19 1/2 and I am 17 1/2.

OTHER THAN THAT.

He is the sweetest guy and i know it's not something i expected. He left, and I am almost positive doesn't do drugs and told me his dream is to have a family and give the world to his kids one day. He said he wants to do exactly what his parents didn't do. And when we were hanging with some friends, i got cold and he walked me to the car a few streets away cause we were in a downtown area, and he later told me he just wanted to be able to be alone with me since we hadn't gotten a chance earlier that night. He asked my permission if he could smoke cigarettes around me and said its a bad habit that he's trying to quit. I told him i don't smoke or party or drink and he thought that was really cool. when we first met his friend asked me for my number and he was openly joking with the group about how he asked his friend to get it cause he was too scared to ask for it. He texted me and was saying how he can't wait to hang out with just me again and he said we will go to the beach tomorrow and watch sunset. When i said I had to go finish homework he was like "sweet dreams! Goodnight beautiful :D" He's soooooo sweet and kinda shy.

I sent him a truth is cause he liked my status and he said: omg this is probably the nicest thing that anyone has said about me other than my parents. and coming from such an outstanding person such as yourself makes this post that much more special to me. thank you so much for being who you are. much love and kisses.

he also always sends me hearts and smiley faces.

-i find the "much love and kisses" and hearts strange.. every guy i have liked or gone out with wouldn't have said that stuff.

I was just messaging this guy I like and I had posted a "truth is" thing on fb. My wall post mentioned i was bored and he messaged me, and was like "wow, you've gotten 17 likes already... now 19 and it's only been 10 minutes since you post it" and i was like "yeahh, im bored so i don't mind doing them. I thought only 10 people would like the status." and he was like "well your a pretty popular girl", and i said "haha, don't know why you think that". and he goes "it's all tongue in cheek". WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? haha.

I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). I told him i wanted to learn the drums after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans. but instead he did. is this a good sign he likes me? do you think he likes me?

I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). I told him i wanted to learn the drums after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans. but instead he did. is this a good sign he likes me? do you think he likes me?

I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). I told him i wanted to learn the drums after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans. but instead he did. is this a good sign he likes me? do you think he likes me?

I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). I told him i wanted to learn the drums after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans. but instead he did. is this a good sign he likes me? do you think he likes me?

Do you think he actually wants to teach me the drums? Or is that his way of finding a way to get to know me better and stuff.. I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). Anyways, how can i tell if he likes me or if he just literally wants to teach me the drums? I told him i wanted to learn after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans..

Do you think he actually wants to teach me the drums? Or is that his way of finding a way to get to know me better and stuff.. I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). Anyways, how can i tell if he likes me or if he just literally wants to teach me the drums? I told him i wanted to learn after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans..

Do you think he actually wants to teach me the drums? Or is that his way of finding a way to get to know me better and stuff.. I don't really know him too well but i got introduced to him late last year (my junior year), and this year he always says hi to me and gives me a hug. (but i notice he gives everyone a hug). Anyways, how can i tell if he likes me or if he just literally wants to teach me the drums? I told him i wanted to learn after he said he played them and we talked about how cool it was and he was like "well i'd love to teach you?" and then today HE was the one that came up to me and was like "do you have plans this weekend? I was thinking we could play the drums?" and i figured if he thought i wanted to actually learn, because i know he plays them, that I would be the one to initiate the plans..

I'm 17 and a musician. Because of what I am pursuing I tend to be at downtown areas a lot to perform. But due to that, I am around a lot of smokers. I have never drank alcohol, done drugs, nothing. It's never appealed to me one bit. I am a SUPER honest person with my parents. ALWAYS obedient, on time for curfew, never grounded. I am a good child, I swear. But i have always had the curiosity of what smoking a cigarette is like cause i am around it so much. Neither of my parents smoke, and they just tell me its bad for you. A few of my friends smoke but I don't want to do something that could damage my health, my voice, or make my parents disappointed in me. I talked to my sister about this and she recommended that I get a nicotine free, electronic/water vapor cigarette cause those aren't harmful for you but they look and feel like an actual cigarette. So that way whenever i had an urge to ask my friend for a cigarette of theirs, i could use an alternative that isn't bad for you, doesn't smell, and isn't bad for the environment. What would you as parents think if your child smoked a nicotine water vapor/electronic cigarette but never smoked and actual cigarette?

I am a senior in high school (17 years old). I have a friend that smokes every so often. (Twice a month or so). My best friend and I never smoke with her cause she doesn't do it around us. But because my friend and I are always around downtown areas and everyone smokes, its always been something i have wanted to try. Never have i wanted to do drugs like marijuana, or hardcore stuff like ecstasy. I don't drink either. And when the time comes that i will, it'll be with my sister or with my best friend. (I'm not a party person). I told my friend i wanted to try it and she was going to bring her cigarettes with her tomorrow, and my best friend and i would try it. I won't be home till 4 hours after me smoking the cigarette but i am scared my parents will smell it on me. If they ask, i want to be honest cause i am really obedient to my parents. Do you think they would be mad? Their pretty conservative.