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I haven't ever felt like she likes me. When my husband and I went to her house to show her that we were engaged, the look she gave me was terrible. It was like OMG, I can't believe he's marrying you. I was nothing but nice to her and I never tried to "steal" her son away. I am taking her to lunch on Friday to her favorite restaurant, even though I can't stand the place. I'm hoping that I can do something to win her over. I have been with my husband for 4 years now and I don't see anything working. We even have a daughter together. I used to try really hard to be polite and nice to her, but it is just getting harder and harder. She is always trying to butt into our lives. I'm not talking about just wanting to visit the kids. She wants to like run everything. If we miss some "event" she throws a fit and starts to cry and treats me like crap. I just wish this would all stop. I am about to lose my mind. Its like she doesn't even try to like me. I make her son happy and that should make her happy. Please any advice would be great. Thanks so much...

I'm trying to plan a birthday party for my 9 year old's birthday, she is about to turn 10. She is a girlie girl, isn't into sports. She kind of tries to act like she is older than she is. I don't want to to a generic party, so any suggestions would be great. Thanks in advance.

Ok, when I was 14 and my brother was 10, I moved to live with my grandparents. We had a really crappy life at home and so the first chance I saw to get out, I did. For the next few years I would go to my moms house to visit and him and I would just pick up where we left off and have good old times together. Then when I was 16 I moved back to live with my mom. Everything with my brother was great, we still had a really crappy home life, but him and I were close as could be. Then he moved to his father's house (we don't have the same father). Well, then things got worse at home and my mom and I started to fight all of the time, so she kicked me out and I ended up going to live at my boyfriend at the times, mom's house. After that, I haven't really talked to him much. I used to send him letters all of the time, but his father didn't give them to him. His father told him that I was a drug addict and that I was a whore (which wasn't true). So years later, when I was 22 and my brother was 18, he graduated HS and I went to his graduation because I knew that I would be able to see him and his dad wouldn't be able to keep us apart because it was in a public place. So I talked to my bother that day and we took a few pictures together. I asked him if I could have his phone number, if it would be ok for me to call him. He said no he didn't think it would be a good idea at that time. Since then I have tried to contact him and he doesn't respond. He is now 22 and has a child of his own. I sent him a Christmas gift and I tried to contact him to congratulate him about his little girl. He never responds. Why does he disregard me? Why doesn't he want to have anything to do with me? Is there anyway that I can get him to let me back into his life? Thanks so much for any advice...

She is 4 months old. I have tried using the sucker thing and saline drops. But she is still choking on them. I prop her up so that the stuff will drain better. Her doctor said not to give her any medication or anything. I just wish there was something else I could do. I feel so terrible for her.

I have a 9 year old daughter and she puts as little effort into things as she possibly can. I am getting so tired of having to go behind her and check everything she does to make sure she does it right. I have tried everything and it seems like nothing will work anymore. She also would just rather just sit there and watch other kids play instead of joining in with them. She doesn't even fully listen to the teacher at school. I have had to go down to the school twice this year to talk to the teacher b/c I was upset at something that the teacher did. Just to find out that my daughter was mistaken because she wasn't paying attention. My daughter isn't over weight, if anything she is too skinny. I always talk to her and I give her as much attention as she needs. I also have a 7 year old and she isn't like this at all...