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I'm really fed up and want out of the relationship I'm in. We are more like friends than anything. We no longer sleep together. That's down to me not him. I don't find him attractive in that way. He's controlling, manipulative and dirty and its not the way that I want to live. I'm not allowed to do anything. When I do, he will make a big deal out if it. For example, I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago and told him a few days before that I was going. He went mad, saying that the group were rubbish, why would I want to see them. What is he going to do now on his own....he went on and on for ages, making me feel guilty. The week before that I looked after my niece over night, again he went off on one, saying it should not be up to me to look after her, my sister and her husband shouldn't be going out when she is so young (She's 2). It was a one off that I looked after her, its not like they go out all the time, it was my brother in laws birthday and that's why they went out for the night.

He always slags off my friends and family. I normally go to my mom and dads for dinner each sunday, he wants to stop that and has said I can go twice a month, there is no need for me to go any more than that!

I really don't know what to do. I know your thinking, well just leave then. But its easier said than done. I always agree with him on things to keep the peace as its easier that way. Its his way or not at all. I find it VERY difficult to talk to him about my feelings. :-(

What are your thoughts on this?

We are not married. Just live together. But he wants to know how much money I have in the bank and as he does not believe me, he wants to see my bank balance and statements to see what I am spending my money on.

What do you think about this?

Basically he has to start paying rent at the place he lives in, and as he can not afford it wants me to pay.....long story which I won't go into.

If I say no, he starts shouting at me and I feel like I have to say yes to him. I don't know what to do. He is a very controlling person, and he is someone that I do eventually want to leave, but I am having trouble doing this also. I just do things to keep the peace....

My partner is my ex husband, we decided to give it another go about 18 months ago. I live with him again also. I did have my own flat, but had to give it up when I lost my job as I could no longer afford it, I moved back to my parents house, but as we started seeing each other more, I ended up staying at his all the time. I don't go around telling people we're back together. I have kind of hidden myself away again because of him. I left him and divorced him for various reasons and I always said I wouldnt go back to him, I enjoyed my freedom, I could be me again and I loved that. Anyway we did get back and now I feel that I have gone round in a circle and I am now back to where I was when we were married, I have put on alot of weight again (I lost alot when we broke up & I liked myself) and now I don't really see my family and friends as much any more because he does not like them. I even spent xmas dinner away from them and I was on limited time when I did go round and see them because of him.

He is great at being manipulative, but he can be very loving and caring at the same time. But our relationship to me is just like a friendship, I can not have sex with him it makes me feel sick. I can not talk to him, becasue of the way he makes me feel when I do try. I just dont know what to do, I will feel guilty if I just leave. I am not a strong person any more like I used to be. I tend to bury my head in the sand with things, I feel like I am stuck :-( Any ideas.

Please can anyone help me. I am doing an online Customer Service course, and I am stuck on a question, I have already submitted it twice and its come back to me again. This is the question

Use the table below to identify at least one example of customer related legislation and at least one example of external regulations and how these may affect customer service.

I was also told to go to legislation.gov.uk website for help. But it does not help me, I am just stuck. The examples I came up with were:

Equality Act 2010. Relating to Age, Disability, Gender, Pregnancy, Race, Sex, Sexual Orientation etc

Data Protection Act 1998. Relating to data held about them, prevent use of distressing or damaging data etc

Sales of goods Act 1979. Relating to the sale of property between the seller and the buyer.

Help would be appreciated.

Thank you :)

Any idea why? I am printing in black and white. The colour ink is low (But it was when I started and am not using colour) I'm not getting error messages that the ink is low and it does not feel low when I take it out and check. . I have tried re-setting my printer (Like you do when you install a new cartridge sometimes) and this has not worked. I have tried printing out a normal word document just to see if it was anything to do with the mail merge and that don't work either.

Any ideas?? I printed out 230 pages and only have 20 to go....

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Can you help me, I cant seem to find the info that I need. The 14 day cooling off period, is this classed as working days or normal days?

For example, I signed an agreement on the 27th Janaury and paid some money. They have stated in their T&C's that after a 14 day cooling off period, I can cancel and receive a full refund. So I need to know if this is classed a 14 days including weekends or not? so would it be the 13th Feb I can cancel by or the 9th February?

Basically I am trying to cancel something and get a refund and they are saying I can't. I am waiting on a call back from them.

Many thanks

I was off sick from my job on the 27th, 30th and 31st December and also the 2nd and 3rd January. I received on Friday the 3rd a letter in the post from my manager, inviting me to a disciplinary meeting on the 6th January.

I went to the doctors on the 2nd January and have been signed off on sick leave for the next 2 weeks as of that date. The reason for being off on the note has been stated as Stress - Work Related. I was unwell on the above days and after going to the doctors, my sickness is all down to stress. This is due to the way that my manager has treated me and made me feel at work which I will now be putting in a full grievance letter regarding this matter over the next few days. .

As my manager will not have received my sick note yet, (She will get it in the post tomorrow morning at around 10ish) should I still let her know that I wont be in, or just leave it as she will have the note. I have also emailed HR and let them know the situation (HR were going to be in the disciplinary meeting)

What's the best thing to do?

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Hi there

Ok, I am the manager of a business centre and an item of post was sent to head office special delivery and the postage amount label had not been put on, it was accidently missed off by my receptionist. (She has never forgotten before) This has happened at this centre before though a few months ago when the previous manager was still here with me, when post was sent out on behalf of a tenant (by the previous Centre Manager might I add) and she had not put postage on any of it and we ended up paying out £1000 in compensation to the client. So she has sent me this email today and I really want to put a good response together and I can't think of what to put lol,...help

"I have today received a collection receipt from the post office for an envelope that has been sent to me with NO POSTAGE added to the envelope, copy attached.

We have had to search to find out who has sent it to us, send out a property manager to collect it which has taken over 45 mins and we have had to pay £7.95 to collect it.

We have recently gone though a compensation claim by a tenant who had issues with the post. How can this happen again??????

I am really concerned as to how the post is being processed at XXX and how many items go out without the correct postage. It really isn’t good enough that recipients of post have to pay to collect, what would we have done if this was sent by a tenant as I don’t want to be paying out compensation to tenants again as we make very little return on the postage and we are not providing the service that is expected.

I would like you both to advise me what has happened, what training has been provided to the staff who process the post and what you propose to do differently"

Any ideas would be appreciated.

Thank you

I am a little annoyed by this email, as its happened twice in the 6 years this centre has been here......

I am finding that facebook is very damaging.

I stay at my partners house most of the time. He is my ex husband and we got back together almost a year ago now, I admit I still was not 100% sure about it, but I said I would give it a go.

He has a huge ego and wants other women to fancy him. In the process making me very jealous. I really don't know what to do. I found out a few weeks ago that he had been talking to this woman who he met randomly on facebook, I found out and asked him what was going on as she was married!!! He said it was just flirting and nothing more, said he would never meet her or anything.

Well, that was that, since then we have got on fine with each other etc etc. Until Sunday, when for some reason I checked his facebook messages. There was a whole conversation between them both, turns out they have met up a couple of times. I was so angry, I could not hide my anger and asked him about it straight away. I was so hurt by it all. Apparently he didn't want to tell me because he knew that this would happen. But there was a lot of flirting in the messages, saying they were both nervous when they met up etc. But he has turned it all around and said its all my fault.

He said yes he is flirting, apparently she really fancies him, but he does not fancy her (He would say that thought wouldn't he) He is training to be a teacher and she was interesting to talk to about literature etc. He said it was nice to talk to someone like that as I am not interested in that and I am boring! I know I should not have gone through his phone, I know that is wrong, but I am now made out to the be bad person in this. I am going out of my mind with jealousy. I can't stop it, he does not understand what its done to me. He just thinks I am some kind of mental woman. But he has broke my trust a few times before over similar things, so this is where this stems from. We were originally together for 12 years before we broke up for various reasons. He is the one who wanted me back, he never wanted a divorce etc. So what I don't understand is why would someone who claims to love me do this to me? Is he trying to punish me? I really don't get it.

I was looking forward to spending xmas etc with him, but now I fell like I am going mad, wanting to know where he is, what he is doing etc. Which isn't right, but I can't help it. I am just very very upset, he does not care at all.

Don't know where to start really, but basically my partner thinks I work in a school (I did, but never told him I left as we were not together at the time) I am working somewhere where he told me I shouldn't go for the job of, so I just never got around to telling him that I had moved jobs and have lied about it ever since. I can't tell him now either as he would go really mad (Long story) . Anyway the schools break up next week and where I am working now, it requires me to work all over the Xmas period, excluding Xmas day and boxing day. As I am the manager at this job I can't have any extra leave off. Where I work is also miles away from where I live. So I don't know how to get around that one with him? Your thinking well just tell him.....only I can't. He is a bit of a controller and basically everything he says, you have to do. I have now given up being able to try and speak to him, I keep a lot of things to myself as I can not talk to him. Basically this man is my ex husband and we got back together almost a year ago....on my part it was a huge mistake. He will sometimes do things that will remind me of all the bad times and I don't want to be with him. I have tried on several occasions to break it off with no luck, he always twists everything around and is very manipulative. As I said I can't talk to him about anything as he just puts everything down that I do and want to do. So there's that one.

Another one is that I am meant to be having Xmas dinner with my family, I had arranged this because I didn't think I would still be with him now and that's what I really want to do, but because he don't want to see his family, he now wants me to go out somewhere with him and he said he will pay. He keeps trying to make me feel guilty, by saying, please can we, I will be left here all on my own otherwise, I really don't want to see my family. So now I do not know what I can do about that. I stay at his house quite a lot, even though I don't want to, its more or less like we are living together again and he tells everyone that we are living together.

He does make me laugh and we do get on with each other, but he is not the man for me, and I have no idea what to do. I want to be happy. He keeps on asking me if I am happy, but he will usually ask me at stupid times, like when I am tired and we are about to sleep, or if I am dropping him off somewhere he will ask me. I am screaming inside and I find myself saying - yes. Why??? because I don't want to upset or hurt him.

I thought if I could just get Christmas out of the way and then deal with it. But then I keep on putting things off....I tend to bury my head in the sand...not wanting to, but because its sometimes easier. I left him before because of alcohol problems and abuse problems. He has changed a lot, but over the last few months I have seen his abusive side come out again which has been horrible. He just wants me all to himself. He hates it when I go out and see other people, as in my friends. He can't understand why I would want to spend time away from him.

I have no idea what to do. I am really crying on the inside and when I see him, I just put an act on, I know I shouldn't, but until you have been in an abusive relationship then you don't know how hard it is. People have suggested a letter, cut contact straight away. I don't know. I just keep thinking that would be cruel just before Xmas. I never put myself first, I always put others first.

An option I thought of about my job would be to resign next week. Now this is something that I have wanted to do for a long time to be honest as I am really not happy where I am working at all. Its only a temporary job anyway, and I do have a full time permanent job which starts in February anyway, so at some point I would be handing my notice in anyway. I just thought next week as its payday and at least they can't stop any pay I am owed (Which knowing the company I work for, they would try and do that) So I would only be without an income for about 4 weeks which is ok as I am not renting anywhere at the moment, I am living between my parents house and his house. I also think that this may be a reason I am holding onto him, is because I don't have my own place at the moment as I moved out of there 10 months ago to try and save some money for a while, which has not worked, because of where I work, its a distance away and costs me a lot of money in petrol each month.

Any help, suggestions would be welcome, sorry this is a bit long. I think I just got carried away with everything on my mind :-)

My partner is very controlling and I feel very trapped sometimes. I am not happy, have not been for a long time now. To be honest he is my ex husband. We ended up getting back together about 10 months ago as I thought he had changed and he was being nice and everything. Anyway since we have been back together I have tried to finish it a few times only for everything to be twisted round and I have ended up staying. He was very abusive to me a couple of weeks ago, I was so upset, I didn't see him for a couple of days, then when I did, he said he was sorry and didn't want to talk about it. Because he knew he was wrong. He constantly puts me down, slags off my friends and family. Its like he has never grown up (He is 39). Basically I have to do what he says. His rules and that's it. I always said I would never get back with him, so I am so mad with myself, but I really thought he had changed to be honest.

I am not a person who can talk easily about things and I will avoid things where I can. Like I want to try and break up again, but I am scared to and I think, what's the point he will only shoot me down again. I don't have a problem however talking to other people, its just him. I have so many bad memories in my head from when we were married and that's where it stems from. I always used to talk to him about work and stuff like that only to be told, god that's so boring. So now I don't want to tell him anything and it shouldn't be like that should it.

We do get on well with each other though.....well I guess when he is in a good mood and we do have a laugh together, but that's not enough, for me its like we are just friends.

I just don't know what to do, a few people have suggested a letter, but I would feel guilty that I had not spoke to him, but then I don't really want to speak to him. Some have said just to stop all contact completely. But how would I do that?? One day be all fine with each other and then for me just to drop him?? sometimes its alot easier said than done. I was a strong person when I left him the first time it was easier then (For reasons I won't go into) but this time its not, as I will feel guilty and I dont want to hurt or upset him. Sounds silly I know, I dont know what to do. I need to find strength but I dont know how or where from :-(

We are like comfort blankets to each other. He has even said to me that I am using him, and I guess he is right, I am the one who isn't being very nice. I want to get on with my life but I just can't do it, I am too scared. I don't want to upset him. Even though he has said and done a lot of bad things to me in the past, I still can't help caring, when I wished I didn't.

He wants me to live with him again as well, I do stay at his quite often, more to save an argument than anything. I need to think of myself and I am not, but don't know how to do it. I just feel awful for letting it carry on :-(

We were together for 12 years and married for 6. Its just so difficult, I left him once and I know I can do it again, but how, I am really stuck. I he just twists everything around so that I always look like I am the bad one here when I am not. Well I am as I know I am just using him, but then I'm trapped....so hard.

My partner is very controlling and I feel very trapped sometimes. I am not happy, have not been for a long time now. To be honest he is my ex husband. We ended up getting back together about 10 months ago as I thought he had changed and he was being nice and everything. Anyway since we have been back together I have tried to finish it a few times only for everything to be twisted round and I have ended up staying. He was very abusive to me a couple of weeks ago, I was so upset, I didn't see him for a couple of days, then when I did, he said he was sorry and didn't want to talk about it. Because he knew he was wrong. He constantly puts me down, slags off my friends and family. Its like he has never grown up (He is 39). Basically I have to do what he says. His rules and that's it. I always said I would never get back with him, so I am so mad with myself, but I really thought he had changed to be honest.

I am not a person who can talk easily about things and I will avoid things where I can. Like I want to try and break up again, but I am scared to and I think, what's the point he will only shoot me down again. I don't have a problem however talking to other people, its just him. I have so many bad memories in my head from when we were married and that's where it stems from. I always used to talk to him about work and stuff like that only to be told, god that's so boring. So now I don't want to tell him anything and it shouldn't be like that should it.

We do get on well with each other though.....well I guess when he is in a good mood and we do have a laugh together, but that's not enough, for me its like we are just friends.

I just don't know what to do, a few people have suggested a letter, but I would feel guilty that I had not spoke to him, but then I don't really want to speak to him. Some have said just to stop all contact completely. But how would I do that?? One day be all fine with each other and then for me just to drop him?? sometimes its alot easier said than done. I was a strong person when I left him the first time it was easier then (For reasons I won't go into) but this time its not, as I will feel guilty and I dont want to hurt or upset him. Sounds silly I know, I dont know what to do. I need to find strength but I dont know how or where from :-(

We are like comfort blankets to each other. He has even said to me that I am using him, and I guess he is right, I am the one who isn't being very nice. I want to get on with my life but I just can't do it, I am too scared. I don't want to upset him. Even though he has said and done a lot of bad things to me in the past, I still can't help caring, when I wished I didn't.

He wants me to live with him again as well, I do stay at his quite often, more to save an argument than anything. I need to think of myself and I am not, but don't know how to do it. I just feel awful for letting it carry on :-(

Hi, can you help me. I have been working at a company since June 2013 (UK) I am entitled to 23 holiday days per year plus the bank holidays. So for this current year, I had 12.5 days as I only started in June.

I have requested time off in January just after Christmas, from the 3rd - 10th Jan which works out to be 6 working days. I have just had this holiday declined with the reason that I need to accrue the days. So therefore if I wanted to take 6 days off I would have to work until around March before I can have any leave.

Can employers do this? It is detailed in the company handbook - see below

"You may only take holidays as they are accrued during the first year of employment"

I have never known a company to do this. I have always worked as if you take them, then leave the company you have it deducted from your pay etc.

I am guessing there is nothing I can do, but just wanted others opinions. I have been told by my line manager that she had to check with HR first before coming back to me......

Thanks

ps. The company I work for are awful by the way. They even asked me for proof I had a hospital appointment when I had requested the day off as holiday for it........which I refused to give them by the way as they had no right to ask for it!

My partner is very controlling and I feel very trapped sometimes. I am not happy, have not been for a long time now. To be honest he is my ex husband. We ended up getting back together about 10 months ago as I thought he had changed and he was nice etc etc. Anyway since we have been back to gether I have tried to finish it a few times only for everything to be twisted round and I have ended up staying. He was very abusive to me a couple of weeks ago, I was so upset, I didnt see him for a couple of days, then when I did, he said he was sorry and didnt want to talk about it. Because he knew he was wrong. He constantly puts me down, slags off my friends and family. Its like he has never grown up. Basically I have to do what he says. His rules and thats it. I am going out on Saturday nioght and I am scared to tell him, I am even thinking of telling him a lie about where I am really going just for an easy life. I always said I would not get back with him, so I am so mad with myself, but I really thought he had changed.

I am not a person who can talk easily about things and I will avoid things whre I can. Like I want to try and break up again, but I am scared to and I think, whats the point he will only shoot me down again.

We do get on well with each other though.....well I guess when he is in a good mood.

I just don't kow what to do, a few people have suggested a letter, but I would feel guilty that I had not spoke to him, but then I don't really want to speak to him. Some have said just to stop all contact completely. But how would I do that?? One day be all fine with each other and then for me just to drop him?? sometimes its alot easier said than done. I was a strong person when I left him the first time it was easier then (For reasons I won't go into) but this time its now, as I will feel guilty and I dont want to hurt or upset him. Sounds silly I know, I dont know what to do. I need to find strength but I dont know how or where from :-(

Sorry to go on.

My manager is being funny about it. Ok, I got a call from the hospital on Friday morning calling me to confirm my appointment which is on Wednesday at 10.30am as I had not responded to a letter. I said that I never got a letter, so its a good job they called me.

Now I have half a day holiday left to use at work, so because of the time I thought it would be easier to use it for this appointment. So I emailed my manager (As we have been told to do) and she has replied today saying, as its a bit short notice, they need to see evidence of my hospital letter. Which she knows I do not have as I had texted her on Friday anyway (She does not work fridays) and explained.

I did respond with the following:

As I said in my text message on Friday, I don’t have a letter as I have not received a copy as that’s why this is short notice as they gave me a courtesy call to remind me.

Also, If I am using holiday for this appointment then I should not have to provide evidence of what I am doing with my holiday. However when I come back I can bring back something from the hospital to prove I was there if you would like me to.

Am I in the right or wrong here?? I don't work in HR, but I know quite a bit about it working as a manager, you have to know things. And I think that they are in the wrong to request this.

Any advice??

I had my first Reiki treatment yesterday and I just wondered how others had felt after you had had a session.

Im not sure what to make of it. I suffer from anxiety, depression, labrynthitus, and acid reflux. During the session, at one point I felt a little anxious. Another part I felt very heavy, then I felt very light. I had my eyes closed, but I didn't feel tired in the slightest.

Since the session, all my muscles in my body have been aching, like I am coming down with a cold or something. My stomache has been really hurting also.

I just wondered what this may mean, if its normal. Or if its just me reading too much into it. Lol.

I do tarot cards, so I do believe in some things. The lady said to me at the time that she felt I had the whole world on my shoulders (Which I do) she felt I had a lot going on in my head (Which I do).

How can I interpret this??

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Hi there

I have bought a Goodmans freeview digital TV box and recorder. I have set it all up correctly followed the manual etc, but the sound and visual are not working correctly. i have done a retune several times and still not working. The picture freezes, then it sounds like an alien. Someone advised me that it must be the arial. But we had a normal freeview box and that works brilliant, I have used the same cables but its not working, this is the 3rd box I have tried now and I don't understand why. It comes up with an error message, no audio / visual. Can you help?

I need help - there is a very long story behind this that I won't go into. But basically I am going on holiday tomorrow for 2 weeks. I have not told my partner that I am going - there are many reasons why not, but basically I didn't think that I would still be with him.

I can't tell him I am going away as he would go mad, so I need to think of somewhere I have to go suddenly - this sounds ridiculous I know. I can't say family or friends, so I was thinking a work thing as I work in a primary school in the admin dept. Any sensible ideas would be appreciated.

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This is all very complicated, so I will try and keep it as short as I can. My ex husband and I are back together. I thought it was what I wanted, but now know it isn't. Your thinking, well just tell him then. Only it's not that simple. I have tried to end it 6 times since we have been back together and have failed miserably. He was an alcoholic and that's why we divorced, but he's now been sober for 18 months and doing really well. I told him we could try again beginning of jan this year. For me its just not going to work, as I am not comfortable with the situation at all, and I don't want to see his family or friends, I can't make things normal between us, due to so much hurt that he has caused me. He's very difficult to talk to, I'm not someone who can easily open up and will run a mile from confrontation, I keep things bottled up and close to my chest all the time, always have done. He is well aware of this and he is very manipulative and he walks all over me. I am just not strong enough to deal with him emotionally. Deep down he knows this to! In the end I just end up saying "yes ok then" just to make things easier, but by doing that I have dug myself a huge hole and I dont know how to get out of it.

I stay at his about 4 times a week. once during the week and at weekends. Because if I don't, he doesn't like it and will moan at me and make me feel guilty of doing other things.

I am due to go on holiday on Tuesday with my family, I have still not told him about this, the reason for that was because I thought it would of ended between us now, as we argue most weekends. He has wanted to go on holiday for ages and I just couldnt tell him. This is the problem I have got, I can't tell him anything as I fear he will mock me, shout at me etc. I really dont know how to get around this.

Deep down he is a nice person when he wants to be and can be very loving, but things HAVE to go his way. I feel like I am being held back from doing what I really want to do :-(

It's all my own fault as when I'm with him I put on an act that I'm happy when really I'm the opposite, I am severely depressed, I just hide it. I just can't live like it anymore, one friend said to me to write him a letter as that seems to be the only way now after trying before and give it to him just before I go away on holiday, that way I wont have to explain anything to him. Someone else has said that we are like comfort blankets to each other. I get very jealous when other women show interest in him. I don't want him, but I don't want anyone else to have him either.

He treats me like a school child and I am fed up of it now. I need to be strong but cant and dont know how to be.

Can anyone help me. I am due to start a new job soon, so I was thinking of telling him I was going away on training for a couple of weeks at short notice...........I just find it all so difficult. We were together originally for 12 years, so we have alot of history and I guess I am scared of not having him in my life, but then I know he is not right for me. Its not healthy to not be able to communicate with your partner etc.

I am just burying my head in the sand, I can't help it :-(

This is all very complicated, so I will try and keep it as short as I can. My ex husband and I are sort of back together, well in his head we are. I thought it was what I wanted, but now know it isn't. Your thinking, well just tell him then. Only it's not that simple. I have tried to end it 4 times since we have been back together and have failed miserably. He was an alcoholic and that's why we divorced, but he's now been sober for 18 months and doing really well. I told him we could try again beginning of jan this year, as at the time I could not bare not to have him in my life as he was seeing other people and I didn't like it. But for me it's not going to work. I love him, but as a friend. I had to move back home to my parents house after living on my own for 2.5 years after we divorced. I was not working and could no longer afford where I was living, now my ex does not know this. He's very difficult to talk to, I'm not someone who can easily open up and will run a mile from confrontation, I keep things bottled up and close to my chest all the time, always have done. My job and home was none of his business when we were not together again anyway, so I've just never said anything to him. I am scared to tell him the truth because of what he can be like.

I was doing temp work in a school and told him it was permanant, I actually finished there back in March this year. He still thinks that I am there. I now actually have another job. I did tell him about the interview I was going for and told him I had got the job, he started saying to me that it would not be a good idea as its quite a distance away. But I had to take the job as I didnt have one (Which he did not know), So I am now doing this job. I stay at his about 4 times a week. once during the week and at weekends. I am lying to him about all this. I am even going on holiday with my family in 4 weeks time and he does not know. I really dont know how to get out of all this. He is a very controlling and manipulative person. This is why I am frightened of telling him. When I have tried to end it, its as though he dont want to accept it and carries on as normal, and he knows I am a weak person, even though I try not to be.

The reason I never told him any of this was because I didn't think this would be going for so long, I thought I could break up with him again and that would be that. But as I said its not been that simple. I have tried a couple of times and I have always ended up staying somehow.

HELP..........

Deep down he is a nice person when he wants to be and can be very loving, but things HAVE to go his way. I feel like I am being held back from doing what I really want to do :-(

It's all my own fault as when I'm with him I put on an act that I'm happy when really I'm the opposite, I am severely depressed, I just hide it. I just can't live like it anymore, one friend said to me to write him a letter as that seems to be the only way now after trying before and give it to him just before I go away on holiday, that way I wont have to explain anything to him.

I hope this makes sense. He just treats me like a school child and I am fed up of it now. I need to be strong but cant and dont know how to be.

Can anyone help me. Do it for me?? lol x