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My boyfriend has pointed out my every flaw and told me I need to work on them. For instance he says I need to clean up more,stop going out to the club so much,stop drinking so much,and that I have a bad temper.He also says I think I know everything Ok. I agree that I do have a temper,but everything else that he thinks are "my flaws" are actually HIS also.I will have maybe three alcoholic beverages a month. He has three forty ounce bud light every single day when he gets off work. I haven't been to a dance club in five months.He doesn't like to clean up,he nags like a woman about every little thing but I accept him and his flaws. I love him regardless. My problem is that he likes to point out things that he says I need to work on but he can't seem to see that he has issues that he needs to work on as well,and when I tell him that he says I never let him talk and interrupts me. He likes to try to teach me things and I am willing to learn but he is not very bright,and when I try to correct him he says I think I know everything. I like him regardless of all of that,but can someone that doesn't see any issues with themselves change?

Ive worked with this man for a year,and he was married. He was a gentleman and was never inappropriate with the ladies or anything. Just a great guy. He contacted me via social media and gave me his number. I called him and he lets me know his wife died two months ago and he's looking for a companion. He asked me my age and I told him, I asked his age and he didn't answer,he just said that he was much older than I am. Ok,so then he asks me when was the last time I had sex,I asked him the same question and he said that he didn't want to discuss it because he was still grieving the loss of his wife. I'm not trying to jump into a relationship with him because I know he needs time to heal,but he confuses me. He asks me questions about sex then when I ask him he uses his wife death as a reason not to answer. Are these red flags? Or is this just apart of the grieving process.

I met this man a year ago,he never disclose that he was married but after a couple of red flags,I get a call from the wife and she tells me they are still married,so I apologize to her and tell her everything because I am not that type of person to deal with a married man. He was furious that we talked and put water in my gas tank. I took out a protective order immediately. He apologized and gave me money to get my car fixed and like a dummy I accepted it. He left me alone for a few weeks then started to come on to me again and I ignored him. By this time I have totaled my old car and I have a new car,and he puts water in my new car. I get it fixed,but I didn't call police because I had already spoken to him after getting the protective order and I was afraid that I would get in trouble. I continue to ignore him and try to move on with my life but a few weeks later,he breaks my lock gas cap somehow and puts water in it a second time. Then calls the cops on me and says that I broke his windshield in revenge. He is lying.I don't know what to do,he's trying to ruin my life because I won't have anything to do with him. Help!

I had a nightmare the other night about a little girl molesting my daughter. I lost it on the child and beat the kid up and was yelling and screaming at the child. Since that dream I feel like a psycho over protective mom. My daughter is five and I am freaking out. Why in the world would I dream something some horrific? I was never molested or anything as a child.

I have a set of six year old boy/girl twins and a five year old daughter. My son,one of the twins,cries every single time he doesn't get his way and his been this way since I can remember. I never have this problem with the girls. So when it's time for rewarding for good behavior he gets left out because he doesn't behave. He's very smart,so smart he's labeled "gifted"but talks back,and says really mean things when he is mad. I feel bad when I don't buy him a toy but I feel like if I reward him for this it won't get better. Any ideas on how to make this better? He's almost seven and I feel like I still have a toddler.

I'm not really sure what to think of these dreams about death and days later it happens. My first dream like this was in 2007. I was pregnant with twin boys and I had a dream that both of them died,but an older girl was present and I called her my daughter. I woke up crying and told my mom about my dream,she said it was because of the pregnancy. I kid you not one week later I went into labor at 23 weeks and my boys lived for only three hours. We talked about the dream I had that day.I now have another set of twins boy and girl and they are six and a four year old.Eight days ago I had a dream that a man came up to me acting weird then an ambulance comes rushing and I ask the man what's wrong. He starts to tell me that my twins were fine,but my baby girl was the first one shot,she tried to hold on but didn't make it. I woke up and grabbed my child and cried,I was relived it was only a dream. I called my mom to tell her about my dream and once again she blames it on something I ate. Three days later on my twins birthday I log onto my facebook to only find out my little cousin age 22 died of multiple gun shot wounds. My heart is so heavy right now because he was so young and would never hurt anyone but someone tried to rob him.I don't know what to make of these dreams but I don't believe it had anything to do with what I ate. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this or know someone who has? Any resources and links would be greatly appreciated. Please don't post negative.

So I've been dating this guy for about five months. He was extremely nice,and I always had a little feeling that there was a side of him that he was hiding. He was moving way too fast for me,trying to tell me who to hang out with and checking up on me almost every thirty minutes and would literally show up at my house if I didn't answer the phone. So I told him I think we should just be friends because I am not ready for a relationship with you and he throws my car keys into the woods and drives off. I walk to a taxi cab place and pulls he up with my car keys and tells me to get in. I was afraid because I'd never seen him act this way,I said no,I just want my keys. He pulled off with my keys. I continue to walk inside the taxi place but they won't help me because I am arguing with the guy in their parking lot they tell me to leave the property. I sit outside another ten minutes and finally call police and that is when he brings my keys and takes off. Should I get a restraining order;I'm scared of him now. Police comes but no one went to jail,I just wanted my keys so I could go home.

There was an employee at my job,my friend and I work at the same place. Well the new employee tells me that she used to work with my friend and that she was dating a married man. I stopped her and redirected the conversation because I don't think my friend would ever do that,she must have her mixed up with someone else because my friend acted like she didn't even know this lady. I did not tell my friend what the employee said,because I felt like she had her mixed up with someone else. Eight months later and it has come out that my friend was messing with a married man,so I mentioned to her that the old employee had told me about it but I didn't believe her,and now she's mad at me. I'm ready to throw this friendship away because it seems that my friend is very childish and does not value my feelings she has just been ignoring me and we are adults,if there's a problem talk it out. What would you do with a friend like this? And am I wrong for not telling her what the employee said months ago? This is not the first time she has ignored me and treated me badly. She is the one who told me she didn't even know this new employee.

We clicked instantly and had so much in common,I'm in my mid twenties and he's in his late thirties. The problem came about when I told him my best friend was a male. I met him when I was 13 years old and we dated a few months,it didn't lead to anything and we have never had sex. We have been friends for over 14 years and he is like a brother to me. Will there ever be a guy who will accept my best friend as my friend and not get jealous. We don't hang out much because we've moved four hours away. We see each other maybe once every five years so it's not like I'm spending loads of time with this guy. What are your thoughts?

We have been knowing each other a little over two months. He was drinking today and while on the phone I noticed he was getting mad because I was with my friend instead of with him. To me he seems like he could be controlling when he's drunk so I blocked his number after I told him that I did not like the person he became when he drinks. Am I being too mean? Should I give him another try?

I do not want to be in a relationship with him for several reasons I won't discuss but my kids love him and continue to keep in contact over the phone. He constantly tells me how much he loves me,and misses me and wants us to be together. I love him too,but he is making it very difficult for me to get over him by doing this every other day even though I've told him that we will never be together. Should I just stop letting my kids talk to him and change my number? Whats his deal?

My boyfriend and I moved in together two months ago. He is in charge of rent and I take care of the car and insurance and other bill. We both pay about 800 a month each. Last month he came up short on his end about 300. I refuse to pay his half this time because I like to buy things and he works just as well as I do. Should I move out?

We haven't even been dating 2 weeks and girls are inboxing him telling him that when things don't work out call them. He told me the names of the girls and all,but why won't he block them. I am not speaking to him at this moment because I do think I should be the one to block them,he should. This has turned me off and I am no longer interested. Am I wrong?

My sweet little boy slapped his teacher this morning because he brought gum to school and she wanted him to spit it out. He's in the office and I'm very upset. He's very sad that he did it and says sorry over and over. What can I do to show him that this is very bad. Kids are expelled from school for things like this. Should I make him stay inside all day? No tv all day? He's usually a great kid,has even been called "gifted." What is appropriate for his age,his teacher was crying. He does not need counseling before anyone goes there,he has never been in trouble.

I met a guy about two weeks ago from this dating wed site. After talking for a couple hours we find out that his family is really good friends of mine and good people. My good friend told me he was a nice guy and he calls me everyday. Text me good morning every morning and we talk for hours before bed, he has children and so do I. I like him,but the problem is he told me that he was in love with me today and it completely turned me off. We have never met and we've only been talking in the phone for two weeks. What's wrong with this guy?

I'm a grown woman with a family and household of my own. My mother is constantly calling me trying to tell me what I need to be doing or asking about my personal life which I do not like to share because she gets on the phone with my 13 aunts and uncles and discusses whatever you tell her to them. I've told her over and over,mama I'm grown I do not need you to tell me how to run my life but its like she doesn't even hear. It's getting to the point where I no longer like visiting her because she's always in a bad mood but will constantly try to pry into my business. I have never been able to talk to her about anything because she can not keep anything between the two of us. Help!!

I have worked with this friend for 3 years and she has 2 kids,I have 3 toddlers. Her children are 10 and 13. She called me a month ago because she lost her money and needed some food items for the kids. Being a good friend I picked up the items. Since that day she will wait untill she know I have some funds for food and will contact me via Facebook about snacks for the kids. I don't mid bringing the snacks but sometimes I need gas money and this time I told her that I needed money for gas. She never wrote me back on Facebook but I can clearly see she has read my message. Now she writes childish Facebook posts about "real friends" etc and I know it is towards me. I have been nothing but good to her and her kids. What do you think? I can not call her because my phone is off, and I am going through some financial problems that's I do not discuss with anyone.

I am the youngest of three children. My mother suffers from severe asthma and I won't to discuss being the beneficiary of her insurance policy with her because my brother is a drug addict and my sister is never around because she parties all the time. How do I go about the conversation. I'm always there for my mom, I just don't want her money to be wasted on nonsense if anything was to happen.

I'm a mother of children ages four and two. I'm terrified of letting them go anywhere. My 4 year old is wanting to go with her cousins to the park, or to a sleep over and I say no. I distract them and try to get their minds off leaving. I'm scared something bad will happen. I feel bad because I know they don't want to be with me ALL the time,I feel like I'm failing as a parent. Any suggestions?

I'm a single mother of two girls and I met this really nice guy,unlike any other.He always brings gifts for the children when he comes to visit,and they seem to get along great.The problem is,I was sexually abused when I was a kid,and I am afriad to get close to any man because I am afriad that one day a man is going to rape my daughters.When he comes over and the kids are here,I never leave them alone,and I don't like for my kids to sit in his lap,or for him to pick them up. I'm afriad that my fears of my past are going to ruin my chance of being happy.What do you think?