A V

I have always wondered this... a good explanation. When I look in a mirror in the hallway or in a compact or in the bathroom, I look one way. Cute even! Then I see a photo of myself (taken by a friend or when I hold the camera out myself) and it doesn't even look like 'me'! I don't see me in there. I see a face that seriously looks like it has another 30 lbs slapped onto it!! So, which is the real me?

She's watching my daughter for 2 hours in the evening a couple nights a week. How much should I reasonably be paying her?

I mean, seriously? All we need is NOW? What does that even mean? And... well, I could go on and on but I am just not understanding how they get MTV billing but other great/unknown bands don't. So maybe I've just lost it and their song and video is really good... maybe MY meter is just off.

Ok, this is a dumb question, I know... too dumb for me to just google search an answer. But please be nice and help. I learned how to drive a car with an automatic. I attempted to learn how to drive stick as an adult. Didn't work out too well. I was jerky, car kept dying, etc. I gave up. Resigned to only drive automatic trans cars. HOWEVER I realllllly want to learn how to drive a motorcycle (a harley to be specific). I don't want to just ride on the back of one. Soooo, is this unrealistic? I was under the impression that bikes have clutches like stick shift cars and that you have to be smooth at operating a stickshift to be able to operate a bike clutch properly. Have no clue where I got this idea, but it has stuck. Should I give up the dream before trying?

What is comparable to a Nissan 350Z or an Infiniti G35? I have 1 child and need a rear seat for the carseat... the Z isn't practical/possible for this reason. G35 Coupe would work, but are there any other secondary options for me? Interested in speed/style/handling... well and I'm not in a porsche price bracket, of course. :)

Two of my walls need help. I previously painted them in a brown shade of latex paint. One wall had a table against it, on which sat one of those oil/reed scent diffusers. One of the reeds touched the wall at one point and the oil in the reed seemed into the paint creating this dark circled oil stain. The 2nd wall was painted the same color and in February I had a dinner party. At some point one child running around the house touched the wall with greasy fingers... there are now finger smears going down the wall. I've tried cleaning the greasy finger wall with soap/water & a few other things... no change. The oil circle on the 1st wall, I even tried to to tape a powertowel pocket against the wall, filled with baking soda which I had hoped would absorb the oil. Neither solved my problem & I'm worried if I just paint over the walls the oil will once again seep through.

We recently had our trees trimmed. The one large enough to hang a swing from does how have horizontal growing branches. They're all growing upwards about 20 to 30 degrees off of vertical. Is there some gadget I can buy or make that will give me a horizontal support to work from? I'm wanting to hang the Little Tikes toddler swing you've probably seen a million times... has two ropes that come up with hooks at the end of them.

My former-fiancee has posted info about our relationship on his Chinese blog, which I cannot read. I want to know what it says and how it characterizes me and our relationship. Please help me.

The link to his blog is here: http://tw.myblog.yahoo.com/bonusfrag/article?mid=3...

This is the full text:

分居 分類：我的心事2008/09/17 03:54一個多禮拜沒更新blog。 因為我的心情好沮喪， 我和老婆分居了～

13年來不是沒有歡樂的時間， 也不是說不開心的份量比開心的多。 可是我總是覺得這場感情是硬撐出來的。 每一次狠下心提出分手，總是看著她的眼淚把話收回來。 為了避免傷害她，我浪費了兩的人的時間， 兩個人的青春， 傷的反而更重。

我們18歲的時候在大學認識的，交往了大概三個月就決定開始同居。 兩支什么都不懂的小鳥扮家家酒。 那年，我老爸跟老媽離婚。 我媽為了孩子求他留下， 他不肯。 雖然那時候我和爸的感情已經不好了， 但他的行為給了我深刻的印象。”我將來不會這樣對我的女人，我不會拋棄她，我不會背叛她。 我死也不會“。 這個心態把我困了13年。 每一次吵架，每一次讓她落淚，我心里的內疚真的讓我生不如死。 我想走， 可是我不敢， 我不敢面對她心碎的表情， 我不敢聽到她哭吼的聲音。 為了不要重復爸爸的錯， 我變成了一個懦夫， 一個孬種。

上個禮拜又大吵了一次。 我又提出想分手的愿望。 雖然這次也是有哭有吼， 但她卻做了一件料想不到的事。 她說她要搬回kansas City。 雖然她還是不放棄這場感情，但她不想再讓我反反復復的折磨她，她不能繼續當感情的人質。

一個反復被傷害的受難人終于成全了一個不敢講真心話的孬種。 我好快樂。 我好痛苦。