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I have a boyfriend in his 50's that, more or less, had his son dumped on him. The ex wife claims to be mentally ill and she did not want the boy. The boy is 25 years old. He is also mentally ill; diagnosed with severe depression. He will not get a job, will not go to school; sits at home 24 hours a day, is grossly overweight, approx 350 pounds, and complains all day about his back hurting and his depression as to why he won't take the garbage out or go to school. He sits at the computer all day and plays games. He does not brush his teeth and his hair is past his shoulder. He believes that his father should take care of him. I want a relationship with this man (the father), but father has an overly developed sense of responsibility caring for this adult son and is having a hard time forcing a life change because of guilt, ie., moving away from his son or kicking his son out. Son refuses to change. Therapy is not helping neither.

Four days ago, during the middle of the night, my heart began irregular heartbeats. This went on all night long, and it felt quite strong. It felt as if my heart would skip a beat. I have had this problem for 20 years but it was never "caught" but it is getting worse now. I went to urgent care the next morning; they caught it on the EKG, plus my blood pressure was moderately high. Usually my BP is 110/70 this was 150/100. My paulse is always low...usually around 60.

The doctor told me I have premature ventricular contractions; could be stress related or some physical problems which he is going to test for in two weeks. I went home w/BP medicine, mild dosage. He said this should stop the arrythmia. It has been four days now and it has not stopped. This is the longest it has ever continued. Usually it would only last a day. To make matters worse, I had a migraine/fever and am very sick now. Turned out to be influenza. Can this effect my heart, too? I am scared