Shay M

I'm frustrated, angry, miserable, having trouble finding anything enjoyable to do. I'm getting worse & wondering what the point is?

I ve played on Yahoo & Facebook both & can t figure out how to add firends to game. I m in American Anglers club. Level 19 or 20. Help?

I have multiple health problems, suicide attempts run in my family & child hood was so bad I made the choice not to have kids. Mom & I r only children. Experience with kids is limited to being in medical field.

Now I'm basically married to my childhood sweetheart who is also disabled. His condition is stable mine is getting worse. The catch is he has 2 sons, 9 & 11. Great kids & I try so hard to give them the love & guidance they need but feel like I'm falling short. Hubby tells me I do great around them & they do like to hang out w/ me. I'm in a wheelchair part-time, have chronic pain, fevers, seizures, exhaustion, yes- I am in therapy lol. Am I going to mess up these kids? Will the crazy cycle continue? Their bio Mom has some problems too. Or r these my own issues messing with my head?

I'm 38, attractive, intelligent, humorous, creative, dark hair & eyes, pale skin, lanky build - 5'8" 140lbs. Hobbies: art, reading, air pistol target plinking, cooking when I feel like it. Divorced, no kids. Problems- diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome age 15, Bursitis in knees & shoulders age16, car wreck with permanent back injury age 17, total hysterectomy 2002, Fibromyalgia 2003, other problems 2003-2009, Brucelosis 2010. To sum up, I have chronic pain, fevers, exhaustion, so I rest a lot. TV shows- The Walking Dead, Sons of Anarchy, Alpha Dogs, Swamp People, Bones, Inside Combat Rescue. I still like lazy camping & fishing.

I've been alone since 2011 & am mostly ok with it. But I started wondering if maybe some male companionship would be a good thing? He has to be smart, funny, good conversationalist, good heart & a bad boy streak. Disabled Vet maybe?

Does this even sound possible? How / where could I meet such a person? Or should I throw in the towel & forget about it? I don't have much money to spend on dating sites. Also very out of practice when it comes to dating. Any advice would be great, thanks!

i know that it can be purchased, but want to know how to do it & if it would be cheaper?

I've had mine a few years now & love it. My grandmother used one and made amazing things with it. Ham with ham gravy on mashed potatoes. Meatloaf w/ gravy. tonight I fixed corned beef, potatoes, carrots & cabbage, yummy!

One of my fav things to do is throw in a frozen beef roast w/ water & seasonings. In 1 hour everything is ready and it tastes like it slow cooked in the oven for hours.

Other tips?

I'm in SW Missouri, doing some kitchen cleaning, getting ready to throw a corned beef n pressure cooker. It's just me and the 4 legged, or feathered kids. Hubby is in KC at a gig. I'm actually enjoying this, it's so quiet. Soon the smell of comfort food will fill the house & my drink of butterscotch and Irish Creme is smooth and tasty. Other than some fibro pain, I'm content. Y'all?

I thought i had them scared off, back again. How rude. I don't knock on doors trying to mind wash folk to my way of thinking. Ideas?

How should I handle this? Little girl is screeching at top of lungs, I'm waiting for the plaster on walls to start cracking. She & her mother (who just sat there and laughed) were in a waiting area that borders patient rooms for a different surgeon. The manager of that office comes over and tells me that her Dr can't hear his patients over the racket & I needed to do something about it. Duct tape was my first thought, 2nd was smacking the crap out of mom, both would have resulted in job loss. I finally got the little banshee in a back room.

Ideas on what I could have done????

What is the proper way to deal w/ obnoxious children, & lousy parents when we are out for a romantic dinner?

I work pediatrics. Why would you get pregnant knowing you could pass on a medical problem to an Innocent being that has no choice in the matter?

With all the talk about "going green", I've heard nothing to the effect of "less mouths to feed, less resources needed". Yet people are popping out litters of kids. Opinions?

Hubby & I are child-free, but we have pets. My parents buy gifts for their "grandpup" & grand cats and birds. I have a small ceramic tree set up with their gifts under it. We have 2 dinners w/ hubby's parents and that's about it. How about the rest of you child-free folk?

My Grams passed on in Sept. Mom & I started gettting cards from churches we knew nothing about. Then people from these churches were on our doorstep! Out of respect and too tired to debate. I sent them away nicely. What do they do - go thru the obits and try to get to you when you are weak? The sympathy cards were nice, I'll grant that. But showing up uninvited when a family is grieving & sorting thru all the emotions just seems wrong to me. Taking advantage, trying to recruit to gain money for the church...... Lucky i didn't use Gram's brass knuckles and express how I really felt. Thoughts?

What happened to the billions of people that died before Jesus did his thing? Did they go to hell? Worshiping God/Jesus seems to be a requirement to get into Heaven, but how could they worship when they didn't know anything about it?

I can't wait to read responses to this!

I enjoy intelligent conversations about religion. Conversations, not sermons. Why is it so difficult for people to agree to disagree?

Sorry, this is long, want to give details to get good (or funny) responses.

Saturday night I was stung by a wasp and went into anaphylaxis, didn't know I was allergic. I was alone. I took 100mg of benedryl while running cold water over my foot-just in case. Swelling & rash started within 5 mins. I debated seeking treatment, until I couldn't close mouth cause tongue was swollen. Drove myself to er, they took 1 look at my face & had me in a room with IV started in 2 minutes.

Hubby was out of town, my mom was having issues, dad had a few drinks, so hubby called his (very religious) parents. At first they were great, very comforting & supportive, & I was scared -couldn't see or speak. They insisted on driving me to pharmacy & paying for my scripts. Heres' where it gets interesting.

During the drive they started talking about God's plan & not to interfer with it, reason for everything, etc. I was sick & trapped - perfect time for a sermon, they didn't mean it like that, but that's what I felt. Out of respect for them I chewed on my protruding tongue and didn't say anything.

I wanted to ask / asking: how am I to know what the plan is? And not knowing the plan, keep from interfering?

What if the plan was for me to NOT get treatment? I would have been dead in another 30 minutes.

I'm almost 35 and have had 7 near death experiences, 2 in past 3 weeks. Am I suppossed to be dead? I have so many problems, I'm not really "living", chronic severe pain, fatigue, depression, & now I can't sit on my patio and read (got buzzed by wasp today)!

If I do get stung again & I don't go for treatment, would that be considered suicide?

I really need some input about all this!

Since we have so many great parents on here (obvious from previous questions), I want to know how a person becomes a good parent.

My first question was do people really consider the lives their kids might have before getting pregnant. Some interesting answers, thank you. Many stated they had bad childhoods & now are good parents, fine. Where were good parenting skills learned? One person said she had a pysch degree, I took parenting in high school, then child & adult pysch in college. Social behavior is learned, not instinct.

The main reason I asked that question & for those folks that think I'm an idiot for asking: I work for 2 pediatric surgeons & mentor abused kids. 95% of the kids are on medicaid or wic or public assistance of some kind. Many (not all) of the parents, can't understand pre/post op instructions. One poor child had to suffer through MULTIPLE rectal surgery, parents too ignorant to do follow up care. Numerous can't afford to buy items needed for followup care or can't pay copays. Many kids have been abused in ways that are unthinkable, in the system, and not likely to grow into a stable adults. Then in a few years they will have children and the cycle continues.

This is fact. Abuse, neglect, ignorance, produce abuse, neglect, and ignorance. We do what we know, unless taught otherwise. Sorry, but I don't see much consideration going on? Especially now with the economy so unstable?