Ruby

See..

If a man cheats with another woman or every a prostitute because his wife doesn't want to sleep with him and always comes up with excuses to avoid sex, then she deserves it (that her husband is cheating on her)! Don't deny it! This is how people normally react.. Like, poor man, she treats her well and does everything to keep her happy, but she won't even allow him to have sex with her as husband and wife!

However, if a woman is The Perfect wife, but husband avoids sex and does it with someone else out of sexual frustration, then she is a sleeve, a *****, a whore… etc!

She doesn't wanna get a divorce because she still loves him.. and doesn't wanna break up the family which will destroy the kids and everything else they've built together… She doesn't want to leave him, but he won't give it to her! And, as a human being, she NEEDS it…

So what's with the double standards???

See..

If a man cheats with another woman or every a prostitute because his wife doesn't want to sleep with him and always comes up with excuses to avoid sex, then she deserves it (that her husband is cheating on her)! Don't deny it! This is how people normally react.. Like, poor man, she treats her well and does everything to keep her happy, but she won't even allow him to have sex with her as husband and wife!

However, if a woman is The Perfect wife, but husband avoids sex and does it with someone else out of sexual frustration, then she is a sleeve, a *****, a whore… etc!

She doesn't wanna get a divorce because she still loves him.. and doesn't wanna break up the family which will destroy the kids and everything else they've built together… She doesn't want to leave him, but he won't give it to her! And, as a human being, she NEEDS it…

So what's with the double standards???

I can't figure out my body type; am I an apple/hour glass/pear/banana? I know there are four main categories... It helps to know so I can search of ways "how to dress" to make my ugly figure look a bit more flattering. Please be honest and don't be rude. Here's an image that I just took of myself;

http://postimg.org/image/hhaym6man/abe7d582/

I can't figure out my body type; am I an apple/hour glass/pear/banana? I know there are four main categories... It helps to know so I can search of ways "how to dress" to make my ugly figure look a bit more flattering. Please be honest and don't be rude. Here's an image that I just took of myself;

http://postimg.org/image/hhaym6man/abe7d582/

Can a girl with a flat butt make a man forget this fact and focus on her other assets? Or will she have to hear "i wish you had a butt" FOREVER?

What options do girls with flat butts have? seems men these days are particularly into butts only!!

What do you find irresistible in women? I remember once a man told me he gets hard when a woman with a strap top, has one of the straps fall off her shoulder and she'd gently pull it back up... Another said he can't resist it when a woman candidly licks her lips while speaking... what works for you? Please list as many as you'd like.. It's good for us -women- to earn some new tricks ;)

I used to get turned on by just looking at him...

Now, after 7 years of marriage and 2 kids; suddenly, I can't stand his touches and kisses.. And when he penetrates me, it takes ages for him to manage to get inside becoz it's never wet and it feels like its as tight as a virgin's!! It actually hurts and I know it's not physical, because when I try to enjoy myself by myself I get as wet as a wet sponge!!

He's not loving towards me at all. He never tells me I'm pretty. We have sex once every 2 weeks. That's twice a month. We're a young couple, 28 and 29.. But I'm just not attracted to him anymore. I can't get over his previous verbal and emotional abuse episodes..but we decided to keep the marriage for the sake of the kids. I don't hate him, but I don't love him either..

Do people face this after so many years of being married? Is this normal?

Im keen to hear about other people's experiences.

But every person has a type.. Like, what kinda body/hair/eyes/face/long hair/ short/dark/light..the more details, the better!... What kinda turns your head?... My friends were discussing it and now we're very curious. Thanks ;)

But every person has a type.. Like, what kinda body/hair/eyes/face... What kinda turns your head?... My friends were discussing it and now we're very curious. Thanks ;)

Hi

We are a young couple with 2 little ones. Been married 7 years. Both were virgins till the wedding night for stupid/ pathetic cultural reasons (don't wanna get into that now)..

Anyway, from the very first night, eventhough it was a "love marriage" and we used to date/makeout behind my parents back and couldn't wait to have sex with him; it took him 3 days to deflower me. Right, so maybe he was nervous.. bla bla?...

It's been 7 years and im still struggling and trying to understand what i think is low libido/ desire for sex? He was never "wild" in bed. He couldn't care less if we go a month or two without sex. He hates porn...Looking at naked women on tv, internet..etc doesn't really do the job.

I tried hard.. from doing striptease shows, to lingerie, massages...u name it; i'd tried it.. but he seems more concerned about making money..and as a broker, his gadgets (BB, iphone, i pads) never leave his hand/bedside. Even if , say, I dance for him or strip.. he'd try to "pretend" that he is watching the "show" but with one eye still on the computer's screen!!

We love traveling to Europe, so around 3 times I offered escorts...and we did it 3 times. They teased him, he had sex with me and the other girl (escort)..and it was only 3 times. Then he got "sick" of it and asked me to stop "offering" it when we go overseas. He says it makes him sick in the stomach because he considers it to be "adulterous" even though he isn't religious at all. Never goes to church, or reads the bible..etc... He even snapped at me in public last time we went overseas bcoz we passed by a strip club and I suggested going in!!

I never catch him checking out women when we're out..

I never cheated on him, and don't intend to... But I can't help wonder; is this what the rest of my life going to be?! I will never taste the "wildness" in bed?.. I want one of those men who will tear out my lingerie when I strip for him and gimme hickies/love-bites; make me feel sexy..loved..

Most men I dated rated me at 8 outa 10... But maybe they were just complements? I honestly lost confidence after marrying who I thought was my dream man!.. Sometimes, I feel like he is no man at all...hmmm... any advice?..

Please don't judge me as a person. This isn't what my entire life is about. This is just a pat that I want to explore/ find answers to.. thanks.

I don't know why I don't enjoy the "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex sessions.The ones that start and finish in less than 10 minutes. You both get your orgasms; but it's just lame! Is this the amount of "quality time" we deserve from our husbands?? I know marriage is not about sex..but it's the only chance i get one-on-one-time with my husband!! He never even look at me otherwise....

I love pretending that I'm someone else. Like a maid, masseuse, dancer... etc. I also like doing erotic massages before sex. I also WOULD LOVE TO pretend I'm someone else, meet up my husband somewhere as in a date, then go back home for sex like we don't really know each other...

The idea of watching a sexy movie and having to wait until the end to have sex also melts me! I also love going further; like to a strip club and pay a dancer to let me watch her do a lap-dance to my husband... I looooove just the excitement before having sex. The orgasm feels like explosives!

However, my husband HATES all of this. He thinks about money/work 99% of the time. If we don't have sex for a whole month, he wouldn't even notice!! He'd asked me to stop all the "fantasies" bcoz he hates the "role plays" and "pretend" games.. He prefers to order take aways and watch a game on tv.

We live in Dubai. We're both still young. Got 2 young kids. Been married 7 years...

Any advice?.. I'm really unhappy! And I'm not in love anymore. There's no sense of connection between us. He hates to talk. He's always "working/ playing games" on one of his gadgets. He stopped going out on dates with me. And he gets so aggravated if I attempt to complain! He goes "yah yah, bla bla..whatever! Get a life"!!

I have a life; my work and my kids!.. am I being unrealistic? asking for much? Am I too silly? Is this how it becomes after 7 years of marriage?

1 hour ago

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Our life is NOT about sex: we hardly see each other on weekdays!.. On weekdays I only see the kids,go to work,cook and take the kids to their soccer clubs/ swimming lessons..

It's just NICE to re-connect with your husband even for once on the weekend!! I don't think sex is not important in marriage! once a week is something u both NEED to work on!!

I don't know why I don't enjoy the "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex sessions.The ones that start and finish in less than 10 minutes. You both get your orgasms; but it's just lame! Is this the amount of "quality time" we deserve from our husbands?? I know marriage is not about sex..but it's the only chance i get one-on-one-time with my husband!! He never even look at me otherwise....

I love pretending that I'm someone else. Like a maid, masseuse, dancer... etc. I also like doing erotic massages before sex. I also WOULD LOVE TO pretend I'm someone else, meet up my husband somewhere as in a date, then go back home for sex like we don't really know each other...

The idea of watching a sexy movie and having to wait until the end to have sex also melts me! I also love going further; like to a strip club and pay a dancer to let me watch her do a lap-dance to my husband... I looooove just the excitement before having sex. The orgasm feels like explosives!

However, my husband HATES all of this. He thinks about money/work 99% of the time. If we don't have sex for a whole month, he wouldn't even notice!! He'd asked me to stop all the "fantasies" bcoz he hates the "role plays" and "pretend" games.. He prefers to order take aways and watch a game on tv.

We live in Dubai. We're both still young. Got 2 young kids. Been married 7 years...

Any advice?.. I'm really unhappy! And I'm not in love anymore. There's no sense of connection between us. He hates to talk. He's always "working/ playing games" on one of his gadgets. He stopped going out on dates with me. And he gets so aggravated if I attempt to complain! He goes "yah yah, bla bla..whatever! Get a life"!!

I have a life; my work and my kids!.. am I being unrealistic? asking for much? Am I too silly? Is this how it becomes after 7 years of marriage?

1 hour ago

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Our life is NOT about sex: we hardly see each other on weekdays!.. On weekdays I only see the kids,go to work,cook and take the kids to their soccer clubs/ swimming lessons..

It's just NICE to re-connect with your husband even for once on the weekend!! I don't think sex is not important in marriage! once a week is something u both NEED to work on!!

I don't know why I don't enjoy the "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex sessions.The ones that start and finish in less than 10 minutes. You both get your orgasms; but it's just lame!

I love pretending that I'm someone else. Like a maid, masseuse, dancer... etc. I also like doing erotic massages before sex. I also WOULD LOVE TO pretend I'm someone else, meet up my husband somewhere as in a date, then go back home for sex like we don't really know each other...

The idea of watching a sexy movie and having to wait until the end to have sex also melts me! I also love going further; like to a strip club and pay a dancer to let me watch her do a lap-dance to my husband... I looooove just the excitement before having sex. The orgasm feels like explosives!

However, my husband HATES all of this. He thinks about money/work 99% of the time. If we don't have sex for a whole month, he wouldn't even notice!! He'd asked me to stop all the "fantasies" bcoz he hates the "role plays" and "pretend" games.. He prefers to order take aways and watch a game on tv.

We live in Dubai. We're both still young. Got 2 young kids. Been married 7 years...

Any advice?.. I'm really unhappy! And I'm not in love anymore. There's no sense of connection between us. He hates to talk. He's always "working/ playing games" on one of his gadgets. He stopped going out on dates with me. And he gets so aggravated if I attempt to complain! He goes "yah yah, bla bla..whatever! Get a life"!!

I have a life; my work and my kids!.. am I being unrealistic? asking for much? Am I too silly? Is this how it becomes after 7 years of marriage?

After taking a certain anti biotic, I developed itchiness all over my face, ears, arms, chest and neck! I went the the doctor within 48 hours and was prescribed steroids for 4 days and anti histamine.

It's been 8 days now. There's no rash/redness as much, but I'm still super itchy! Even my head- like I got dandruff or something..

When will it stop?!! I can't even wear make up bcoz my skin still burns when I put stuff on it...

Thank u..

Hi...

Been married for 5 years. We been together 10 years. Im 28 and he's 29. We got 2 little ones.

I earn a bit less than he does; but he doesn't have to pay rent because housing comes with my contract. As well as health insurance, kids schooling, tickets every summer. I never ask him for money. I buy myself what I want.

I used to be amazing in bed; role-plays, dress-ups, 69's, watch sexy movies together. I'd even put on a wig, contact lenses and a new accent to excite him. But he discouraged all of this.. and our sex life went from lame to lamer over time. We hardly have sex these days.

We can't stop arguing over the littlest things. He won't let go of anything. He calls me the worst names in the world, snaps at me for no apparent reason.

I cook every single day after work. He always comes to clean home and a fresh dinner. I'm not in lingerie, but in a normal pj's.. and of course he complains because my pj's are not pretty enough... if i change, he either complains again, or shrugs it off..

if i try to hug him, he pushes me away and says its not appropriate in front of the kids.

On every occasion, or birthday, he always mocks and belittles whatever I get him. Even a 500 $ Ferrari watch wasn't good enough.

Most men I went out with rated me at 8 out of 10. My ex from 10 years ago still emails me every once in a while asking me if I'm single "yet"!!.. Not saying that I'm perfect; I'm just wondering why he thinks im so bad! He makes fun of me all the time.. my looks, my taste in clothes.. in furniture.. whatever I do or say is always wrong.

I feel like i'd been trying sooo hard to please him and be as perfect as he wishes me to be; but to no avail. He keeps on raising the bar higher and higher and I just can't keep up!

Finally I'd asked for a divorce, I'm sick of the way he belittles me and the fact that he NEVER appreciates anything I do for him... But he says if I file for divorce he will kidnap the kids and will make sure I never see them again.. He claims he loves me too.. But, is this love? What on earth is wrong with him?

Since he doesn't think Im ever good enough, why does he insist on keeping me?.. I'm getting too depressed to eat or function. I need a real man!!!

3 hours ago - 4 days left to answer.

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Ok, some seem to misjudge me because I focused on materialistic things rather than stuff like my personality/communicative skills/sense of humor..etc; I'd hate to say that I have it all! I do think I'm funny, and I try to talk to him allllll the time! When we go out I ask him/try to get a conv going... but he prefers to play games on his phone and chat on his BB with his friends.

I am a university lecturer and have been voted as one of the top teachers in the department by the students for 5 consecutive years; so I'm pretty sure this means that I do have decent communicative skills.

However, there's of course always a chance that there's something wrong with me and that I can't see it?! Maybe all men tend to be like that after 10 years of being together? And I simply have to get over this fact? I don't know. That's why I'm asking.

Only 3 weeks ago we had a "family gathering" where my parents and siblings tried to interfere... but to no avail. He is probably a good person deep inside, but it's hard for him to show any positive emotions/feedback. He is only capable of talking when something isn't "perfect" enough and is a strong believer in "criticism" as a disciplinary method which puts people down...

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Thanks

Hi...

Been married for 5 years. We been together 10 years. Im 28 and he's 29. We got 2 little ones.

I earn a bit less than he does; but he doesn't have to pay rent because housing comes with my contract. As well as health insurance, kids schooling, tickets every summer. I never ask him for money. I buy myself what I want.

I used to be amazing in bed; role-plays, dress-ups, 69's, watch sexy movies together. I'd even put on a wig, contact lenses and a new accent to excite him. But he discouraged all of this.. and our sex life went from lame to lamer over time. We hardly have sex these days.

We can't stop arguing over the littlest things. He won't let go of anything. He calls me the worst names in the world, snaps at me for no apparent reason.

I cook every single day after work. He always comes to clean home and a fresh dinner. I'm not in lingerie, but in a normal pj's.. and of course he complains because my pj's are not pretty enough... if i change, he either complains again, or shrugs it off..

if i try to hug him, he pushes me away and says its not appropriate in front of the kids.

On every occasion, or birthday, he always mocks and belittles whatever I get him. Even a 500 $ Ferrari watch wasn't good enough.

Most men I went out with rated me at 8 out of 10. My ex from 10 years ago still emails me every once in a while asking me if I'm single "yet"!!.. Not saying that I'm perfect; I'm just wondering why he thinks im so bad! He makes fun of me all the time.. my looks, my taste in clothes.. in furniture.. whatever I do or say is always wrong.

I feel like i'd been trying sooo hard to please him and be as perfect as he wishes me to be; but to no avail. He keeps on raising the bar higher and higher and I just can't keep up!

Finally I'd asked for a divorce, I'm sick of the way he belittles me and the fact that he NEVER appreciates anything I do for him... But he says if I file for divorce he will kidnap the kids and will make sure I never see them again.. He claims he loves me too.. But, is this love? What on earth is wrong with him?

Since he doesn't think Im ever good enough, why does he insist on keeping me?.. I'm getting too depressed to eat or function. I need a real man!!!