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I'm not a weird possessive jealous type of person or anything who has rage. Rather I am just jealous a little about who my fiancé has dated in the past n what the girls were like. I have low confidence but he likes that about me bc i dont have a big ego. i know i should be mre confident but its hard given the cards i been dealt in life. Also girls do you ever feel like you're second best to another girl he had liked in the past... Maybe one he loved but they didnt love him back? He has this girl that he liked n she didn't like him bk. I wonder if she came to him if he'd leave me for her or what.

Although I'd love having suggestions on how I can overcome this, I'd especially like to know if I'm alone, or there are other girls like me out there. Or just how many are this way.

The obvious way to reply to this would be "dump him" which I'm sure most will say. But, don't even liars deserve to be with someone? I mean, I can't say it would make them not worthy of dating. He's great in all other ways, and I'm hoping he can stop lying.

He admitted to me the other day he lies to people all the time and he doesn't know why. He lies so much that I never know the truth! It's frustrating. There is no trust there. I know you need trust for a relationship, so I'm hoping that he can seek treatment so hopefully he can stop lying and I can gain trust one day. Now, do you think treatment will help? Is there hope for him? And should I ask him to see a psychologist ? Or what type of therapist is recommended?

I live in NJ. Where can someone take a drug test here? Or can I buy an at-home kit? It's for my fiance. He was on Suboxone and claims he is done with it and said he will take a drug test to prove to me he stopped. He also takes 5 Ibuprofen per day. I suspect he did Klonopin or Xanax or something different a couple days ago... would this still show up in a drug test if I tested him tomorrow?

He did suboxone. He claims he stopped last week. Idk. Would a rehab center take him seriously for being on this drug or is this not considered a major enough drug? He has been also slurring his speech today and yesterday w mood changes n sluggish n tired n seeming disoriented and confused. He denies taking a drug but it sure seems like it! He said he'd take a drug test. Has anyone seen someone on drugs that denies being high or should I just believe him? He swears he is not high.

I feel soooo old n I'm 29 and feel like I am a failure bc at 29 I still don't have a great job. I had a great job and lost it so I went bk to college at 29 and feel too old to be doing this bc I fear that at 33 ill be dead bc I am very ill.

all day. Is this normal?

My friend's parrot has a potty mouth. His language was learned from my friend. She also has a bad mouth. She calls her parrot an f'n jerk and the parrot replies "shut the f up you f'n b***". The bird watches BET all day. Is this a negative influence? What is proper bird etiquette? Is her parrot now bein illegal or does he too have freedom of speech? Can her bird be put to sleep for mental abuse? If its illegal for humans to allow their child to watch rated r movies under 13 then shouldn't it be illegal to allow your bird who has the mentality of a child to watch these movies too? The bird is so smart. He watches bet an horror movies. Like bride of chucky , etc. It is unfair he is being called names n is subject to BET all day n cursed at. Idk how to tell my friend that this is wrong. I tried n she said he's just a bird so it doesn't matter but I find it a lil abusive for him bc he seems like a child. What are the rights for animals and can her bird take her to court if I became the bird's lawyer for example? I feel bad for him. Can my friend get in trouble for this? I don't want her in trouble. I want to help her , so she can properly raise her bird. I feel she is a negative influence on her bird.

-He carries a pic of her in his wallet, but has no picture of me.

-He sends texts saying "I love you, xoxoxoxoxo" and she sends him texts saying "I love you with all my heart" and then he deletes the messages right after, but never deletes anyone else's messages. However, she does say I love you to almost everyone she knows, and she says xoxoxo a lot.

-They hug every time they see each other.

-They say I love you to each other about 4 times while ending the conversation. That's the part that's kind of scaring me.

What do you think is going on here?

I have a hard time getting friends. I know HOW to get friends (go to meetup groups, meet with people of interest, join clubs, go out, etc.) But when I DO those things, even the people of these groups just seem to be too busy to be my friend. Now, I know people are just busy, but why is it that most people have more than 2 friends, when I have only one? I can't make any friends. What is wrong with me? I'm not overbearing either. I am nice, I go out of my way for others, not a criminal, I'm a good person, I am talented, I'm a musician who works for Def Jam and I have a really good job, I try not to be annoying, I'm smart, I am NOT cheap, I do ANYTHING FOR ANYONE.... it's like I'm the nice girl who gets walked on!! This is my life story!! The only person who really loves me is my boyfriend and my cat. My family isn't even all that fond of me, bc we don't see eye to eye. :( I don't know.

I cry over my boyfriend, a lot. It's not tears of pain or sadness, though. It's more tears bc he's such a great guy that i want to do everything possible to make sure he is alive for a long time. I have a fear of others dying young and I had my ex boyfriend die at 21 and another guy I loved die at 25. And now the one I'm with now, I'm scared of losing him. The one guy died a year after we dated, and I had been meaning to call him but then I heard he passed of an OD. Then the other guy had a brain tumor for 10 yrs and was in a wheelchair for 5 yrs and I knew he would die soon (I was his caretaker and I fell in love w him, even tho I knew his time was limited bc doctors told me so). Anyway, my bf now is healthy but for some reason I fear he'll get taken away from me too. And not only taken from me but from his fam n friends too, and you see, he is the best guy in te world and such a positive role model to other people. I look at his pix all the time and cry over how sweet he is, kinda tears of joy....

I am 5'5'' and 105 pounds so I am very thin, but my hips are getting flabby, and even though I'm thin, I'm out of shape (need to get toned) but I am disabled so I really can't work out. Any advice on how to trim down my hips without getting toned?! Also, why do my clothes look so weird on me lately? I wear a size 3 pants. I wear capris and nothing looks good. My body shape is so weird, and my hips are big but waist is small, and there is my upper thigh / lower butt that is kinda big too and it just looks flabby and gross.... ahhh.... wish I could get in shape!! if I wasn't disabled, believe me, I'd be in better shape. But I became disabled last year and I can no longer exercise or lift weights or anything like that. I have some cellulite too and I'm 29. :(

Not trying to brag, but I am an extremely nice person, always consciously making sure I'm not hurting others' feelings, always going out of my way for other people, doing anything I can for people, being there, being an extremely good listener, etc. I'm the type of person who would do ANYTHING FOR ANYONE, so why do people not like me as a friend?! I am pretty, I'm not like a slob or anything, I went to college, never got into drugs, except I have drank socially like 99% of people have, I drive, I have a really good head on my shoulders, I'm down to Earth, etc. I feel like people don't even give me a chance to get to know me. And if they do, they don't want or don't choose to be my friend. I do have a couple friends who I'm close with. But that's it. They say "people grow apart." I don't like that... that's an excuse, a cop-out! Yes, some people do grow apart. But "growing apart" is a conscious decision. I did evrtytihng to NOT grow apart- I made that phone call often, I initiated things, etc and it was never mutual. They CHOSE other friends over me, even when I made so many attempts. So I backed away for years hoping they'd contact me... nope, it never happened. I'm tired of being the one to alwyas make the attempt. THEY CHOSE to be away, we did not "grow apart." We could have easily sustained a relationship... in my opinion, they took our relationship for granted!I am someone who would have doen anything for them so why would they not care to lose me as a friend? I just don't get it. PS I don't smell bad either, I hold a great conversation, I'm funny, etc. Girls especially just don't like me. (Oh, to clarify, guys always want to be my friend, and it's not always to get in my pants either. ) I am in a relationship with a guy, so I don't really want any guy friends. But I have only a couple friends who are girls. The rest seem to not like me. The guys all like me! And I'm NOT a tomboy! I'm like the most girly-girly girl ! I shop, style, you name it......... I kind of would like a friend that's a girl to watch movies with, go out to eat, chat, do girly stuff, etc. I am not lonely because I am dating someone, like I said, but it would be nice to go out with girls. Oh and by the way, I have sisters, but they're too busy all the time, they work like 80+ hours per week and have their own lives, so I see them sometimes but they're not really as social as I am. What am I doing wrong? I have tried meetup.com and that didn't really result in anything. I joined clubs and activities, as I'm into music, so I do music, and those are the people that hate me the WORST! Any other suggestions/ ideas?

Not trying to brag, but I am an extremely nice person, always consciously making sure I'm not hurting others' feelings, always going out of my way for other people, doing anything I can for people, being there, being an extremely good listener, etc. I'm the type of person who would do ANYTHING FOR ANYONE, so why do people not like me as a friend?! I am pretty, I'm not like a slob or anything, I went to college, never got into drugs, except I have drank socially like 99% of people have, I drive, I have a really good head on my shoulders, I'm down to Earth, etc. I feel like people don't even give me a chance to get to know me. And if they do, they don't want or don't choose to be my friend. I do have a couple friends who I'm close with. But that's it. They say "people grow apart." I don't like that... that's an excuse, a cop-out! Yes, some people do grow apart. But "growing apart" is a conscious decision. I did evrtytihng to NOT grow apart- I made that phone call often, I initiated things, etc and it was never mutual. They CHOSE other friends over me, even when I made so many attempts. So I backed away for years hoping they'd contact me... nope, it never happened. I'm tired of being the one to alwyas make the attempt. THEY CHOSE to be away, we did not "grow apart." We could have easily sustained a relationship... in my opinion, they took our relationship for granted!I am someone who would have doen anything for them so why would they not care to lose me as a friend? I just don't get it. PS I don't smell bad either, I hold a great conversation, I'm funny, etc. Girls especially just don't like me. (Oh, to clarify, guys always want to be my friend, and it's not always to get in my pants either. ) I am in a relationship with a guy, so I don't really want any guy friends. But I have only a couple friends who are girls. The rest seem to not like me. The guys all like me! And I'm NOT a tomboy! I'm like the most girly-girly girl ! I shop, style, you name it......... I kind of would like a friend that's a girl to watch movies with, go out to eat, chat, do girly stuff, etc. I am not lonely because I am dating someone, like I said, but it would be nice to go out with girls. Oh and by the way, I have sisters, but they're too busy all the time, they work like 80+ hours per week and have their own lives, so I see them sometimes but they're not really as social as I am. What am I doing wrong? I have tried meetup.com and that didn't really result in anything. I joined clubs and activities, as I'm into music, so I do music, and those are the people that hate me the WORST! Any other suggestions/ ideas?

I'm 29 and I'm sooooo scared. I used to be attractive and I kind of feel like being 29 puts me in the unattractive category. Is that true? All the hot girls are like 28 and younger. I feel like I'm too old to wear daisy dukes, and I don't wear them. I don't look "young" like I used to... kind of depressing but what can ya do...

What can I do to get over this? I feel too old to be trendy, but yet too young to wear the old granny clothes. There's like nothing in between.

I actually feel so sad for my bf. out of everyone in the world, he is the nicest person I've ever met, and I feel sad sometimes that he had to live the life he lived being so nice and innocent. My bf was a loner who could never get a girl and didn't even try bc his self esteem was so low. Why was it low? Idk. He said he got rejected a lot so he stopped trying. He was surrounded by people who were in n out of jail his entire life yet thru the darkness he shined thru and never got into that stuff. He is too sweet and nice for his own good but I love it. I used to think he was too good for me simply bc he was so nice, then I realized that i was living a similar life as him my entire life n i was nice too, and ive always been a nice one, so im not bragging but at least he got someone that'll appreciate him bc many girls wouldn't have. Meanwhile girls didn't even give him a chance n they never got to see how good of a guy he is ..? It baffles me. He has no clue and his naiveness shows. I don't want him to be lost in this world but his innocence is so cute. He was NOT sheltered either. He Does everything for me and just is the sweetest guy in te world. Many girls probably say that about their bf but I honestly think if he entered some reality show or contest to find the nicest person I really think he'd come close to winning if not win. He's not even a fake sweet either. He puts a constant smile on my face and that's an understatement. My entire life I thought me being nice was a bad thing bc guys don't seem to like nice girls but here at least I can be nice and still wanted at te same time.

My fortune cookie today said "good advice jars the ears". Anyone know what this means? I am guessing it means that good advice is all around me and perhaps I should listen but that's just a guess! I take the fortune cookies seriously (I know, weird huh)

I said 22 and up only bc I think most people under that age are so busy they don't cuddle as much. Lol

Anyway, how often do you cuddle, hug, and kiss your sitnificant other? I'm just trying to see if I'm overdoing it. I touch my bf all the time. We are almost always touching , kissing, and cuddling. When he goes to smoke I follow him out and sit with him and cuddle. Is this overbearing? He says he loves it. He initiates it half the time. Sometimes it's prob bc he wants sex.

I am trying to find out why my face (esp my nose) is always itchy. This is CONSTANT and highly annoying. It's been over 8 years with this problem.

Okay, I once thought it was dry skin, and so I started using a humidifier, and I wear lotion- and nope, don't think that was the cause bc the problem never went away.

....Then i thought maybe it was a parasite or mite living on my skin... that could be the case. Does anyone else get this? I think I may be allergic to mites. ALSO, when even the tiniest strand of hair touches my forehead, it is HIGHLY ITCHY So even if it WAS a mite, would this hair thing affect it? I cannot tolerate even the slightest hair on my forehead. I am constantly scratching my face, esp around my nose area. I scratch at the bottom of my nose and inside my nose all day long. I do NOT have a runny nose, nor do i have any congestion. I drink a lot of water. I have tried olive oil and coconut oil , among so many other lotions. I've also tried eating honey. Nothing has worked so far. I also tried oatmeal lotions and numbing creams. HELP! Does anyone have any other ideas?

My best friend saw a guy she thought was cute at the retail store. She didn't want to face rejection so she called the store and asked for him and asked if he was single n he said no. Do you think he said no bc he was creeped out by the phone call or he said no bc he was actually not single?

About a couple days a month he gets in a weird mood where he seems withdrawn and spaced out. He will randomly drift off into sleep and get tired as talking and start sleep talking, he moves his arms real slow when he's awake during this mood and often touches his face the whole time, he will feel around his forehead especially, then his eyes will be sooo droopy and blood shot and he won't make eye contact with me. Only during this mood, his speech is slurred , he sounds confused , and I will ask him a question 5 times before he even realized I asked something and then he will answer the wrong question. Note this only happens for twO days straight, about once a month. He won't be his normal cheery character but instead hell be mellow and sluggish. He will have weird dreams too and will just randomly say weird stuff as he's awake. All other days he is cheery , makes eye contact, etc. Also, he goes for a two hour walk during his moody time and will claim he met up with his boy and talking on the phone he will sound confused. Now just note he is a really nice sweet guy, not a jerk at all, just in a weird mood. What could be causing this behavior change in him?

About a couple days a month he gets in a weird mood where he seems withdrawn and spaced out. He will randomly drift off into sleep and get tired as talking and start sleep talking, he moves his arms real slow when he's awake during this mood and often touches his face the whole time, he will feel around his forehead especially, then his eyes will be sooo droopy and blood shot and he won't make eye contact with me. Only during this mood, his speech is slurred , he sounds confused , and I will ask him a question 5 times before he even realized I asked something and then he will answer the wrong question. Note this only happens for twO days straight, about once a month. He won't be his normal cheery character but instead hell be mellow and sluggish. He will have weird dreams too and will just randomly say weird stuff as he's awake. All other days he is cheery , makes eye contact, etc. Also, he goes for a two hour walk during his moody time and will claim he met up with his boy and talking on the phone he will sound confused. Now just note he is a really nice sweet guy, not a jerk at all, just in a weird mood. What could be causing this behavior change in him?