Luca

You have no interaction inbetween now and 10 years ago. When they were mean they were in their 20s. It was not a one time thing or a misunderstanding.

l assume they are still the same person now unless they give me a really obvious reason to believe otherwise. 

I have come across alot of these people, and have only met 1 that actually seems to be a decent person now, not still a jerk or a slightly watered down version of his old self.

We have had several small argument I would say in the past few months. I get over them quickly and feel like we've resolved them but I'm thinking he doesn't feel that way. Around 4 or 5 months he told me he thought our relationship was too good to be true at times but he just pushes the thoughts away, he was in a long-term relationship with a mean woman before me, and he was just waiting a certain amount of time to hit milestones. Now when I bring up the future he cracks jokes or changes a subject. Has he changed his mind about me and just won't say it?

I know he values marriage too. We talked about it early on.