Sarah

I've just read 3 of the 4 Bride Quartet series and I love them. What other authors/book are similar? Or books that tell the story of friends falling in love?

My son is 5 months old and will not sleep with out a swaddler. He won't even nap without one! When is he to old to be swaddled? Research says it can be up to 8 months, but unlikely.

Is there anyway I can get him to stop?

I've tried to loosen the swaddler but then he gets it around his neck and that is not good.

I've tried one arm out, but he wakes up.

Any advice?

I dated a guy for six years. We talked about marriage and kids a good bit. He was my first true love and at times I think I still love him. We've been through a lot and I don't think I can get past all the lieing, cheating, and neglect. I'm trying really hard not to let me feeling interfere with his relationship with our son, Beau.

In July 2008 he got a DWI (his second on record, actual third though). He was given a hardship license. Well when I came up pregnant in September 2008 he freaked. We tried to work things out but he worried more about partying and deer hunting. His hardship license was suppose to be used for work but he would use it to drive three hours away to go hunting. I was in school so I could not go hunting with him (which I love hunting). I may have become somewhat nagging because I knew his hardship was not suppose to be used to go hunting and I was worried about his safety. He ended up getting stopped for speeding and was arrested. I drove to bail him out and he never said thank you.

We argued for a few more weeks because he never helped with any baby things and would not drive to come see me at my house (thirty minutes away). It was always my job to go see him. So I would drive big, pregnant, and tired. I never moved in because of his temper which he couldn't control (he threw a stove out of his house the day after I got out of the hospital for spotting). I stopped going over there to see if he'd ever come over my house. I ended up finding out that he had been taking other girls to his camp and having girls sleep at his house. Those girls ended up calling and harrassing me until the day before I had my baby. Sad thing is he always talked about having a family. Anyways regardless of what was going on I constanly invited him to come to baby classes, hospital tours, to make my registery, to help with the nursery... he always refuse to go hunting or fishing.

At my nine months I gave up and found out he lost his hardship license. I thought maybe he'd have time to grow up and his mom would bring him to see me, nope he still had more drama then ever. I went over times and was enduced. I did not call the baby's father when I was in labor because I did not want him to ruin the birth of my son. He always seems to cause drama.

He came to the hospital the day our son was born and then did not come visit again until my son was two weeks old. Since then he has come to my house 8 times (our son is 5 months old). He talks about how he wants our son to know his father and so having a big heart I pack up my son and bring him over there. While there he does everything wrong and does not listen to my advice. He tells me I don't know what I'm doing.

I'm not being a mom that says it's suppose to be my way but our son has reflux so he needs to be fed sitting up or he will start gagging, and he shouldn't be given water in a bottle. The father doesn't change diapers quickly enough which will give him a bleeding rash. He left the baby in a tub by himself to run in another room to get something. He lets Beau sleep on his stomach and falls asleep holding Beau. I mean it's serious stuff.

I decided that he needed supervised visits and when he showed he could care for him alone I left Beau with his father alone for a day. When I picked up our son the father was ranting and raving about a rash and threatened to call child services on me. That was when I gave up and stopped bring our son to visit.

He recently is trying again but only at my convince. He still has no license. He can find a ride to his hunting camp three hours away, but cannot get to my house thirty minutes away. To me his priorities are in the wrong place.

Not to mention he has spent $250 dollars on our son (which $100 of that is at his house) and 2 packs of diapers. Yesterday I went and picked the father up from work and took him shopping for clothes for our son which he spent $60 on. He refuses to help pay for child care because he says, "I'm not paying someone else to see my son when I can't even see him."

Please don't tell me to go to court. The baby's birth certificate does not have the father's name on it and until he takes me to court that is the way it will stay. I have ALL say so on our son's well being and like it that way.

I just want to know when do I stop helping someone who doesn't help me? I've asked for money and he tells me that when he sees his son he will pay what he thinks is fair. I've replied that he can come see his son anytime he wants, he just has to find his own ride. And whether he sees his son or not that his son is still alive and needs things.

Its in formula, cereal, and baby food. Can a baby get too much DHA? What bad affects, if any happen? Does it help all babies or just premies?

My son (by doctors orders) has two teaspoons of cereal in every four ounce bottle for reflux. He takes a bottle every 2.5- 3 hours. The doctor also suggested starting baby food which he loves! He eats two tablespoons of oatmeal cereal in the morning, a stage one jar of food for lunch, and a stage one jar of food for supper AND a two ounce bottle after every meal. My son is 5 months old, 28 inches long, and 15 pounds, so he no where near being overweight.

I was told that a child of this age should not be eating three meals a day nor of this amount (by another mother).