Mystic

Okay..after 20+ years with someone I'm starting to date again. And I met this really nice guy a few weeks ago. We either talk on the phone, email, or text every few days, but we haven't been on an official date yet - our schedules keep conflicting. We do have a lot of fun talking about our day, and have had some serious discussions, but to be honest he doesn't really ask me a lot of things, besides, how was your day, etc. He still hasn't asked me my last name, what I do for a living, or about my past relationships. Other than that, I honestly have a great time talking to him. He is really sweet but just doesn't seem "interested" in the details of my life. I know we are naturally exchanging info as we talk, but I guess it would be nice if he actually asked me something. Is this typical? I'm just worried about what he may be interested in, since he isn't shy about telling me how attracted he is to me!

I lost my spouse of 23 years about 5 years ago, and even though I'm ready to move on, I find I'm seldom, if ever, attracted to anyone. Is this typical? (I'm in my 40's).

I watch my friends of the same age and they get into relationships very easily. I just don't get it. Is it that easy to find someone you enjoy?

It's not that I don't know how to talk to men. I do. I just don't feel any interest in anyone. Most of the time it feels like work being with them.

And I'm not looking to fall madly in love, I'd just like to find someone I have fun with that I respect. BTW..there is a man I work with that I've done some flirting with and I like him (I've known him for years). But he is only separated from his wife, so he is still off limits.

So am I expecting too much, by wanting to feel attracted to men before dating? Or should I just force myself to date and hope attraction to them grows?

BTW..I'm referring to emotional not physical attraction.

I was just transferred to a new dept, but I still have to work with my old supervisor, who I don't get a long with. Long story short, I have no respect for her, and we both know it. She is insecure, self-centered, and incompetent. Last week we had a stressful situation come up, and my old supervisor said "I need this to be fixed!" to which I replied "then fix it!" (it's easy to assign the impossible to others, isn't it?"). Well, I heard she was really upset about this, so what do I do if she talks to my new supervisor about it? Do I take the high road and remain silent about how much pressure she puts on me? Or do I lay all the cards on the table? BTW..my new supervisor really likes me and the head of my department likes me, so i'd almost rather remain silent, and let time show him the truth. On the other hand, I feel he will need to side with a fellow supervisor and he may also worry he has a "problem" employee on his hands, which will tarnish my reputation. What do I do?

No need to be graphic. But honestly, what is the fascination? Is it just curiousity, attraction, are you actually imagining things, or is it just a simple observation. I'd really like to know what's going on in your mind.

Have any of you ever made the tough decision to either have to place your parents in a nursing home or have decided to care for them in your home?

And I am referring to the point where you have to take care of their physical needs too. Diapers..baths..feeding..etc.

After taking care of my father at home for 3 years, I finally placed him in a nursing home and the guilt is killing me. He is 86, and although he has been there 2 years he still wants to come home. I only see him on Sundays, but I do bring him home for dinner, and he sometimes spends the night, but then I avoid him for the rest of the week because of the guilt.

But I still feel selfish. I know someday I will regret this. But I'm not happy with him at home, and I'm not happy with him in a nursing home. I feel so frustrated, but I can't see a good answer to this.

I live alone and have to work, so when the caregivers leave at the end of the day it would only be me.

When I was young I never believed in God, even though I tried to live by similar standards. I just didn't believe in an afterlife, miracles,God or the Devil.

Then one day it all changed. I looked back at my life and for a moment I saw a pattern. What I had thought were random occurrences and in some cases tragedies, I suddenly realized were passages. But most of all, I saw all the things I had prayed for when I was a child has come true, just not in the way I had imagined it so I'd never noticed.

That moment changed my life. Have you had a similar experience?

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It's frustrating when they ask for advice over and over but then won't take it. But it's also hard to watch a friend walk into what you know will be a disaster. Yet I have to listen to them talk themselves into thinking it will be okay - you know going after a horrid guy, or forgiving an affair for the 5th time, etc. I try to avoid the constant rehashing of the same situation, but eventually something will happen to them - again, they will cry - again, be shocked - again, and then throw themselves right back into it.

They are obviously insecure so pointing that out to them indirectly, but constantly doesn't seem like it would help them in the long run So as a friend should I be more supportive? What would you want?