Angela D

I have been married for 13 years we have had our ups and downs as most couples together that long have. I have been having a problem with my husband inability to be affectionate without it leading to sex. Most of the time I don't mind, but lately I have been having health issues and I haven't been able to give him any sex, so the affection has stopped. With my health issues these last few weeks I could really use a hug for comfort or a kiss to show me that he loves me. When I tell him that I could use some affection without it leading to sex he got upset and told me I am being selfish. Am I? What should I do to get him to be more understanding of my health issues and my feelings?

RIMS for his car. Meanwhile I don't even have a car. Several months ago we began taking steps to repair our credit so we can purchase a home and a second vehicle for me. Except he isn't keeping his end of the deal. Now tax season is here and he wants to take my taxes to buy him a set of $3000 rims. He doesn't get anything back from his taxes because he owes government debt so we file separately.

Besides a lot of other selfish choices he has made this one is the last straw. I have been with him for 13 years and we have two children together. I just simply can't understand the way he thinks. I sacrifice everything, my paycheck, my social life, my happiness all for the sake of not fighting. No more I have given him an ultimatum, if he buys those rims instead of fixing my credit and getting me a car we will be divorced. Am I wrong for this ultimatum?

My husband and I have been having issues with our finances. My husband spends as he pleases and I don't get to spend a dime. We both work and I only make a little less than he does a year but he feels a sense of superiority. Well after hours of discussion last night we may have a solution. I am going to start charging him for my housecleaning services. I know it is my house but it seems to be the only way to get any of my hard earned money. So from now on he isn't going to lift a finger in the house (not like he did much before) and I am going to charge him a monthly fee.

My house is pretty big. 1,800 square foot, 2-story home, with 3 beds and 3 full baths, living room, family room, dining room. I also have two small children to pick up after as well. So how much do you think I should charge? Hourly? Per square foot?

My husband and I have been having issues with our finances. My husband spends as he pleases and I don't get to spend a dime. We both work and I only make a little less than he does a year but he feels a sense of superiority. Well after hours of discussion last night we may have a solution. I am going to start charging him for my housecleaning services. I know it is my house but it seems to be the only way to get any of my hard earned money. So from now on he isn't going to lift a finger in the house (not like he did much before) and I am going to charge him a monthly fee.

My house is pretty big. 1,800 square foot, 2-story home, with 3 beds and 3 full baths, living room, family room, dining room. I also have two small children to pick up after as well. So how much do you think I should charge? Hourly? Per square foot?

My husband thinks because he makes more money than I do, that he is entitled to spend it how he sees fit without discussing it with me. Our money is in a joint account and we go half on ALL the bills and household expenses. Which obviously leaves more money left over from his paycheck, and usually I end up with nothing left over.

He buys and spends on what ever his heart desires. When he wanted a motorcycle, he went and bought one and didn't tell me until he drove it into our driveway. On the other hand, if I want to do something as little as getting my hair done, I can't he says we don't have the money to waste.

We have been together and have struggled with this issue for 10 years. I am getting tired of always get the sh!t end of the stick, but every time I bring it up we get into a fight because he feels this superiority financially and acts very arrogant and selfish.

With all that has been said, this also the reason why I feel trapped to deal with this bullsh..., I can't get enough saved to separate and possibly divorce him. I love him, but I am tired.

My husband thinks because he makes more money than I do, that he is entitled to spend it how he sees fit without discussing it with me. Our money is in a joint account and we go half on ALL the bills and household expenses. Which obviously leaves more money left over from his paycheck, and usually I end up with nothing left over.

He buys and spends on what ever his heart desires. When he wanted a motorcycle, he went and bought one and didn't tell me until he drove it into our driveway. On the other hand, if I want to do something as little as getting my hair done, I can't he says we don't have the money to waste.

We have been together and have struggled with this issue for 10 years. I am getting tired of always get the sh!t end of the stick, but every time I bring it up we get into a fight because he feels this superiority financially and acts very arrogant and selfish.

With all that has been said, this also the reason why I feel trapped to deal with this bullsh..., I can't get enough saved to separate and possibly divorce him. I love him, but I am tired.

I have been married for 10 years and we have 2 children together. When we dated he was very attentive and sweet, as most men are in the beginning. Once we were married things did a 360. He went from taking me out every weekend, to taking me out once a year and it is usually me forcing him to take me out on a date. While we are out he seems disinterested in me and almost seems to be watching the clock. If we go out to a bar for some drinks he will invite friends (single friends) to keep him company, meanwhile I sit and feel like the 5th wheel. This makes me feel like my companionship isn't good enough. My husband goes out to hang with his buddies once a week. I go out with my friends... well never. He usually has plans so I get STUCK home with the children.

I love my kids and I am not the kind of parent to pawn my kids off on anyone else. My husband and I have a rule that the kids aren't to be babysat by anyone but family. This is a huge obstacle in our romantic life because we get no romantic time.

What I really need from him and have voiced to him a number of times is just some romance. We both work 9-5 and I currently attend online classes towards my bachelors degree. The weekends are packed full of chores and time with the kids. By the end of the day we both are drained and don't have a romantic notion in our overworked minds. I just don't know when is the right time to bring up romance. It feels like bringing about a root canal.

For Valentines Day we were strapped for cash, so I decided to make his favorite meal. After the kids went to bed I went and put on a nice bustier I purchased from Fredericks of Hollywood. I served him his meal in this get up and he seemed to enjoy the evening as I had it planned. I drew a bath for him and gave him a long sponge bath. After that you can imagine what followed.

I tried to initiate the romance and show him what I consider romantic but he doesn't seem to have any interest in romance. I don't expect unrealistic romance like in the movies. I just want some kind of effort made on his part to romance me.

Our sex life is good. It could be better but with two kids and a busy lifestyle we aren't exactly porn material. We kind of roll over do the deed and then roll back to sleep. Occasionally we will have some extended loving but it is very rare.

I need help out of this rut.