Nikki

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and currently live together. I love him so much but sometimes I wonder if we are right for each other. He is my best friend and I cannot imagine life without him. But we have issues with money because he spends too much. I try to get him to save money so someday we can have a better life together but he gets so defensive and mad at me when I tell him to spend less and save more. So many times I feel I do so much for him and he just takes advantage of me; and when I tend to feel this way he usually does something nice for me without my asking...like cleaning the apartment or washing dishes. I want to be married someday with kids and own my own home and have nice things but if his spending habits continue we will never get there. I know my boyfriend loves me. There is not a day that goes by that he doesn't tell me this. But regardless of how much he tells me he loves me and how much he tells me he wants a future with me he is so scared of marriage. I am not ready for marriage yet but it does not freak me out like it does him. Our biggest issue right now is our sex life. When we started the relationship we both had very active sex drives but his has decreased significantly. We will go 2 weeks without sex and if it were for not me pushing him he would probably go longer without sex. Here recently he has confessed to me to watching porn on the internet. I have gained 15 pounds in the last couple of months so I feel as though he is no longer attracted to me even though he says he is. Between the weight gain and the decreased sexual activity my self-esteem is very low. I feel as though I am not good enough for him and never will be. When he looks at me I feel as though he is judging me and wishing I looked different. I wonder at times if I were skinny would we have these problems. I am afraid my low self esteem is going to hurt our relationship. I hate feeling this way so I have joined a gym recently and started working with a personal trainer. Our these issues normal? Sometimes I feel as though we are doomed and have so much against us. The thought of breaking up is so painful but there is always a voice in the back of my head asking if we are right for each other. I don't want to waste years of my life to find out that we are more friends than we are lovers. I have seen some of my friends go thorough this and I do not want to end up like them. Any suggestions?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We just recently moved in together despite some intimacy issues we have been dealing with for the past couple of months. I love my boyfriend very much and I know he loves me and we are planning a future together. In the last couple of months I have gained approximately 15 pounds. During this time the amount of times a week my boyfriend I have sex has decreased significantly. We went from having sex 3-4 times a week to once, and sometimes not even that. He just has not interest in sex anymore and I cannot help but feel it is me since the weight gain but he is so adamant it is not me and is very much attracted to me. I try to initiate it but then he pushes me away. I am tired of getting rejected and I'm tired of feeling hurt. I feel we are growing further apart because I know women get their intimacy through sex. I just feel further away from him when we go a week or longer without sex. My boyfriend says it is because we have been together for a while and it's normal for sex to decrease but should it after 9 months? I have always had a heightened sex drive and I always thought he did too until now. I know he occassionally looks at porn because he admits he does. I think he feels guilty and tells me. I am grateful he is honest with me and it really does not bother me that he looks at porn but I just feel as though I am not enough for him and that's why he looks at it. Can someone give me insight. Is this normal? We are both in our 30's so I just don't know if it's his age that his sex drive has decreased. I am so tired of feeling rejected and hurt. We have talked about this so many times but it gets us no where. It always ends with him saying he does not want to feel pressured to have sex with me and I don't want that either. Please help!

Anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!

I am attending an around the clock bridal shower. The time I have been given is 11pm. So my gift has to be something that is associated with that time. Does anyone have any suggestions? The bride has already received plenty of lingerie and nighties, so I would prefer to get her something besides those items. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!

I'm 28 years old and due to student loans and stupid financial decisions I have made I am forced to live at home probably through my early 30's until I pay off debt, get a better paying job (hard to do that in this economy; I'm lucky to even have a job), or win the lottery. Contrary to what it may seem I am independent and I truly hate living at home. I don't want to be a 30 year old woman living at home with her parents, even tough I help them out with their bills since they are on a fixed income. I'm just curious if there are any other people out there in a similar situation as me?

I have not sprained my ankles or twisted them in any way. I walk to exercise, and every time I do my ankles start hurting really bad...it feels like the muscles around my ankles are hurting, actually. Now, when I am just walking regularly it doesn't start hurting but when I walk fast to exercise they start to hurt. Any ideas why?

I like mellow stuff...like "the field mice", "Mazzy Star", Coldplay, etc.

I filed for Chapter 7 Bankruptcy. It was finalized February 2009 and my debt was discharged (forgiven). Before I file my income taxes for the 2009 year, is there anything special I need to do in order to file my taxes. I do them myself online.

I got a new SD card for my digital camera but when I put it in and says "card error". I went to the store and the person there told me that I just need to format it. How do I do that? Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

I was prescribed Metformin by my doctor because I am insulin resistant but I have not taken it in about 5 days because it makes me really sick, and the doctor said there is nothing else they can put me on. I know you are not supposed to drink alcohol while taking Metformin, and I have not. MY QUESTION IS...IF I JUST HAVE 1-3 DRINKS, AND SINCE I HAVE NOT TAKEN METFORMIN IN 5 DAYS, WILL THIS BE HAZARDOUS TO MY HEALTH? HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET METFORMIN OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM?

I love the classics more than the popular hits but any suggestions are much appreciated. Thanks!

I think it's from the 70's maybe. But in the song it say "the cow jumped over the moon", something about "silver spoons". I think they even said "the man in the moon". Any suggestions will be much appreciated.

I attended a seminar last night on becoming a certified medical transcriptionist through At-Home Proffessionals.

If so, tell me about your experience with them. Would you recommend this company to anyone? How long did it take you to find work once you completed the course work? How long did it take you to complete the course work? Do you enjoy the work you do? Any information you can give me will be much appreciated. I want to make sure I'm not going to be scammed, and that I will receive an accredited certification that doctor's will recognize.

I'm getting 2 pop-ups. They pop-up approximately every 60 seconds. The first says "Spyware protect 2009 alert". Then says my computer is being attacked and asks if I want to block this attack. The second pop-up I'm getting says "Spyware alert!" and tells me vulnerabilities have been found on the pc. It then asks me if I want to activate spyware protect 2009 or stay unprotected. If I choose to block the attack or to activate spyware protect 2009 it sends me to a website to purchase the spyware protection. Does anyone know how to remove these pop-ups permanently?

Fox has refused to air Obama's 100 day's in office update because of their regular scheduled programing. When did society get so bad that Television has more precedence over what the President of the United States has to say. I'm ashamed to be a part of this society. How do you all feel?

I'm 27 years old. I have intimacy and relationship issues. I have a food addiction because I eat rather than dealing with my emotions. I'm unhealthily overweight. I know that for me to lose the weight for good and to live a normal adult life I need to deal with my issues. The only way to do that is to overcome the sexual abuse that happened when I was a kid, but I can't do that unless I know who my abuser was. How do I remember? I've blocked it out somehow. Has anyone else gone through this same thing? If so, have you overcome this? How did you do it? I want to move on with my life but I know I need to address the darkness of my past in order to do that. Please help.

I want to be there for her and her family but I feel awkward. I know there is nothing I can say or do to take away their fear or pain but is there something I SHOULD be saying or doing? If so, what is it?

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