Janelle Jean

what would be a better gift. a karaoke machine or a mic and speaker? i dont know how karaoke machines work. Do the just play the music and he would sing the song? Can he make up his own words or do you have to sing the words on the song? And what kind of CDs do I buy and where? or would a mic and speaker work better? Thank you!

My 8 year old son just joined a youth basketball program and his fellow classmate is also in the program. They ended up being in the same group and were partners the whole night. His classmate was so disruptive, didnt follow directions, wasn't listening, and goofing off the whole night making it very hard for my son to learn! My son was ignoring it very well but this kid was constantly in his face talking to him, not doing the drills as instructed, pulling on my sons arm trying to get him to follow his lead and my son was trying his hardest to listen to the coaches and do the drills and have fun. My child told him to stop MANY times. There were so many kids there making it hard for the coaches to really see all this going on and have control of every kid. I wanted to run out there so many times and tell that kid to knock it off! This child is like this in school too and his parents dont do anything about it. This child is in your face aggressive and relentless! What can I do to make sure this does NOT happen again?

There are six kids on my block that play together, they are all 7 and 8. I have taught my son to stand up for himself and tell people to stop. If it continues should I have him tell me what is going on or have him go tell the parents of the child that is being mean? I only ask this because all of these children come to me when any one of them are being mean to each other and I dont want to settle all the arguments that they cant stop or fix themselves. Over these last few years they all have grown to feel comfortable with me, dont get me wrong, I love that they love me but I cant deal with all the drama they can't handle themselves everyday. Its like Im the only parent in the neighborhood that cares.

i dont get phone calls from the teacher or the principle but i have asked the teacher to let me know everyday if its a "thumbs down" day or a "''thumbs up" day so thats how i know what is going on. he doesnt listen, jokes around, talks in class, today he chewed on a marker and it exploded all over him! i take away his xbox, tv, and give him extra homework on "thumbs down" days and it doesn't seem to matter, he has good grades, a very caring heart, and lots of friends. He says he knows he will get in trouble at home but he just can't stop doing it!

And I know many people say not to take Facebook too seriously so I don't need to hear that....He is in California and I am in Wisconsin. We text, talk on the phone, and Skype and we have been doing that for a month now. He has told me many times now that he wants to invest in our relationship and I am the only one for him. I am 35 and he is 40. We are friends on FB and he is following 30 half naked women, (profile pics), every person he adds as a friend is a female that is half naked, and he likes other females pictures but won't like mine, even though he will email me on FB and tell me how beautiful I am. This is making me not trust in what he is saying to me about how he feels about me. I have mentioned this too him (3 days ago) and he says he just adds everyone as a friend and he doesn't even know how to "follow" people and that since he know it bothers me he won't add everyone cuz I am more important...but yet in the last 3 days he has has added 7 more half naked women to his friends list. I only know this because I see it in the Ticker...I am NOT stalking his page at all. In this situation I feel FB is an important tool to get to know who this guy is. What do ya'll think about how I am feeling? I don't just trust people right away I need to see that people are trustworthy. What do ya'll think of him from what I have said? And this is serious because he talks about meeting soon and is interested in me moving out to Cali.

A guy friend reached out and said he wanted to get to know me better and see where things go. He would text me first everyday before noon and we would text all day long, this went on for a week. Now, the last couple days I will text him first in the evening we will exchange a couple texts, nothing serious, and I have been the last one to say anything, he doesn't respond anymore than that. We went from 100+ text a day to 8 in the last 2 days. I don't know what happened. I am holding a lot back so I don't overwhelm him, but something is different. I know we are just getting to know each other, but I am confused. We are both in our late 30's. He told me one of his short term goals was to be married in the next five years. I don't know how to feel, I dont know what to do. Its not like we were strangers and he realized I wasn't his type and our conversations have been fun and light hearted. I dont like feeling this way...what happened? and where do I go from here? Is this disrespectful? Is he playing games? Please help me understand

So yesterday the man "im going with the flow with" and I had this lil conversation after I waited for over 2 hours for him to get back to me:

Me: "the way you communicate with someone is very indicative of how you prioritize them in your life. If you’re really interested or into someone, you’ll move mountains to make them a priority. Therefore, when I get a text from a woman that I’m really into, I try my best to respond immediately or within minutes" 2:23 PM

Me: just something i read awhile ago 2:24 PM

D: Im not sure wut im doin this wknd..wut r u doin?..that statement can hold sum truth to it..how ya day goin? 3:04 PM

Me: does that statement have anything to do with how YOU handle communicate 3:18 PM

Me: *communication 3:18 PM

D: Um i more so handle the person..some ppl like talkn some ppl like textn some ppl like neithr..i dont talk much im borin on the phone..its y i text alot.. 3:21 PM

Me: thats not what the statement is talking about. its basically saying how fast you get back to a persons text is how they rank in priority in you life. i thru that out there cuz it took you over 2 hours to answer my text. 3:43 PM

Me: it was suppose to be sort of a joke but then you misunderstood the question and your answer didnt sound so good for me. lets just move on lol. 3:48 PM

Me: there is a couple of things going on this weekend so im not sure yet. 3:52 PM

Me: so tell me what do you like in a woman? 4:22 PM

Me: well i guess i will talk to you another time. have a good night 4:41 PM

D: Geez my phone was dead..gdnyt then 6:48 PM

You can see the times of the texts. I have not talked to him yet today and he usually texts me everyday before noon. Do I get in touch with him or should I just wait for him and give him a lil room to breathe?

We have been friends for years not close friends, but friends. A month ago he reached out to me on facebook, and we talked on and off for almost a month. Then a lil over a week ago now he made a comment to me telling me that he would like to get to know me better and see what happens from there. He mentioned coming up to see me the following day if he got everything done at work. We talked about me coming down there since I got done with work earlier and we discussed meeting have way and going to an amusement park. The next dayI didn't hear from him until 4pm and he told me he had to to cancel because he had to work the next day but he would be done at noon and we could get together then. I told him to call me when he got done with work the next day (saturday). Well I didnt hear from him until 6pm on sunday and he was very sorry, work lasted longer than he thought and he forgot his phone. ANYWAYS, we have text everyday since. He is the first one to contact me every morning because I dont want to seem needy. And we continue texting throughout the whole day into the night. We both are asking questions to get to know each other and we are having a lot of laughs. The thing is, is that when I ask him anything about love or relationships he gives me a round a bout answer, a generalized answer, or doesn't respond to them at all and we start talking about other things. He mentioned a couple days ago maybe coming here if things worked out. (he lives 4 hours away) Then I asked him where he sees himself in 5 years and he said a business owner and happily married. I am 35 and he is 37. We have a lot in common we both do a little flirting. He has called me pretty and loved the fact that I am spontaneous cuz that is very important to him. Last night he called to let me know he was going out with friends and he would talk to me tomorrow. Today I mentioned that it would be really nice to see him soon and he responded saying do you think you could handle it? (i had told him a few days ago that the thought of him made my body quiver and we had a long convo about that and he told me i was making him feel that way about me now lol) Then nothing more was said. He didn't say Id like to see you too or anything. That was 2 hours ago now and we havent talked since. Its not unusual because throughout the day there are breaks in between our conversations. I know he said he want to take it slow and go with the flo but he doesn't say anything about liking where this is going or let me believe he is really into me. From what I have said, what is your opinion on him and on me? Is he into me and just not moving as fast as I want, am I moving too fast and expecting too much too soon? Please assess the situation and let me know. Thank you!

we both had a great night out and we both knew it was going to be just for fun. We have stayed in contact a little over the years through facebook and a month ago he let me know he was interested in getting to know me better and wanted to see where this might go. He hasn't mentioned a relationship he wants to see "where the flo goes." So this coming weekend he wants to get together for a date and watch some movies. My question is, should I start this over fresh like we never had sex? or would it make any difference because we were together before? i am really into this guy and hopefully we will get to the relationship part, but I don't want to make the wrong decision and he doesn't respect me. He is already talking about sexual things he wants to do with me and BELIEVE ME I DO TOO but I want this to turn out right. Sex now or wait?

I have known this guy for years and he recently told me he would like to get to know me better. We planned to spend this weekend together. Starting tonight. We were going to meet halfway because we live 4 hours apart and spend the weekend at a resort. He just called and cancelled because his sander broke and wont get fixed until tomorrow so now he has to work tomorrow. Let me back up, a couple weeks ago he told me he worked as a CNC machinist, then yesterday he put pictures of his work on his facebook page and he is refinishing floors and currently working on his grandmas house. So I feel like he is lying to me. Why would he have to work at his grandmas house on a saturday? He did say I could come down there, (in a way that made me feel like he just said that to make me feel better) and I said lets talk tomorrow because I just felt like he was lying and what am I suppose to while he is working? So now it is a couple hours later and I wanted to confront him about how I felt. I sent him a text saying, "i thought you were a CNC machinist and why would you have to work on you grandmas house on a saturday?" that was fifteen minutes ago and no answer. I would like to here other peoples point of view to see if they think he is lying, should i give him another chance, and was it wrong to confront him about how I feel?

but he has been so good this week and I want to let him play for a couple hours with his friend....is it wrong to bend the rules once in awhile?

they are both 7 years old and in the same class. mine is a boy and she is a girl. they love to play with each other but everyday they have a fight (at least once). either one is left out or one says something mean to the other or they aren't playing fair. there is no way to keep them from each other unless we keep them inside because another neighbor girl they play with stays next to us that they play with. i am out of ideas.

On the other hand, when there are other things he likes to do, he will pick that activity over xbox. ex: swimming lessons and baseball practice but those are only during the summer and there are no other after school activities at the school or in our town for his age. He has friends from the neighborhood over almost everyday, they will play outside for awhile then want to come in and play xbox together. His everyday chores are feeding pets and cleaning his room and once a week pick up pine cones in the yard (we are surrounded by pine trees!) so I can mow the lawn. Now that school started this week he plays outside after school from 3:30 to either 5-5:30. Then we have dinner and do homework together. He doesn't have a lot of homework yet as he is only in the 2nd grade and it only takes him about 10 minutes to get that done. So usually everything is done by 6-6:30. So 2 times this week I let him play xbox for an hour and only Minecraft or Madden Football. And he is in bed at 8 with no fussing. My concern is that he doesn't like to do many other things like craft projects, read (tried many different kinds of books) but he likes me to read to him before bed. And when I make him go outside after school and no friends are around he says he is board and sits on the deck. He doesn't really like to be alone for too long and doesn't seem to use his imagination by himself. When the neighborhood kids are around they will all make up games, play kickball, or ride bikes. But now on the weekends he plays xbox A LOT, he still will go play outside with friends but not for long. I really don't blame him because the only kids in our neighborhood are girls and they are in his class at school so they might spend too much time together and then the fights start. His best friend, who is a boy, comes to his dads on the weekends and they like to play xbox together too. But when there are no friends around on the weekends he will play Halo or Minecraft on Xbox live for hours because he likes to talk to his xbox live friends and of course loves the games. We live in a small town so there are not many things to do that we haven't done a hundred times and I don't have a lot of money. I ask him to play board games with me, cook dinner together, color, toss the football around, and watch movies together but most of the time he'd rather play xbox. He doesn't get upset when things don't go his way on the games, never breaks the controllers or does anything violent at home or at school. I look at it like he is only going to have this much free time while he is young, so I want him to enjoy whatever he does. I don't like to have our whole night and weekend scheduled out. But is that the wrong way to look at it? Does this sound like a problem in the making? Or is it ok that I let him play xbox as much as he wants on the weekends? (of course after chores and only if he has been good) Thanks for any productive criticism and/or answers to my questions. I just want the best for my child. Oh yea he is an only child and I am a single mother if that makes any difference??

But when I say they can't come over they leave him out and won't let him come to their house. And they are also really snotty to him and his feelings get hurt. What should I do? Please help

he does his chores, he's involved in 2 sports, and i make him read ever day. he is 7

Its a bigger rubbermaid trash can and I have a full bag of garbage in it and I am NOT reaching my hand in to pull it out to clean the maggots out. I have no where else to dump my trash and the garbage man comes in six day! What can I do?

he saw a peanut in his food. I have taken him to therapy been involved with the school and they have tried to convince him its a peanut free school and he basically told them he is still not going to eat. He eats a lot at home and hasn't lost any weight so that is good. I am just wondering if its a good idea to go to lunch everyday with him or will he get over this?