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We have been together for 5 years, married for almost 4.

Lately we have been arguing frequently, from my point of view this is because of stress and how we are trying to cope with it (work and more then anything: applying for my indefinite leave to remain visa and everything that brought with it including the life in the U.K. test).

I guess I am not the nicest person though Im doing my best. However his fuse have been very short. I know there are other things in his mind and he is generally upset. I have tried my best to comfort and support him, because I love him very much.

After an argument, yesterday he sent me an email telling me he was going to sleep in the studio until he felt it was ok for him to come to bed. He needed to be left alone to think. He even said that if we kept hurting each other this marriage was doomed. He has to be sure that our relationship was going to last. Last week, I think it was, he had said how much he loved me but I frustrated him a lot and he was working on that.

I have spoken to a friend and she has recommend me to go to hers for a couple of days to leave him alone, allow him to miss me and wait until he wants me back. In any woman's dream you expect your knight to come after you but is this wise thing to do? should I leave for a couple of days? and if I do will he come after me?

I really appreciate your advice people, I don't want to do anything stupid and regret it.

Best wishes to all.

Mi esposo (británico) y yo (mexicana) estamos por irnos a vivir a Barcelona a finales de este verano. Hemos vivido en el Reino Unido por varios años y sabemos que no es lo nuestro (entre otras razones, claro).

Los dos tenemos experiencia en la enseñanza de idiomas (inglés, español y francés), tenemos estudios universitarios. El cuenta con experiencia además en ingeniería electrónica y yo en arte.

No tenemos ninguna oferta de trabajo, es prácticamente irnos a la aventura. Por un lado escuchamos que si no nos importa trabajar de meseros o en comercios (que no nos importa, trabajo es trabajo) hay trabajos y se encuentran fácilmente. No obstante por otro lado nos advierten que las cosas están terribles y que mejor no lo intentemos. ¿Qué versión es más cierta en su opinión?

Les agradezco mucho de antemano sus respuestas.

Saludos.

Mi esposo (británico) y yo (mexicana) estamos por irnos a vivir a Barcelona a finales de este verano. Hemos vivido en el Reino Unido por varios años y sabemos que no es lo nuestro (entre otras razones, claro).

Los dos tenemos experiencia en la enseñanza de idiomas (inglés, español y francés), tenemos estudios universitarios. El cuenta con experiencia además en ingeniería electrónica y yo en arte.

No tenemos ninguna oferta de trabajo, es prácticamente irnos a la aventura. Por un lado escuchamos que si no nos importa trabajar de meseros o en comercios (que no nos importa, trabajo es trabajo) hay trabajos y se encuentran fácilmente. No obstante por otro lado nos advierten que las cosas están terribles y que mejor no lo intentemos. ¿Qué versión es más cierta en su opinión?

Les agradezco mucho de antemano sus respuestas.

Saludos.

Gracias de antemano por su atención y respuestas.

Soy mexicana y mi esposo británico. Vivimos en el Reino Unido desde hace varios años. Hemos decidido mudarnos a España para finales de este verano, no obstante no sabemos cuál de entre estas dos ciudades sea más fácil establecernos y encontrar trabajo. (Estamos abiertos a cualquier otra ciudad en España).

Los dos tenemos estudios universitarios y tenemos experiencia en docencia en idiomas extranjeros. Sabemos que las cosas están muy difíciles en España (y en todos lados) y estamos dispuestos a comenzar trabajando en lo que sea (mesereando, en comercios, etc).

Les agradezco nuevamente.

Saludos.

Mi esposo es ciudadano Británico de nacimiento. Yo soy de nacionalidad Mexicana. He estado viviendo con él en el Reino Unido desde Enero 2009 con un visado de esposa que me permite vivir y trabajar en el Reino Unido. No obstante, queremos cambiar de residcencia permanente a España. ¿Necesitamos solicitar un nuevo visado español o tengo yo el derecho de trasladarme dentro de los estados miembros de la comunidad europea como él?

Si esto no aplicara, ¿cuál es el procedimiento a seguir?

My husband is a British citizen from birth. I am of Mexican nationality. I have been living with him in the U.K. since January 2009 on a spouse visa (with working permit). We wish to permanently relocate to Spain. Do I need to apply for a new spouse visa for Spain or do I have the right of freedom of movement within the EU member states as he does?

If neither of these apply what is the correct course of action?

My husband is a British citizen from birth. I am of Mexican nationality. I have been living with him in the U.K. since January 2009 on a spouse visa (with working permit). We wish to permanently relocate to Spain. Do I need to apply for a new spouse visa for Spain or do I have the right of freedom of movement within the EU member states as he does?

If neither of these apply what is the correct course of action?

I paid for a CRB check to start working as a teacher through a teaching company. Its been 5 months and I havent been able to start working.

Ive called and called the CRB and the company but it has all been "sorry we have been on vacations", "Im going to be on vacations", "sorry but we sent it back a month ago and someone forgot to signed it" "Whoops we misspelled your name we had to start all over again" (this last one must say is my favorite).

I have now written a complaint letter but havent heard anything back, I urgently need to start working for me and my family, as this recession has really kicked us bad, what legal procedure can I follow to make this right?

Im in the UK (south Wales) Im on a spouse visa and have sent them my full Mexican CRB disclosure. No criminal record, not even a driving ticket!

Please need your advise!

Thanks for reading! Im going crazy!

Hello to all...

Wednesday I have a job interview for a really nice job. I have all the requirements they ask and experience but how do I make a good impression? what tips could you give me in order to succeed at this interview!!!

Cheers!!

I understand that all body functions and sensations are basically a chemical soup on the brain that allows us to perceive life. What happens with religious or spiritual experiences? is it in the brain too? where?

I understand that all body functions and sensations are basically a chemical soup on the brain that allows us to perceive life. What happens with religious or spiritual experiences? is it in the brain too? where?

Yesterday a friend told me that to stop suffering, according to the Buddhism one most not desire. Now how does this work for sex? is it alright to stop desiring in order to avoid pain? What does Buddhism respond to circumstances that can come across as natural/ instinctive?

Por ser esposa de un Británico voy irme a vivir al Reino Unido y para conseguir un buen trabajo me gustaría revalidar mis estudios universitarios.

A dónde debo de acudir SEP? SEG? Consulado/ Embajada? Necesito otro trámite además de la apostilla? Cuánto tiempo se tarda y qué costos aproximados tiene este documento?

Muchas gracias!!!

Im new at this bipolar issue and have many questions, read a few websites and questions remain. My husband is bipolar (recently discovered) I am the ignorant in the matter. He's on meds.

1. I dont get any sex nor can dream about starting anything (doc knows) is this normal? is it something that fluctuates with in manic - depressive episodes? if so How long do aprox. this episodes lasts?

2. Is there anyone out there who has accomplished a better life with meds?

3. What changes can we expect with the proper treatment, big differences?

4. Would love to know about people I could talk to more and learn about it. After all this is really difficult (husband has forbiden me to talk about sex with the doc or he will leave medication)

I really want to be patience and helpful but myself feel devastated can I expect miracles of living an almost normal life?

Thanks a lot and if I hurt anyone it was not intentional.

we havent been married long, and when things are fine, everything is great and really love is in the air, we play together, we have fun and laugh all the time but when something goes wrong (usually stupid stuff) he gets very deffensive and i become the worst, i never listen to him, i dont understand him (like if i had always been like that but never been told before) can be very hurting, why is this?? does he really love me or he is just protecting his feelings from getting hurt? why is this? i really dont get it.. i really wonder if he really has feelings for me..

I am about to get married and am having a little difficulty deciding what to have engraved on our wedding bands. It would help if I knew where the tradition started and what it is supposed to signify.

No la tenemos muy sencillo que digamos, yo soy mexicana y el es britanico, vamos a casarnos este julio para poder tramitar la visa y poder vivir juntos legalmente como una pareja normal. Mi tiempo como turista en el Reino Unido se vence en un mes y por ello el ha puesto su distancia, según me dice todo está bien y que no me preocupe por nada, solamente es su reacción de que no nos veremos y que le duele que me va a extrañar pero así mismo quiere probarse que todo estará bien sin mi. Es esto coherente??.

Recibe todos mis cariños y veo que es lindo conmigo pero no como antes, nunca está inspirado ni quiere hacer el amor conmigo..

Hay otros aspectos que nos mantienen estresados, nos estamos por mudar a otro departamento, no le esta llendo muy bien en la universidad, siente que sus amigos le han traicionado un poco, le preocupa su estado economico, en fin.. ETC..! Quiero ayudarlo y no se como, me da miedo que con toda esta situación el deje de quererme y la distancia aumente?

Gracias.

Hello, Im looking to stay one month in France to improve my french. I would like to "live" in a culturally interesting city. (Tried Paris but want to try something else with friendlier people). Ive read about Toulouse, Dijon, Strasbourg.. any comments about those places??

If you can provide me with names of schools with intensive courses would be great!. (I have checked the Alliance Francaise 30 hours per month, is it worthy? are they a good school??.

Hola! veran, mi "fiancee" me pidio que me casara con el hace dos meses, pero no me dio anillo en ese momento porque me dijo que estaba un poco quebrado,pero que iba a trabajar durante las vacaciones para ahorrar y comprarlo. Y si trabajo bastante duro, pero lo primero que hizo fue comprarse una computadora nueva!!.

Se que el anillo no es lo mas importante, pero me queda la duda, si pensara en darlo o piensa saltarse el requisito?? Porque la verdad si me entusiasma la idea del anillo y se me hace algo romantico que no me gustaria perderme en mi vida.

Esta muy entusiasmado con la boda y me pregunta como voy arreglando todo y que necesita el hacer; tenemos ya fecha y lugar.

Ill try to keep this short. When my fiancee and I met, we had a great connection and chatted for hours, a few times told me about a female friend that was close to him but he wasnt interested in her. We became a couple a few months later and everything was perfect, till one day I discovered that this "friend" was his sex buddie at the time we met, and he broke up with her when started the relationship with me but remained friends. I asked him why he didnt tell me before (instead of finding out by someone else) and he told me he was afraid of losing me. He told me he didnt trust her much anyway, that it meant nothing it was just sex and she was just way to immature. He promised me he was going to finish any type of relationship he had with her for the good being of ours. I havent heard from her, he deleted her from his contacts on msn (not from his cellphone), and although I know he is being honest I still have my doubts about his honesty and all the girls in his past!!