Char

i need some help. i adopted a cat *7 months old* from a friend of mine about a month ago. apparently the cat had been in heat once and my silly friend let her outside. turns out she preggo. *figures* i took her to the vet on march 16th and he didn't pick up on it either. then around the 19th she began to get bigger.

on april 10th @ night she vomited twice and was restless and very agitated. i could see her babies kicking like crazy in her belly and moving around. she appeared to be having some mild contractions. the next day she was fine, sleeping a lot.

last night she was panting, and had her mouth open at times. she was restless again not to the degree she had been the night before.

she is a small cat and is HUGE, her nipples have been pink since i adopted her on march 12th. she has been sleeping more than normal, and is needier at night.

i have NO experience with car pregnancy as i spay all my animals when i first get them. i am concerned for when she is going to deliver esp. after the vomiting and restless episode. please help!

about a month or so ago my husband wanted a separation from me. he couldn't get out on his own *didn't get approved* and is still here. he says he loves me and wants to be here more than anywhere else and he wants to make it work. then he'll do dickheaded moves like ignore my calls if he's hanging out with his buds...

he says he loves me, loves our bond, etc..i have no doubt he does. yet he still wants to party some and be single *not in the none married sense* in the i can do what i want when i want when i want and not have to answer to anyone sense. he does still check in and call me etc...

i'm just confused. i think he's torn between what he has and something shiny he sees he wants.

oh, he's also started using pot heavily and sees nothing wrong with smoking up each day if he so choose as long as hes responsible about it and has his stuff for the day done. i have an issue with it.

i'm just not sure as a wife what to do.

my husband and i have made the mutual choice to separate. we both are unhappy in the marriage yet love each other. he is going through some things mentally and has had majorly defiant and inconsiderate behavior as of late. i am trying to hold it together on my end. we both are in school as full time students and i work 16 hours a week on the weekend. he does not work and does not feel the need to since he gets the GI bill and why isn't that enough why should he have to work. he has never had an attitude like this before. he is flippant, inconsiderate and irresponsible right now. sad thing is he knows it. he and i both feel we need a separation to take the burden off me and for him to open his eyes. he has recently been diagnosed with ptsd and depression after completing 3 tours in iraq. i am still supporting him in all of his veteran appointments and accompanying him when i am able. in the midst of all this we are staying committed to each other and will see each other. he will move into an apt. with a friend and i am getting a roommate as well. we are starting marital counseling this week. he and i both know something is wrong, him esp. he is very committed to me and to making this work he just needs to go work on himself first so he can come back to the house a man.

i am dealing with a lot of pain right now with this. i am not sleeping, doing poorly in school and barely eating. i have accepted that this needs to happen but its still messing with me.

i would like to hear from anyone who has separated with the intent to use the time to work on the marriage and make it better/stronger and to re get to know each other. i would like to know how they dealt with the pain and emotions they felt going into it. and how they forgave each other. this is our intent. if you have experienced this please let me know.

my husband and i have made the mutual choice to separate. we both are unhappy in the marriage yet love each other. he is going through some things mentally and has had majorly defiant behavior as of late. i am trying to hold it together on my end. we both are in school as full time students and i work 16 hours a week on the weekend. he does not work and does not feel the need to since he gets the GI bill and why isn't that enough why should he have to work. he has never had an attitude like this before. he is flippant, inconsiderate and irresponsible right now. sad thing is he knows it. he and i both feel we need a separation to take the burden off me and for him to open his eyes. he has recently been diagnosed with ptsd and depression after completing 3 tours in iraq. i am still supporting him in all of his veteran appointments and accompanying him when i am able. in the midst of all this we are staying committed to each other and will see each other. he will move into an apt. with a friend and i am getting a roommate as well. we are starting marital counseling this week. he and i both know something is wrong, him esp. he is very committed to me and to making this work he just needs to go work on himself first so he can come back to the house a man.

i would like to hear from anyone who has separated with the intent to use the time to work on the marriage and make it better/stronger and to re get to know each other. this is our intent. if you have experienced this please let me know.

we've been married almost 3 years and have never had a normal sex life. i'm getting concerned because he only seems to want sex about once a month or so. in between nothing else happens, some kissing but thats it. i've let him know i need more but nothing happens. he says he doesn't use sex to show love, he shows it other ways by saying, or snuggling etc...*which he does often* this is not satisfying me, and i've tried to tell him and be obvious about it. nothings working. he says he's always had a low sex drive. is this possible? any ideas? i've tried everything. sexy lingerie, seduction etc...it's really starting to eat at my self esteem and affect our marriage.

I want to start jogging however i have never been a runner. i would like to know any tips or tricks to get motivated and stay motivated. also any recommendations of shoes would be appreciated my current shoes are not cutting it. i don;t have time for a gym membership and know running is a great overall toner so if your a jogger let me know what keeps you going and helps you tie those shoes and get out there.

i don't know if this is relevant however, i am not sedentary as i work as an ER nurse and am not overweight. i am doing this to be healthier, just can't seem to do it!

I have a form of insomnia where I frequently wake up at night, it has been at least 2 times but usually more. I never feel rested because of this and am always going to bed early due to being tired, only to be wide awake an hour later. Go back to bed, wide awake another hour later. Once my husband comes to bed it settles down a bit, but I will still wake up once or twice after he's in bed. usually at least 3 times a night im up if not more.

I want this to quit because I deal with peoples lives everyday and I need to be on my toes and rested so I dont make a mistake because it could seriously hurt someone.

If anyone knows of any over the counter meds that work for this type of insomnia to get me to stay asleep it would be greatly appreciated!

I have a form of insomnia where I frequently wake up at night, it has been at least 2 times but usually more. I never feel rested because of this and am always going to bed early due to being tired, only to be wide awake an hour later. Go back to bed, wide awake another hour later. Once my husband comes to bed it settles down a bit, but I will still wake up once or twice.

I want this to quit because I deal with peoples lives everyday and I need to be on my toes and rested so I dont make a mistake.If anyone knows of any over the counter meds that work for this type of insomnia to get me to stay asleep it would be greatly appreciated!

my husband works full time and goes to school full time so he is always very busy. today i saw him for 30 minutes this am before he had to get to work then he calls me and tells me he and 2 of his work buddies are going to get some drinks after work real quick. his friends wife was having a sex and the city party so it was to kill time so his friend could avoid that. he assured me it would be quick.

well. its 1.24 am and he isnt home. he has been at work from 9am-9pm and then out with the guys.

he knows when he works 12's and i'm here during the day i really enjoy spending time with him once he's off, he also knew i wasn't too thrilled about him going out tonight but he went *which is fine i know he needs guy time* but said it would be quick, which it hasn't been.

i just spoke to him and told him i was upset and felt kind of neglected today, and mentioned he knew how i felt about his 12's etc.. and said maybe he could call me if it was turning into a late night instead of me being up worried. he said he would but thought i was making a big deal out of it.

i don't understand how he can be so insensitive when he says itll be an early night to not at least call me and let me know so i dont worry or wake up without him in the bed and call him worried.

he says 364 days a year he shows me how much he loves me and i can't give him this one time etc..am i really being that unreasonable to ask for him to call me if it's going to be later? or to even keep his word if he says it will be an early night. is that so bad of me? and why can't he seem to see that its insensitive and inconsiderate to me to be gone from 9am to probably 2am *he's not home yet and most bars around here shut down at 2. so hell probably be back around 230am*

and that i just want to spend some time with my husband everyday.

my husband works full time and goes to school full time so he is always very busy. today i saw him for 30 minutes this am before he had to get to work then he calls me and tells me he and 2 of his work buddies are going to get some drinks after work real quick. his friends wife was having a sex and the city party so it was to kill time so his friend could avoid that. he assured me it would be quick.

well. its 1.24 am and he isnt home. he has been at work from 9am-9pm and then out with the guys.

he knows when he works 12's and i'm here during the day i really enjoy spending time with him once he's off, he also knew i wasn't too thrilled about him going out tonight but he went *which is fine i know he needs guy time* but said it would be quick, which it hasn't been.

i just spoke to him and told him i was upset and felt kind of neglected today, and mentioned he knew how i felt about his 12's etc.. and said maybe he could call me if it was turning into a late night instead of me being up worried. he said he would but thought i was making a big deal out of it.

i don't understand how he can be so insensitive when he says itll be an early night to not at least call me and let me know so i dont worry or wake up without him in the bed and call him worried.

he says 364 days a year he shows me how much he loves me and i can't give him this one time etc..am i really being that unreasonable to ask for him to call me if it's going to be later? or to even keep his word if he says it will be an early night. is that so bad of me? and why can't he seem to see that its insensitive and inconsiderate to me to be gone from 9am to probably 2am *he's not home yet and most bars around here shut down at 2. so hell probably be back around 230am*

and that i just want to spend some time with my husband everyday.

i am usually a very sound sleeper. since i have been married to my husband when he is not in the bed i wake up frequently anywhere from 1-3 times in a matter of 4 hours.

i have to go to bed around 1030 because i get up at 6am he doesn't come to bed untill about 2am.

i know this has psychological implications but not sure what and am interested in how i can manage to get some sleep.

and no i am not co dependent or nor do i have any issues. im not sure if it stems from him spending 15 months in iraq or not....

any suggestions would be appreciated.

i'm curious. porn is a "man thing" etc... but what about before porn was even made. what did men do? not cheating men but those faithful men. what did they do? and how come men nowadays don't seem to think they can go without it?

my husband and i have been married for 2 years and are very much in love. he has seen the facials on porn just like every other man and think they are hot. the visual turns him on. he has expressed he would like to try this with me, but it always seems on porno's it is depicted in a degrading and dominating way. he told me if he was to do it it would never be in such a way and i believe him because he is a loving sweet husband and i always feel loved.

i want to try this with him because i love him and because he has a right to explore things sexually and he has explored things with me that may or may not have made him uncomfortable.

but everytime i think about it i get this image in my head of the porn and how bad it seems to the women. how do i control this when i know better?

for the record he has not done it. he has expressed his want to. however he always goes inside me. i would imagine most men would prefer that than the face, but not sure,