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i've always been loyal to my husband, but just recently a co-worker has been flirting with me. I knew it and at first, I thought, no way, then the more he did, the more I liked it. He's charming, charismatic, supports my role, and we laugh a lot. We had a drink one night after work and we ended up voicing our feelings. there's obvious a very strong chemistry and now I don't know what to do. I think about him ALL the time. I know it was wrong, but I didn't feel that bad. I feel like I've suppressed my feelings for some time now with my husband. He's been unfaithful to me in the past and now that I am doing most of the work in the marriage, i.e., domestic, breadwinner, and the hero for everyone, I'm feeling burned out. It's like an escape from all the reality. I am really attracted to this guy. I've been hit on before, but haven't ever gave anyone else a second thought. But there's something about this guy. I can't get him off my mind. I'm thinking it's because I am unhappy in my marriage. Should I tell my husband how I feel or just hope this feeling passes?

Our son just finished his semester off with a 2.5 GPA. 2 A's, 1 B's, 1 C, and 2 D's. The 2 D's were a 67% and 69%. I think the teacher could've gave him a C for the 69. He's has been w/out a TV in his room. He shares a room with his brother and so last evening, I gave them back the TV, but told them it might be taken away. So now my husband is pissed. He says that I am too soft and that I am enabling his 2.5 behavior. D's are in no way acceptable, but he thinks he should get be punished severely and I disagree. One of his B's rose up from a failing 61% and that was in English. My husband is very upset with me. Says he is done disciplining him and stormed out of our room last night and slept on the couch. Says that I am wrong and that I better not come crying to him when I have a problem. Other than being a social person, my son has no behavior problems, he's not doing drugs, and his attendance is excellent. I am an educator and I work with at-risk youth and I what I see everyday with these children, our son is nothing like that. I want to provide some consequences, but nothing was clearly established prior to getting his report card and 2, I don't feel our other son should have to be w/out a TV for 3 weeks vacation. Please give me your opinion. Thanks.

I just learned yesterday that my husband has been coming on to the score keeper (she's another parent) at my son's baseball games. I found emails to her telling her how sexy she was to him and that he would like to buy her a drink sometime. She responded to him with a very inappropriate okay and says your wifey might whoop me, but sure, anytime to go and have a drink is fine. He then responded with okay, now that you have my email address, you can send me nasty pictures of you. My wife doesn't have to know, right? And I will definitely to you to have a drink sometime. He swore he never acted on it and that he's sorry. Only sorry he was caught in my opinion. I told him he had to leave. I replied to her and him and gave them both a piece of my mind. She apologized, said nothing ever transpired from the emails exchanged from them, she's now a woman of

God and asked for me to forgive her! He's done this too me way too many times. Only now, I was able to see exactly what was said to the other woman. This is day number 2, and I'm fine. I'm just wondering if I jumped the gun or did the right thing by making him leave. We have 3 children and they are my concern. I just felt that with him staying here, it would be too unhealthy for them considering how angry and hurt I am right now. I am the only source of income, he's unemployed, and I go to Graduate school full time. He's been home with the kids, then he'll go back when I'm done, but I really don't know where our future is headed. I do not trust him, yet, I don't want to raise my children alone in a single parent home.

I mean, do all men deceive their wives and do all men cheat? The reason I say this is because I have yet to find any woman within my proximity who hasn't been cheated or lied to by their husbands...

every 6 months or go we go through this viscous cycle of him lying to me about the same exact thing and he only stops when he is caught...then he placates me by apologizing and telling me that he needs to draw closer to God so that he will no longer deceive me. Well he has been actively involved in his church and yet he lied to me again. Anyhow, the last time he deceived me, i decided to emotionally withdraw from him, take care of our children, focus on my studies in graduate school, continue working and exercise in between as a stress reliever. I tried to keep a happy balance for everyone, but after I just recently caught him in a lie, he goes on about how he's bothered because we aren't evenly yoked and that he doesn't want me to go to school. I was floured when i heard this! I thought he was my number 1 fan and never knew he felt this way. Lately, he's been saying that he's fat and doesn't feel loved. I dont' know where all this is coming from...I am also questioning his fidelity.

2 days ago. She has consistently had a low grade fever within the past 48 hours and this morning, she had a loose bowel movement. I am concerned that she may be deydrated. I am waiting for a call back from her doctor. I read that deydration is very serious at her age and I just want to make sure that she is okay. She's just not being herself and she just wanted to lie down and go to sleep. Do you have any suggestions on what I should do and/or specific questions to ask her dr. when he calls back? Thank You.

Okay, so here's the deal. I am completely overfunctioning. I work full time, go to graduate school full time as well as raising a family. I am frustrated because I feel like I am doing everything...the cooking, cleaning, laundry, check my children's homework, manage our finances...and so the story goes. My husband is a good man, but he is lazy. He's couch potato and all he wants to do in his spare time is play the PS3 or watch sports. In the meantime, I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off. I've tried to respectfully and directly tell him that I need him to help out more around the house and says "I know, I got to step it up." and he does for a day or so. After that, it's back to square one. I don't want to sound like I am nagging him and so I end trying to do it all. And I don't want all the credit. I am not super woman and feel like I am about to lose it. His work schedule is much more flexible than mine and so some days he's home maybe 3-4 hours before me. Help!!!

Okay so my husband is very careless when it comes to making sure our home is safe before we go to bed. This really bothers me because he has been doing this forever now. For example, we have a 2 - story and the other night when i went to bed 1st, he came up later on, but didn't turn off the light in the kitchen, left all of the windows open, and our front door was unlocked! I asked him "Does he want to make it easy for us to get killed!" I mean, anything is possible, but I don't want to make it easier for a burglar or criminal to break into our house. It's like he has add or something. He's my husband and the man of the house, yet, i am the one who has to wake up in the middle of the night to make sure that everything is secure. This is really getting to me becasue I don't know how many times I have stressed the importance of this. How should I effectively get my point across without sounding like im nagging!

I get no attention from my husband and I'm bored. We have 3 children, I work, and go to school full time, but I never get any attention from him. Anytime we go out, I initiate it, any time we talk, I initiate it, I am decent looking woman and take very good care of myself. The sex is out of this world, but it's every once in awhile. And men flirt with me all the time, but I don't have the heart to go there b/c I am a true believer in karma. Talking won't help b/c I have told him this over and over again. Yet, when we are at home, he's either watching ESPN, playing the PS2, or playing a video game on his cell phone. I am the one doing everything around the house while he just sits on the couch. I mean, he'll help out or give me what I want when I ask him to, but won't do it on his own. He's a good provider, but I contribute just as much too financially, physically, and emotionally. And he's good with our children. I feel trapped, but I love hime too. What should I do?

Long story short, I forgave him for his shortcomings b/c he seems truly sorry for what he did, but how do I deal with her? I'm not going to let my marriage go because of this, but I need to know if I should say something to her and risk him losing his job or should I expect him to handle it? He says he already has and I believe him, but everytime he goes to work, I get very anxious. Should I tell him he needs to find a way to get rid of her (fire her) (he would do anything to save this marriage by the way) or is that unreasonable?

Trust is the concern. I forgiven him about 6 or more times with conversing with other woman on the phone and texting....then he does good (i think for about a year and a half) then he slips again and starts texting another woman. He says that he is sorry, but he's only sorry for getting caught. He says he has an addiction with getting attention from other woman and that it's not me. He says that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him and that he has no complaints about me. But this is worse b/c it's his employee and he feels that i am making a mountain out of a molehill b/c the conversations were flirty, but had no intention on acting them out. He's only sorry when he gets caught...We have 3 children...his lack of sensitivity and compassion for my feelings has led me to believe that he could care less i LOVE him, but I hate his behavior. I work full time, go to school full time and I need him financially and physically. What should I do?

He has betrayed me and told me he is sorry, but I don't know if I believe him. I'm very angry at him still (it's been over a week now) and I think he's only sorry because I caught him not because he's truly sorry. Anyhow, he has done this one too many times and at this point, I don't know if I can ever trust him. We've been together for 12 years, married for 6 years, and since he hasn't done the ultimate to me, which is having an physical affair, I don't know if I can throw away my time vested. He's not a bad man, he just makes bad choices...

Seeing her breasts, is that cheating. My husband of 6 years recently hired a new employee who is an aquaitance of mine and his. Anyhow, I got a little suspicious one day because of his behavior and checked his text message. In the messages exchanged between them, she asked him was his offer still on from before...and he said yes. When I confronted him he said he was joking about looking at her breast and that he would never cheat on me. I feel betrayed, humiliated, and disrespected. I love him still and don't have the courage to leave, but I don't feel like he's truly sorry either. We have 3 children and there has been issues with trust in the past. As much as I want my marriage to work, I don't feel like I could ever trust him again. Your advice please. If you have nothing constructive or healthy to say, please don't respond.

I caught my husband (again) having a flirty conversation via text messaging. This happened about 1 1/2 ago and I b/c of this, he took his text messaging service off from his cell bill. Well, just recently he got a new phone that has text messaging. Long story short, he just hired a new employee (she knows me by the way) who is married, with 2 children. Well being that i have been violated in the past, I checked his text messages and they were flirting with each other! We've been together for 12 years, have 3 beautiful children, and I am tired. I have seen a tremendous amount of growth in our relationship and it I just started feeling like I could trust him again. Then, sure enough, he does this to me..again. I hate him and i don't feel like I am EVER going to trust him. I can't leave b/c I can't afford to do it on my own with 3 kids and i have no where to go. What should I do? Oh, and he is going to fire her real soon. He says he will make sure that she is gone. I am so angry!!!

Help! I have a family member who has conveniently decided that she and her fiancee have decided to get married this weekend. It was so last minute (they planned this last Friday), and now she wants everyone to drop everything and be at her wedding. It is AN EXTREME inconvenience for me and I don't see why I should feel obligated to go. I want to tell her, but I know that she is going to be upset. So should I stay or should I go.

I AM IN A CONTEST AND I NEED TO LOSE 5 LBS. BY TOMORROWS FINAL WEIGH IN FOR ME TO WIN...ANY SUGGESTIONS??? I'LL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES!

I have a friend who continues to see this man who treats her like crap over and over again. He has been seeing her and another woman off and on for about 10 years now! There are definitely some self esteem issues going on with her and I realize that it's not the man, it's her. She is hypersensitive and doesn't take well to constructive criticism. One part of me wants to tell her to wake up and smell the coffee, but the other side of me wants to effectively convey my thoughts to her in way that she can understand. She has tried dating other man, but I've realized that all of the men she sees treats her the same way. It's like they are all the same guys, but with 10 different names. any suggestions????

My husband and I are going on a trip next month (around the same time that I start my menstrual cycle) and I want to know if there is a way to jump start my cycle before I leave. This is the 1st trip by ourselves without the kids in 3 years and the last thing I want is to PMS'ing as well as being on my cycle!

I have a friend who is divorced with 2 children and she dates married men all of the time. She tells me that they shower her with compliments and complain about their wives. I am a married woman and may be a little biased because of that, but even if I were single I don't think I could ever date a married man. I just don't understand. Give me some answers please. And because of her little escapades with these married men, I am almost skeptical to bring her around my husband or even talk to her about our marriage. I just don't think I can trust her.

I joined a contest with my job back in june and the one to lose the most weight will win $250. I not only want to do this for the money, but also for my health. Please respond with any great ideas. You're help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.