Sara b

Why does facebook seem like it's being forced to go public? Obviously there are lots of benefits for those working there let alone the government through tax and wall street with some new inflated over hyped stock IPO to through money into. Especially big greedy unions but there are also obviously downsides to being public for the company let alone everyone. THere's also lots of big companies that are still private so why is facebook being required to go public? Why can't the facebook people workers & investors just keep it private?

In the movie Crank what kind of shirt is the bad guy Ricky Verona wearing.

I'm curious what would be considered taxable income for this current tax year especially for those making under 200k. Several co workers have said that starting this year most if not all benefits will be counted as income & thus taxable. Things like Medical & dental eyes and most other "benefits". Obviously 401ks, iras, or 403bs still wouldnt but most other things supposeably will become taxable though even on thoses making less then 200k or even 100k. Is this true & is there a link or something? Even not counting vaction or retirement funds my "benefits" would about equal my actual salary effectively doubleing my "tax burden" all to pay for obamaCare. I believe my medical dental & eye "covereage" are what democrats call "cadallic policies" yet i make far less then 100k. I've heard similar things from even those who supported democrats & just want to see if its correct.

We're all different & as such have different things we use to measure what makes a real man verses I guess to be a bit steroetyping or sexist a male or guy. In years past he might have a lean but not to musclur body deep voice & talk a good manly way like "clint eastwood" or Bondish / brad pittish then there was a phase where he was musclar & agressive often proving his bravodo with fights and cheesy pick up lines & tight shirts. Then there was the phase of the more sensitive caring guy who would think first & when necassary act but not go hard charging into or start fights just to try to impress the girl. There there was the johnny depp days wehere a guy didnt have to have big arms & could be shy or not eager for the limelight but yet have a suprising mysterious side even if rare without over doing it. What are some things that you very a guy needs to fill your definition of a man. It could be as symply as blue eyes or long hair. Just the most important things. I know what guys think a man should be however I'd like to think that the world is past the caveman days at least a bit.

Why's it ok for a woman to disappear or bail on a guy or tell someone one thing & do the opposite yet people are always complainting when guys do it? Why's it ok for us females to give out fake numbers or tell a guy new or someone we've known for a while we miss them or want to hangout even set time & dates only to flake or never response. Or a guy admits or we ask them what their feelings or intentions are with us only to bail on them. I've sadly done some of these things when i was younger & complaint about when guys do it so why does it seem women get a free pass while male & females both bash guys doing it? Just seems at some point both players should be able to be honest & mature enough to address something without bailing especially if they've known each other for a while. It just seems the respectful & grown up thing to do?

When do you start to let your partner answer your phone? For me if we live together then of course they can it's our phone but unless that's the case even if their over often to me it's like a cell phone its still theirs. I wouldnt just start answering phones or even the door at their place even if they asked me to in the past still doesn't feel right. Is that wrong to think?

I was logging on to check my email & saw a video of an interview with Good Charlotte where the brothers claim their tattoes are actually fake & take 4 hours to apply everyday & that in the case of the interview that Joel didnt have enought time to apply all his which was why he was wearing a shirt that coverd up more of his arms. then he lifts his shirt supposeable to show that he didnt have any. They also claim that their afraid of needles but forming the band knew & agreed that to be rockers they needed them. I'm just curious if that's true & if knowing their fake would matter to Good Charlotte fans. Tattoed or not doesnt change their music but at the same time they've been around for years & never implied any fake tattoes which might make some feel the band lied or is fake being something they aren't. I'm just curious & dont pretend to know one way or the other if their tats are really seems odd to admit it now but they did in the interview. Visit AOL to see the video yourself & decide. If they are real why make a video where they then claim their fake?

I have lots of PTO & thinking of selling some of it but a male friend of mine was taxes pretty heavy when he changed jobs & was cashed out for the PTO he still had left. We live in the same state different cities but I'm just curious how bad I'd get hit. Several of my co-workers agree with my friend who thought it was around 50% tax because of being considered a bonus when you cash it out a few people claim its not that bad. I have like 6 weeks just got back from taking 2 weeks off so selling a few weeks isn't going to hurt & having a little extra cash in savings would be nice even though my only debt is a mortgage. I agree with my friend if its a high tax especially 50% it hardly seems worth selling it then. Anyone know what the federal & state taxes on selling PTO are in California? Is there a limit to how much you can sell?

If you run into an old flame, crush even just an old male friend & after some chatting he suggests dinner do you assume he's being friendly & wanting to catch up try to reconnect or do you automatically assume that they asking you on a date? I don't mean just some guy i've known for a year or two I mean a person you've known for years & where either of you have been in or out of relationships. In my case 15 years & he's always respected when I've been in a relationship. Unfortuanately life seemed to interfere & we drifted apart but recently ran into each other. I'm just curious how others would react.

I'm curious to see how many people still agree with the statement "Actions speak louder then words". And whether you would rather have a person who spoke less but who's actions or promises you could count on or would you rather have someone who spoke more maybe said I love you or other things yet were unreliable or flaky & couldnt be counted on? And to follow up would you rather have a few friends you could reliably count on or have lots of people who weren't reliable? Personally I still think the saying is correct & would rather have a few friends I could depend on & knew meant well.

Honestly how many people do you think these days would hold the door open, help a old lady cross the street, get a cat out of a tree, send flowers call or visit a partner in the hospital let alone an ex? One of the girlfriends broke her foot in a car accident & her live in boyfriend who passed the hospital on his way home daily from work didnt bother to stop by let alone take the day off when he heard she was in the accident yet a matual friend of ours took the day off & drive 2 hours to sit with her in the waiting room to keep her company. Another guy I know heard an exgirlfriend from high school whom he hadnt heard from in years was in the hospital with cancer going through chemo & he called to wish her well even asked to stop by & when he did he showed up with flowers & had shaved his head. One of my girlfriends has a guy friend she's known for years who's been there for her where she was single or not & while respecting if she was in a relationship but often still being there for her more then her boyfriends. My grandmother lost her husband in world war 2 but never dated let alone never remarried til the day she died at 98. Most relationships these days seem to be measured in months maybe a couple years but end just as quick as they started. Why does it just seem like society is scared of people caring these days?

Why do we find it safer,easier or more comforting in always dating people we just randomly meet be it a club, bar, store or other places instead expanding relationships we've already established be it friends, coworkers or classmates? There are risks to everything & some guy we just met at a club or grocery store could be felony with a violent past or other type issues which likely wouldn't be obvious nor likely to be volunteered either. I've had guys all at all hours of the day several times, call me baby or babe or sexual names or references even before going on a date, & pushy which can be to me creepy & frustrating yet we still seem to date total random strangers. Is it the mystery or something? Sure I like wildness not so much mystery though especially in the bedroom but still there just seems to be so many ways that dating a random stranger you just met could go wrong yet its the preferred method these days?

I'm curious for those women who love the bad boy types :) I'm curious how long have yours lasted before for one reason or another it ends? A year may 4? If you have had a few bad boy types my lean is to the thug types, how long would you guess they averagely lasted? I would say mine average about 3 years & all but 1 have included at some point living together. I'm just curious if there's a trend as to how long relationships tend to last with the bad boy type.

Why does it seem we women tend to end relationships be it friendships or romantic by suddenly just disappearing & ignoring people especially people we at one point may have been very close with. I must admit I've done it but I guess lately realized that while we may claim to want to spare someone particularly once dear friend or suitor pain it seems like it's likely to actually do more harm then good particularly with men. Men are expected to give a woman closure & thus tell them somethings over & why but it seems we women don't have to because we want to spare them. A girlfriend of mine found out a long time dear friend of ours has had feelings for her but apparently afraid to speak up about it fearing her reaction. he admitted feelings while acknowledging he didnt think she returned them but felt to tell her & hoped they could still be friend. Her reaction of course was to go silent.

I'm still friendly with him & watching him trying to figure out what happened & why, feeling punished for caring is quite hard. While he's accepted things I can tell that it's still affecting what he does or thinks & he's second guessing himself & admitted he's afraid to approach people let alone new people. Afraid to get attached to anyone even those he already knows.

The other day we were at dinner & you could tell he was deep & thought. When I asked what he was thinking he just sort of did one of those painful sarcastic laughs, shook his head & said "Lost a friend because I cared & actually wanted her to be happy. These days most spend their entire lives looking for someone that cares unconditionally.She always said it was nice especially in rough patches knowing someone actually cared but now a few simple words changed that & aparently became a burden. I think there's some irony to that. Someone actually caring being a burden." Then he just smiled & continued that painful laugh. Why do we tend to end things by disappearing?

When you're in a new relationship when do you start letting your new partner answer your phone be it home or cell & is that even if your home or anytime their over?

I've read a bunch of questions on here about feminine men & would like to see how wide the range is as to what that really means? Maybe I'm old & having kids has changed me. Personally there's a time & place for aggressive or assertive sex but not all the time or am I wrong? Trying to make a point you meet two attractive muscular guys & give each your number. One is aggressive or assertive & calls you all the time asking you out & setting up a date even calling you baby while the other guy calls & talks to you more respectfully but isn't as "charged" as the other no going on any dates with either which one is more feminine? A guy calling all the time or right away even calling me babe or baby doesn't really sound like a guy I want to know especially if their calling all the time or late & night. More to be a manly man then just throwing someone on a bed right?

Sorry this is so long but I've been pondering where things are in my life & I’d like to know why as a society we (women especially but men) still often seem to rush into relationships. We often go to bars or clubs even though they have reputations for having the wrong type of people. We’ll meet people at the store or at the club or bar drunk flirty confident or some combination who asks us to dance &/or for our numbers then calls us & almost immediately asks us for a date or show their interest in us. Then if it last that long a few more dates & sex comes into play, the relationship changes officially to a relationship of some sort. We’ll go through this again & again even after our own personal experiences gone bad or that of our friends always remembering the first warnings & thinking how did we fall for it again. Yet we met a guy who might not be as pushy or maybe not as assertive but often just as cute who we hang out with. Who might even love hanging out with kids for those who have them certainly seem more respectfully & understanding. We'll sometimes hang out with others often without, but any more then a few dates without trying to bed us & we assume their uninterested or just friends & move them to the “friend zone” & return to the clubs or bars looking for these very same guys we've just zoned but finding what we don’t want.

3 month, 6 months, a year sometimes even more the “friends” are still the same guys they were holding doors, calling just to say hi, flirty, just not pushy showing they truly care & yet any idea of changing their “status” is scary & if they actually at some point admit feelings we’re shocked & often scared away back to the club, grocery or bar looking for the the very guy we zone & just ran from & haven’t seen at a bar or club. But we turn back to the zoned who picks up the pieces when the bar, grocery store or club guys once again live up to the warnings & we realize once again we’ve fallen into the trap. Why is it that we particularly women myself include seem so afraid of guys who actually care.

We want something more then just sex or lust, we want the jerks to remember our birthdays or what we wore on the first date yet puzzled when the zoned can sometimes even creeped out by it. It wasn’t long again when people dated people they grew up with went to high school with while not perfect most from those days survived & were happy. Having in effect dated for years before ever actually dating & yet now we met a person somewhere & it’s now or never mentality which even if it leads to a long history isn’t usually happy & often ends in divorce just delaying the fact that chances are sooner or later you’ll be right back to square one looking for something you probably already had in someone you passed over long ago. Time passes as fast as it did then even if sometimes it seems different now. People are often less happy now then they were people took their time & now we may find a great guy but once in the zone its near impossible to get out & if it even comes up we run scared of someone who has shown they truly do care why is that? There's risk to everything in life risk to dating someone you don't know or having sex with someone after a few dates even if they seem the one or taking a chance on a friend. Thanks.

I'd like to know what the difference is between a shut in & a home body? If a woman stays home she's a home body but if a guy stays home he's a loser & shut in yet fundamentally their both choosing to do the same thing aren't they? I mean I for one have work & kids most of my friends have moved away or have families or relationships of their own but a guy who lives a similarly relaxed simple life especially if he has no kids or only part-time is seen in a negative light why is that? I mean not everyone like the club scenes I for one don't & yeah it can get lonely but going at especially to a club alone isn't necessarily fun either especially if you're going to be hit on. I know several guys who don't like clubs or bars &/or have jobs that they travel a lot or unstructured hours & so making plans can be difficult for them. It's just interesting what makes the difference & why?

I'm curious obvoiously we all tend to wish we had more time & more friends but as adults both can be hard to keep up with so I was curious how many people other people had as friends. Friends being people you felt really were around you for the right reasons & could be counted on in good times or bad. I don't mean people you say hi to in passing or dropping the kids off for play time or something but obviously it doesn't have to be people who spend every minute with either. Just people you trusted or felt were cared & could be counted on. Kids have clicks and lots of friends & tend to bounce around but then as we grow up especially as adults it usually drops to a select few & I'm just curious how many people have they really feel they can count on.

I'm curious what other women think or how they react when you run into an old male friend whom you were close with for years but hadn't seen for a while be it months even years & run into unexpectedly. During conversation he asked to take you dinner or get together. Do you automatically assume they have romantic intentions or do you see it as just a friend you haven't seen in a while wanting to catch up & maybe try to reconnect on a more frequent basis again. If they seem a bit nervous in inquiring if you're who they thought you were do you see it as nervous or insecurity & does that affect how you react to their offer.