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I get good grades and I'm involved in sports and other activities. I have a few circles of friends but I can probably count my close friends on one hand. I'm generally well-liked and people talk to me during class and activities, but as soon as the bell rings at the end of the day it's like I'm invisible. I try to invite people to stuff but it often doesn't work out and I feel like I never get invited to stuff.

My best friend and I were joking that we weren't doing anything for homecoming because it's lame and blah blah blah....long story short, she got invited to a party bus and now I have to help her find a dress and listen to her talk about how much fun she is going to have and how excited she is to be set up with this one guy.

I'm really happy for her, but I can't help feeling left out. I definitely have had some fun so far in high school, and I don't always feel this lonely. There have been great moments. It's just that I have never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never sat in the cool crowd at the football game, never chugged a beer, never done any of the stuff that everyone talks about all the time.

I don't want to be a "party kid" and I don't want to be popular really. I'm the friend that everyone goes to for advice and sometimes I feel like they only want to talk about themselves and never care about me. This is totally untrue because I actually have some awesome friends. It's just how I feel sometimes, and it sucks

Ok so me and this guy had a thing....never officially dated but we definitely liked each other for a while. Anyways, we eventually got over each other...him quicker than I unfortunately. Anyways, we still maintained our friendship even though he has a girlfriend.

However, I have kept my distance from him, not wanting to seem clingy or interfere with his relationship. I didn't even get to see him graduate (im a sophomore, he's a senior) and I've been feeling guilty about never talking to him.

I play basketball and one of the things we talk about is the NBA. I knew he would be watching the finals so I texted him and congratulated him on graduating and we ended up talking for the whole game (refreshing for him probably since his gf hates sports). Anyways, the convo ended with me saying we should hang out before he goes to college and him saying he's going on vacation but for sure when he comes back. It was so nice to talk to him because I honestly do care about him even if we aren't together anymore.

I have really been wanting to go to six flags, but it's a long drive and idk if that's too much to ask. The reason that I want to is because we are both busy, and knowing him it'll probably be the last time we hang out...maybe ever. I would pay my half for sure, it wouldn't be a date (esp. cause idk if he's still with his gf). I just want to end things on a good note with this guy and have a fun day. Do you think this is a good idea?

OK so basically I had this huge "thing" with this guy that ended about 6-8 months ago. He's a senior, I'm a sophomore. He got a new girlfriend, but against the odds, we still maintained our friendship. I'm over him, he is over me. We haven't spoken in a while because I don't want to seem clingy and especially didn't want to interfere with their relationship (everyone would gossip if they saw us talking too much while he was going out with her) , but I didn't get a chance to say goodbye to him or see him graduate so I have been feeling really guilty.

He and I ended up texting all night the other night which is weird because he barely ever keeps a convo going for more than three messages. Anyways, it helped my conscience to congratulate him on graduating and sort of ending on a good note. He and I agreed that we want to hang out for sure before he goes off to college.

I've been wanting to go to six flags for a while and he's one of my older friends who could actually drive there without "parental interference." (not that I don't like my parents, it's just annoying to rely on them to drive you everywhere. I'm a good, responsible kid.) Anyways, we are both super busy people so I'm thinking we would only get one shot to hang out, and I don't want it to be lame. This guy has been a big part of my life and although we aren't romantically involved anymore, I think it would be nice to have one more day together. However, going to six flags is pretty expensive and it would take some work to plan (he has the money though, and I'd pay my half of course). Do you think it would be overwhelming to him if I asked him to go?

I was born in the late 90s so I can't really say I'm a 90s kid, which would have been fine by me. As much as it sounds terribly cliché, I wish I could have been born much earlier. I don't want to say things were "better" back then, for each era has different and equally important issues and mistakes. History tends to repeat itself anyway.

However, I just wish I could have experienced the cultural phenomenon that was the 80s. I love the cheesiness, the music, the movies (can't stop watching 80s movies), even the "bad fashion." I don't care if we think it's hideous now, they rocked it!! SNL and MTV were at their peaks(it's not even funny now and I have no words for MTV) and finally and most importantly they didn't have texting and social media to bog down their lives....what do you guys think about living in the 80s??

I think the reason why the "older" eras were so awesome is that each decade sort of rebelled against the older generation and came up with something completely different. My generation is way too complacent. We busy ourselves with comparing ourselves to others all the time and stressing out, instead of going out and really making a difference. While we have technology and the means to be far more educated than previous generations, I feel like we're lacking common sense. I'm not saying there aren't good things and good people, but I think we're digging ourselves deeper and deeper into a hole. A quote from Ferris Bueller's Day Off really struck home for me too, because it's more relevant now than ever "Life moves pretty fast....you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it!!"

So what do you guys think about the 80s, and do you wish you were born in a different era? What do you think of this generation in comparison to older generations? Discuss!!

uuuuuuuuuuuuughgghghggh. I have liked this guy for ages and it's eating me up because I know we can't be together. I saw him today for the first time in a long time and I can't stop thinking about him but I need to study!!!!!! what to do?

Ok so I met this guy freshman year. Right off the bat we really hit it off. Turns out we're interested in many of the same things (like it's creepy how much we have in common). We ended talking for about two hours!! When he left, I realized I didn't even know his name, how embarrassing! I asked around about the cute guy for weeks and finally my detective skills paid off...let's say his name was Sam. The first thing I found out about him was his name, the very next thing I found out was that he was a sophomore, and had been dating the same girl since 7th grade. Major downer. I understood, I mean, he was such an interesting person, great sense of humor, could really keep a conversation going. Plus, it was impressive that they were committed to each other for so long, at such a young age.

Fast forward to this year, sophomore year (he's a junior this year). I had been in a weird relationship with one of Sam's friends and I didn't know it at the time, but the guy had moved on from me. Being the naïve person that I am, I wondered why he had stopped hanging out with me and was so confused. I would always ask Sam for advice and I didn't realize that Sam had broken off with his girlfriend at the time. By this point I had friend-zoned Sam, only because I knew I didn't have a chance with him. Looking back on it, I think Sam really did like me for a little while. He was super flirty with me all the time and exhibited all the signs, but it didn't go any farther than that. I think he was waiting for me to flirt back, which I didn't because I was so caught up with the other guy who I was sort-of-dating.

Once I got over the other guy, I realized how stupid I was for friend-zoning Sam. I'm completely in love with him, and I have been since the moment I met him. He's just a really special guy, one of those once-in-a-lifetime people, and I'm afraid I have lost him. It's tough because he's so nice to everyone and quite flirty, he's hard to read. He's back with his girlfriend again and I don't know what to do. I don't know if he knew I liked him or if he knows I still do. He has thousands of girls that would die to date him, but they only like him for his looks.

During football season I would always send him encouraging messages and stuff. One time he hugged me for a whole minute. The other night he drove me home from rehearsal and we got ice cream. I know this is incredibly shallow, but he liked my pics on Instagram and that always makes me happy. He's complimented me on things and even told me I look beautiful, but at the same time, he's never shown real interest in me. Whenever I try to flirt he doesn't really reciprocate and sometimes he even forgets I'm there. Certain days he'll come over and talk to me, and other days he won't. How do I deal with the fact that I can't have him? I would never break up his relationship because I know he loves her, not that I'm even capable of doing that. On a weird side note, he took a different girl (not his gf) to prom, so I don't know what that was all about. I heard they have been really on-and-off lately.

I want to tell him I like him, but one, I know he would reject me. Two it would ruin our friendship. We barely ever see each other because we're in different grades, so I don't get to interact with him nearly as much as I would like to. We're both super busy so we've only hung out outside of school once or twice. To be honest, we're not even that close. It's just, the time I DO get to spend with him seems so magical. What should I do? This is the last week of school and next year he will be a senior.

I'm not one of those aggressive girls who is like "I like you" right away. In fact, I have never told a guy that I like him. However, the few guys that have ever liked me seem turned off by my non-dramatic personality. I'm not one of those girls that puts on a show with the flirting, and I'm thinking that they find that boring?? I love to laugh, it's not like I'm sitting there quietly, I'm certainly into the conversation and listening closely and making jokes. I just don't find the need to be all mysterious and perhaps that makes me seem like one of the guys??

I just can't figure it out. Guys are interested in me but then they seem uninterested. I'm super nice, told I'm pretty, smart, athletic, and sensible. I love trying new things, sports, music. The only major flaws I can see are the fact that I'm not super flirty or sexy, I tend to be a bit awkward but people like that I think. I can laugh at myself. Another flaw is that I will text a guy first and I don't mind asking them to hang out. I just care a lot about the people I like and most of the time I think they get turned off because I let them know that and so there is no chase.

Maybe I'm too complacent as well. I go with the flow and I never get in fights with people because I'll find a way to compromise or just let it go.Thoughts? What to do?

I have been slowly decreasing my calorie intake over a period of about 3 weeks. I want to look extra good for this school trip I'm going on and it's next Friday. My body already looked pretty good before the diet, I mean I already practice with my basketball team 3 times a week at least and I try to run and do ab/arm/butt workouts almost every day. I just want to take off that tiny little bit of fat on my lower/middle stomach.

Basically my diet consists of drinking tons of water and tea and implementing cayenne pepper (it actually works!!) I try to eat lots of fruits and veggies, lean meats, and skip my normal desserts as well as try not to snack as much, ESPECIALLY late at night. Mostly I limit my eating as much as possible without going crazy. I don't want to starve myself or torture myself but I have definitely decreased my calories a lot and I am guilty of skipping a meal once in a while.

When I am in the right lighting my abs look really toned, but in normal lighting they just barely peek through (on a good day haha)

Anyways, I have heard that decreasing calories too much can actually cause your body to gain more fat when you eat because your body thinks you are in a famine and it automatically stores any food as fat. I don't want that to happen. This trip is really important to me and I want to look my absolute best. Thoughts or suggestions?

Alright I know you are all going to say that it's impossible, but the thing is, I'm already really fit. I run almost everyday and work out 2 or 3 times a week with my basketball team. In between I do stairs, ab workouts, etc. I eat fairly healthy and I'm fairly slim.

The thing is, I want to look extra thin and fit in my bikini because I'm going on a trip in 2 weeks. How do I blast that little bit of fat away so my stomach looks nice and toned? It's not a lot, but I would feel so much more confident if I could get rid of it, maybe get that nice line down the middle of the abdomen? Thanks.

Ok so I like this guy and he used to like me...now he likes this other girl. I tried to accept it and move on, she seemed pretty chill at first so I was willing to let them be. That was until I saw a picture of her partying in a mini-skirt and a bra with a cigarette in her hand. I feel like this would be his business if we were out of highschool and it was legal. But we're not, and I feel like as his friend (yes we are still friends) I should tell him. He has told me repeatedly that he can't stand people who smoke, but I also don't want to hurt his feelings or seem like I'm trying to ruin his relationship. What to do??

I'm not too big up there and last year I found a very flattering bra-style bikini from target. It was fun but not too sexy and it looked really good. This year I need a new suit, but there are very few places that carry a nice, padded bra-style bikini. Suggestions, ladies? This is sort of what I want...

http://www.roxy.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12...

This guy and I were together (or so I thought) for a while. Initially I didn't even waste my time with him because he was a junior and I was only a freshman. He's athletic, smart, nice, hot, everything a girl could want. Once he started to show interest and do sweet things, I fell hard. He always liked that I was chill and not as clingy/flirty as the other girls. I'm really mature for my age, and we had a lot in common (both in orchestra, both varsity athletes and high-achieving academically). Now, he's a senior and I'm a sophomore. We're friends-ish but our relationship has always been complicated since he's kind of shy about sharing his feelings. Whenever he complimented me or told me he liked me, I would always have to hear it second-hand from other people. He said he didn't date and stuff so I respected that. Now he's asked this other girl to be his girlfriend...he's been with several girls, he's quite popular, and I don't think he's a virgin. But he's never dated. Why her? Why now? I'm so hurt right now, it's not even funny. Plus, we're all in orchestra together so I'll have to see them together. I can't move on either. I already have self-esteem issues like every teenager, but those doubts are now amplified. I feel like I must have done something to deserve this...advice?? Sophomore year has already been terrible for me, and this just feels like the last straw. I'm trying to stay busy and stay positive which works sometimes, but other times I feel horrible.

What kind of clothes do you honestly like. I know you probably don't think about this very often, but I'm just curious. Oh and please be realistic, don't say no clothes or something like that haha. Girl's wear so many different things and I want to know what you guys like. Jeans, leggings, shorts, yoga pants? What do you think about earrings? Makeup? (Makeup is a big one...do you guys actually notice how much makeup girl's are wearing? You say you like no makeup but the truth is most girls that don't wear makeup don't get hit on, even if they are "pretty" Can you explain that to me? It sucks to wear it btw, it's like paint and chemicals on your face)Do you think it's tacky when bras/bra-straps are showing? Do you like skirts, dresses? What annoys you in girls clothes? Do you like girls that are conservative, or show off, or a mix of both? Do you like hair up or down? Scarves? Anything? I honestly want to know what guys like and don't like. Thanks guys :)

OK, well technically he isn't my ex since we never officially dated...and we ARE friends. Not really good friends because I don't see him that often (he's a senior and I'm a sophomore) but we talk occasionally and I still have really strong feelings for him. Recently, I've heard he has a new girlfriend (once again, not officially so he's not off limits) and I really want to hang out with him so I can assess where we're at in this relationship. We have good chemistry, but limited time, and I don't want to regret anything when he leaves for college. Basically I want to assess how he's doing and if I still have a chance. Is it ok to just ask him to the game tonight, out of the blue? Do you think he'll find it weird?

Being a sophomore girl in highschool, the social media is a huge component of my everyday life. The funny part is, I'm not even directly involved with social media. I don't have a Facebook, or a Twitter, or even an Instagram. However, I feel like it's ruining all of my relationships. I used to have a Facebook but I got so depressed comparing myself to people all the time. There will always be people that are more popular than you, that are prettier than you, and have more "likes."

I feel like the social media was born with good-intentions, but the constant need to be connected has made us unaware of our surroundings, and less competent in navigating our physical relationships with the people around us. "Likes" are like currency, even drugs for some. And am I the only one that finds the connotation of Instagram's "Followers" eerie? It's like you are the head of your own personal cult of something...

Also, the worst part of the social media is it's tendency to breed narcissism. One of my closest friends has become almost unbearable with her need to document her every meal, every thought, and every mildy interesting experience. The social media enables us as a society, it almost encourages the dark part of our human nature to come out by feeding on our desire for acceptance.

Even though the Social Media was supposed to help us be, well, more social, do you guys think it's backfiring? I feel like Ray Bradbury would write about it if he was still alive.

This guy and I are still really good friends but now he's romantically involved with this other girl. I'm bummed because he takes her to the same places that we used to go and she's pretty much replaced me in his life. She seems fairly nice so I don't have much against her, I just think him and I would be a better couple. Our personalities are really compatible, we balance each other out, and we share some common interests. On top of that, I find him very attractive and in the past he has told my friends that he finds me attractive. I honestly think the problem in our relationship was my low expectations. Since he's known for "not dating" I gave him a bunch of free passes, and didn't communicate as well as I should have. He made some mistakes as well. I know he's probably moved on, but if he gave me another chance (which is stupid because neither of us did anything WRONG necessarily) I think it could work out really well. The problem is, our time is severely limited. He's a senior and I'm a sophomore. I don't want to have regrets when he leaves for college.

I like to think of myself as pretty honest with myself. I strive to recognize my flaws as well as my strengths and I'm one of those people who thinks a lot...like A LOT about everything. It's hard because I feel so disconnected with the people around me, I'm a sophomore in higschool and I feel like everyone is soooo narcissistic at this age, and it's only made worse by social networking. I enjoy listening to people and helping them with their "problems" which can be big or small depending on who I'm talking to. It's just hard because sometimes I'M the one that actually needs to talk about something, but nobody is ever listening. They're just caught up in their own lives and they don't have time for me. Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of friends and a lot of fun, I just feel a little different than everyone else.

Now I have always been obsessive, since a young age. I always go through these stages of being completely focused on something. Through elementary school it was Pirates of the Caribbean. I'm pretty sure I have seen those movies about 20 times, and I had all of the posters and even resorted to wearing "pirate-ey" clothes. I won't bore you with all of my stages, but I've had sooooo many. Each time I feel as if I'm never going to get over it and it's my life, but there's always something new after a while. I liked this one guy throughout middle school for FOUR YEARS. I became totally obsessed with him, always watching him from a distance, knowing that he liked this other girl. I eventually had to delete my facebook because I was getting so depressed, looking at how much fun he was having without me

How do I stop being so obsessive? It's just part of my personality, but it never fails to surface, especially with my crushes. This guy that I really liked finally liked me back and it was soooo great. Now he's with a new girl and I know I need to move on, but I find it much much harder than most people to do. I can get happy and I'm really involved in sports and school and orchestra, but it takes FOREVER to completely move on. I'm going to have to see them together pretty soon and I'm afraid I'm going to cry or embarrass myself or something.

We are all in orchestra. Long story short, him and I had a "thing"...but now he likes this other girl more. She is a lot more popular and outgoing than I am, but I just don't get it, he always admired how chill I was and how I actually understood him and listened to him and was "different from the other girls".

I'm not going to try to steal him back because one idk if I'm even capable of that and honestly I would feel really bad for the other girl. She seems nice enough and I don't really have anything against her. I just feel like I'm a better match for him, we're both varsity athletes (she isn't) and we have personalities that work together.

My friends say that they don't know how he likes her over me. Mostly it just really hurts to hear the orchestra gossip about how they're such a cute couple, especially since people were saying that about us just a few months back. Plus, I found all this out second-hand!!! He didn't even give me a heads up, and now I feel like a fool for talking to him so much lately. What to do?

I don't think he's a bad guy, I'm just so frustrated because he treats her differently than he treated me. I'm not getting over him any time soon...I have too much hope that it'll still work out. I keep thinking that I must have did something wrong to deserve this, but I know it's not true. I know it's going to be good in the long run because it'll make me more focused and inspire me to work out even harder (I take pride in having the best body in orchestra haha. He used to always compliment me on that.)

It's also awkward because him and I are sort of friends (well I THOUGHT we were more but apparently I was mistaken, I tried to "respect his space" and be all nice and chill because he hates clingy girls but look how THAT turned out ugh.)

Im just a caring person, and I want to see him happy, you know? Still, I feel like I'm going to cry when I see them being all flirty and couple-ey though. Is there a chance I can get him to see me the way he used to? I'm told that I'm prettier than her, but idk.

haha kidding, that was way over the top. Let me set the scene for you. He's a varsity water polo player, super smart, chill, genuinely nice, popular yet reserved, and in orchestra (TAURUS senior). I'm a varsty basketball player, smart, a little shy, caring to a fault, and in orchestra as well (CANCER sophomore). People tell me I'm pretty/hot but I've never had a boyfriend (lack of confidence most likely). Anyways, it should be a simple case of "HE JUST DOESN'T LIKE ME ANYMORE" Basically, we had a "thing", now we're "friends" (It's complicated I guess), and now **drumroll please** he has his eye on this new girl and he's taking her out to the same places we used to go out to. **Cue roar of jealousy** UGH!!!

She's perfectly nice and a great personality, I really don't have anything against her. I would feel selfish if I tried to steal him back from her, and plus my personality doesn't really allow for that anyway. I'm not one to dress in nearly nothing to catch a guy's eye and I'm not really flirty. However, if he comes back to me on his own, that would be perfectly fine.

You guys are probably thinking "GURL you need to stop chasing him and get over him lickety-split (lol)" but I can tell you that that isn't going to happen anytime soon.The thing is, I usually sulk over guys, but this time, I'm fired UP. I'm ready to take this thing on with a positive attitude and work out harder than ever before (I take a lot of pride in my body). I can use this energy to become a better me, no matter how much it hurts.

We have an overnight orchestra trip to disneyland coming up soon, the same one where he and I met last year. If him and her are flirting the whole time I think I'll probably die a little. How do I get him to notice me again? Every time we talk I feel that electricity, I know we have something between us, but it's just not coming out the way it used to a while back.

I know that he liked me for my non-high-matniance personality at first. He liked me because I didn't crawl all over him and flirt so openly like the other girls, I was a REAL person and he was attracted to that. THEN he liked my body. I stepped into the pool back at the hotel and his jaw dropped, probably because I have the best body in orchestra. After that, he got to know me more and more and we got really close, we really liked each other for a while. Nothing really ever came of it, he was content to keep me around without committing. Which was fine at the time. Now it's just hard because I don't know where we stand. Obviously he likes this other girl now, but I'm pretty sure it's not over just yet.

Come on guys, help me out. I can't talk to him for fear of what he will say, plus I don't want to ruin the atmosphere of the orchestra trip that's coming up. How do I get him to come around? It's his senior year and I don't want to have regrets when he leaves. This situation is just so delicate and awkward. HELP!

I'm nice (some people say to a fault :P) I'm athletic (I work out every day, I have a really good body if I do say so myself haha) I'm smart (4.0 this semester woot woot!!!) I'm involved (In band and a sport) I'm easy going, I go with the flow, and I'm pretty silly and crazy, although sometimes shy at first around people I don't know. People pick on me a lot because of my awkwardness and because I take it but I mostly laugh it off since it's all in fun. I'm pretty satisfied with myself overall, but it seems like I don't have a ton of friends or guys that want to date me. Do you think there is something wrong with me?