Lady Izzy

I recently began working in a public elementary after-school program, and one of the 7-year old girls has a problem with chronic rudeness. She has been snotty and confrontational towards me since I started there, and she seems desperate for attention. My co-worker says that she tends to act out when her father is working out of town - he has a dangerous job, and I've been told that she worries about her dad whenever he goes away, so she takes it out on others.

I'm not 100% sure this is the case. I think it's more likely that she's spoiled. She comes from a family that is somewhat well-off and owns a local chain of stores, and apparently this little 7-year old girl has been known to walk around the store and behave rudely to the employees, knowing that she is "untouchable" and the workers will allow it.

I am new to working with kids in this age group. I've worked with teens in the past, and my instinct (and what I've done thus far with this girl) is to ignore the attention-seeking behavior. In my experience, once a teen knows they can't get attention that way, they give up and change their tune within a few days. But this little girl isn't stopping. I treat her with kindness, ask her if she wants to participate, and I generally ignore the rude behavior. But it's never-ending.

She has a friend who encourages her behavior, but the friend isn't there every day like she is. When they are together, of course it just amplifies the problem.

It has gotten to the point where I forget how small she is. I think about how to deal with her behavior when I'm away from work, and my mind paints her as this bitchy teenager. Then every day I come back to work, and I have a little jolt of surprise when I see her and am reminded that she's just a little kid.

My co-worker suggests that I express to the girl that I care about her, but let her know that this rudeness is unacceptable. But she is so pro-actively nasty to me, that I think this might only encourage the behavior and make her act out more.

I've seen her behave like a sweet little kid, just never to me. I don't understand the psychology of 7 year olds yet. Any advice? Obviously, no spanking or harsh disciplining - I'm not her parent - this is my job.

Hi everyone! Need some advice here...

I am looking into different (free) online software options - my man and I are trying to organize and consolidate our finances. I have been researching and so far, have found the following options:

Mint, Quicken Online (they bought mint so it seems their basic version IS mint now), Geezeo, Wesabe, Rudder, Yodlee, Buxfer, Expensr, BudgetPulse, MoneyStrands

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Thoughts? Thanks!

I've been walking and exercising more than usual lately, and my left knee had been bothering me, but just a little bit. It basically hurt a bit inside the knee when I tried to bend it, or when I twisted at the waist with the knee straight.

Today I took a dance class I hadn't taken before, and did a lot of activity, and now my knee is really bothering me: If I try to bend it all the way back (ie - heel towards butt) or I twist in any way, it hurts. It does not hurt when I'm just sitting around, nor does it hurt when I straighten my leg - only when I try to bend deeply, or twist.

I did not have a sudden injury that I know of (I may have banged it on the coffee table, but nothing that caused any immediate excruciating pain). It does not "pop," although if I put my hand on my knee cap when i try to bend it deeper than 90 degrees, I do feel something moving next to my kneecap (on the outer edge of my leg.)

There is no heat, no swelling at all, and nothing is painful to the touch.

I am about 30 years old, and not at all overweight. I have been pretty physically active in the past, but not too much within the past year, so this was a sudden burst of exercise activity for me.

I don't have health insurance, so I don't want to go to a doctor unless I absolutely have to. I was going to buy a knee brace tomorrow from the drug store, but will take any advice that you can provide! I want to heal this thing!

Thank you!

I was at a friend's house, and she put on an episode of Boston Legal. I had never seen the show before - not even once - but the theme song sounded sooooo familiar to me and I cannot place it! Even right down to that funky ending, I KNEW the song as if I had heard it a hundred times, but I've never seen the show before.

I've searched high and low on the internet. All I've managed to find out is that it's called "Throwdown" by Danny Lux, but I cannot place how I know it. Does anyone know if this theme song has been used somewhere else? Another TV show, or a commercial perhaps?

I have cooked the classic beef-and-veggies roast in my crockpot many times. I put the veggies on the bottom & sides, with the beef in the middle, and I always make sure that the beef at last halfway submerged in liquid.

That being said, I just rubbed a roast with this new awesome spice rub that I bought, and have it wrapped in the fridge "marinating," ready to put in the crock pot tomorrow morning.

I was thinking of simply putting some onion slices on the bottom of the pot, then throwing the beef in there dry, with no additions other than the rub. What do you think will happen? Will the beef turn out super-dry? Will the pot burn, or get damaged, without liquid in it?

What if I put just a quarter-cup of broth in there - not enough to submerge it, but enough to have just a little moisture creating steam in the pot?

I don't need a new slow roast recipe, I just need advice from an experienced crock pot cook - How little liquid can I get away with in the slow cooker, without turning my meat into leather, or damaging the pot?

Thanks!

My boyfriend and I have been together a year, and are madly in love. He is incredibly wonderful and respectful and amazing - he treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king. We live together now, and are looking to buy a home together soon.

I was at his family's house during part of the Olympics, and when we were sitting around watching the men's track, I heard a few racist remarks come out of his father's mouth. The remarks weren't hate filled, but they were prejudiced, such as "he's running so fast because there's fried chicken at the finish line..."

I don't agree with this type of speech, nor do I use it or tolerate it in my everyday life. But I was dumbstruck - I didn't know how to respond, so I said nothing at all.

Now I have learned that one of my boyfriend's sisters actually believes that the holocaust didn't happen, and that Hitler was misunderstood. I'm a Jew, as is my entire family. My parents are first generation Americans, my grandparents were holocaust survivors from eastern europe. There is literally nothing more offensive than denying the brutal torture and murder of 6 million Jews, plus millions of others, during one of the lowest moments in history.

I spoke to my boyfriend, and he understands the gravity of the situation, and said he'll talk to his sister to see where she picked up this horribleness, and try talking some sense into her. But she is very opinionated and stubborn, and the fact that she even believed this in the first place is a red flag of anti-semitism.

My boyfriend has none of these traits, and is a beautiful and compassionate person, whom I love dearly. But his sister's beliefs terrify me. If I told my parents about these beliefs, they would instruct me to break up with him immediately. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend (whom I truly believe is the love of my life) over his somewhat racist and anti-semitic family members?