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Super long story short. Dating this girl. We are best friends. We love each other. She loves me. I’m in love with her. There’s a difference. According to her, everything is there EXCEPT the attraction needed. She’s attracted to me but enough to want to kiss me and do the other physical stuff and she says it’s due to my lack of confidence. 

So please tell me because I happen to love myself and think I am confident...what does she mean? How do I show it? And if I’m actually not confident deep down what are my options? If it’s fixable I wanna see if the changes help the situation. Confidence and not being arrogant/cocky please. Please help. 

Super long story short. Dating this girl. We are best friends. We love each other. She loves me. I’m in love with her. There’s a difference. According to her, everything is there EXCEPT the attraction needed. She’s attracted to me but enough to want to kiss me and do the other physical stuff and she says it’s due to my lack of confidence. 

So please tell me because I happen to love myself and think I am confident...what does she mean? How do I show it? And if I’m actually not confident deep down what are my options? If it’s fixable I wanna see if the changes help the situation. Confidence and not being arrogant/cocky please. Please help. 

Super long story short. Dating this girl. We are best friends. We love each other. She loves me. I’m in love with her. There’s a difference. According to her, everything is there EXCEPT the attraction needed. She’s attracted to me but enough to want to kiss me and do the other physical stuff and she says it’s my lack of confidence. 

So please tell me because I happen to love myself and think I am confident...what does she mean? How do I show it? And if I’m actually not confident deep down what are my options? If it’s fixable I wanna see if the changes help the situation. Confidence and not ********* please. Please help. 

Gonna try and make this short. Been hanging with this girl for over a year. We love each other. Only thing is I’m in love with her where she just loves me. Everything matches up (values, goals, etc) for marriage except for one big thing. Attraction. She says sometimes there’s an attraction (when we go a while without seeing each other) but most of the time there isn’t. Because everything else lines up, we don’t wanna give up yet. We are dating while we figure this out.

She told me the things that attracted her to previous guys are confidence, boldness, charisma, being vulnerable and expressive. First, is it the same for you women as well? And how can a guy show it? She’s in a super traditional family so there’s no physical element until marriage or at least engagement. So I can’t just kiss her and hope for the best. I just need a starting point and maybe the attraction will grow. Please help?

I’m gonna try and sum up a year and a half into a short ish paragraph. Been hanging out with my best friends sister in law for that year and a half and I’m in love with her. I’ve been married before and been in relationships, she hasn’t. We both are 29 years old and she’s just been sheltered her life because her family is super old fashioned (no moving out until marriage and she doesn’t date; she gets courted). So she has not been in a relationship before. 

But we are best friends. We do everything together and we seem like a couple. We talk and FaceTime daily, she wears my clothes, we cuddle, etc. We do couple things but she says something is missing. She says that she likes me a lot and she loves/cares about me but she doesn’t have/feel passion for me and she feels that is needed to move forward. Which I agree. That’s fundamental. And I’ve tried to just not see her for a few days and that didn’t work. She thinks that it’s miscommunication that’s preventing her from getting there. As in, I need to read a book on what women want, kinda thing. 

So...is there any way I can make her feel that way about me if EVERYTHING else is there? Any suggestions or advice? And this is not so I can take her to the bedroom, it’s so I can marry the girl. Please help

I’m gonna try and sum up a year and a half into a short ish paragraph. Been hanging out with my best friends sister in law for that year and a half and I’m in love with her. I’ve been married before and been in relationships, she hasn’t. We both are 29 years old and she’s just been sheltered her life because her family is super old fashioned (no moving out until marriage and she doesn’t date; she gets courted). So she has not been in a relationship before. 

But we are best friends. We do everything together and we seem like a couple. We talk and FaceTime daily, she wears my clothes, we cuddle, etc. We do couple things but she says something is missing. She says that she likes me a lot and she loves/cares about me but she doesn’t have/feel passion for me and she feels that is needed to move forward. Which I agree. That’s fundamental. And I’ve tried to just not see her for a few days and that didn’t work. She thinks that it’s miscommunication that’s preventing her from getting there. As in, I need to read a book on what women want, kinda thing. So...is there any way I can make her feel that way about me if EVERYTHING else is there? Any suggestions or advice? And this is not so I can take her to the bedroom, it’s so I can marry the girl. Please help

I’m gonna try and sum up a year and a half into a short ish paragraph. Been hanging out with my best friends sister in law for that year and a half and I’m in love with her. I’ve been married before and been in relationships, she hasn’t. We both are 29 years old and she’s just been sheltered her life because her family is super old fashioned (no moving out until marriage and she doesn’t date; she gets courted). So she has not been in a relationship before. 

But we are best friends. We do everything together and we seem like a couple. We talk and FaceTime daily, she wears my clothes, we cuddle, etc. We do couple things but she says something is missing. She says that she likes me a lot and she loves/cares about me but she doesn’t have passion for me and she feels that is needed to move forward. Which I agree. That’s fundamental. She thinks that it’s miscommunication that’s preventing her from getting there. As in, I need to read a book on what women want, kinda thing. 

So...is there any way I can make her feel that way about me if EVERYTHING else is there? Any suggestions or advice? And this is not so I can take her to the bedroom, it’s so I can marry the girl. Please help

I’m gonna try and sum up a year and a half into a short ish paragraph. Been hanging out with my best friends sister in law for that year and a half and I’m in love with her. I’ve been married before and been in relationships, she hasn’t. We both are 29 years old and she’s just been sheltered her life because her family is super old fashioned (no moving out until marriage and she doesn’t date; she gets courted). So she has not been in a relationship before. 

But we are best friends. We do everything together and we seem like a couple. We talk and FaceTime daily, she wears my clothes, we cuddle, etc. We do couple things but she says something is missing. She says that she likes me a lot and she loves/cares about me but she doesn’t have passion for me and she feels that is needed to move forward. Which I agree. That’s fundamental. She thinks that it’s miscommunication that’s preventing her from getting there. As in, I need to read a book on what women want, kinda thing. 

So...is there any way I can make her feel that way about me if EVERYTHING else is there? Any suggestions or advice? And this is not so I can take her to the bedroom, it’s so I can marry the girl. Please help

I’ve been hanging out with this girl for close to a year. We do everything together. Things couples do. But her family is strict on no dating. They are religious and it goes from best friends to engaged. We talk daily and see each other 5-6 days a week. Here’s the thing. She says she loves me but not like I love her. She knows I’m into her and want to get to the marriage part. We are both 28 by the way. They are just super old fashioned with courting. But she can’t see it. She knows she loves me. She knows she sees qualities in me that would make a great husband. But for some reason she “doesn’t see me that way” right now. I know there are legit cases of women who simply aren’t attracted to the man for a while after the chase and don’t see them that way. She even has tried to trick herself into thinking of me like that but it doesn’t work. She wants it to work but her mind/heart just isn’t on the same page right now. 

My question is. Any ideas on what she or I can do to get her there? The key is that she is trying to get herself there and trying to trick her mind/heart. So it’s not that she’s just stringing me along. She wants to get there and she already sees my good qualities. I’m not gonna lie, I am a good looking guy so I don’t understand her not being attracted to me personally. But we both would take any and all suggestions to get her there. And physical things like kissing isn’t an option because of the religious stuff with her family. Please help 

I’ve been hanging out with this girl for close to a year. We do everything together. Things couples do. But her family is strict on no dating. They are religious and it goes from best friends to engaged. We talk daily and see each other 5-6 days a week. Here’s the thing. She says she loves me but not like I love her. She knows I’m into her and want to get to the marriage part. But she can’t see it. She knows she loves me. She knows she sees qualities in me that would make a great husband. But for some reason she “doesn’t see me that way” right now. I know there are legit cases of women who simply aren’t attracted to the man for a while after the chase and don’t see them that way. She even has tried to trick herself into thinking of me like that but it doesn’t work. She wants it to work but her mind/heart just isn’t on the same page right now. 

My question is. Any ideas on what she or I can do to get her there? The key is that she is trying to get herself there and trying to trick her mind/heart. So it’s not that she’s just stringing me along. She wants to get there and she already sees my good qualities. I’m not gonna lie, I am a good looking guy so I don’t understand her not being attracted to me personally. But we both would take any and all suggestions to get her there. And physical things like kissing isn’t an option because of the religious stuff with her family. Please help 

I’ve been hanging out with this girl for close to a year. We do everything together. Things couples do. But her family is strict on no dating. They are religious and it goes from best friends to engaged. We talk daily and see each other 5-6 days a week. Here’s the thing. She says she loves me but not like I love her. She knows I’m into her and want to get to the marriage part. But she can’t see it. She knows she loves me. She knows she sees qualities in me that would make a great husband. But for some reason she “doesn’t see me that way” right now. I know there are legit cases of women who simply aren’t attracted to the man for a while after the chase and don’t see them that way. She even has tried to trick herself into thinking of me like that but it doesn’t work. She wants it to work but her mind/heart just isn’t on the same page right now. 

My question is. Any ideas on what she or I can do to get her there? She wants to get there and she already sees my good qualities. I’m not gonna lie, I am a good looking guy so I don’t understand her not being attracted to me personally. But we both would take any and all suggestions to get her there. And physical things like kissing isn’t an option because of the religious stuff with her family. Please help 

I’ve been hanging out with this girl for close to a year. We do everything together. Things couples do. But her family is strict on no dating. They are religious and it goes from best friends to engaged. We talk daily and see each other 5-6 days a week. Here’s the thing. She says she loves me but not like I love her. She knows I’m into her and want to get to the marriage part. But she can’t see it. She knows she loves me. She knows she sees qualities in me that would make a great husband. But for some reason she “doesn’t see me that way” right now. I know there are legit cases of women who simply aren’t attracted to the man for a while after the chase and don’t see them that way. She even has tried to trick herself into thinking of me like that but it doesn’t work. She wants it to work but her mind/heart just isn’t on the same page right now. 

My question is. Any ideas on what she or I can do to get her there? She wants to get there and she already sees my good qualities. I’m not gonna lie, I am a good looking guy so I don’t understand her not being attracted to me personally. But we both would take any and all suggestions to get her there. And physical things like kissing isn’t an option because of the religious stuff with her family. Please help 

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Super long story that I’m gonna try and make short. I’ve been hanging out with this girl for 6 months now. She is my best friend’s sister in law. We get along great. I have very strong feelings for her. We hang out pretty much 7 days a week and text all the time. Her family is traditional so they don’t date until they know it’s one they’re going to marry. But we do things couples do. People even see me as her boyfriend. We cook together, lay on each other when we watch stuff, hand/foot massages, etc. 

Sounds great right? No. She pretty much said to me that her head sees me as the right person for her but her heart doesn’t. When asked if her heart felt anything for me she said “Not romantically. But lovingly, that’s why I wonder what’s wrong with me”. And “Feels like two puzzle pieces that don’t fit together and I’m trying to force it ...or maybe it just needs to be spun differently”. And when asked what doesn’t fit about me, she says “Could be looks l, it could be that it seems too good to be true and I’m just waiting for the knife to drop”

So is it done? Should I give up? Or is there hope? Anything I can do? I love the girl and want it to work but not at the expense of heartbreak. Any and all advice please. 

Best friends sister in law. Doesn’t date. Traditional family does the courting thing. Everyone in her family kind of sees us as dating. When I’m not there, they ask where I am or if I’m coming to that certain event. Everyone says by the way she acts, she has feelings for me. But she won’t admit them. Everyone else says she is full of crap. Sometimes she doesn’t realize she likes someone until they’re gone. Which is not a good plan for me. I get courting is a long process but it would be a lot easier if she would admit she liked me back so that I could be relieved knowing.

What’s the best way to find out the whole truth of her feelings? We flirt and tease. Hang out all the time. She packs me lunches sometimes. Makes me dinner. Gives me massages. Plays with my hair and lets me nap on her. I don’t do this with just friends, just saying. Recommendations or advice to find out the answers and actually be with her?

I really like this girl. A lot. I’m pretty much looking for the woman I want to marry and I’m pretty sure it’s her. Her family prefers courtship over dating. Courtship is different from dating in that it is a more traditional form of getting to know a woman, based on spending time with her in public settings, learning about her, and ultimately making the decision if marriage is in the future. Courtship has a lot to do with family and community interaction, mostly because it's mainly prevalent in religious circles who value healthy relationships. Getting to know a woman's family will help when you decide you want to court her. Learn about her family's values and if you would be a good fit for her and she, you.

And she’s has the idea that she wants to be friends with someone for a long time before it turns into something. She’s looking for marriage. And won’t admit she “likes” someone until she’s sure she wants forever with someone. So she hasn’t said she likes me but we spend every day together mostly. So my question is this: how do I know if the courting is going the way I want? How do I know that she’s interested in it turning into more? And how does she know when the courting is enough to take the next step? We kinda act like a couple already, just without the label and physical stuff. Text every day, hang out often. The good night and good morning texts. She packs me lunches sometimes for work. So I definitely feel like it’s more than friendship. So what do you think?

Really like this girl. We see each other practically every day now. But we are hanging out as friends. To her, she says that she doesn’t date. That she values being friends with someone a long time and then having it turn into a serious relationship and marriage. It’s like the old school courting. That’s exactly what she’s doing. I spend a lot of time with her family who I get along with. We aren’t allowed to be alone much. We do, just not in a safe atmosphere.

So my question is this: how do I know if the courting is going the way I want? How do I know that she’s interested in it turning into more? And how does she know when the courting is enough to take the next step? We kinda act like a couple already, just without the label and physical stuff. Text every day, hang out close to every day. The good night and good morning texts. She packs me lunches sometimes for work. So I definitely feel like it’s more than friendship. So what do you think?

My best friend got married. Met his now-wife’s sister at the wedding. We’ve been talking a lot. She does things different dating wise. She doesn’t date. She’s looking for the person she’s gonna marry and to her it starts with being really good friends for a long time. Where I know within 1-2 hangouts if I “like” someone. And I like her a lot. Her own sister and my best friend say they’ve never seen her act the way she does with me, with anyone else. She goes out of her way to hang out with me pretty much 6-7 days a week.

But she claims I’m just a friend and nothing more. I’m divorced and I think she’s being cautious to make sure I don’t make a mistake again or rush into anything. I’ve been friends with my buddy for 14 years and we never wanted to see each other 7 days a week. I want this to turn into something so what should I do?

Slowly back off to see if it matters? Unload all my feelings even though she’s not too emotional right now? Just say my peace and be done? Stick it out until she’s ready? Something else I’m missing?

Help.

She says time is the most valuable thing to her. And that she doesn’t date but she goes from really good friends to a relationship. If there are any girls out there who are like this. Who would rather get to know someone and see if you’d have similar values over the typical dating. I’m hanging with this girl literally every day of the week which I think is a good sign but it’s still very friend zoney. Her own sister and her husband who is my best friend say they think she likes me but she’s VERY cautious before proceeding to any next step. She invites me to important family events and stuff. Like it seems like we are dating just without the label or the physical stuff. Not even hand holding. Like I said, she sees me every day.

What do you recommend I do? Just wait until she’s finally like “hey let’s do this” or what?

She says time is the most valuable thing to her. And that she doesn’t date but she goes from really good friends to a relationship. If there are any girls out there who are like this. Who would rather get to know someone and see if you’d have similar values over the typical dating. I’m hanging with this girl literally every day of the week which I think is a good sign but it’s still very friend zoney. Her own sister and her husband who is my best friend say they think she likes me but she’s VERY cautious before proceeding to any next step.

What do you recommend I do? Just wait until she’s finally like “hey let’s do this” or what?