Patrick Star

I'm so sorry, this is long, but I'm desperate. Please it's about college relationships. We don't go to the same school.

This guy I met senior year we dated, broke up because it was too awkward, went to prom together though and got to know each other really well. We dated over the summer, and actually fell in love. He is my best friend, my lover, someone I could see marrying. We're amazing together. We communicate everything and always have so much fun.

We always planned on breaking up before college, but when it came around we decided we didn't want to lose each other. We love each other, and want to stay in touch because we're each other's best friends, but we do both want the college experience. so we made our relationship so that we still talk, plan visits, keep in touch every day, but if something happens at a party, neither of us can tell each other. Basically, "what we don't know won't hurt us" kind of thing. We both agreed.

He suggested a few times that he wanted to actually committ, and I was nervous because I didn't want either of us to make a mistake. Now I started seeing his side, but he thinks what I used to think and he doesn't want anything to happen that would make us hate each other in the future. We do have plans to stay together in the future. But we do want to have fun in college.

We just want to make sure we don't lose each other.

I do believe that he's been faithful and does love me, but sometimes I wonder if I love him more and who's more invested, because I don't want to be in love and wait for someone who isn't going to do the same. It's been hard because I keep imagining how I would feel if he made a mistake and hooked up with someone else.

I've been driving myself crazy with scenarios of him with other girls. I don't know why, and I just want it to stop so we can have some type of relationship with each other and not end up hating each other with jealousy and pain.

any advice would be SO appreciated, please!!!

Here's some background information:

I'm on Lexapro 20 mg. PLEASE do not tell me I shouldn't drink because that's my stupid decision I can make. I just need pure advice.

But I threw up on my birthday, mostly because I was stupid and didn't know my limit. My friends had to take care of me- I was a mess, her mom saw me, I threw up on her couch, it was bad.

Then I threw up another time, which was really weird because I was in the happiest mood ever, then all the sudden the alcohol hit me and I had to be carried back to my room. I had puke on my dress, it was mortifying.

I drank since then and have had all good times, no throwing up, no drama, I've held myself responsibly. Then last night it was the same as before, I DON'T know what hit me because I've dranken more than I did last night without puking. So apparently I was throwing up with my pants down in the middle of the hallway. I'm so embarrassed. I don't remember any of it. My friends are mad because it's happened a few times where I can't handle myself and they have to take care of me. They yell at me while I'm throwing up making it a million times worse. They aren't nice when taking care of me, which obviously would scare someone who's drunk, and then they yell at me in the morning. I know it is my fault because I'm responsible of myself, but the thing is, I really CAN'T tell when it's going to hit me! I'm going to space out my drinking from now on and definitely take a break, but how can I get my friends to understand that it really isn't my fault? The medicine just catches up to me sometimes and I can't handle it.

How do I find out many pending friend requests I asked on facebook?

I'm curious to know find out how many people are still questioning whether or not to be my friend.

We were talking about dresses and she described hers and it was the exact same as mine... and it sucks because I do have other options right now, but that was THE DRESS that I was going to choose. But since I already know she has it should I just choose one I don't like as much? or is it a huge deal to wear it because I already know?

We dated like two years ago, but it ended very oddly. We were both kind of awkward, and eventually just stopped talking for like two weeks. Then he called and said, "Have you noticed we haven't talked? Maybe we're better as friends." And I said yeah, and we made small talk and I said well I have to go do my homework and he was like, "That's it? Don't you want to talk about anything?" And I was like well I don't really know what there is to say. And then we talked a little more and decided we were friends.

Since then, I just CAN NOT stop thinking about him. For the past two years, he's been on my mind! We talk on and off, and since we've dated he still sends me drunk texts, or random texts, which makes me wonder if he still thinks about me too. Whenever we've texted recently, I always hint about hanging out and mention that we should. We recently hung out at a party, but we'd both been drinking a little bit and it's the first time we've hung out since the summer. He came up to me and we danced together to whole night, and he kissed me but I wouldn't let it go any further because I didn't know if he just wanted to hook up or liked me because he danced with me the WHOLE NIGHT and could've danced/talked to any other girls! So it's been like two weeks since the party and he hasn't called/texted or anything, and I'm just really confused. I REALLY would love to hang out and get to know him or try things again, but I've been too scared and unsure if he's actually still interested. I've always mentioned hanging out but he never makes a move, so I don't think I want to. Does anyone have an idea if maybe he's just shy/awkward too and can't tell what I'm thinking either? Or is he just plain not interested?

Sorry it's so long, just need to give the background to give a good idea.

Like, in general, what is the overall battery life until it dies completely? My nano only lasted me 7 months (so shitty), and I'm looking to buy an ipod that will last me at least a year and a half. I mean I'm spending $250 on this thing, it should last AT LEAST a year :(

Like two years ago we had a thing, but literally just stopped talking. We both had our reasons but never really told each other, and we talked about it a looong time afterwards, and agreed it just wasn't right. Well I never really agreed, but when we were talking he asked if I noticed if things were just off, and I just said yes even though I thought it was because we were both too shy. It was stupid of me not to say this to see what he thought.

We've talked on and off as just friends since then, and recently, after a long time without talking, he texted me saying congrats on getting into the school I want to go to. We continued texting and *he* said how awesome it would be if we went to college together. I agreed and said if we don't, we need to hang out before the year ends cause it's always fun.

He agreed and said, "We should! It's always really fun. And I'm so bad at keeping up with *people I like*." We ended it, I was going to ask him to go on a walk, but I talked about it with my friends and they were surprised when I told them I was actually interested in him. We have two totally different groups of friends (who have hung out together a few times, it went okay.) They didn't think anything would become of us because he only likes me as a friend.

This made me really sad because I've honestly really liked him. I don't know him THAT well but when we have hung out, it's been really fun, and I just want to get to know him.

I'm confused on what to think about our conversation and if I'm looking into it too much.. any feedback would be great please!!

I'm soo sorry this is like a novel.. I just wanted to give a good background info on the situation.

There's this guy who I dated for a little bit last year, but it didn't work out; we're both quiet people, and at the time I was dealing with a lot of family things and outside problems that made it really hard for me to connect with other people, and he's just very quiet at times. So we really just stopped talking. I was sad because I liked him A LOT. He just fascinates me! He's a person I find interesting and really just want to get to know! So we were texting the other day about college, first time practically since last year, and agreed we need to hang out before the senior year ends, but I don't feel like he's going to make the move. I also don't know if he wants our friends to hang out or if he'd be interested in just hanging out with me, or how that would even go! We say hi when we pass each other in the halls but that's really the extent of our conversation, with the exception of a few brief conversations that were forced because we were walking in the same direction. I've always liked him I just never talked to him because I wasn't sure how to go about it and I don't really even know if he's still interested in pursuing any thing. I might just be old news for him and I'm not sure if he's really even thought about me.

I feel like thiscould come off as kind of creepy, or just too random, but

would it be weird if I asked him to go on a walk one weekend?

Sorry this is so long, I just really want to get to know this guy and I'm clueless how to go about it

I've liked this guy for a little bit, and we just started hooking up. We were supposed to hang out but he ended up staying with his friends because it was one of their birthdays, which I'm completely fine with and understand. He called me when he was home just to talk and say hey, but we decided not to hang out since it was late and couldn't hang for long. He was with his friend and just smoked (please no preaching I know all about it, blah blah, get over this fact) so he was pretty high. He started saying things like "I wanna pleasure you" "and "I want to pleasure you and get pleasure back" and laughing with his friend, and just being really immature. I didn't really know what to do so I was kind of quiet and just like "hah.. okay.." and told him to go and call me later. He was really high so that could've been it, but I'm not sure where to go from here. Is really that much of a pervert and should I say anything about it?

I've liked this guy for a little bit, and we just started hooking up. We were supposed to hang out but he ended up staying with his friends because it was one of their birthdays, which I'm completely fine with and understand. He called me when he was home just to talk and say hey, but we decided not to hang out since it was late and couldn't hang for long. He was with his friend and just smoked (please no preaching I know all about it, blah blah, get over this fact) so he was pretty high. He started saying things like "I wanna pleasure you" "and "I want to pleasure you and get pleasure back" and laughing with his friend, and just being really immature. I didn't really know what to do so I was kind of quiet and just like "hah.. okay.." and told him to go and call me later. He was really high so that could've been it, but I'm not sure where to go from here. Is really that much of a pervert and should I say anything about it?

I am a dancer. I take class every day for at least two hours, but have been doing this ever since I can remember, so this is nothing new. A few years ago, i tore my miniscus, and it never fully healed so I went back to physically therapy at the end of the summer. That was healed, but then I pulled both of my groin muscles and strained both sides of my hips, to the point where I couldn't dance. I'm going to a chiropractor, physical and massage therapist, so my hips and groins have been getting better, although are not entirely healed.

I eat a healthy diet; I eat a ton of fruits and vegetables, lean white meat, and whole grains. I'll splurge on sweets, sometimes often but not unhealthily. I'm so frustrated; I want to be a dance major and one of my auditions are this weekend, but I keep getting injured. I've taken some time off to rest but when something gets remotely stronger another body part gets injured.

Could anyone give me any ideas they have as to what could possibly be going on with my body??

So this sounds crazy, but I got my first car and of course I have to name it. I named my phone Beyonce, but my car is definitely a boy, and I want to name it something fierce, just like Beyonce. Any suggestions?

This SEEMS long and I'm sorry, I'm just trying to be clear about the situation but it's not long to read! :)

I also realize that I probably sound really young, but I'll assure you that I'm old enough to be having a relationship and know what I want... relationships have just always been really confusing for me.

Alright, so there's this boy that I've liked on and off since the beginning of the year. We liked each other but for some reason made it awkward and stopped talking and decided to be friends, which didn't really work out. When we talk there's not too much to talk about but it's not necessarily awkward. We go to the same school, same age, etc. and we just hooked up for the first time since the beginning of the year, but we went farther than usual (not that far, but farther) and I'm leaving for 8 weeks this summer. I'm confused because I like him and sad I'm leaving but I'm not sure what he's thinking, it'd be weird to ask.

THEN there's this boy I met who lives in a different STATE than me! Ugh I met him on vacation with my friend, and we clicked immediately. We only met once, but when we did hang out it was amazing. He's very outgoing, so my friends did not like him at all, which makes me sad because I really do. There are times he can be annoying, but I really like him and it also makes me feel like they are judging me for liking him so it's hard to talk to them about it (hence, why I'm writing here). We talked on the phone 3 times since we met about a week or two weeks ago, and we talk about everything with each other; how we clicked, how we feel about each other, confessions we've never told. I'm confused because we trust each other so much even though we've only met once! And it's sad because We probably will only see each other once in the next six weeks, and then we'll be done because school's starting.

I'm sorry this is so long, I'm just so confused because relationships have always been an issue for me and I'm struggling with dealing with both of these. I'm not really sure what to do about either of these boys- any advice is appreciated!

The boy who lives far away, we connect so strongly- I've never felt so comfortable with someone, and I honestly think that if we lived closer we could be something amazing. I'm sad because the only thing stopping us is the distance and it's really hard. I'm not sure what to think about that, either.

Why do they think it's better? They're not really that much easier to open, you still need a hammer and nail, and they are always rotten or have something wrong with them. I am American, but I have tried fresh coconuts and even coconuts bought and stores that sell foreign foods, and they are never serrated there, and always turn out to taste so much better, why don't American stores sell fresh coconut as well?

In this book, Oskar keeps a journal called "Stuff That Happened to Me". I don't really understand the concept of this. I know it's a picture journal, which he keeps instead of writing words. But then he also has pictures of people lying around with no arms or jumping out of building which I don't understand because clearly that never happened to him. Why are those pictures in there?

I met this guy and we were getting to know each other, texting every day and flirting. It was obvious that we liked each other, and when we hung out we'd pay a lot of attention to each other. We hooked up a few times and we were comfortable with each other, there was an obvious connection. Then one day after we hung out he said he didn't want to get too attached, and didn't want a relationship. I said that's fine but we should just be friends then because its complicated when someone isn't as committed and i don't want to be with someone who might be with other people. it sucks because i was really interested in him but like i said, it gets really complicated when people are on different pages. Do you think that's the actual reason why? or he just wasn't that into me and was trying to be nice about it? I just want to know if that's the real reason because if you ask me, it seems kind of silly. Any input is appreciated, thanks!

I met this guy and we were getting to know each other, texting every day and flirting. It was obvious that we liked each other, and when we hung out we'd pay a lot of attention to each other. We hooked up a few times and we were comfortable with each other, there was an obvious connection. Then one day after we hung out he said he didn't want to get too attached, and didn't want a relationship. I said that's fine but we should just be friends then because its complicated when someone isn't as committed and i don't want to be with someone who might be with other people. it sucks because i was really interested in him but like i said, it gets really complicated when people are on different pages. Do you think that's the actual reason why? or he just wasn't that into me and was trying to be nice about it?

I went out to dinner yesterday and ordered a chicken stir-fry dish. I left it in my car from about 7 30 and got home at around 11 30 to put it in the fridge right away. My friend said it was alright to eat but it had chicken in it so I'm not sure, does anyone know if thats okay?

When his hand is around your waste or on your leg, it feels awkward to just sit there or even to grab his hand, but it also seems kind of cliche to just put your hand on his leg, too. Where are your hands supposed to go?!

My friend made this analogy to me and it made me curious. I know cocoa butter is used and is very fattening, and there is a great amount of sugar in chocolate. So I was just wondering, could you compare it to eating sugary butter?